Single life after a mastectomy
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life - that's pretty insane. And sorry about your cousin....
I think the billing system in the U.S. Is pretty insane. Hospital surgeon anesthesian blah blah blah....I asked if they had a separate bill for the nurse...I was being sarcastic haha
Thanks for the link...she's brave. My scar is a lot more visible than hers....
I lost a lot of weight after eating organic...and my boob is very tiny. I HATE doing mammo because there's nothing to be clamped and after two consecutive six month mammo they prescribed another six month follow up. I told them NO....didn't mammo add 2% of BC and why they kept doing this....
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E - sorry about your sis....did you give her a call?
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jazzy - sounds like your area rains quite a lot. And you seemed to be getting a lot done. Good for you.
BB - how are you? Did the bad boy still reaching out to you? I would stay away....and that story about the judge yelling at your ex was awesome....I don't get why men would just leave the mother of his children struggling like that. He's cruel
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Enerva- I forgot to say I am sorry to hear your sister is not doing well. It sounds like you may not know from the doc what is going on for another week or so. Just so tough for your family and you being so far away. Stress all around you with this, the job, etc. I hope you got out on the bike this weekend?
June- we don't usually get rain this time of the year. More so in the summer monsoon season (July to Sept-ish). What is happening right now is not the norm, but always good for moisture here. Water issues here like everywhere else out west.
I realized tonight on my walk I have been "gifted" with the sabbatical from work I had actually planned for this time 3 years ago but never got. I planned to take some time off, in early 2012 after finishing a contract. I had everything from my car broken into and computer stolen which created other messes for me, followed by two deaths in the family 2 months apart (including my mother), the estate settlement for our mother, and then my own healthcare crisis. No sabbatical for me that year, just one horrible thing after another.....
I hope to hear tomorrow on a final interview with the hiring manager for this consulting gig I have been pursuing for a month. Things have been dragging out with this, and if there is no forward movement on a call tomorrow, I am going to just back off and they can call me if the person wants to talk to me. I reached my own personal timeline around this. If it is meant to be, it will work out. I have really done everything I can at this point on my end.
Everybody have as good a week as you can!
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my chest looks nothing like that hers is quite neat and not knobbly, she is also a lot slimmer, but sorry, I don't like it......I know we are meant to be positive when we see images like that but it just grates with me and does not look natura
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Hi ladies- hope your Monday is going okay. I got my car back and it does NOT appear to be leaking anymore. Whoot whoot!
Now I am waiting to hear from the firm in Chicago about their call today with the PA client to see if this is going to happen or not. I just talked to the account exec and the call got pushed out so it sounds like it is happening now. I hope to hear something in a few more hours either way.
Got a storm brewing and need to finish getting some things taken care of in the garage to move the car in. Wishing you a good evening!
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jazzy - I am rooting for you....
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Speaking of PTSD, a sister on another thread shared this and wanted to share it here with you:
http://www.healthline.com/health-news/cancer-treat...
I did talk to the consulting group this afternoon but they said the call had been pushed to the end of the day. I did not hear anything, I won't call anymore. I don't think the hiring manager will make a decision.
Getting another night of rain. We may need to start building an ark soon!
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BB- thank you! I agree with you too and will persevere. I let myself feel disappointed yesterday, but also felt for a bit now that it was not moving in the right direction for awhile now. When organizations are ready to bring folks in and value what you are bringing to their project, things move fast.
Happy Cinqo de Mayo! Sort of a bigger deal where I live!
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For the next time you get asked......
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So this particular work opp I have been waiting to hear on is not going to happen. However, I got contacted today about something new and already have a call on it first thing tomorrow. That feels good!
Here is a photo from the gardens, my potted pink schizanthis. It is loving the rain.
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Sorry to hear about that one job offer falling through, Jazz, but it's great that, right away, you have another option. :-)
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wow jazzy - congrats!!
About ppl asking why you don't work...hahaa I was asked too. As bad as it was but somehow I really enjoyed the time off.
