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  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Member Posts: 1,781
    edited November 2011

    sorry you are experiencing that Jo....would the moderators be able to help with it?

  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 9,611
    edited November 2011

    I never used it but we do have a     IGNORE BUTTON

  • Dara
    Dara Member Posts: 11
    edited November 2011

    Hi Jo, I am very sorry you were attacked. You certainly did not deserve that. WTG on being the bigger person.

    I would be interested to hear how you quit smoking. I just may be struggling to do this.... Embarassed

  • Dara
    Dara Member Posts: 11
    edited November 2011

    btw, failed to mention that I have an abundance of fuel for the fire!! Great topic...I have been been lurking here all day but a cat got my tongue!! 

  • voraciousreader
    voraciousreader Member Posts: 3,696
    edited November 2011
    Welcome, Dara!  Let 'er rip!  You'll see how much better you'll feel when you're FINISHED throwing stuff on the fire.  In fact, we ALL feel better when we see that fire roaring!Kiss
  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 7,545
    edited November 2011

    DaraDC - Welcome - Whatever is on your mind just let it rip.  Get it off your chest.  This is the place to do it - the rant does not even have to make sense just as long as your feel better when you are through.  

    For the quit smoking, I used a couple of methods at the same time and now have an electronic cigarette since I live with a smoker.  I can give you more deatils if you like.  Just let me know and I will send you a private message. 

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 1,929
    edited November 2011

    Jo, that's great news about the smoking! That's a real tough one and I admire you for being able to do it.

    That was an, um, interesting way to put it, to tell Dara to "get it off her chest". That's what my BS said, so I did and now have only one breast.

    heeheeheeheeheeheeheehee

    Leah

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 7,545
    edited November 2011

    Leah - What a slip of my tongue.  Did not realize exactly what I said but then again you gals know what I meant by that.  At least I hope so.  I quit smoking on July 15th and have not looked back.  I do live with a smoker and he stays away from me with the cigs.

  • Dara
    Dara Member Posts: 11
    edited November 2011

    Thanks for the warm welcome, ladies. I wish I had know about this web site a year ago.

    For the fire, I have.....pain ball pouch, ace bandages, a bottle for measuring drainage and  bakers dozen of 34DDD bras! Those many pamphlets were recycled a long time ago, wish I had them for the bon fire. What a fun concept.

    As for smoking, I have been a closet smoker since my diagnoisis. I have co workers tell me that I should not smoke bcuz I had breast cancer. and this from a fellow smoker! I want to tell her "listen biotch, smoking does not cause breast cancer and further, you should not be smoking either as it is known to cause lung cancer". But I bite my tongue and pretend that I am a non smoker.

    Jo, thank you so much, I would be happy to hear how you quit. CONGRATS TO YOU!!!

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 7,545
    edited November 2011

    Dara - I will send you a private message

    I love the line in your diagnosis block.  How true that is. 

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited November 2011

    Hey Jo..............problem, solved............use the ignore button..................

  • Dara
    Dara Member Posts: 11
    edited November 2011

    Hi Duckyb1, who are we ignoring? Do I need to beat the $hit outta someone here for Jo? Guess what (as if you can guess, duh)....I have been in Drexel Hill, beautiful place to live. I am an army brat and spent a few years at McGuire AFB in NJ with my husband of 20 years. He is actually from the Philly area. Small world.

    I hope I do not have to find this ignore button. Some girls are beotches, i work with these personalities. So far, i have not found any beotches but when I do, I refuse to be made to feel small. Still looking for this quitting smoking page here....feeling a new sense of relief after getting a sweet personal message. thank you, you know who you are!! I am soooo happy to be here!!!! 

  • kks_rd
    kks_rd Member Posts: 99
    edited November 2011

    Hi, not to take away from the drama but I would like to throw into the fire....... all the medical bills, duplicate medical bills, EOBs, letters threatening to take me to collections when I'm all paid up (and sometimes paid twice), hours spent reconciling all my medical expenses... and while I'm at it, all the non-helpful Billing personnel!  Everything financial associated with this wicked disease goes IN!!!

    Thank you. Now back to our regularly scheduled programming. Laughing

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 1,929
    edited November 2011

    I am feeling ABSOLUTELY MISERABLE and am going to throw in this disgusting cold I have. Here I am, I have bone mets (lesion in sacrum) and have no symptoms whatsoever from it - no pain, nothing, any minor symptoms I have are SEs from the Femara. So what happens? This freaking cold lays me low! I've barely been out of bed for a few days and my main exercise has been blowing my nose (I have used up a package of tissues a day since Thursday).

    And to add insult to injury - I can't smell the lovely woodsmoke aroma of the bonfire.

    Officially Not Fair.

    Leah

  • Maureen813
    Maureen813 Member Posts: 1,826
    edited November 2011

    Hi All,  This is what I'd like to throw in the bonfire,  negative attitudes, nasty know-it-all people, fat clothes, Femara, the numerous scans especially the dyes, the happy pamphlets, my cigarettes, lighters, the very nasty onc. nurse at my oncologist's office.  Thanks for letting me vent today.  My negative attitude is going in the bonfire too

  • Maureen813
    Maureen813 Member Posts: 1,826
    edited November 2011

    oh, and my wigs, drains, and head coverings

  • Maureen813
    Maureen813 Member Posts: 1,826
    edited November 2011

    Jo, BTW, I have lively debates with stupid people all day, I'd be glad to help you out.  I suspect I know the culprit but my favorite comeback when someone really ticks me off:

    "I will not engage in an intelligent debate with an unarmed person Wink "

    Feel free to use :)

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited November 2011

    the fire is burning.....yay.....i know who is burning....bitch #1......#2 is Leahs cold.damn burn up out of her.#3 the famous medical bills....come on ladies lets get this fire goin really goin....i got some shitty people i would like to throw into the fire....

