Single life after a mastectomy
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mostly finish..will still need expansions on the left side and then exchange on left down the track. But from what I hear the exchange isn't as bad as what im having this time. Breast care nurse said I will probably have three drains. Will get a pain pump while in hospital for pain relief and as long as i keep up that she thinks I should be fine.
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Melp- I hope they can get you set up with a visiting nurse for the drains. When I had my surgery, they were prepared to do that. I had a visiting nurse for several months that began with my ruptured appendix and then into the breast surgery. Those two surgeries were six weeks apart. Visiting nurses are a life saver when you live alone.
Coming down the home stretch girlfriend!
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yeah they get a nurse to come out after im out of hospital. My mum will be staying at my place to help me for a while.
yee ha to the home stretch!!!!
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BB- I think once we are past treatment, everyone thinks we are back to whatever they were doing before. Only a couple trusted souls get that it is not like that.
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hi, I just wanted to share with you the name of the movie I watched a few days back. Name is Still mine.
An elderly couple fight against local authorities in rural New Brunswick to build their final home
http://m.imdb.com/title/tt2073086/
hope this link works.
Still didn't hear from hr. But today I finish testing for a new project I was given 2 days ago. I did manage to do test in one environment and hope to be able to move forward tmw.
Hope everyone is ok
If u can find this movie it's really good.
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Enerva- I will look for that movie. I still want to see Still Alice but think it must be out on DVD now.
Sorry you have not heard from HR. I think it is because your boss won't call that HR lady back. He does not give a $*&$# and they don't care if it gets resolved or not. HR is more into protecting the companies than helping employees. HR stands for Hellish Resources.
Is the testing you are doing for your current work or is this something related to something new you are working towards. Weren't you going to have a meeting/interview with another director for work in another area? That might be your best option at this point, get into a different area to get away from the crappy boss.
Well tomorrow is Friday!
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i want to watch still alice too. my dad has it (still waiting for doc's appt....he's been tested but waiting for the result). he used to be so smart, excellent memory and now he can't remember he took the med just two min ago.
it must be hell going thru any kind of decay....
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June- I am sorry to hear about your father. Hugs sister.
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If you have not seen this on FB going around this week, do watch it. Such a lovely feel good story for this 102 veteran dancer. Warms my hears to see someone do something nice like this for another person.
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june my mom had it. Hope you watch the movie cuz its very good
I just saw grace anatomy and I cry so much. Derek is dead I know it's just a show but I love the show cuz of him
O lord how depressed am I that the death of a TV show guy can make me cry like this
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thank you ladies......
do you have any plans for the weekend??
i don't.....but i will take a walk to the central park enjoy some sun and make some vit D...hahaha....
jazzy - if you stop by NYC...hit me up. would love to meet you.
E - hang in there....i don't know what to say. i went though something very stressful back in 06 which lasted for a few years. i believe it contributed to my BC, bc at the time i had chronic insomnia for 3 months. couldn't sleep at all. i could only sleep friday night and that was it. we are here for you...don't get stressed out. if you have to, take the disability leave and look for a job. you can look for a job in the US if you have to. nothing is more valuable than your health...wish i could give you a big hug and a middle finger to your boss.
BB - yes you are right. my mom is taking care of him and it's not easy. daily task - looking for keys, metro card, his pen, his cell....my mom looks for them...sigh. how are you?
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Enerva- I read on FB when I got home from yoga that McDreamy got killed off. The person that wrote it on FB said "I was not ready for that!" I used to watch Grey's Anatomy more when the original cast that started was on it. Kathryn Heigl and the others. So many are now gone from that show. I guess he did not want to renew his contract! He does movies too, so maybe you can see him there?
June- my father had early onset Alsheimers. It started out slow but rapidly got worse as some other things in our family got really bad. He lived with it for 17 years before he died in the late 1990s. My dad and I were close and it just broke my heart watching that. I really feel for your you and your family. And sorry about about your mom slowing down too. Every thing is hard anymore it seems....
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Oh and June, going to meet up with some friends tomorrow night that I see about once a year here for some drinks after work hours. Always a fun time. I don't drink much, but enjoy the the socializing and the appetizers.
Doing a neighborhood clean up on Saturday as part of the earth week thing. I have done it most every year I have lived in this area (except for the year I was coming out of treatment, nuf said).
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ohhhhh lol I am ok I am not a huge fun of that actor,I just like the character he played but I think it was just too much the way they did it. I was not crying for him I think it's the way his life was taken due to incompetent Dr. And him talking in his mind till the last minute lol so it's all ok I ll survive. I followed the show on and off I loved mark when he was taken away then I got piss lol anyway I had a hard week. Bough lottery tickets for tonight and tmw night hoping for a miracle
I am so tire I may go strait to bed. Then if I wake up I ll study if not I will just wake up tmw. Hr didn't contact me. Monday I see my doctor 😷 not sure what she ll say
So my ex texted me again asking if he could visit ? I had to say no again .I said how strange his behavior is lately .then he started saying how I demanded that of him in the past and now that he can I wait I ll copy paste his text
"What is so strange mom? You are strange. You always ask why I don't come see you more often or call you and then when I do you have one eyebrow raised wondering what is going on. Lol. You ask for something . . . You get it then you wonder what is going on here."
