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  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    ok I was surprised too but I found one lol at my usual supermarket .ll post a picture.

    So jazz this is what I found about hot springs in Canada and it's way less money to go to urs lol

    Due to these places been so far from me.

    Wellness Travel

    HOT SPRINGS: CANADA'S BIG FOUR

    by Judi Lees

    In earlier times, a spa visit was about bathing in hot, au natural, healing waters -- picture Roman soldiers soaking in the mineral rich, hot springs of Spa, a small Belgium village.

    Thankfully these waters, that rise from far below the earth's surface and are the result of volcanic action millions of years ago, still remain. Of the many steamy hot springs in Canada, a few are also part of wonderful spas.

    When we take stock of Canada's natural hot springs with full-service spas, here are the Big Four:

    HARRISON HOT SPRINGS

    Starting in the west, which happens to be a hub for these watery treasures, head for Harrison Lake in British Columbia's Fraser Valley. Tucked into the base of the illustrious Coast Mountains and on the shoreline of the picture perfect lake are two smelly, steaming springs that boast temperatures in the 40 and 60 degree C. From this location the water is cooled and pumped to pools in the nearby village.

    There are five swimming pools at Harrison Hot Springs Resort & Spa and many of the treatments at Healing Springs Spa begin with a soak in the mineral-rich waters. The piece de resistance of this spa, which opened in 2001, may well be its private Signature Room that, although anyone can book it, cries out for couples to indulge in the Time for Two Celebration.

    A gorgeous, deep roomy tub, soft lighting, even a faux starry sky sets the mood for a soak, a Moor mud treatment followed by a choice of a relaxation, reflexology or shiatsu massage. Lovely and It all begins with the healing waters – little wonder that the Coast Salish People revered this locale as the 'healing place' in the 1800s.

    FAIRMONT HOT SPRINGS

    Steamy hot springs go hand in hand with the Canadian Rocky Mountains, as though Mother Nature is determined to show off the best of the west. In the early 1900s soothe-seekers arrived in B.C.'s Fairmont Hot Springs and headed into the 'palatial sanitarium', a bathhouse where mineral rich water soothed their aching muscles. At
    this site today, Fairmont Hot Springs Resort welcomes guests to experience the same feel good feelings.

    A favoured treatment at The Natural Springs Spa is the Sacred Nature Organic Ritual: 75 minutes of your full body being exfoliated, nourished and massaged with fragrant, organic creams and oils. As with all treatments at the spa, you may begin or end with a swim or soak in the mineral-rich pools of the Fairmont Hot Springs Resort where 1.5 million gallons per day flow from Canada's largest hot springs. (It is emptied and cleaned daily.)

    BANFF HOT SPRINGS

    Banff Hot Springs

    Surely one of the most famed hot springs are at well-named Banff Hot Springs. Surrounded by towering mountains it is Alberta's heart of outdoor recreation and following an adrenaline-hyped day, you can rejuvenate atPleiades Massage & Spa. Hint: to complete your energetic day, the mountain high spa can be reached via a wooded trail from near the Fairmont Banff Sprints Hotel. (Even if you aren't staying at the famous 'castle' make sure you stroll through and enjoy the ambience and history.)

    Once up the mountain –you can drive – go for a wrap and deep massage at Pleiades Massage & Spa; combine it with a visit to the plunge pool and outdoor hot springs pool. It is simply the thing to do while in Banff. Don't you love it that Pleiades is pronounced 'play-at-eez' and is the Greek name of seven stars. You are sure to feel like a star after this day. There is also aPleiades Massage & Spa in Radium Hot Springs,B.C.

    TEMPLE GARDEN MINERAL SPA

    Temple Gardens Mineral Spa opened in Moose Jaw, Saskatchewan in 1996 and changed the once-sleepy town forever. Thanks to ancient sea beds far below the earth's surface, as well as some ingenious townspeople who piped its mineral rich waters, today guests of the luxurious resort bask in warm geothermal waters and take treatments at The Sun Tree Spa.

