Single life after a mastectomy
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I think we may be flying into a hurricane ladies. Wish me luck! I think getting there may be easier than getting out!
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bb I am so so very sorry. I have been on your shoes it is the worse to see our angel mom in pain and not been able to help. And do not stress about bc don't even think about it. Just if there is anything like a banana or any fruit try to have it .Jazz is right we can't eat when our love one is suffering so you body shut down the apetite. I am full of hope ur dear mom ll get out of this I also know it is not easy to hear her say this is the end .I am in your pocket ll be thinking of u and her . Be very strong for her and be positive around her even if you break the minute you leave her room .do not break in from of her she needs you positive and strong.
Love you u bb.
Jazz god luck .can't wait to hear all about you adventure
Simplicity hope u are feeling better.
Will post later u know when I am back here in the train lol
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so sorry about your Mum, a very tough place to be......hug
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bb I am glad ur mom is off the tube .hope this time it's ok no more fluid .
Happy Friday. This is the best day since it's the last of the week I am so tired this week took for ever. Go on the late train going home yesterday
This morning had to run to catch this one.
It is 5 and so cold supposed to go up to 13 or 15 grade today I am no a happy winter person lol
Back to scarfs and jacket it's not fun
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@Bosumblues and Enerva : Thank you for the warm welcome - very nice halter top by the way.
@ Jazzy Girl: ILOVE the nails!! I'm an optometrist so I have to keep my nails glitter free to avoid putting glitter in a patient's eye. I remember when I was diagnosed, the first thing I did was get my nails done, because 1) I was officially on sick leave, 2) Manicures are such a feel-good!
@bak94: I feel it's pretty much up to you when to tell someone about mastectomies. It's a very personal issue. I was chatting with my therapist yesterday about the same-thing, and she pretty much said that femininity is more than just boobs. Be kind to yourself
@Simplicity: The surgeon, who works with my onocologist suggested a TRAM because it would be my own body tissue instead of implants (more natural I guess). She didn't give any other options other than this. I'm looking at TRAM as a free tummy-tuck :P haha, anyway the surgeon, onco and myself will review options again in 2 weeks.
It's good be among fellow singles
Sometimes it gets a wee bit tiring to hear how amazing DH's (darling husband, dearest half?) can be. I'm at work at the moment. I do part time work every other day. Does anyone use Tinder? I've met a few chaps with Tinder so far. They are aware that I'm a BCA patient and are supportive with it; but I'm holding them all at arms length... can't deal with a broken heart and broken boob at the same time.
Sending loads of love from South Africa
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SP.s is there anyone watching the rugby?
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BB so glad your mom got the tube removed!! Take care of you best you can.
Jazz hope your having a good time and staying dry!
Cold here too Enerva and been rainy all week with more to come.
Shara-the only difference I know, or understand, is TRAM takes some muscle from the area, DIEP does not. There's so much information out there, it's hard at times to keep track or learn.
Went to see Onc today and I am officially CANCER FREE!! Evidently it's been so since surgery lol I knew the 'negative margins' was good, but didn't completely grasp the concept. Grabbed a bottle o wine, which I doubt I'll drink, but at least it's here in case I want a drink haha
So tired. Been running around all day with appointments and things that needed done before returning to work. Picking up DD soon and then laying in my bed!
Hope everyone enjoys their evening!
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Simplicity Yayy I am happy for negative margins .good you got some wine too
Bb hope mom is better every day
Zarah and bak94 I am glad you are here with us.
Jazz hope you enjoy your time and send us updates .
Today I saw a position I may apply for .
I sent to my personal email and ll work on it this weekend
Guess what? Got a text from my ex inviting me to dinner at his sister s new house lol wierd but I decided to go. I want him and his family to see me cuz outside I look healthy and I need them to see I am doing great lol even if I am still breaking in side ha ha ha
I ll let you all know tmw I ll drive all the way to his sister s place and I was told I am invited to sleep over her new place there should be a fire and nice wine and food.
Part of me is saying " don't go you may get hurt" but the other part is saying go and show them you are 100 percent ok and u have done it all alone without him .
OK so I ll go and see what is going on .
Lol
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Hi ladies- greeting from Albany, NY. My sister and I are here in the hotel near the airport recovering from a really busy three days with the family and at the wedding. Everything went really well, the wedding and reception was great, time with family just filled both of us up. When you don't have much family left (and I know some here have that as well), it is good to spend time with the ones you do. We have more plans to connect maybe out my way next year. The only downer was a rainy day yesterday for the wedding, but today was sunny and gorgeous (figures, huh?)
BB- I hope your mom is doing better and maybe able to go to rehab soon?
Will write more after I am home and settled this week.
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hi ladies, well dinner was great Friday and came back yesterday . Had a great time but it was kind of wierd sitting on a table across my ex lol I just acted as if it was very normal lol he was not bad didn't bother me and it was cute seen him playing with his sister s kids .