Me: " sorry rock I can't let it happen again. I won't fall again I AM OUT!!!! Lol "
I text good night and turned off my phone .
What is it with man, can it be possible he just wants to be close to me again for just fun? Unreal we were together for over 6 years never an effort on his part to expend time with me ,visit or do normal couple stuff .I was the one always going to him . Cooking cleaning his place laundry I was the weekend wife" now I am no wiling anymore .it hurts cuz I do care for him but I just can't .I think I was the idiot I let things be that way and it took a long time to let go. I just did finally I let go.
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Hi E.....actually i also just had a fight w my ex. we are talking now and spent sometime together....i don't know what we are but i just want to spend some time together and he didn't want to this weekend. i got upset and cursed him out.
sigh....
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and you're seeing your doc for a check up? or for the HR thing?? good luck....
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Hi ladies- just wanted to say hi.
Enerva and June- sorry about the exs. I wish I could say something more insightful about it to you but really don't understand men very well at all.
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Enerva- did you see the April BCO newsletter? All stories about women who have shared a dx with a family member. There are a number of women there like you and I who have gone through bc treatment at the same time or right after with a sister. Makes you wonder.....
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Jazzy how was the night out? Hope you had fun.
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June- it was really fun. These folks are just purely enjoyable and we had laughs. The two other women I worked with at a client site and now we are all consultants in one form or another and help one another. One of the women, whom was a client once, was struggling around something at my other client site so we talked about it last night and something she can do as she transitions out. It is nice to have women professional friends who support one another.
I am doing a neighborhood clean up and moving slow but plan to get out in another half hour and get a bit of trash picked up around the area. Something to make our little piece of paradise a bit nicer. The wind blows things around here and creates the mess.
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Enerva why does he call you "Mom" ??
I row with my ex almost every time we meet.......I just get soooo irritated.........he never says what he means but I am supposed to understand what he means not what he says?? I wonder if I will ever get a cuddle in bed again................from anyone
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Oh and some good news. I am starting the interview process for the work in PA next week! Whoot whoot!
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Lilly- hugs to you too on the ex thing.
All my ex's are far in the past. I ran into my last BF around this time of the year in 2012. He was a real jerk too, trying to throw up some new girlfriend in my face to try to make me jealous. I was over him by then, and I just walked away being grateful it did not work out.
I think if I were to see him again, I would just walk on by and not even say hello. Some people are just not worth the time or effort.
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jazzy - oh i am excited for you.....
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June- thanks! This is will be the first of a few conversations. Fingers crossed this is the right thing and we can get going soon!
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hi, wow jazz great news.
LiLi my ex calls me mom lol cuz I am like always saying things to him that he says his mom would say. I always worry and say text me went you get home so I know u made it home ok. Or its really bad make sure you wear extra layers lol or I used to get piss when ever he cut himself working and kept working like it was nothing. Never had a bandage around to put on him. I bought him a first aid kit. Lots of things that were normal to me. He said I acted more like his mom sometimes. I just thought I was caring lol I don't really know maybe in my mind it was trying to be a good weekend wife hahahahah
I call him rock cuz I used to tell him he had a rock instead of a heart and he loved it. He was amused by it.
He didn't insist on coming. I think he finally realized I am serious when I say I am not going back to him.
It's ok I need him to be clear on that.
So I saw my polish girlfriend today. I was on my way to finding a storage room to rent so I could store my winter tires and she called me. She asked what I was up to and I said. I am on my way to find a place to store my tires. Then she offered to store them for me. So I took a bottle of wine I had and went over her house. She had lots of room in her garage I stored my tires and we had BBQ and I little wine lol I am so thankful she did that.
So my tires are now somewhere and free
How is everyone else Bb, milky, piper, June hope all having a great weekend
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Enerva- that is too bad your ex could not see your kindness and caring. I have said things like that to people too and had similar comments. It is the nature of who we are, to watch out for others well being. I do the "text me when you get home" thing with my friends, especially if anyone is driving far from places and/or in bad weather. Most people like that they are cared about. Apparently not him though! Your nickname seems fitting. You don't sound like you want to go back to him.
And yay about the place to store the tires for free! How about that for something nice working out for you?
June- did you get to Central Park today? How is the weather in the city?
I have been trading some messages with my cousins in upstate NY whom I am going to see for a wedding this year. Get the scoop on the plans for that weekend in October and it sounds like all my cousins will be there. My sister also decided to go too so all the cousins will be together for the first time since maybe we were kids? I am really looking forward to this.
Otherwise having a sort of lazy day. Just made a big batch of smoothie with bananas, strawberries and grapefruit and pomegranate juice Yum!
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Life- we have not seen you here for a good month or so? Are things okay? PM me if you don't want to post.
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jazzy - no...but i did go for a walk just didn't make it that far. the weather was nice sunny around 40s...not bad not bad...haha
and that's nice you'll have a trip to NY...have fun
E - oh that's very nice of your friend.
my ex was the same, didn't appreciate my caring thoughts. for some reason, men seem to be inspired when you care for them the least....he never let me to do anything for him bc deep down he knew he didn't want to owe me.
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