    Tough to say which will impress the most, the magnificent rooftop, indoor/outdoor pool (hint – it's particularly magical under a blanket of stars) or the treatment at The Sun Tree Spa. Consider the Wild Rosehip Prairie Wrap that combines a healing and regenerating wrap utilizing the prairie's own rosehips along with exfoliation and face and scalp massage.

    Hot water and hot treatments are a winning combination at Canada's hot springs. Such a nice touch that we can embrace the same pleasures as those experienced by ancient Romans.

    ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

    Judi Lees is a veteran travel writer based in British Columbia

    Ll go take a picture of the vinager

  • Lily55
    Lily55 Member Posts: 1,748
    edited November 2015

    BB - please hold on to your dog...........I have been really busy with rescue and abandoned dogs last few months and I hate to say it but must tell you that dogs surrendered by their owners are always the first to be killed.......when they need space in there, or for any kind of reason, older dog, one with a health issues etc etc, - you live in a country that is much more pro dog there must be a solution?

    I am still struggling, feel sooooooooo very different whenever i am anywhere, in the middle of an exercise class, at a social event i am enjoying, in the shower on my own..........I looked at Tinder and stopped there, could not even undersgtand it and there is no way I can ever let any man see me or tell him, the prospect of a man i liked knowing and then leaving would be gutting......I long for a spoony cuddle, nothing else, a fully clothed spoony cuddle, dogs are not the same at cuddling........

    IT is beyond cruel to forcé women who want reconstruction to live like a freak for so many years and I think the tissue its getting tighter not looser......good old rads......

    Sorry I am not being a very good support to others right now.....

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

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    ok I was surprised too but I found one lol at my usual supermarket .ll post a picture.

    So jazz this is what I found about hot springs in Canada and it's way less money to go to urs lol

    Due to these places been so far from me.

    Wellness Travel

    HOT SPRINGS: CANADA'S BIG FOUR

    by Judi Lees

    In earlier times, a spa visit was about bathing in hot, au natural, healing waters -- picture Roman soldiers soaking in the mineral rich, hot springs of Spa, a small Belgium village.

    Thankfully these waters, that rise from far below the earth's surface and are the result of volcanic action millions of years ago, still remain. Of the many steamy hot springs in Canada, a few are also part of wonderful spas.

    When we take stock of Canada's natural hot springs with full-service spas, here are the Big Four:

    HARRISON HOT SPRINGS

    Starting in the west, which happens to be a hub for these watery treasures, head for Harrison Lake in British Columbia's Fraser Valley. Tucked into the base of the illustrious Coast Mountains and on the shoreline of the picture perfect lake are two smelly, steaming springs that boast temperatures in the 40 and 60 degree C. From this location the water is cooled and pumped to pools in the nearby village.

    There are five swimming pools at Harrison Hot Springs Resort & Spa and many of the treatments at Healing Springs Spa begin with a soak in the mineral-rich waters. The piece de resistance of this spa, which opened in 2001, may well be its private Signature Room that, although anyone can book it, cries out for couples to indulge in the Time for Two Celebration.

    A gorgeous, deep roomy tub, soft lighting, even a faux starry sky sets the mood for a soak, a Moor mud treatment followed by a choice of a relaxation, reflexology or shiatsu massage. Lovely and It all begins with the healing waters – little wonder that the Coast Salish People revered this locale as the 'healing place' in the 1800s.

    FAIRMONT HOT SPRINGS

    Steamy hot springs go hand in hand with the Canadian Rocky Mountains, as though Mother Nature is determined to show off the best of the west. In the early 1900s soothe-seekers arrived in B.C.'s Fairmont Hot Springs and headed into the 'palatial sanitarium', a bathhouse where mineral rich water soothed their aching muscles. At
    this site today, Fairmont Hot Springs Resort welcomes guests to experience the same feel good feelings.

    A favoured treatment at The Natural Springs Spa is the Sacred Nature Organic Ritual: 75 minutes of your full body being exfoliated, nourished and massaged with fragrant, organic creams and oils. As with all treatments at the spa, you may begin or end with a swim or soak in the mineral-rich pools of the Fairmont Hot Springs Resort where 1.5 million gallons per day flow from Canada's largest hot springs. (It is emptied and cleaned daily.)