Also asked me if I was staying over night and I said "yes I ll be going home noon tmw" and he didn't said anything else.
He left around 10pm and I got to sit around with his sister and I must said I love her new house. Huge brand new surrounded by huge pine trees just beautiful.
It's so wierd to be there as a family friend now.
Anyway they said I looks great that I haven't change.lol so I felt ok goal acomplished
As I drove back I kept thinking about the past how 4 years ago all was so different .
So much has change and not really sure I like life now compared to back 4 years back.
My life was so much better no worries about sickness not sadNess now every day is a new up or down.
Hope all had a great weekend
Jazz it sound as if you had an amazing time.
Bb hope ur mom is better
Simplicity hope you are also much better.
G night all
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Hi ladies- back home and grateful to have had relatively easy travel to and from NY the past five days. Got some things to get on top of tomorrow with my work activities.
E- what was the dinner for at that ex's sister's place? It sounds like you had a good time and glad you feel okay spending time with them. I think your ex has figured out you are not interested in getting back together.
Simplicity- just read your updates on your FB support page. Congrats on getting back to work and hope your start to rads is okay.
Life- hope you are doing okay. Hope the boys are okay too.
June- are you still here? We have missed you. I thought about you flying over Manhattan this morning from Albany down to Baltimore to pick up the flight west.
BB- also thinking about you and your mom. My cousins are having a rough time with my aging uncle. Hoping your training is going well and that your mom is getting better.
Lily- I hope you are doing okay this week.
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how are you girls?
Bb how is ur mom? Hope much better
Ok so winter is here and I started my crochet now I am making this one .I ll post pictures when finish
Mine so far
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E- what do you mean it is winter there? Although it was in the 30s in Albany when we left this morning. Did it snow? UGH!
Love the gold color. I just bought a beautiful long vest in that color I wore traveling today.
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Ha ha ha jazz for me anything below 15 is winter haha ha I will see how it turns out I really like this yarn I had in a box lol never knew it was going to be a top lol originallygot it to make scarfs
We should see soon the end product
Hey jazz I apply for a job I ll send you the info.I forgot to emailed from the office today
I ll keep u posted .hope I get an interview
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Good morning- my butt is dragging, but I am catching up on e-mails and some biz things and going to a prof org meeting today. I am pretty tired, but will do the meeting, hit the grocery store on the way home and try to stay up a bit longer tonight to get back on track with mountain time.
E- good luck with the job app. Keep looking for more too, always good to put a few irons in the fire. I hope you get an interview!
Funny story from the wedding, my cousin who lives in France got married 10 years ago and has such a nice husband. She told me at the table "well, you are the only one not married now, your turn!" I said not interested, and several women said "smart move". I said if I met a nice man like my cousin's husband, I would think about it. He smiled.
My healthcare client wants to get together with me soon. I think she may have some work for me. Must check in with the other firm tomorrow that I have contract work in progress with. Will do both. My goal is to be busy this fall into 2016 and beyond.
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jazz lol hummm would that be the reason I stay away from weddings lol I always get the stupid coments like oh you better catch the bouquet I never even go in the silly group of ladies who want it lol well weddings are not my thing but I do love to see them in movies ha ha ha
Hope I get an interview bt I heard there is a lot of candidates so not putting to much hope on it.
I ll just wait and see what happens
It's cold brutal here in Canada it feels as if there is no fall just winter lol
Bb how is ur mom? I really hope she is better
Sending u all hugs
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oh bb I am so glad to hear from you.
Hope ur mom continues to improve.
Hummm yes I must admit every time I hang around him I wish I could jump him ha ha ha ok that's the h o r n yyy me not having a man for so long ha ha ha But yes I do get what you are saying I catch myself looking at him a few times then looking away cuz he was staring back at me ha ha ha so stupid how all ended. No maybe I am not 100percent over him but I also know I need to value myself a little and he is still going after his dreams and goals and I am not part of them. I see how happy he is around small kids I can see his family wanting him to have a family of his own one day and we all know I am not able to have any kids and the truth is that I may not even be around 20 more years for more silly it may sound that is how I see it now. I am here who knows till when. If anything I need to meet someone who is all about giving 100percent to me now and receive 100percent from me now without much expectations for a family with kids etc. Maybe there is a man out there who is past that farther want to be phase. If not then I am OK single. My ex does not talk about it he only cares about his dream of making money with his new invention and I really hope he does. I do care for him as a person and I have told him many times I do hope he meet someone special
I honestly don't believe he loved me like really loved me. Yes he likes me and he acts as if he wants me back but never really showed me he care enough .
Nahhh I am OK bb
I have become a real Canadian an ice cube hahahhahaha
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Enerva- at age 55, one would think those questions would stop, right?
