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  • Chrisrenee77
    Chrisrenee77 Member Posts: 693
    edited February 2013

    Liefie- your exchange date is my birthday! I will celebrate your exchange with a big piece of cake. Scottie will have to turn her head.

  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 1,790
    edited February 2013

    Christenee......oh naive one.....NO chance......👀......lol

  • Tazzy
    Tazzy Member Posts: 1,442
    edited February 2013

    Just read all your posts... laughing loud and hearty.

    Love the idea of a Survivor Sisters Retirement Home... oh! my what mischief we could get up to.

    DH & Neighbour are down in the furnace room.  Seems our hot water tank has sprunk a very small leak.... wouldn't mind but its only 5 years old - grrr !!

    Off to the dentist at 5 - chipped my front tooth over christmas eating a toffee - going to get that filled.

    OK weigh in time:

    Aruba                  170
    Believe                161.8
    Chrisrenee           237
    Iatigger               213
    Liefie                   158
    Tazzy                  152
    Websister            1 loss

    Whether we have lost, stayed the same, or gained - I agree with Scottie... we are still a strong bunch of the toughest bitches I am proud to be part of - to even try and attempt a lifestyle change with all we are going through.

  • liefie
    liefie Member Posts: 761
    edited February 2013

    Chrisrenee, a big piece of cake sounds good! By that time you will have lost so much weight already that one piece of cake will not be that harmful. Scottiee will just have to understand . . . lol. I have just eaten my daily 2 small squares of chocolate with 5 big Brazilian nuts. I spoil myself a little every day instead of pigging out and eating a whole chocolate like I would before. Works for me!

    The stitches from the tearduct surgery are beginning to itch, and I cannot scratch, so I'm moving my nose up and down in an effort to relieve it. Fortunately here's nobody to see me.

    Tazzy, you are so right. Hats off to all of us! Thanks for your efforts.

  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 1,790
    edited February 2013

    Gals....I was telling you before about how measuring is more important than weighing,

    well coincidently I heard three different "experts" this week on TV say the same thing.

    They all said you could be losing a lot of weight without the scales moving, I that, muscle

    Weighs a lot more than fat.

  • aruba
    aruba Member Posts: 276
    edited February 2013

    Thanks for words of encouragement Scottiee. Timing perfect. Just went to gym with my new lap counter. Lol. Walked 42 laps... About 3 miles. Second day in a row. No matter what the scale says...know its good for me.

  • Tazzy
    Tazzy Member Posts: 1,442
    edited February 2013

    OK.. measuring it is.   Only remember once being measured at the gym... about 6 years ago.   He measured my thigh and all I could say was "my waist used to be that measurement" SurprisedCry

  • mcook301
    mcook301 Member Posts: 314
    edited February 2013

    Ramos- yeah! Eye brows! They will come in faster than u think:) awesome feeling!

  • SherylB
    SherylB Member Posts: 147
    edited February 2013

    How about poker and/or canasta at this retirement home. Gotta have a private room too I snore.

    Hugs, Sheryl

  • SherylB
    SherylB Member Posts: 147
    edited February 2013

    liefie,

    I hope with all the nose twitching you don't turn Darren into a frog. Is anybody else old enough to remember Bewitched??

    Sheryl

  • Outdamnedspot
    Outdamnedspot Member Posts: 164
    edited February 2013

    Sheryl, Bewitched was my favorite show as a kid. And I Dream of Genie too. Ah, the good old days...

  • iatigger
    iatigger Member Posts: 269
    edited February 2013

    Sheryl, poker works and how about a little black jack. :) And I loved Bewitched and I Dream of Jeannie. They just don't make shows like those any more.

  • Scorchy
    Scorchy Member Posts: 121
    edited February 2013

    Congratulations on everyone's efforts to lose weight.  I have to say that when I started the Xgeva shots the side effect I was pulling for was "unexplained weight loss."

    On the other hand, I don't have blisters on my torso or difficulty urinating . . .

  • lisa2012
    lisa2012 Member Posts: 288
    edited February 2013

    Eyebrows.... waaa. I had them all through chemo- and then about a month after my last one, they thinned tremendously. At some points they looked like ant trails. Never gone all the way. They are just now starting to sort of fill in (which they did and then thinned out again in the fall-grr.) Been like 7 months. I can't wait till they are actually there again, even if they remain dainty. Darn eyebrow pencil has been my constant companion.

  • mcook301
    mcook301 Member Posts: 314
    edited February 2013

    Hi Scorchy - good to hear from you! I read your blog as often as I can and you are amazing! Thank you for sharing! I like your post about going back to work and totally relate on so many levels.





    Retirement!





    I agree poker and black jack! Dam someone win the big one. How nice would it be to just to enjoy the sunsets, dance on tables, play shuffleboard, climb mountains, and drink wine! We deserve to just see the world, spend time with family and friends, have no stress in our lives!

