Single life after a mastectomy
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Hi Ladies i am in my new PS office waiting. I went to dinner and Shawn drooped me off at home he gave me a kiss and asked if he could come up but i turn him down, it was hard to do but i moved fast aster the kiss i got off his truck and walk as fast as i could, i saw him still in his truck as if he was waiting for me to change my mind but i didnt i text him, saying, It was great seen you, have a safe trip home. and he said, it was great seen you 2. So i am proud of me and sad at the same time there goes my chance to get some ha haha oh well all i really care for now is this doctor. i need my breast fix ;(
wish me luck, Whipeetmom is waiting for me to tell her what happens. She is very supportive
even thought she can really help me since she does not have access to implants been offered here in Canada. 0 -
I just got out and Thanks god he agrees with us. He told me due to rad he will need to do remove the capsule only on the right side. Also he will use a firmer implant he says the fact that i have only skin the smooth implants tend to create more rippling i also discussed the volume and he agrees no less than 700cc He took a good look and asked me why did my PS used those implants? i told him he must ask her. He then say He wont promise me perfection but he will make it better. He said in 2 weeks he will see me to discuss the implants and set a date. So i am happy i have a different feeling about this guy. his name is Dr. Hofer from Prince Margaret Hospital.
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Quick check in and woot woot E!
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BB, i was so afraid the ps was going to push me away, but once he looked at my chest right away he said, what happen here? lol i was staring at him lol i am so happy i can jump if i could lol
Piper thanks, this dr. say he cant promise me perfection but he will try for better results thats ok for me
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Well he asked me when will i go back to work. But he didnt ask any details regarding how i am feeling or if the recon is done and over with. He went on and on about his own problems. which i am to blame cuz i asked about it. I think i avoided talking about me. The last thing i wanted is pity lol so its ok It was nice to just listen to him and enjoy some conversation with no bc or recon mentioning lol I do see that he is still into his own world and i am ok been out of his goals.
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Enerva - I'm so glad to hear about your meeting with the PS. My PS did the same for me - I waited a year with the TE before going to see him again. He was upset that I'd waited so long. But, he cut away the capsule on the irradiated side and put a new TE in place. Immediately, it felt much more comfortable. Later, after the permanent implants were put into place, he did fat grafting on both sides. Like your new PS said, the result may not be perfect, but it's an improvement. Anyway, that's great news that you found a PS who can help you. :-)
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Yes, i am keeping my fingers crossed
i just hope he does not let my old PS change his mind cuz he said he will have a talk with her in order to find out what she did. There is something weird going on with the way the implants sit and he wants to know exactly what was done. I will see my family doctor today, i also need to take something for my immune system since my throat still bothers me. Hope you all have a wonderful week.0 -
BB, that yoga class sounds amazing, i did enjoy yoga last year before my exchange S but its really far from my place so i didnt go back. I will keep on waking, yesterday my family doc gave me a cream for my knee and i bought a knee garment lol so today i will go for my walk see how it feels. My sister surgery was moved to June 06, cuz the PS is on vacation ;( i am so sick of the way it all works. Also yesterday i was given an appointment with my new PS for July 02 and that is not the surgery its just to see him once more to schedule it. I ask how come its not sooner and the secretary said Dr. Hofer is going away, and he is fully book till June 04 which is his last day, then he is back in July. Holly one more month of waiting i which i could just walk in and have it done right there lol thats how ready i am. Since i woke up from surgery i have been wishing to be back in that OR lol. Anyway how are you all? I am still going back to read all that happen wile i was gone
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So... My husband moved out last Thursday, and this past Wednesday (6 days later) I went to a meetup and had two guys hitting on me. Not that I am interested, but getting asked to dinner by one, and the other swooping in for a kiss. Did I have the sign on my forehead "husband just left?" And the swooper swooped about 5 times. I wasn't really prepared for that. And he is 8 years my junior. I keep shaking my head.
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Bdavis - Glad you're getting out in the world and enjoying life! :-)
Enerva, BB, everyone - Enjoy your weekend!