BB- I am glad your mother is stabilizing. I understand not being able to talk about it either.
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Hot air balloon selfie taken at the international balloon fiesta going on this week!
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hi everybody
How are you guys life s busy with studies and placement .happy thanks giving i think only canadians are celebrating thanks giving .
I see new friends here .well come .it is always good to hear new experiences .
Bb i hope your mom is doing fine.
My mom is here with me so i try to give her time from my busy time table thanks to youtube and face book she spends 15 hours on youtube n face book .
Good night
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Milky- good to hear from you. Wishing you a happy Canadian Thanksgiving and to Enerva too. The one in the US is later next month.
Glad to hear your mom is visiting and that you are continuing along with your studies. Hope all is well with your kids too!
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Looks like next week is going to be a big week for new work opps! I am meeting with my healthcare client AND a new company where I know two people from other times and places, and they all seem to have lots of new work! From famine to feast, here we go!
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BB- your mother must have lost a lot of blood or perhaps her blood count tanked with everything going on. Pneumonia from being in the hospital only too common and know they watch for it closely. I hope she continues to get stronger.
Simplicity is back to work PT this week and meeting with her rads doctors. She is tired, but keeps her sense of humor.
FB can be a weird place with religion and politics. I used it mostly for music and yoga things and have had to reduce my network there when things get toxic with those who want in to my network and then spew. I think there are many other fun things to talk about in life, but politics and religion are just not a place I will go with most folks anymore. Too much anger and need to debate things. I don't have the need to be right.
Tired and time for bed. Hoping I will be more back on Mountain time after tonight.
Wishing everyone here a peaceful evening.
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Another photo from the balloon fiesta. This is a move they call "dip and dash" where they drop down to the river surface to touch it then pull up.
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happy Friday my friends I am on the train.Took one earlier today so be home 15 minutes early lol I am so tired and so existing that it's in fact a long weekend for us in Canada I love long weekends.
I am hopping bb 's mom get better soon.
I also got bad news from France grand mom had some blood due to a medication high blood pressure and we'll I called her yesterday and ll call her tmw again .Dr. took a blood test and stopped her medication now we must monitor her.not easy been far and her been alone with grand pa who s mind is all over the past not the present .
Also she told me that the friend with bc asked her for my # Aparently she wants to call me. I told mami the reason I did not call her direct cuz I don't want to bother them knowing all they are dealing with these days. But I ll call her too tmw.
Aparently her Dr was going to determine if she needs chemo so far they only mentioned rad to her. I may find out more tmw.
It is hard cuz my relatives in france and friend do not know about my bc. They only know about my sister
I never let them find out cuz I didn't want my first love (this lady's son) to ever know what happen to me. And now his mom whom I love very much is going through it
life just sucksAnyway hope all have a great weekend
Sending u all hugs
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Enerva- there are many people who don't know about my bc. I just spent a whole weekend with family that has no idea either my sister OR I had it three years ago. 2012 was a terrible year for our family with my mother's passing and their mom's passing. We just did not feel we could go there with any of them, we were overwhelmed and they were too.
My sister debated whether she might share it this past weekend but decided she would wait until we were there. One of the cousins on my uncles side lost a sister to bc 10 years ago. We talked about it with her and the pain is still deep there. We decided to say nothing, there would have been a lot of freaking out about it I think. Last weekend was a happy time celebrating a wedding, not the time to talk about these things.
If you talk to the woman, just ask her to keep it private. I think people with cancer understand how to do that better than the average person. It is ours to share if we want people to know, not others. I am glad you are going to call her.
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BB- you have a lot going on. I am glad you are taking care of yourself to ensure you can also better take care of your mom. I am sorry about the COPD. I know if you quit smoking, your lungs can recover. The chiro like he is really helping you.
You may be able to figure out some in home support for your mom when she goes home in Nov. There is a company called Visiting Angels my sister found for her partners aging relatives. Here is the link to their site. They will meet with you to figure out what you might need. This is not covered by insurance though, but the cost is reasonable. Might be worth a call to the local office?
http://www.visitingangels.com/
Wishing you better days
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hi Bb my heart goes to you. Funny you said that about your sister I am the same way the one that I was most close with is the one that past away the others we can visit each other but we can live under the same roof due to been very different individuals. I think back and that was the main reason I left home when I was 18 I came to a far away country so I could miss them then go see them once in a wile but the truth is that I love them yet I can live by their rules. Anyway this made me cry today.
Ver "Michael Jackson "resucita" en forma de holograma en los premios Billboard" en YouTube -
Hope you enjoy it as much as I did I am still a huge fan. Lol
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omg I just saw a Comercial of a new channing movie lol and he is a dancer hum hum hum yummmy hahahaha I am getting g that movie next it's call Mike XXL hahhahahah
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