Single life after a mastectomy
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E- I hope you get an interview. I bet the woman told you about the job because she already knew if she could go somewhere else, she would. People completing with us never offer up the opportunities for us to consider that they really want. I often have other consultant/freelancers digging around with me trying to get me to share information on what I have going on. I am very tight lipped about my work opps, because it is highly competitive here for the best work. So all that being said, I hope you may still get an interview.
So no change with the teams? These guys are a whole lotta talk and no action! True in my world too most days.
There was some other work I was interested to do for this healthcare client, but heard last night one of the other consultants is going to work on it to start. That did not surprise me either, as she and I had dinner not that long ago before she left town on her last gig. She is a really top notch professional and know they really like her. She was asking me if I might go back and work for them again soon, and said I was interested in their new big data program. She said she has been involved in some of the meetings around that and knew my name was in the ring. But the fact they had her involved early on meant she was likely getting the work. So when my client told me that last night that Diane was going to be the PM to start, I thought "yup."
Now that being said, being back on site will allow me to cross paths with the new VP in that area and begin to develop a relationship.That way I can find out if he is someone I would want to do a contract for. As I understand it, they have a lot of work planned through the next few years per my competitor so there may be something good there for me with time. I have learned to accept the right things come to you at the right time. It also sounds like they are dealing with a lot of chaos around the new program. I am not up for big chaos!
And E, from everything you have told me, I would not see VZ as a destination place to get medical care. I know medical tourism is getting bigger because insurance is covering less, people are not getting good outcomes here, etc. Why did she choose to go there? Doesn't she know about what your family has been through with their cancer care there? Well, only so much you can do. Denver has some pretty awesome healthcare groups too I might add.
Got a meeting to get to! More later!
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jazz have an interview today around 3:30 pm just got a msg
Ll let you guys know
Oh my Denver friend is my high school friend so she was also born in vzla her grandmother is not well she needed to se her.
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E- oh that makes sense about your friend. I hope she has a good visit with her grandmother.
Good luck with the interview! Fingers crossed for an offer!
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Didn't have the interview. The lady never called me maybe tmw I have no idea what happened
I think she got busy or something she works in the same floor but I never saw her go by my area either .
I am on my way to the train need to log in from home to finish some promotion
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ok u am on the train now
I waited all afternoon but the lady didn't msg me. She msg me earlier to ask me if I could meet her around 3:30 or 4pm I told her " sure msg me when u are ready I ll come meet you " but she never did. I am not sure I was supper busy but I did not move from my desk all afternoon waiting for her. Tmw I will be there only in the morning due to a course I sign up for . Effective communication tecniques lol provided by my company so I took it also ll give me a reason not to be in the office in the afternoon lol anyway what a mess. I also have a feeling she may not have interest on hiring me cuz I am not sure I ll explain to you guys in my next post
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E- can you follow up with her tomorrow or do you need wait for her to initiate? Maybe she got busy, but still.......
BB- I wish someone would call you today. I think they must be closed by now on on the east coast.......
I was up early for a prof org meeting and tired and going to another prof org event tonight. I am going to the gym after that, need some exercise.....
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Going to remember this one when I look at all my scars......
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I ll follow up tmw morning for sure.
I was logged in from home till almost 9
I am so tiredBb I ll go to bed I ll call you tomorrow I know you are also tired today and in pain. Hope it's better but I wanted to tell you most times chiropractic massages make people feel sore and in pain for a wile. Cuz they touch muscles that were dormant. I am hopping all ll be ok
Love u all
Good night
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Good morning ladies. I am going to slow down and refocus a bit on myself today. I have had a couple of busy days this week around my professional world, and will have a busy week next week as the next contract comes in and planning session gets scheduled. I had a luncheon today postpone to next week and am glad for that. I am going to go to the gym for weights and swimming today. I have not gotten back on track with my exercise very well since I came back from my trip early the week before.
I was glad I went to the event last night. Saw some of my other friends from my networking group and enjoyed some good food. I did not stay long to network though, it was a room full of other consultants and have my new work lined up now until next September. So I made my appearance to support my friend who is on the board for this group, chatted with my peeps and left.
E- sounds like you had a very long day yesterday. I hope you get some good news today on an interview.