    Dara---love your words...gotta steal that from you to put on facebook.maybe those people will finally get it....

    now stay away from that fire cause its goin strong.hugggs everyone K

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 7,545
    edited November 2011

    kks - This is definitely the place to rid yourself of all the negativity.  I remember way back when I through in all the medical bills, etc.  Feels so good to use let it out.

    Maureen - Thanks for that.  I love the line and will have to remember it.

    Leah - So sorry about the cold. Who would imagine a cold of all of things would kick your butt so hard.  Get lots of rest and keep taking in fluids - you don't want to get dehydrated. 

  • kks_rd
    kks_rd Member Posts: 99
    edited November 2011

    Thanks everyone for letting me vent.  I also want to throw in my cold... miserable!!!  I am getting over it but am concerned it will delay my re-excision scheduled for Wednesday.  Burn stupid cold and be done from my poor body!  Leah, hope you feel better soon.  Misery loves company :)

    Hmm while I'm on a roll let me throw in all the people who look at me like I'm a freak of nature.  I'm a cancer patient, people, not an alien!

    SO much better now. Wink

  • mpeaches
    mpeaches Member Posts: 121
    edited November 2011

    I want to throw in the amazing amount of pain I'm having from my ooph/hyst on Monday, the back pain that we're still hoping is a side effect of the Tamoxifen (which I stopped taking a month ago), and the fear that the back pain is mets.  (We'll get the results back from the spinal MRI tomorrow).  I also am happy to toss in the hot flashes, the lack of appetite, the inability to sleep without Ambien, and the competition between the constipation and the diarrhea.

    Okay, that flame should be visible from outer space now!

  • voraciousreader
    voraciousreader Member Posts: 3,696
    edited November 2011

    mpeaches.  Yes...they can see those flames from outer space glowing!  I remember in the not too distant past how my shoulder hurt and worried, could it be mets.  I don't think that feeling will EVER be far from our thoughts.  I guess it's part of the new normal.  I hope all goes well for you tomorrow and your recovery is uneventful and the only surprises in the future are happy ones! Thoughts and prayers to you!

  • Elizabeth1959
    Elizabeth1959 Member Posts: 78
    edited November 2011

    I have my 4 month follow up with my onc and coincidently with rad onc. They will both want to weigh me. That definitely needs to go in the fire. Both visits terrify me that they will find something wrong.



    Jo, I'm sorry someone is giving you a hard time. I don't know about smoking but I know I weigh too much. I Hate useless advice. I've read your posts and appreciate your sense of humor.



    Elizabeth

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 7,545
    edited November 2011

    Elizabeth - Thanks for the kind words.  I am not going to let that bully get the best of me.  I would not have made it this far in this journey without all the wonderful ladies here.

  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Member Posts: 1,781
    edited November 2011

    tossing in my back pain...went camping with the students and got tired when walking through the woods with one of them...was huffing and slightlypuffing...so tossing in my fatigue and lower than Sandee-normal energy. Enough already!

  • trinity927
    trinity927 Member Posts: 479
    edited November 2011

    I'm starting chemo tomorrow, and I'm tossing in my "panic attacks" ... I'm scared out of my mind about all the potential SEs that might come my way ... so, can I toss the SEs into the bonfire too?

    I feel as though the nurses are going to be injecting poison into my veins, and I'm going to end up being a toxic waste dump ... 

    After the AC and Taxol treatments for 4 months, I'm going to be on Herceptin for a year, and hormonal treatment for 5 years ... I also have to give myself Neupogen shots after every chemo infusion ...Initially, my doctors told me I didn't need radiation therapy ... now, I'm being told that we would "revisit" that in a few months to make a final determination ...

    They're really bringing out the big guns for my treatment plan!!! 

    I read about all the SEs from the chemo, Neupogen injections, Herceptin and the hormonal treatment, and it sounds like I'm going to be REALLY ill for the next 5 years!!!    

    Now that I think about it, can I just toss myself into the bonfire? :)

  • trinity927
    trinity927 Member Posts: 479
    edited November 2011

    Additionally, I can't find a wig ... and, I'm sitting here crying about that ... in fact, it doesn't take much for me to start crying these days ... so, I'm tossing in all my tears!!!  

    On second thought, the amount of tears I have might put out the bonfire ... so, we won't toss those in ... :)

  • voraciousreader
    voraciousreader Member Posts: 3,696
    edited November 2011

    Trinity...Come on down to the bonfire as much as you like.  Toss whatever you like...except yourself!  You have a long road ahead of you on a journey that neither you or any of us wanted to be apart of.  Take one day at a time.  Although none of us got a map to where this is heading, all of us are still on a path that will eventually lead us to our "new normal."   The fire can take your tears.  Don't you worry about putting out the flames...there has been so much stuff tossed on the fire, it will burn into eternity.  Join us as often as you need and/or want to.  Refreshments and emotional support are offered 24/7 thanks to Jo!

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 7,545
    edited November 2011

    Trinity - This bonfire is magical - it takes your pains, anxiety and everything else away and does not burn you.  Come as often as you want and throw in whatever you want - like voraciousreader said - don't throw yourself in.  Come for the comfort and support.

    voraciousreader - Good Monday morning - thanks for supporting this thread. 

  • trinity927
    trinity927 Member Posts: 479
    edited November 2011

    Jo and voraciousreader - Thank you both for the warm welcome, support, and encouragement!  :)

    I didn't really feel like throwing myself into the bonfire (not yet anyway) :)

    I was just being a little facetious ... I have a sarcastic sense of humor when dealing with stressful situations ... just my coping mechansim ... :)

    Love~Joy~Peace

    Trinity

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