Bonfire of the Goddesses
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SAS, I think it was "Let It Be" that McCartney wrote in honor of his mom, Mary, supposedly after seeing her in a vision.
When I find myself in times of trouble, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
And when the broken hearted people living in the world agree
There will be an answer, let it be
For though they may be parted, there is still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
There will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
And when the night is cloudy there is still a light that shines on me
Shine until tomorrow, let it be
I wake up to the sound of music, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, yeah, let it be
There will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, yeah, let it be
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Badger, yes, and it had to do with after her death. Was it BC? I meant to google it, but got distracted. The line "Mother Mary comes to me" came to me after I had posted the last. New It was wrong , but knew someone would come to the rescue
Linda and VR, knowing you both, you each come to the rescue often. So many do. It makes coming here such an uplift to the day.
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SAS, yes, McCartney's mother died of breast cancer when he was 14. I think it might not have been cancer itself but some treatment or procedure related to it - I think it was sudden and not really expected at that moment, but am not sure. But I am sure she had BC, and her name was Mary.
Badger, thanks for posting his words. I loved that song when I first heard it, and love it even more now.0 -
SAS, Linda, I can't hear that song anymore without tearing up. Think of a young man who lost his mother to breast cancer, seeing her spirit and being comforted. Then writing that amazing song. Hearing it as someone with BC and knowing what it means - wow!
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Deb &linda, Paul is an amazing human, his mom first then Linda to die with BC. LET IT BE is much a prayer as any prayer. He and Linda had such a beautiful marriage when you think about their life.
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Hi everyone,
I want to come sit by your bonfire....may I? I'm fairly new to these boards, having been diagnosed on 12/10/12. My surgery is next Wednesday. I can feel myself moving forward, quite ready to have the cancer out of me. I see this as a positive step because prior to that, I was living with fear as my semi-constant companion. So, perhaps I can pitch that in the bonfire, at least for now.
So, I'm early into this and perhaps not at your stage of living beyond cancer but I'm sure looking at that horizon longingly. I'm still at that new cancer reality stage nearly 24/7, though I've moved beyond pure panic. Today, I'm painting a room which will serve as an office/meditation/personal retreat space. It helping me focus. And speaking of, I'm gonna head back up to that room and finish up with the 'glazed pecan' walls and move forward to the 'earth tone' walls. That's the kind of woman I am...sort of earthy and definitely a bit nutty. Hope that's okay here, too.
p.s. I'm a Beatles fan, too, if that helps. :-)
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Destina, I'll sit with you the fire has burned your anger thrown in today, it's now warming us. There will be others to join us. The 24/7 feeling never really is gone, we just learn to push it back/away/off so, that we can breath. What will come with time is that you can do the same. Now every word hangs out there scaring the bejeebers out of you. Time will definitely help and finding ways to control your emotions. Just as you are taking the anger and throwing it on the fire now. L&H's sheila
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AHHHHHH!!!! It's the new year and the fire is simmering. Destina...we'll play Beatles music in your honor by the fire until much of your fear disappears into smoke and ashes. There's enough company here to keep until all your fear is gone!
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welcome Destina! You are where I was three years ago - newly diagnosed and scared outta my mind. This is a great place to be with wonderful supportive women all around. ((hugs))
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Destina sorry you have cause to be here but glad you are hanging out with us. I was diagnosed in June so not as new to it as you are but still have lots of days where the fear is the most predominant thing in my mind and my life. Please come back often and sit by the fire...these girls are all awesome and have helped me so much, both with real information and all the warmth and support i could ask for.
(((((hugs)))))
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Destina - Sorry you have to be here with us. Take comfort in the fact that this fire will help you through treament and beyond. I was diagnosed 8/30/10 or feel I am just beginning to really see beyond the cancer. Don't think about it much these days although it is always at the back of my mind. I can feel the warmth of the flames. Come here often and ask as many questions as you like. Cry, scream, through things and/or people in. This is a magical place so there are not a lot of rules here.
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Hi to the bonfire goddesses...Happy New Year!
Linda, I think your New Year's wish for us is perfect. Thanks.
I, like you, approached the end of the holidays with "finally, a day to myself with no must-do's" - but now am down and out with a pretty nasty head cold that's put me in bed most of the day. DH is cleaning up the tree - am staying away from things that could cause allergies.
I love the cold weather, but I don't like the unseen microbes that are flying around and making people sick. So, we can't toss all germs into the fire, but we can selectively get rid of colds and flu for now. (Burn)
Been off for a few weeks and haven't read back....am trying to send out thank-you's to my family now that there is quiet time.