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hi
i have really bad news i am going through real trauma and depression .i had appointment with my plastic surgeon for nipple reconstruction if u guys remember i mention a little pointy thing which my family doctor and plastic surgeon told me is a calcification of scar my ultrasound was ok and 29 of may when i reached for my appointment my plastic surgeon ask me about that hard thing she asked me did u ever had any body piercing i said no she looked bit concerned i couldn't bend bcoz of that thing i had my DIEP recon nov 26 2014 .
she gave me local anaesthesia and started her work with her knife she couldn't understand what was that after so many injections and struggle and cut she found something and look at her assistant and said now we know what is that she told me she want and X-ray and she want to close my tummy i said no i want to get it done now then she said ok you are doing well and started her work again after one hour of hard work she told me do you wanna see what is that she showed me scissor i could see my meat and muscles on it i was in real shock .i went for nipple reconstruction and came back with big scar it was not only physical scar it was a mental scar too she said sorry i have no words to say anything blah blah blah .
i asked her i want to make sure that there is no engagement ring or other surgical instrument left in my body.any suggestion what should i do now .
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That's crazy. I am sure your PS was apologizing etc, but that is just not right. I would contact their legal department and tell them you are looking for a settlement.
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MW, I would definitely seek legal advice, but not show your hand until the legal authorities advise you to. I am so sorry you are going through this. I cannot imagine. Healing thoughts and gentle hugs. Working lot's and sorry so MIA....long few weeks ahead.
Mammo on Wed and for some reason a little nervous. Not ominous, just so many changes in health care and other things. Gonna try and keep busy with extra work, an extra project I have been asked to chair ( I asked to co-chair) LOL! And ................wait for it.....................
I may meet up with College Guy next week, as I have 4 days off. We shall see, barring any fate of life event or weather issue
Many hugs to all.....
Be back as soon as I can....
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Piper
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I was so scared after my dx that I'm not sure I posted here yet. Going through a divorce, got dx almost one month to the day of filing! Met someone on match.com and of course got dx, 2 weeks after our 2nd date. We really hit it off but decided it was best to step back while I went through this. Not far enough in to put all this on the table...if I'm going there again, I'm doing it right!
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Milkyway - I concur with the others here. I have a relative whose surgeon accidentally left a piece of surgical equipment in her belly 35 years ago, and she sued and won a million dollars. In her case, the piece of equipment caused complications that required further surgery. Please talk to a lawyer to see what your options are.
A nurse once left one end of a catheter in me that I had to pull out of my belly later. It caused no problems, though, and just wasn't a serious matter. In your case, though, Milkyway, a pair of surgical scissors is gross negligence. :-( I hope you're doing all right now, and I'm glad the scissors were found. But, WOW... just wow.
BB - I too lived with my husband before marriage (long story). Ironically, even though I always was faithful to him, I was the one who was hesitant to marry. Why? Because I knew too many men who cheated on their wives. Also I grew up hearing how men talk when their wives aren't around. I did not want to spend my life being a wife who was cheated on. Ironically, my husband was the one who wanted to marry. And look what happened - I was right. There was evidence right after we married that he was cheating, but never any proof until 18 years later - the year I was fighting cancer. So, I ended up being one of those wives I always felt sorry for - the ones whose husbands betray them and talk badly about them when they're not around.
Formerteach - Welcome aboard. You came to the right place.
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BB - That's so common - I hear the same thing from other women - husbands cheat and then blame us wives. Or they do something else wrong, but somehow it's our fault. The evidence of adultery was staring me right in the face from the first year of our marriage, but through the years, he always managed to play it off as if I were misunderstanding the situation.
I'm so glad to hear that you were feeling confident in court. :-) In reading your posts, I remember being in that same place after chemo - surprising myself by loving the new baby soft, curly hair, as short as it was, and feeling confident about that new look. I knew you would get there soon. It's a great feeling, isn't it? I hope the court rules in your favor. Imagine that woman going to court with him to go against you. Unbelievable.
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i went to family dr she said i will ask ultrasound dept why they gave wrong report and i got lettrr from my plastic surgeon said i will ask surgical dept to make sure that will never happen again its a complex cycle no body wants to take responsibility .i went for recon surgery thinking thats gonna b my last surgery as u guys know how hard is recon surgery is .my mid term exam is coming n mid june i cant concentrate in anything.i admire when i see people around me they live their life with their own choice and planing.it hurts when i see average girl and their husband love then care them .i think i am a looser i cant handle a man and same time my body ditch me.
i am going through big trauma i try to compose my self keep my self busy but its ok to explode at some point coz we have to deal everything alone without any companion .
Hey ladies i watched labor day movie i loved it ..
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i had Diep recon she used my abdominal muscle for breast so she can closed my tummy wid sissor
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Milky - I hope a lawyer can help you. Unfortunately, I was just reading that medical malpractice lawsuits in Canada can be very difficult for the victim. But, your case might be a slam-dunk in your favor.