    BANFF HOT SPRINGS

    Banff Hot Springs

    Surely one of the most famed hot springs are at well-named Banff Hot Springs. Surrounded by towering mountains it is Alberta's heart of outdoor recreation and following an adrenaline-hyped day, you can rejuvenate atPleiades Massage & Spa. Hint: to complete your energetic day, the mountain high spa can be reached via a wooded trail from near the Fairmont Banff Sprints Hotel. (Even if you aren't staying at the famous 'castle' make sure you stroll through and enjoy the ambience and history.)

    Once up the mountain –you can drive – go for a wrap and deep massage at Pleiades Massage & Spa; combine it with a visit to the plunge pool and outdoor hot springs pool. It is simply the thing to do while in Banff. Don't you love it that Pleiades is pronounced 'play-at-eez' and is the Greek name of seven stars. You are sure to feel like a star after this day. There is also aPleiades Massage & Spa in Radium Hot Springs,B.C.

    TEMPLE GARDEN MINERAL SPA

    Temple Gardens Mineral Spa opened in Moose Jaw, Saskatchewan in 1996 and changed the once-sleepy town forever. Thanks to ancient sea beds far below the earth's surface, as well as some ingenious townspeople who piped its mineral rich waters, today guests of the luxurious resort bask in warm geothermal waters and take treatments at The Sun Tree Spa.

    Tough to say which will impress the most, the magnificent rooftop, indoor/outdoor pool (hint – it's particularly magical under a blanket of stars) or the treatment at The Sun Tree Spa. Consider the Wild Rosehip Prairie Wrap that combines a healing and regenerating wrap utilizing the prairie's own rosehips along with exfoliation and face and scalp massage.

    Hot water and hot treatments are a winning combination at Canada's hot springs. Such a nice touch that we can embrace the same pleasures as those experienced by ancient Romans.

    ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

    Judi Lees is a veteran travel writer based in British Columbia

    Ll go take a picture of the vinager

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    jazz actually I think I got it at the Walmart food area. Now that I remember I went to Walmart to grab something and found it there. Before I went to france in august I never new balsamic came in white and I really love it . Hope you ladies try it. 😆

  • jazzygirl
    jazzygirl Member Posts: 11,974
    edited November 2015

    Lilly- it sounds like you have been getting out more and perhaps helping the rescued dogs in your part of the world. I understand being in places and feeling different. It is hard to feel fully engaged in things sometimes. I don't enjoy hanging out and shooting the breeze with folks like I used to.

    E- those hot springs sound all sound amazing! I have to check out the links a bit more.

    And white vinegar at Walmart? I have to check that out.

    I went for a nice walk before dark. It was in the low 40s, but I was bundled up and the walk felt good.

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    Lili I miss your post . Hope you know you are not alone my rad side it's not good but I have no way to get fix . I just keep hopping it stops and it does not get worse.

    You do a great deal by rescuing pets. And yes I hope bb does have to give her away. Hope someone comes along and helps.

    OK I must say g night I have been on the Internet dreaming and I have to stop lol

    Ll chat in the morning


  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    soo sorry I mean doesn't I ll never want her or any of u to give a pet away .

    Bb forgive my post went I never Doble check what I type u know how much it hurts to remember I gave my pet away :(


  • cubbie2015
    cubbie2015 Member Posts: 773
    edited November 2015

    Enevra, wow, I didn't know there were hot springs in Canada. I've only spent time in Manitoba. That one in Banff looks beautiful.

    I hear you, Lily. I'm not sure what my self image is post-mastectomy. I was such a non-girly girl, that in some ways it doesn't matter. At the same time, I feel unattractive, even though there's nobody I'm trying to attract. I know I did the right thing, but it's hard. I'd given up dating years ago, but this sealed the deal. I suppose it's sort of like my newly short hair, I'd feel differently about it if it had been my choice, and not something I'd done because I had to.Then I wonder why I even care, because the most important thing here is beating the cancer.