    Maybe we don't have to wait to win the lottery? Why can't we? Money and jobs, yes,we need them. I keep thinking that I don't want to spend 50 hours a week doing this anymore? The money is nice, insurance is needed, of course,but the status of being a hard working, driven, strong women has gotten in the way of living life for me. I just don't have the same focus anymore. But I am not sure what my next steps are but I know I want a change and to do something I am passionate about.



    Maybe this is because I had to go into work yesterday, work till late into the evening and had to get up by 5 am today due to a situation that occurred over the weekend. This is not uncommon in my world and although I felt like, oh yea! I got this! Because of last year I had to back down due to BC etc. I felt like I needed to prove to everyone once again that I was this strong person. But dam it I am not that strong! I am still mentally dealing with all this and I believe I always will. I want them to all realize, and to scream, when someone is coming at me for some issue, "do you know how short life is? and in the ream of things this shit does not matter?" Ha! Bet that would go over well!



    This is not going to be my life anymore! I want to be able to spend time with my friends, travel, run, sleep in, and just relax! I just need to figure out how to do this.

    Maybe I just need a month of solitude on a beach to figure it all out:) or some yoga retreat in India :) I just don't want to wake up a year from now and still say, I want to change because each day I sit here and think about it with out action is another day I am wasting! Dang it Ladies- we know that this life is precious and we deserve to be kind and loving to ourselves. I hope all of you are better than I am on this.



    Hugs!

  • schatzi14
    schatzi14 Member Posts: 906
    edited February 2013

    SherylB...can I have the room next door to you?  I LOVE Canasta but can't find anyone to play with...I guess they all think it's an old fashioned game Undecided

  • Joanne_53
    Joanne_53 Member Posts: 714
    edited February 2013

    Talking cards .. Anyone know how to play HOSS? My grandmother played it but I cannot remember how.

  • lostinmo
    lostinmo Member Posts: 332
    edited February 2013

    mcook, I understand how you feel about wanting to live your life. Everyone thinks we are crazy for chucking it all and living on the road, traveling and working our way across the US, but I wouldn't trade it for anything now. It's not for everyone but works for us.

    I love canasta! When I was young, mu cousins and I would get together and play at Grandma's.

  • Tazzy
    Tazzy Member Posts: 1,442
    edited February 2013

    Scorchy... always so good to hear from you.  I agree with mcook about your blog.  Love your 'open' way of sharing - thank you.

    mcook.  Life takes on a different perspective for sure.   Life has become way more important for me than work.   I even dropped down a level at work because I didn't want to work weekends, long hours anymore.   I do not need to prove to anyone how strong or driven I am.... I know I am, just in different ways now.  And you are too - stronger than anyone you work with.   Hope you can find your 'peace' within yourself.

    Loved Bewitched and I Dream of Jeannie - oh! to be able to twitch your nose and make things happen  Wink

    All games in our sunshine retirement home.  

    Joanne: not heard of HOSS - bet its on the internet somewhere on how to play.

  • juneaubugg
    juneaubugg Member Posts: 517
    edited February 2013

    Tazzy; lol. Live the pic. Stealing it! Also can you post last weight with new weight? I don't remember what I was two days ago, let alone 2 weeks. I'm 177 now.



    Scotiee; birthday week, dinners out... Close your eyes!



    Ramols; remember when I called you crying when my hair dripped?! Enough said.. So happy for you... i gotta run. In the car at the gas pump (we dont pump our own here in Jersey!) so no more time to chat.

  • Tazzy
    Tazzy Member Posts: 1,442
    edited February 2013

    Here you go... makes sense as can't remember shit either.

    Aruba 168 170

    Belinda 134 136

    Believe 160 161.8

    Butterfly 1 loss

    Chrisrenee 237 237

    Cindy 194

    GmaFoley 187 186

    Joanne (loss) 1.2 1.3
    Juneau 179.4 177.4

    Iatigger 215 213
    Ireland 178

    KarenZ 172 172

    Liefie 160.5 158

    Mcook 129

    Outdamspot 196 196

    Tazzy 152 152

    Websister 150 149

  • liefie
    liefie Member Posts: 761
    edited February 2013

    Scorchy, I read your blog, and sincerely hope to meet you one day. You have that unique, elusive ability to say in words exactly what you feel, and in the process you help other people become clearer about their feelings. Wow. I am your staunch fan and admirer. My dad, a mathematician with a mind like quicksilver, was someone who tackled life head first. Sarcasm and a self-deprecating sense of humour were the qualities that distinguished him, and helped him make sense of this world. He sadly succumbed to Alzheimers at a relatively young age. I still miss him every day, and your blog reminds me of him. So glad that you are feeling okay again, and are doing well.

    As far as the retirement home, I want to be on the Canasta team. Spent many happy hours playing that game!