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Milky...Your case sounds like a slam dunk. I would not accept an apology and promises it won't happen again. This is a clear case for negligence. Get a lawyer who will do a free consult... some work by the hour and others work and get paid only if you win, by taking a percentage. Get that kind.
I am so sorry for you ladies who had to deal with a scummy cheating husband. Fortunately for me, both my husband and I were loyal and faithful. We just had communication issues. I am sure he bitched and moaned about me to his friends, but I know I am a good catch, so his loss.
BB... Well that court scene sucks. So sorry. I am so glad we never went to court. We have our signed MSA (Marital Settlement Agreement) that was hashed out with a mediator and then the lawyers. We signed it May 20, and he moved out May 22. May 24-26 we attended our daughter's college graduation together. So all is good.
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So far I have spent about $6100, but still have some legal bills ahead of me. The actual filing of the divorce and changing the deed, the Qdro's etc. Hopefully I will end before 10k.
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Oh my... That sucks.
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In the end..my annual mammo was......3 hours of images waiting and a sono..I am officially all clear for another year.
(there were some unexpected things going on in the imaging center today so one woman and I were on the long diagnostic track and waited extra long today)
LMAO BB....just maybe CG and I will finally get our act together-next Thursday is to be our big Date.
Anywho...lot's of extra time at work so may be MIA here and there.
tons of gentle hugs to all.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Piper
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TY BB. Sorry you have more to deal with in court with the Ex factor.
So..sometimes I have no use for some of the things I see on the internet machine...however I saw this blerb and thought some or all of it would resonate with this.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-13992/20-life-exper...
I worked last night. Sat on my deck and had a glass of wine. Yep,.....your 8am is my 8pm. LMAO!
Anywho..I have been thinking long and hard about each and every one of you. sending big big hugs.
I have a baby who has been hospitalized for the last 30+ days. She is now 10lbs and needs to go home. Her discharge was delayed and I was most unhappy about this. I am completely in love with this child. I spent the last few hours of my shift holding. loving and enjoying this little creature. Yes ...my job certainly has it's perks
She smiled and smiled and cooed and gooed for me. I talked to her. held her. read to her and even sang to her. She loves singing as her Pappy sings to her all of the time. The volunteer came in and she was cutting up something big. She had never heard her coo. My baby did it for us and we just laughed and laughed. The volunteer said "My how she just adores you" Made me so melancholy but proud. Someone notices the depth of my commitment to my work and my love for my wee folks. An amazing end to a very long night.So when our lives seem meaningless or at a stalemate.....there is always someone somewhere that loves us.....and we them......
unconditional and beautiful
And remember I think of all of you often and hope you feel the warm hugs that surround each and every one of you special ladies
xoxoxoxoxo
Piper
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Hi Ladies- have been away from here for a couple weeks with work, possible new work opp/proposal work, home repairs, etc. Will write more soon, but one comment for now.
Milkyway- I know you are probably not up for it, but I do think you need to find yourself a personal injury attorney where you live and if they have experience with medical negligence law suits. We had to do a lawsuit back east with our mom who was rehabing from a stroke and they were working with her on her walking and let her go of her and down she went. Then they did an X-ray and said she was fine but in fact we found out a few days later she had a broken hip (femur bone). The place she went for help made her worse. So we found a good malpractice atty through her geriatric atty and sued not just for dropping her, but also for saying she did not have a broken hip when she did. It was god awful to deal with on top of her medical crisis, but we won half a million in the settlement. It helped us to take better care of her through the duration of her life.
There are people specialized in this type of thing and they are very good at making sure organizations are accountable. Doctors make mistakes and that is why they have malpractice insurance. You deserve some sort of compensation for this, and I suggest you get all you can because who knows what kind of damage that resulted in. Having cancer is bad enough. I am sure they are told NOT to say anything, and no apology needed. They know they screwed up.
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jazzygirl first i need to recover physically and emotionally and i know i have to fight that alone without any moral support but i want to raise voice because i cant afford any extra surgery 2 cancers and sepration was more than enough to tear me apart.
I need encouragment to fight.for me for my other sisters mothers so that would not happen again to anyone
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Milky- I am really sorry about what you have gone through here. We are here to be your moral support when you don't have any around you.
You have been so much with the disease, surgeries, and separation. You do what you need to and when the time is right. Your physical and emotional well being come first always.
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i am having lower abdomen pain will take time to heal
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