    I went out tonight to see a co-worker's daughter perform in her high school play. They did a great job. Really talented bunch of kids.

  • Simplicity
    Simplicity Member Posts: 723
    edited November 2015

    Morning ladies. Thanks for the words of encouragement. I can't imagine keeping this private/going it alone. I think all of you that did are amazingly brave and strong.

    I know it's hard being a supportive friend or family member to an ill person. I didn't realize how vital a role/spot I had put SP in. I didn't mean to :(

    I've read other articles and such that say the home stretch is the hardest emotionally. Ugh.

    BB I hope something comes before March. I know it's easier said but it's a few months away, try not to worry :( I wish I could help. Hate seeing good people in such hard positions. Did you apply for GoJenGo assistance? It doesn't appear that your diagnosis tag is up to date cause you've already had surgery, right? GoJenGo pushed me through some months financially. I can message you the info if you like. It's a part of Susan B. Koleman I think.

    I caught up to all but the last page haha

    E I love your spirit!

    Jazz-I wonder if there's hot springs in NC? I should check.

    Still kind of poopy. Had a decent time out last night but as soon as I got in my car to head home, the tears started falling.

    Dating, all nice responses so far and they've all read about my bc. We'll see who hangs around. I like to keep it there for quite sometime prior to meeting, and I need a way to verify identity. Dating a Detective for 5 years, I've heard some stories and don't care to be one.

    I'm going to go read last page! Haha


  • Simplicity
    Simplicity Member Posts: 723
    edited November 2015

    Glad I see the Dr tomorrow. Wore my prosthetics for the first time last night in maybe a week. Took it off and had a bit of puss on the outside. Been cleaning with hydrogen peroxide as the Dr suggested, but that right side just isn't going to be happy no matter what :(

  • Simplicity
    Simplicity Member Posts: 723
    edited November 2015

    I've been doing the same thing lately BB. I bought extra pillows for the recovery and since I will sometimes sleep with one behind and one in front for me to hug.

    One guy on the dating site, I asked if he had read the profile-important info- he cae back with 'lol' like he thought I was joking. I replied something. Haven't heard from him since. O well. Another guy, he's a cutie, his mom had FRB and so far he seems very sweet and understanding. We shall see. I need to keep my brain about me although my brain, heart, and body are all screaming for something different than the other :( The three have never been in such conflict!

  • jazzygirl
    jazzygirl Member Posts: 11,974
    edited November 2015

    Good morning ladies- I am going to be home for a bit and then heading out for the rest of the day. One of my new friends from the new prof org association invited me to brunch and a poetry reading at the art museum today.

    Simplicity- I don't think you were putting your SP in a hard place. I think your relationship already had some challenges with you being far apart. Then things changed for you with the bc. You did not choose that, it happened. Having a serious health condition really changes our relationships with everyone. Some people move towards you, others move away, and others don't really know what to do because the whole thing scares them. I hope eventually when things are better that you can sit together and talk through things. I think sending that b-day card leaves the door open.

    The thing about treatment ending that is sometimes hard is that you have a lot of people watching you closely. You stop having the endless medical apts with the BS, MO and RO, which is a relief in so many ways. But then you can sort of feel sort of "abandoned" in a way too. You end up seeing the doctors anywhere from every 3 to 6 months for follow up. I know you will have the recon eventually too. But you are really back out on your own after all that focused attention these past few months, and I will say that was not easy. I was pretty emotional the few months after treatment ended. You might be starting to experience some of that now too. It is okay, letting the tears flow is part of the healing process.

    And look what I found for you! Hot springs in NC. There are others in your state too.

    http://nchotsprings.com/

    Wishing everyone a peaceful day!


  • Penzance
    Penzance Member Posts: 39
    edited November 2015

    Hi BosumBlues

    Could you ask your chiropractor to give you exercises that you can standing or sitting? My physio gave me exercises that I can do in the office (can't really lie down as remarks from office manager) or at home when I'm too tired or achy to lie down on the floor (I may not get up again to go to bed!).

    Best wishes.