Welcome, Destina, and know that I am jealous that you have your retreat about ready....I am a year post-rads and am still working on mine. See, I needed that nudge :-)
I only think about it in the winter since my 3 season retreat is some time at the beach.
Wishing you all peace and good health.
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Can I throw my messy house into the fire? The Zometa this week has my bones hurting and I can't do what I need to do around here. I'm throwing the Zometa in the fire also.
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Veggy....I'd give you a hand if I could! Feel better...and don't worry about it. The dust is already part of the flames!
Now, I will tell you what I want to through in the fire. FEMA! Like Sandy wasn't bad enough.....
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Thank you all for such a warm welcome. It truly is appreciated. I'm so grateful for the love I have in my life, but there's nothing quite like connecting with another woman who (unfortunately) really knows. Thank you.
Joan, I am writing this from my newly created 'retreat space' which while not completely finished is providing me with some serious respite! The beach would be pretty awesome, too; you're fortunate to live near it.
I have my surgery in 2 days (wed). I'm both very ready and somewhat nervous. But I feel confident in my surgeon and both she and the nursing staff have already been remarkably warm in our interactions. I'm hoping, praying and keeping fingers and toes crossed for clean surgical margins, no nodal involvement and a smooth recovery.
I do want to share a sort of strange experience I had yesterday. I called my sister to let her know about my diagnosis and upcoming surgery. We've had a rather complicated relationship, but I know we love one another and I wanted her to know. Well, when I got a hold of her she sounded upset. I asked what was going on, and she said that a close friend's sister had died of breast cancer a few days prior. She followed by saying, 'you don't have bad news like that, do you?' Mind you, I've come a long way in sharing this news in terms of feeling more stable when talking to someone, but that intro really struck me and of course, we both cried. It was all so surreal, and I suppose to some extent 'owning' my diagnosis still does feel surreal. I know that we're all unique and my breast cancer is not the same as that of the sister of her friend, but it still scared me. You know, brushing up against mortality and all. Yep, I have another dose of fear to throw on the fire...may the fire transform it0 -
(((((Veggy)))))
(((((Destina)))))
Hope your surgery goes well today and that you are feeling comfortable.
Wow, your sister didn't hold back while speaking out about her fears....
Family members often feel quite helpless.
My lifelong friend shared her sister's recent diagnosis with me and we spent a lot of time talking about what to say and not say to someone facing breast surgery. We came up with little except "I'm here when you need me" ...
I hope you and your sister can continue to be there for each other as you navigate the uknown together.
Hugs and prayers for good post-surgical results.
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Destina, hope your surgery went well today. It's hard to tell people you have BC. I cried the first few times I said it out loud. My emotions are still very close to the surface.
I'm throwing my boss into the fire. Stand back, he's an oily sycophant - WOOSH!
L&H&P's to all (that means love & hugs & prayers).
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Destina - thinking of you tonight after your surgery day. Come back soon. Badger, we see you boss and toss in a few more and some surgeons too probably. Today I wanted to toss in a nurse practitioner who was rude for no reason. I love my endo but she spoiled it to think he would hire her. I decided two hrs in dentit's chair was preferred to 5 more min w her.
Linda McCartney was a woman who was truly perplexed that she had a reoccurrence when the food did not keep it from coming back. I lvoed the movie, the Linda McCartney story to the very end and cried so much, she was such a real spirit throughout her life. There was a scene where Paul said screw someone and she threw out her arms and said I already did. They had acceptance of one another. I would like some acceptance.
LOVEEssa
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Hi everyone,
Thanks so much for the well wishes. My surgery yesterday went very well. I had the nerve block and the managed anesthesia, but when I awoke they said that they had to use a general during the sentinel node removal (I guess I was moving). But, no probs with anesthesia, just a little cuckoo for a while and came home with a cute purple floral tube top (ala 70's). I'll get the final path report possibly tomorrow afternoon, but more likely Monday at my post-op follow up. So, definitely praying for good results and right now, feeling GREAT that the cancer is out of me. I don't know how to explain this exactly, but I feel so much stronger. Like I will be able to handle whatever comes back. I am feeling so grateful, ever since last night. Our fire is burning bright and the goddess warrior pants are on. Even in the midst of challenge, there are blessings...and I count you fine women among them.
Essa, I hate to burn the nurse practitioner, but I can definitely dig on burning her rudeness! I don't think I'm quite ready to watch the Linda McCartney film you've referenced (though I will sometime down the line). But, I do resonate with diet being extremely imporatant...and not the be all end all. I told my husband that one of the places I'm really coming to, is that I can do everything I can and I will, but I want as much as possible, not to live in a place of fear. Sure there will be moments (and Lord knows, I've had a lot of those moments over the past 6 weeks), but at the end of the day, I have to ask myself if I'm willing to release and trust the wisdom of Life/Spirit/God/the Universe. And for what it's worth, I really do accept you.