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My sister gets really uncomfortable when I am not working. Like she will need to swoop in and save the day. Which I might add has never happened.
When I work on these contracts, I work hard and have so little free time for anything (sometimes for months or years). The other side of that are these periods when I can slow down. I have gotten so much backlog taken care of at home. If and when I have to start traveling for work, I will be more ready now.
Just got another T-storm and thinking we need to build an ark soon......
This photo was from the t-storm last night.
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where was the pic taken? I saw two sinks/faucet? Very nice view....
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June- somewhere in the Albuquerque area where I live. It may shot from west side over on the mesa given what I see in the foreground. Lights on the bottom would be looking at the city.
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not really related but it's just so darn cute....look at that kitty's face...shocked hahaha
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June- so true! Men just don't get that what they are doing some times is not okay. And some never learn.....
It reminds me of a guy I dated once long ago that was the worst boyfriend ever. Everything from not being around on weekends, to flirting with other women, to hitting on one of my friends, and more. When I had had enough, I told him I did not want to see him anymore and he said "well, I will give you some time to be sure about that and will call you in a few weeks." I told him to do whatever he wanted, but the answer would be the same in two weeks. He did in fact call me two weeks later and said I was done, and to not call me anymore. I think he was the guy with that cat face!
I had a good call this morning on the new work, which may be in the DC area. This one will move faster and feels better. Will keep you posted.
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Enjoy your sabbatical, Jazzy. :-) Some time off now and then can be a good thing, just enough to invest in yourself again.
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oh jazzy more good news....looking forward to your good news.
Lol....I am beginning to think men are inferior emotionally.
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hi, I am so tired trying to study every night, been hard to focus.
OK bad news from home. Sister saw her dR. He now wants a core biopsy in order to figure out what her tumor respond to. YES I FREAKED OUT. Why in hell he gave her 9 chemo before figuring out that? I HAVE NO WORDS TO DESCRIBE HOW UPSET I AM.
Work is brutal
Anyway I just needed to let you know. It is still raining in my life.
I have a week off I am planning on going away but not sure where.
I can't go home
I can't afford it plus I feel I would be of no help cuz I am too upset about everything that is happening. They never take my advise seriously. I went through hell we lost a brother to c, n yet they don't fight. She is going to let the idiot Dr.finish her I just can't take it.
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Enerva- I am sorry things are so hard for you on every front. I am not sure what the doctors are doing with the core biopsy, but remember you said she was doing the chemo to shrink the tumor based on where it is at. Maybe they need to check it to see what the pathology look like? It sounds like you feel unsure of her medical team, and who wouldn't? You need a big virtual hug tonight.
I am glad to hear you have a week off. If you cannot afford to go anywhere, a nice stay-cation is always good. You can maybe get out to just do some things in the area where you live. Some nice walks, go riding your bike with that lady you met, do a movie marathon and watch some things you have been wanting to see?
Life- thank you for your good wishes. I saw somebody at a store tonight whom I have not seen in awhile and she commented on how much healthier and relaxed I look since she saw me last (maybe 6 months ago). There is a lot to be said for taking a well deserved break.
The call this morning went well and hope to be hearing from the next level of conversation shortly. Could be a better/less stressful gig than the one I had been looking at.
I went out tonight and met two guy friends/colleagues from my former client site. We had dinner and talked for 4 hours! They are both fun and we had good laughs. One is a fellow consultant and leaving town next week, the other is a FT employee there. They loved my story about the 5 mechanics and the car last week.
Still sort of rainy and sprinkly here.
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Enerva- for you and wishing you better days (and well, for everyone here too.....)
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hi ladies
I dont know its a good news or bad news husband left home on 2 may .he found a young hot chic .Me and my kids are in shock .espacially my daughter she is 16 cried for 3 days.He is a big Looser .i dont know how long it will take to recover and move on.