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    good morning. Well its so beautiful I must go for my walk even though my upper back is still not 100percent ok last night had some pain I am thinking it is my pillow maybe my pillows must be change ? I love pillows and I do change them regularly I ll say ever 6 months but I haven't change these pillows for a wile lol

    I saw one on TV suposed to be great. And cool

    I ll see if I find it at home sense.

    Here is a look of the day from my window

    image

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    jazz I am so happy I pm our friend from Inmsonia and she got back to me .

    I ll join the tread she is at. I do miss her.

    :)

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    ok I realized I didn't do my laundry yesterday so I went to the laundry room and now I am waiting for it to dry. It's 13 outside so yes sunny but not too warm. I am thinking I need to bring my motorcycle to the Gass station to fill up the tank and then put some liquid so she sleeps for the winter but I don't even know if she ll turn on now. I have not ride her in months :( I think I ll try turning her on and see if she does. If so I may take her to get her Gass then back to parking lot. I know that it ll no be good for my neck to ride but no other choice I hate living in a building if I had a garage I could pug the bike to an electric device and problem could be solved . Since I live in a stupid building I have to fill the tank put some solucion then take the batery out :(

    This is when I wish I had a dame boyfriend lol

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    :( bb a few days ago it rained here well my abs and some other light came on for a day then it went away . Yes I always wanted a bf who could fix my car ha ha ha no luck my mechanic is cute but married lol

    Now I remember I was to go get my tires and I didn't . Crap I ll have to during the week

    There is a drinking tread I can't find it . I don't drink but I have a friend in that tread if u have the link let me know .I went to the active topics but did not see it

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    Yes bb I hear you. I try to keep up with the Inmsonia tread but with no luck. I am always lost there since it is active now all day long I was there when I had chemo Inmsonia but after I got better at sleeping the tread changed to days and I could kept up. But one ladies from that tread is active in a drinking treat even though she does not drink ither lol she is so cool and I miss her . Anyway I did not find it. I may pm her to send me a link . The other thing is that I type from my cell phone and it seems it has some limitations when searching for treads. I also wonder how Tessa and June are doing. Hope Melb is ok too.

    Bb I found some pictures of when my hair was short blond and curly hahahhahaha did you see that we have been friends since Nov 2013 or so lol wow yes we are family. I read a few old msg and I can't believe how much been here helped us.

    ;) I sometimes msg others who are new and they are asking for some help

    Hoping our history help them in some way.

    OK I ll go see if my baby turn on lol I ll let u know got my gear gloves all and I ll go down to the underground to check her out

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    Lol ok so got my bike to start and went to the station turned out the bike had a full tank already ha ha ha I could no remember when did I fill last time? Anyway got back to the building and added the winter liquid turned her on again for a few minutes and now I just need to take the batery out which I ll do during the week .

    Here she is in my underground

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  • jazzygirl
    jazzygirl Member Posts: 11,974
    edited November 2015

    E- here it the link to the drinking thread where Cami is. I joined it, they say they don't drink much either, but talk about cocktails! Virtual drinking!

    https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/31/topics...

    In from the poetry reading doing some things at the house and off to the gym, then a chakra meditation class (new). It warmed up today, almost 60 degrees!

  • cubbie2015
    cubbie2015 Member Posts: 773
    edited November 2015

    Enerva, that is quite the bike! How do you store your battery when you remove it?

    BB, I always wanted a mechanic boyfriend, or at least someone to help push the car!

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    oh thanks jazz

    Cubbie I take it to my apt and plug it to a charger. It keeps it in maintenance for the entire winter ;)

    If I had a house and a garage then you don't have to take it out of the bike .you just plug the cables to the batery which is in the bike .

    It's just a pain I'm the neck to live in a building. Bit I can't afford a house on my own

    And since I took myself out of the finding a man club ha ha ha I don't know if I ll ever afford a house :(

  • Simplicity
    Simplicity Member Posts: 723
    edited November 2015

    Morning ladies.

