new and future flat sister, with questions
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Flaranch, Thanks for the tip! Now I know how to get an aisle for myself at Goodwill. Speaking of which, ours has a ton of employees from Africa who wear the completely covered Muslim outfits. Problem is, they can't tell women's from men's and mix them up all the time.
I tried on 3 different Marika pants at 2 different stores. One large fit well but was too lose at the hips. A second large wanted to be worn around my bikini line. The 3rd XL was way too small. So I'm not going to order online anytime soon.0 -
FiarRanch... seriously? what is up with people? I could never imagine myself saying things like that... even being on arimidex! Credit to you to start out giving her a break and then she blew it!! I mean it's not like you were shopping in a high end fashion store,( altho I think M gets some pretty hot bargains where she is, wouldnt find that here) oh guess it is called PEOPLE!
Take care all... patiently waiting for more Bobo updates, really weighing heavy on my mind and heart today.0 -
Just popping in to see how our bobo is doing. Thanks for the update Zills. I'm sure she is still in hospital especially if she hasn't peed yet. Temp and not peeing, no way they'd send her home. ((((bobo)))) Feel better soon bobo!
Zills sorry the little one is still not over her bug. Hope she bounces back soon.
Airom, isn't it amazing how rude some people can be? I haven't encountered anything like that yet, but then I am a hermit! What did tick me off was an ad on the TV the other night which I basically tuned out til the end when it said, "and be sure to talk to your dr about all the different types of reconstruction available." Ears went up, why was that so important to mention!? Nothing wrong with flat!
Fiaranch that woman was unbelievable! I love it Georgie, who did she think she was the fashion police?!
I have an idea on the sleds, why not use double sided tape? I think that will work. I have to go back and look at the photo again and make a shopping list for the treats.
Dusting of snow on the ground and lightly snowing, still Arctic temps outside. It is all of 2°F (-16.7°C). Have to go out to put the garbage at the end of the road. Not looking forward to it.0 -
Mom's Ice Box Oatmeal Cookies
Cream 1 cup shortening, 1 cup brown sugar, 1 cup white sugar. Add 2 eggs and 1 teaspoon vanilla. Sift and add 1 1/2 cups flour, 1 teaspoon salt, 1 teaspoon soda. Stir in 3 cups raw oats (3 min kind). Mould into long round strips, wrap in foil and freeze. Slice and bake on lightly greased pan 10 to 12 min at 375F. Cool on wire rack. Once cool, store in airtight container.
I figure the more people I give this recipe to, the better my chances of getting it back when I lose it.0 -
It's iced over here. I had to get out. Went for a walk with three kittens trailing. Guess they have cabin fever too. Boy going out. He thinks it's snow. He will be surprised. Baby upset she's left behind.
Haven't heard anything more from Bobo.
FIA. Can't believe you had another incident. I'm so sorry.0 -
Was getting really worried... and got this text... "She is taking a well deserved nap, she is off the pump and on home meds, has showered and gone to the loo independently. We will let you know as soon as she lands at home, thanks for all supportive and caring friends... DLLP"
Feeling a little better now!0 -
Mine said 101 fever and chills. Surely they'll keep her tonight. Glad she showered and peed.0 -
Yeah I imagine with the fever, they will keep her, I am glad she is sleeping at least that would indicate they have the pain managed.0 -
Oh my, the news isn't improving about Bobo is it? Not peeing? what is that about, dehydration, is she still throwing up? Is she not on an IV drip? There is no way she could be home if this is going on. I am hating this scenario.
I know the Umx/SNB was much less, but I was already out shopping by now. I am worried for her, and how she must be feeling.
Hi ndgirl, we have a lot in common!
Hi Fiaranch, how rude, was that woman! I am so sorry you had that experience, but you sure put her back in her box! I have never heard such a load of crap, your coloring should have longer hair! How on earth did she come up with that little pearl of wisdom?
Georgie, I agree, about it being a "process". I have had to learn to change the way I dress, and have given away bags and bags of stuff, but have also acquired lots of stuff to replace it. I love to shop, always have, but some of this shopping has been a challenge. M x0 -
Posting at the same time, the news report got better. Yay!
ldesim, thank you! I am so glad she is peeing! Shower is good! That always makes you feel better! Taking a nap, either exhausted, or pain is managed. Either way, sleep is the best thing for her.Home meds, must mean home soon!
OK, all is well!
Wren, than you for the recipe, I am going to give that a shot in the Air Fryer when I get a chance. Will report when I have done it.
Zills, sorry the baby isn't over it yet. I can imagine you in your hat with flaps, on your walk with the kitties following behind! M x0 -
Bobo's going home. She has a virus not an infection. Yea!0 -
Oh good to hear! Was it the same virus she had before she went in, I wonder?
She will feel much better at home! M x0 -
Zills , Great news thanks for keeping us all updated . To M's point she we be much better at home !!0 -
Oh good news! She will definitely feel sooo much better at home. You can't get any real rest in hospital.0 -
Zils, I'm sad to hear about the baby.. I hope today she is feeling a little better. Your damn list of goodies made me hungry. I love wedding cookies!!! Do you have a good recipe? I tried tons and never hit the mark, finally found a good one and now can't find the damn thing again.