Badger, I feel the flames burning brightly from from your boss's oily sycophancy!
Oh, and Badger...I just noticed that you are from Wisconsin...I am, too, and definitely a Badgers fan (alumnus over here). Such a small world and way too many of us with cancer. If you're nearby and you'd like to connect sometime, send me a private message.
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Destina! Glad to be rid of the cancer? Oh can we relate! That's burning in the fire along with all the emotional baggage. And for those sisters that live with their cancer, their emotional baggage is burning bright and bringing all of us strength! Now rude people? We've got quite a few of them too burning! You better brace yourself because you are going to meet a lot of rude people on your journey. But you will also meet some wonderful people along the way and hopefully they will restore your faith in humanity. In the meantime, feel free to throw whatever it is you want to into the fire! Keeping you in my thoughts that you will get a good pathology report!
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VR, just want to send you a note of thanks for all your research and posts. I've seen them across a number of boards and have found them so helpful. I even saw you over at a UK board (must've been a couple of years ago) when I was doing some searching on mucinous cancer. It's sort of like you've been a guest in our home. I tell my husband and daughter, "VoraciousReader said this or that". To which my daughter replies that she, too, is a voracious reader...and she is. ;-) Thought you'd get a kick out of that, but sincerely, thank you.
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LOL Essa, it's like a game of poker in Hell - I'll see your boss and raise you two surgeons.
The sycophant is still burning. Hard to be civil but it helps when I visualize his hair on fire.
Destina, I'm in the southwest corner of the state but work in Madison. FYI, there's a WI ladies thread, please come join us! We meet IRL from time to time.
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Destina....It seems, perhaps you are also a voracious reader and you've passed your love of reading on to your daughter! My mother passed her love of reading on to me.... And for that one deed, I will always be grateful!
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Im thrilled that there is a fire tonite....I need it like i need breath....I wanna throw my X husband into the fire once again.That piece of garbage needs not only to burn in our fire but burn in hell.My son is goin for surgery(brain)do you think he gives a shit?did i make him by myself?I need to fling that #%& and watch him burn.
I have all kinds of goodies to bring soooo step away i have this huge lighter and the fire is gonna burn fast and strong.Lets have some dark chocolate blueberry candy along with lots of unhealthy food.
Back up everyone.....Did ya hear that explosion?????
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Yes, Granny! Men who are emotionally detached from their children should not have the honor of being called a father, or for that matter...a man! I know this has been a long burden on you and your family. May your son's surgery be a success! Until then, I will join you down at the fire... But I will bring some chips! Does it get any more unhealthy? Cheers!
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I need chocolate here...
Granny, yes, I think you made him yourself ... doesn't sound like your kids could be related to your ex.
I agree about fathers who don't have empathy or deep feelings for their kids...I don't get it.
I went to CVS today to get Vit. D and a scrip filled. They made an error and the manager helped me - she was seething sick with glassy eyes and congestion and I didn't want her near me and i asked her if she had the flu....I am just getting rid of a week with a stubborn cold - still 100% in my ears.
I know CVS needs to stay open, but there are too many people with compromised immune systems going in there because they have no one to do it for them.
Into the fire with sick people who like to share.
Destina, so glad you are OK....surgery is a very emotional thing - especially when it's BC. Right before I had surgery I was anxious and said "I just can't wait to be cancer free" and that was the truth. It was a great feeling. Of course I don't want to deal with BC again; but I know that it happens. I feel more prepared, but then, are we ever really prepared for any bad news?? Think healthy thoughts.
Hugs & prayers,
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Damn that fire is still burning!!!!!!!!
Thanks everyone for your contribution.
I wanna see that no good SOB on judgement day and hear what he has to say for himself....
I just got some more sweets for the bonefire....Healthy dark chocolate!!!yeah right.
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ooh what a nice bed of hot coals we have going, granny those men are still smoldering.
(edit to add, I smiled at my boss today because I thought about his hair being on fire.)
source: http://www.publicdomainpictures.net/view-image.php?image=10205&picture=camp-fire by Jere VanLoan
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Badger--thanks for that huge fire and the chuckle about your bosses head on fire.
my X is bald so ill think of his ugly face smoldering...YAY!!!!!!
You are supposed to pray for your enemies sooo ill pray that he lives to 105 yrs.....but gets burned every day of his ugly life!!!!!
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OMG granny, ROTFL! Live long and burn.
I thought of you when I was looking up sycophant to make sure I used it right. One definition was a self-seeking, servile flatterer; fawning parasite. Another definition was ass-kisser and I thought now that's how granny would say it LOL.
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