BB- I hope you hear from the docs office. Is your mom still in the hospital or did they move her to rehab yet?
Wishing everyone here a day filled with what you need.
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BB- I am glad your MO gave you some reassurance today this may not be as bad. Good to rule out with the possibility with the scan. Always good to do Vitamin D. Also glad to hear your sister is there to help with the mother issues. One day at a time now.
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happy Friday everybody .
I will have that informal interview today so I should have some updates today at my return.
Wishing you all an amazing weekend and a very happy Friday
Love and hugs going your way
Specialy to bb s mom who needs lost
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Sorry to hear your PS is so insensitive E. I hate it when Dr's are so blase about our concerns or health. A Rad Onc gave me the impression I was a bother the other day when I asked that a spot be looked at. It's at the end of my incision and a piece of stitch seems to be hanging out. Well, I squeezed and got some goo the other day. It's not red or inflammed and no fever, but still wanted it looked at.
BB-Hate to hear things are so....hectic for you right now. I hope that settles down and that for whatever reason your ex is drawing things out, goes away. Nice to hear that you are doing so much advocating for your mom but I know that has to be hard and tiring. Glad you are getting a bone scan. Hope your sister being around eases your burdens a bit.
Jazz-whew you and Enerva stay so busy! Nice that you went to support a friend and glad to hear you have work lined up until next Sept.
Sorry I have been so absent. Started back to work @ 5 hour days the 5th. I've been trying to keep up. Things are ok here.Started rad's the 14th. Did your surgeon not warn you about rad's with implants E? I heard it is a bit more difficult and can cause more complications. Hate there is so much about this that we don't learn until we are right there at it!!!! Frustrating. I don't have implants since I am hopefully having DIEP reconstruction. Other than that, just been very tired. So when I am not working, I am resting or catching up my house from resting and working haha
Hope everyone enjoys their Friday and weekend! A busy one here full of activities Sat with the kids. Whew. I am sleeping all day Sunday! Start back full time next week.
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hi ladies .
Simplicity no the first ps I had was not a good one. She did not tell me much about what we're the mayor complications rad can cause with implants .I think is due to the type of surgery I had. This is my second ps he was able to fix problems I got from the first one.
So today I had the interview and I didn't have much luck due to the fact that they have already someone in mind whom just had an interview on Wednesday. But I then met someone after whom is working in the international area of my Co and he asked me to send him my resume cuz he may have a position for me which may involve moving overseas lol I am so excitedthis could be so good. I sent him my resume and I ll wait to hear from him.
Anyway I logged in after work today and was working till almost 8pm I ll going to bed now
Hope all of you have a great weekend
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Hi everyone! This looks like a great place to make some fellow single bc friends, so I thought I'd join in and say hi and get to know everyone better. I'm 27 and single! And losing my breasts soon so I'm kind of still struggling with acceptance of what's to come. At least in the future, I can flash my Franken-boob at boys who are too close for comfort. Haha!
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hey bb! Yeah but I suppose everyone struggles no matter what age you are! My bmx is in early Jan, will be opting for immediate recon with silicone and lat flaps.. Not looking forward to seeing Franken-boob! My tumours are near my skin so a lot of skin has to go. Boo!
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heart 27 welcome.I am glad you ll have immediate recon. LIke bb I agree you are way too young to be here. Hope you have lots of love and support from all people around you.
Bb the lady who interviewed me was honest and told me they already have someone in mind for the job so I won't get that position. On the other hand I am glad I found another one wish could take me overseas and that would be my dream job
I just woke up its 3:46 am feel as if it's chemo Inmsonia all over again .
Hope you are all deep sleeping
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E- that sounds pretty exciting about the new international opportunity. When you say overseas, do you mean Europe? That could be very good for you. Sometimes the thing we think we want is only the beginning of better things yet to come. Keep us posted, I hope you get an interview for that one. I think getting a fresh start somewhere new would be very good for you. Make sure they move you and that bike you love too!
BB- I am glad your date went well. Good to have something fun in the midst of all the hard stuff. Hoping your mom is doing better every day.
27Heart-welcome to our thread. I am sorry you find yourself here and at such a young age, but you seem quite wise to me to already know life can bring you problems at any age. We have some other young gals on this thread, although I have not seen them here in awhile.