    Thanks Jazz. Very valid advice and thoughts. I already had abandonment issues (dad), eh, so, is what it is lol

    BB, that's great to hear. Has he become a supportive friend during all this? I have been lucky and have some friends that have really stepped up to the plate, but I think they're all getting tired. I've been on the pitty pot for a while now and it seems I get off every once in a while to stretch my legs haha Back pain/problems are no fun. Hope the chiropractor is able to give you alternative to laying down exercises. Thanks BB. Yea, I know. Talking to one guy whose mother and grandmother had frb. He's been very kind. I have had a few 'stop by' as well to send encouraging words since it has affected their family also.

    I'm really not sure why I keep joining, deleting profile, joining, deleting profile. I guess in a way it is a distraction for me? idk

    E that is a nice bike! I have wanted one for a long time but don't ever see it happening. I can't keep up with the insomnia thread either. lol Look at that beautiful Trans Am in the background wow. Love to have that! How are you feeling today?

    I'm exhausted and it's pouring here. 1-2 inches today. Really wanted to stay in the bed. I wore my prosthetics for a bit Sat night for a bday party-OUCH. An hour in and I wanted to tear that damn thing off. Won't be doing that again. I'm getting these little black dots in the rad area. I think it's little blisters that have already popped and have that dark brown skin over them? Under my arm is where most of them are. I see the Dr today, so I'll have him take a look. PT today too :( My exercises are getting harder and harder to do. They hurt :(

    Hope you all have a good day!

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    hi ladies. Simplicity hope you have less days of rad. Maybe one more week? I remember my 6 weeks I hate it so much but I am glad I was home so I could load creams and very little clothing or touching I have no clue how you are brave to use a prosthetic. I could not even look at my skink cuz it was sore . As if by looking at it it ll become more sore.

    Sorry your friends are getting tired. I had no friends around me during my treatment I hide it from the world only went to the hospital and back my friend was my sister and my mom.

    You know one of the things that hurt my sister was the lack of support from her friends. She also went away to another city but the fact that her friends di not much to contact her hurted her so much. She was so different she loved celebrating her birthday and everyone birthday she was so excited to see people in gatherings etc. Very different than me. I push the world away I had no tolerance for been in the pity pot.

    You are right this can affect you please know we are here. I didn't have this site I discovered late after I finish chemo and even rad.

    We here listen and we ll never tell you don't do this or don't do that. Do what ever it is that makes you happy.

    I myself I am trying to change and to think of me first .thus is something I never did. I always thought of others before thinking of me.

    Now I am pushing myself to care a little about what is that ll make me happy. Then thinks of others.

    No sure if it makes sense. Lol

    Yes in my building there are many nice cars too. I usually wonder hummm who is the owner of Tha? Lol but I know no one here lol I get in and out and I have no tolerance for neighbors ither .

    You see I lived this way for more than half my life always aware of the fact that I am alone in this country and I need to protect myself cuz my family is not here to do so. Ha ha ha I blame that for the way I became.

    I see the solo siniors in my building and can see myself .

    Anyway I will post tonight

    Have a great day bb hope you have a better luck with the nicotine gum and the patches

    Sending u all hugs


  • jazzygirl
    jazzygirl Member Posts: 11,974
    edited November 2015

    Simplicity- I hope your week is better. People tire of our process just as we do. I know you have had a couple particularly brutal weeks.

    And the whole ugly ride is grueling for everyone, including those who are close to us. I had people tell me later they were so terrified during the whole ordeal (and I thought to myself "you think YOU were terrified!") I will suggest down the line when you are feeling better, write everyone a thank you note or take the biggest players out for lunch that stood by you. It will make you feel good and them too. It will also clearly show you who is in your inner circle now.

    I can understand the feelings of abandonment. I had that too with a few people. It really sucks when people disappear or just cannot be there for you. I will say I don't feel the same about those people anymore (many I just don't talk to anymore either). You may want something (or someone) different after all this. Don't be surprised if that happens.

    E- you and I are alike in many ways. I had a few key friends help me, but kept to myself during most of my treatment process. For biz reasons to start, but think I would have done it regardless.