    Mcook, I hear you on figuring out what is to come next. We are changed people now. Our perspectives are so different now. I'm thinking that for the first time we realize how life should be lived from the very beginning, and how precious every moment is. We really only have NOW. The rest is uncertain . . . I want to make my life much simpler than it is, get a much smaller house, give away everything I don't need (which is most of what I have), and spend time on only those things that really matter. Relationships and time with loved ones. Friendships. Nature. Doing my part for our planet. Praying.

  • 2FriedEggs
    2FriedEggs Member Posts: 324
    edited February 2013

    LOVE the idea of a retirement home on the beach. Count me in-just  make it somewhere I can drive to  since I don't fly. Reminds me though of a friend of mine-Fortunately her family has lots of money.  A beautiful and very expensive assisted living home went up on the Gulf so she moved her mom into it. Mind you this woman is very headstrong and still has most of her faculties about her for being 91. She  had lost her hubby a few years prior and her home was way to big for her to take care of. They let her take her car just to do grocery shopping etc but figured that her using it would die down as she learned to use the homes activity bus to do things with the others. Well for weeks she complained that the kids didn't come see her every day and when they did visit they would find scary things like her stove burners on bright red. Her excuse was that they put her in this "place" with all new computerized appliances that she didn't know how to work. (she wasn't willing to listen or figure out how to work them either) Well she stopped her complaining and they were so happy that she had finally settled in. One day my friend stopped over to see her with out calling but her mom was't there. As she was pulling out of the parking lot though her Mom's big old land yacht came barreling in. She was mortified when she saw that her 91 year old mom was driving around a car  full of little white headed ladies all giggling and carrying on. When her daughter asked about why they weren't doing the planned activities, she said that the activities the home planned were boring and that the activity bus was too slow so they have been taking their own road trips. Her mom is the only one that still has a license though. It's a real scary thought but really made me laugh. That could be all of us in the car someday. We can get back at all of our kids who scared us when they were teenage drivers sneaking bunches of kids in the car. LOL

    Take care all!

  • SherylB
    SherylB Member Posts: 147
    edited February 2013

    2FriedEggs,

    That sounds like what I will do. My car is as necessary as breathing to me and I always want to drive because I am a control freak. You made me laugh with that story.

    Sheryl

  • mcook301
    mcook301 Member Posts: 314
    edited February 2013

    Sheryl - ha! Can relate to always having to drive :) had to let my bf drive me today because eyes are hyper sensitive to light and no way I could safely do it :( I had to keep my mouth shut or he would have thrown me out of the truck:) it was one of the hardest things to do today lol



    Ahh...beach right now sounds so nice! An isolated place to just be!



    So I am going to a maroon 5 concert march 1st in IL my friends bought me a ticket because I have a crush on Adam lol but I have no clue what songs they sing except pay phone:) it will be fun though!

  • mcook301
    mcook301 Member Posts: 314
    edited February 2013

    And Lostinmo I envy your life:) sounds like a daily adventure!

  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 1,790
    edited February 2013

    Mcook....we have the same taste.....I have a wee crush on Adam too...oh, I'm just a sick old lady, but it's nice to have fantasies...lol

  • lisa2012
    lisa2012 Member Posts: 288
    edited February 2013

    Yes, I am pondering some of the same thoughts... like not staying at work till 6:30- but I have to get some ideas back. I was SO thrilled to be back at work, very therapeutic after chemo and the August exchange surgery. My life doesn't have all the pieces back. My greatest anxiety is during my free time...

  • shianne29
    shianne29 Member Posts: 282
    edited February 2013

    Outdamnedspot... I'm in the Orillia area, if you've heard of Casino Rama I'm about 20 min north of that:-) are you an Ontiarion as well?



    Liefie, I had a single diep and it was no where near as bad as I thought. Surgery on January 12, sitting in a chair on the 13, walking on 14 home on 15. I propped myself up with lots of pillows for the first couple weeks and wore the binder 24/7 for 3 weeks. I was able to get myself in and out of bed and a recliner chair right from the day after surgery. If it weren't for an infection in the donor site I'd have been back to full activities at 4 weeks post op. So, you will be good for the summer ;-)



    In the retirement home I'll dance on the tables with Tazzy lol



    Ramols I know the excitement of the eyebrows!!! I think I danced a jig when I had to look for the tweezers!!!!

  • Outdamnedspot
    Outdamnedspot Member Posts: 164
    edited February 2013

    I too, have been having a hard time with working at the pace and involvement pre-diagnosis.  I just don't want to do it any more.  DH and I have had a restaurant for almost 21years and it is just too much for me now.   I have worked too many weekends, missed too many events because of work etc.  I want to live my life and do whatever comes my way without having to check the schedule.  He's been pretty good about it, but it is our slow season.  One week I work a 6 hour day and the next week is a four hour evening.  I don't mind this and feel I can do this without too much effort or resentment.

    We'll see what happens when it gets busier.  He likes the business a lot more than I do, but he also realizes 'a happy wife is a happy life.'  

    Adam Levine...OMG, too cute!  

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