Speaking of that, I was thinking of Melp last night and wonder how she is doing? I might go check to see the last time she was on BCO.
Wishing everyone a relaxing and peaceful weekend
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Quick check in. Busy day with kids-fun things.
so sorry about the interview E.
As far as recon & rads, there seems to be no standard, with any of this actually. Bb-glad the date went well. It is so healing to laugh. Yea, I think I handled bmx very well with very little pain. I know the recon will be a lot rougher.
Heart 27, welcome! the one thing I wasnt prepared for was how concaved my chest was. It does level out so to speak. But that did catch me off guard. Also, cording or axillary web syndrome. No one told me I may have to do PT after bmx.
Hope everyone enjoys the weekend! Hope I can handle all this cun with the kids! Lo
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BB- Nothing exciting going on this weekend. I was going to do a dinner party last night with some friends last night here at the house, but they contacted me this week to say they had bought tickets to a concert and forgot about it. We all forget things, but this is the second time this has happened in the past few months with inviting folks over for dinner, so it bugs me. But that being said, if people forget commitments they make or something better comes up, that is it for me with respect to another invite. Not that I won't see them again, but I won't make the effort to do anything with them at the house. As my work gets busier now, no time for entertaining here anyways. I don't entertain much and sometimes am reminded why. It is a lot of work and sometimes there is no follow through. Better off keeping things light and meeting up with folks for lunch, a drink, etc. If it does not work out, then you can shift gears.
In many respects, it was good yesterday freed up as I have had a super busy week around the work front, so yesterday gave me some time to myself to take care of a few errands, get to my fav yoga class, etc. I have some fall home and yard chores this weekend and next I need to get done. I have a friend coming for a visit in another 10 days to go to the hot springs with me up north for a few days and need to get things done to also be ready for her to stay here a couple nights. Refocusing on that, which I am looking forward to!
I will say once the balloon fiesta ends here, things tend to quiet down a bit more with respect to concerts and other fun stuff. May through early October has endless fun things to do. Of course there are always holiday things going on here, but it is pretty quiet in Jan through March. Hiberation time!
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Good morning ....
BB PM coming your way
Sending you all love and hugs again welcome to our new heart27
Simplicity i am with you there is so much dr. leave out of the scope i feel its cuz they dont want us freaking out at their offices at the beggingn of the process they figure by the time we get here we can tolerate more chaos ;((
Jazz how i wish i was in your area so i could run over your place and hang out
) ok going to log in to work soon there are mayor promotions happening today.
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Thanks for the warm welcome girls!! It's really nice to be heard and understood. I've just been out of a terrible relationship and endured ridicule for having cancer and finding out that he was a serial cheater. He also blamed my cancer for making him that way, and that nobody would want to be with someone who's had mx. The break up had broken my spirit and I've been trying to stay afloat since then. Bah, let's not waste time talking about jerks.
Life these days is focused on being good to myself and finding new meaning in life! I've started volunteering at a special school and seeing those kids makes me feel that my woes are nothing in comparison. And I went on a shopping spree to buy some toiletries to pamper myself. It's really therapeutic!
Hope everyone has a great day!
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27heart that is terrible, yes we here know how man are. you are only in your 20th and i think men between 20 and 35 are just very selfish and have no real sense of what a woman needs they can be very cruel. Try to focus on you ,
i am glad you got some treats and you will feel better soon its not easy but your heart will heal. one day this young man wont be a reason to stress cuz your heart will one day kick him out for good. i am feeling like i want to eat chocolate lol not sure why but i got up with this need for chocolate the bad thing is that i am not cracy about going out there today its so cold last night it was 0 here and i here up 2 hours north it was -3 lol i went to the post office and did not go to the lake cuz its too cold so no walk for me. i am not feeling great cuz my monthly red friend arrived yesterday and everything hurts so i will try to just stay home will maybe just drink a hot chocolate lol instead of coffee
BB let me know if you feel like talking i can call you
Love you ladies.
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BB- I will send you a PM. I am so sorry.
E- I wish you could come hang out too! Too bad we are not living in the future and can "transport" to each others locations for lunch. That was the future I was looking forward to as a kid. None of TSA bs and cramped flight stuff for hours on end.