I dont know wot next wot he offers in sepration agreement bcoz he s in hurry to get marry again but i want him to wait .He wasted my 21 years .even my daughter says he ditched us.i know its very hard for her to trust a male.he is in love at the age of 52 its crazy .he used to talk to her infornt of my kids .i removed all his personal belonging from my house that reminds me of that cheater .semester will start next week.
I dont know how long it will take to recover.
Any suggestions at this point .?
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Milky- I am sorry your husband left. I know he has been in your home and talking openly about other women in front of you for awhile now. He obviously found one that will take him on.
I am sorry about what is happening with the children. So heartbreaking to hear their reaction.
See if you can find a women's legal aid in your area to start to help you with separation. They may have some resources available to you to ensure you have what you need to get through the rest that is to follow. Try to get an attorney, if you can.
And I know Life is going to have the best advice for you here.
It is hard to know how long it will take to recover. Remember you are a strong woman. You got through bc treatment, you are taking care of your children and going to school to get some education to help yourself for the longer term. You are looking to create a better life for yourself. You will get through this and we will be here with you as you do.
Hugs Milky. My prayers are with you and your children for better days.
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thanks bossumb and jazzy i am worried about my kids this time s very imp to study i hope they recover and that wont effect their school .college results .i spend my 21 yrs in that person he passed his exams now he is able to earn now this time is for my kids i dont that looser effect on us negativly
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Milky - I am so glad to hear that he's gone. :-) I think that is good news. Your children may be hurting, but they have their loving and devoted mother with them. :-) It will take time for them, but soon this new life will become their new normal. Yes, the fact that he left hurts after so many years devoted to your husband. Both BB and I and so many other women know how that feels. But, you deserved to be treated with respect, and so did your children. Now the question is, are you protected legally? I don't know anything about the divorce laws in Canada. (I'm still learning about the laws in my own U.S. state... lol.) Also, did you change the locks on the doors?
Enerva - Did the chemo work at all on the tumor? I hope it reduced it somewhat, even if it didn't obliterate it completely. I'm sorry for what your sister is going through.
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hi, well I am so exhausted this week I have been coming home to read my book and it's been brutal but today I did something way crazy I rode my bike to work lol downtown. Morning was not so bad but after work traffic was a killer I have pain in my neck from work already so it was not fun. I figured I won't go ride Till after my exam so better to get it out today at least.
Sister tumor reduce but not enough for surgery. Apparently they were just experimenting with her to see what happen but now they want a biopsy to do the pathology on it.(which I feel should have been done before the 9 chemos) anyway I feel helpless been far is like not been able to do anything. Just frustrated 😤 work it's been terrible .Manager continues to give me more and more tasks. I am as stressed as before bc I am not sure but I need to get away from it all.
I am looking at flights out to cancun but only ll go if last minute there is an amazing price. For all inclusive. I wanted to go to France to help the seniors move but tickets are over 1000 and I better not spend that much.
I am here sitting in my sofa and all I want is my bed. Took a shower and my hair is wet so trying to dry it a little so I can go to bed. I don't have the energy to study tonight
MILKY I agree with life and the rest I am very happy he is gone. Yes it Hurst but it is toxic to sleep under the same roof with someone who clearly stop loving you long ago. You don't believe it but the hurting will slowly be less and one day u ll smile and wonder why it didn't happen sooner.
Jazz hope you get a job you enjoy very soon.
Lili, I am so sorry about your waiting list for recon. I was very luck in a way I was given recon right away parallel with mastectomy. My issues were due to having a bad plastic surgeon and bad luck lol but I could have a nerve break down if I was told to wait so long. I send you strength and hugs.
Piper June hope you are OK.
Wonder how much more is coming my way.
It seems life is just a Pandora box full of bad surprise 😲 but we must keep going.
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Enerva- sorry to hear things continue to be hard for you. Hugs sister.
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milky - I am sorry about what happened but I think it gives you something to close this chapter of your life and begin something new and meaningful to you.
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