    And I am very much about putting myself first these days. We have to. No more running around for other people all the time. I have much stronger boundaries now and say no to anything I don't want to do. Men do that all the time, women need to be better at saying no instead of trying to be everything for everybody.

    My client contacted me today to get info for the on-boarding process (badge reactivation,network reactivation). The woman who called I know well and said my client wants me to start on Monday, 11/16. I am ready to go, but still have no contract and I have to review it and then send it to my attorney. If they get me something today, it may be possible. I hope they don't expect me to just "sign it" and send it back. It does not go that way. If there are no surprises in the terms and conditions, then we may be good to go quickly. Send me that contract people!


  • Lily55
    Lily55 Member Posts: 1,748
    edited November 2015

    Great to hear from everyone......I do feel hugely alone as when I do mention how I feel about myself I get the no one would know, you are attractive blah blah phrases, the point is I know, I cannot even relax in my own home as can´t go out on garden after dogs in pj´s in case someone sees I am a freak, Won´t answer the door unless have fake shape stuffed in uncomfortable bra......etc, sounds like a real pity party but this reminds me every bloody day that I am not the same and do not look normal to anyone, I am a deeply private person body wise so the thought of anyone finding out or seeing "by accident" fills me with horror............and that is an ongoing risk i won´t go swiming or go to the showers in a gym or go in a communal changing room etc.......and my chest área HURTS, all the time, different pains but it hurts......more not less, is that a good sign or a bad sign? 

    I am still not taking the hormone pills, really cannot bring myself to, feel I have some kind of life forcé in me without them but right now that is fading........I just feel like scrap metal no use to anyone or for anything, just ready for the scrap heap, even breathing is a struggle every day, not all the time but intermittently due to chest tightness.  Why would I want a few more years of this?  No money, no love, no dating sites, no confidence, no energy, no work, if you asked me what keeps me going I really could not tell you......I know some of my dogs would get killed if I died as no one else would want them but then I don´t walk them all every day so am not really being good to them am I.....??

    Not sleeping well again, am under 5 different specialists, including the Oncologist, feel like a walking wreck and I think there is only one month of the year when I do not have a hospital appointment for one of my conditions / monitoring......

    I really just want to hide and not come out, cried myself to sleep last night literally just from sheer misery, nothing specific, I have failed at life



  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    Lili I wish I could give you a hug. But I can tell you I have been in that place where I cry myself to sleep for different reasons. No one can really know what you are going through we are all different and this c crap has affected us in Manny ways. How long are they saying you must wait before recon? Is there any way to contact other cities hospitals. I am only saying that cuz I use to follow a woman in youtube who had bilateral mx and had to go all across usa to get a surgeon who offered to have a second opinion. Her journey helped me understand what I was in for. In terms of what could go wrong. I am so piss that you and many others are told you can get recon right away. It's no fair you should have the choice. I know many woman choose no to do it right away for what ever reason they are scared of recon I do understand them this is just not a simple or easy Rd yet it should be up to us. I wonder if there are any organization which could help.

    Regarding ur dogs I had dogs in the past and I know they love you .they do understand if you can't go for the walk .,those pets are so special they can provide you with company and love.

    Please know this ll get better even if you don't think so it does. It ll stop raining and it ll all be a bad dream. I am sometimes still waiting to wake up from it but I think it ll happen one day.

    Sending u lots of strength and a big hug

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    I try to find that ladie in youtube but I didn't.

    I also followed this amazing yoga instructor

    She decided for no recon. Her history is beautiful just if you guys have any time check videos on YouTube of her. Here is one


    I don't really know if she is still well .I only followed her in 2012 even before I found this site.

    Hope you enjoy her history and also her yoga pictures . Oh yes I also want to mention her husband is one of those men I wish I had :(

    He is amazing .I used to think wow where did she found that man. :(

  • Enerva
    Enerva Member Posts: 2,985
    edited November 2015

    one more



  • cubbie2015
    cubbie2015 Member Posts: 773
    edited November 2015

    ((Lily)) You have not failed at life. You have had challenges other people have not had, and you are still working on this thing called life. We all are.