27- as I read your post, every bad boyfriend came back in to my mind from my 20s. I had my fair share of blamers and cheaters too when I was your age, and it just tears you apart. I had some other stuff going on then with sick family, and was so hurtful on top of the deep emotional pain I already had from the other. It is a hard lesson to learn that there are these stupid selfish men out there, and even more painful one around a cancer dx. You will be forever changed now, when someone really care about deceives you like that (and tops it off by being cruel to you about your cancer dx), it will teach you to make these men prove they are really worth it. He sounds very immature for starters, never mind just not being a nice person to have said what he said. You don't need a jerk like this in your life, better he goes now as you need really good people around you during all this. Trust me, a lot of us found out who the people are that care and who everyone else is during our cancer dx and treatment (and since). There are a number of women here on BCO who have lost relationships and marriages since their initial dx. I fear it is more common than is every talks about outside the bc community.
You are doing some good things to help yourself right now until you have your surgery. This is the time to put yourself first and buying some nice lotions, bath salts, etc. all good. Think about making your bedroom as comfortable as possible in the next few months as you will spend a lot of time there. There is sort of a "nesting" that does go on when you going into this thing as we need a comfortable space. Do you live with other people? Share an apt with anyone?
There are some good threads here for all the things you will go through. Surgery, maybe chemo, maybe rads, recon, etc. Everyone's treatment plan is a bit different. Seek out those threads too. I saw on your post you are from Asia and we have another single lady here on this thread who is also from Asia (although she has not been here in awhile). I have seen threads for sisters in Australia and other countries, so there could be one out there for either where you live or regionally?
Let us know how else we can help?
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I'm sorry BB. I missed something yesterday
Difficult situation from what I can gather. Hope it works itself out or the situation improves. Good advice Jazz. I 'nested' prior to surgery. Room is a mess again. Need to clean but so tired.
E get some rest. My red friend hasn't shown back up yet. I dread when it does.
Enjoy the day everyone. Think I'm going back to bed.
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Simplicity- saw you had a fun evening out last night, but know you will be tired today. Rads really creates a lot of fatigue, on top of the fatigue that comes with everything else you have been through to date. It is good to have those outings to have some normalcy when you can. I came to value simple dinners out, even a trip for a cup of coffee when I was going through everything.
I read this in the Parade Magazine in the sunday paper today. I like what she said about having your girlfiends help you. Because I was not in a relationship when I got m dx, nor do I have family where I live, my friends were the life rope I needed during that time. Although I am not fond of Pinktober with all it's marketing BS, I do feel articles like this help other women.
http://parade.com/429878/lhochwald/5-things-sandra...
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E- I found a cute new actor for you! I watched this film this weekend called Far from the Maddening Crowd, set with a mostly european cast. The male star is a Belgian actor by the name of Matthais Shoenaerts. Check him out. He is 37, a few years younger than you!
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Lol jazz you must watch Mike llx. Please
Hahahha I need you ladies to see my baby channing Tatum dancing hahaha
Ok so look what I am crocheting now. Roses
I love it not done yet tomorrow I ll add a few more details
But so far they turn out beatiful
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Thank you everyone for empathizing with me! Yes some toxic people just have to go. I caught myself grooving to some party music a few nights ago and wow, do I miss those days when I could let my hair down and have fun. I seem to have lost touch with the world "out there". So I'm gonna set that as an anchor and have as much fun as I can!
On a totally different note, I'm on taxol now and I started growing head-hair.. But I'm left with a quarter of my brows. I look hilarious! Haha! And omg sparse baby pubes are so gross! Too much info... Haha
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Enerva wow that's gorgeous! I've started crocheting this week and I'm having crampy hands now. I keep losing stitches! I started with 13 in my first row (I'm making my mom a headband), and I was only left with 8 by the time I got to 6 rows... Haha! I'm gonna attempt making it again tonight.
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27 heart Taxol was my enemy. Yes I know what you mean. I must say crocheting was my savior wile treatment and I find now it's like my only meditation and joy.
Hope you keep on trying , but there was a time my hands were useless and I could not even open doors. Hand in there it ll go away once treatment ends. Slowly you ll be ok again.
Regarding the party hummm so true me too I can't enjoy a club or party these days and I use to like that in my 20 but it's like you say it's as if we don't belong there wierd feelings we have over all .
Have a great day I am on my way to work again
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