Geezus Fia, you need to change your perfume or something, you sure do run into the winners. What a thing to say about your hair.. what possesses people.. I mean she may have been trying to be helpful at first, but she was just damn nasty at the end. I'm surprised they didn't just give you the damn tops after that.. I bet you didn't wait long to get checked out
Hi Georgie, as I rule I avoid confrontations, but I can't imagine anybody would be able to keep their mouths shut after that bs.
Oh boy, another unfavorable Marika experience.. I have a feeling I am going to be hugely disappointed when I get my package.. when I finally get my package.
Thank you for sharing the recipe Wren, I too prefer crispy oatmeal cookies. How wide do mold the strips, an inch or so? I love the idea of this as you can just make a few at a time which discourages pigging out
GB, hope you got all the garbage out without freezing your @ss too badly.
Zils, I smile everytime I think of you with the kittens following you... do they pounce on your feet? The cold doesn't seem to bother them?
M, I know.. I felt so much better getting that text from DLLP, again so very nice of her to do that. I had texted Bobogirl earlier just saying I was thinking of her... I waited and waited to send it because I didn't want to disturb her but finally couldn't help myself as I have the patience of a 3 year old. DLLP responded to it. I hope she doesn't think we are pains in the @ss lol.
Hey! Tree finally got decorated.. had to touch up the hair color today.. my hair is so nice and soft now.. but itchy.. feel like I have nats or something lol I finished the truffles, but I don't like them.. to much like fudge.. wish I had done the mounds one instead. I'm still laughing... I rolled some of them in crushed pecans, some in coconut, some in powdered sugar and then 2 I rolled in salt. This was a joke for a co-worker who covers and I do mean covers everything she eats in salt. Well... Joe goes in the fridge, pulls out the container (still laughing) and pops one of the salt ones in his mouth Wants to know if I'm trying to kill him.
Off to finish the laundry. F'ing work tomorrow.0 -
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ldesim, you are so funny, I thought you were going to say that you go t one with the salt on it!
You and me both, no patience! I waited to send another email to Bobo, and realized that she is probably not getting emails, so she'll get home to an "escalation" of emails from worry wart Moira!
I don't think she'll think we are pains in the ass. She was always worried for any of us and wanted to know what was going on. It's just our little family!
You got your tree decorated! Yay!!!!! Did I tell you I did the two big planters by my front door in Aussie Beach Christmas? They have Seahorse and Fish ornaments and real Starfish, and clear glass balls. I put a traditional pine wreath on the door with red berries and starfish. I have some more solar lights to put up in the garden, one lot for an espaliered Camellia and another for higher branches of the Fig Tree. I keep these up all year because we eat outside so much and love the look of them, they are so pretty. That's more stuff than I would usually do. All of you got me into it! Bec will be pleased.
I can't wait for Bobo's first post. I wonder if she'll be cursing, or subdued. I also wonder, how long till we are all shouting at her to not overdo it! Love you Bobo,,,,,kiss kiss!0 -
I hope she is cursing dont all of you?? that would mean she is feeling much better! So glad to get this news, was gone this afternoon and could hardly wait to get home to check this site! Thanks for the recipe sounds yummy, I too like the idea of just taking out a few at a time.
Went grocery shopping today because of Bunco party tomorrow night, I need to stay off Pinterest getting ideas for appetizers, decided to do strawberries that you cut the small top off and take some of the middle out and fill with cream cheese filling or fruit dip, you can cut the bottoms off so they sit straight, sprinkle a little graham cracker crumbs over top, sounds time consuming but good, and also making jalpeno popper dip. We all bring some appetizers, have some wine and lots of fun, also do a gift exchange. Enjoy this time with friends, we no longer go to dh's company party... too boring.
I am sending Bobo an email too, not sure if she gets them on her phone or not but someday she will get them all. Cant wait for her first post too. Thanks for the updates ladies, what a great site this is!! where would we be without it????0 -
Oh the trees sound beautiful, I love starfish and seahorses... and the lights on the trees must be so pretty at night.
I predict that she will be spitting mad.. she already sounded pretty wound tight yesterday when she relayed about them almost giving her Tylenol.. "I've said 1,000,000 times I am allergic!". I just hope she is getting some sleep and got relief from the pain and that the worst is behind her.
Ndgirl, Pinterest is such a dangerous site.. that's where I found the sleds. The strawberries sound amazing, are you going with the cream cheese or the fruit dip? The whole evening sounds like it will be a lot of fun.
Agreed, this is a great site with a bunch of fantastic ladies!0 -
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M, I was actually referring to DLLP.. I hope she doesn't think we are pains in the arse.0 -
Oh Duh! sorry, ldesim, I thought you meant Bobo! I don't think DLLP would be either, she knows how we all are!
I bet she went "All New York" when they were going to put Tylenol in her drip. Wish I could have been a fly on the wall!
ndgirl, I bought some strawberries last week that must have been on steroids! They were huge, and would have been perfect for stuffing, they would have almost made a meal in themselves. I think there were only 6 in the punnet, but they were sensational!
Can't be too long now till Bobo gets home. Does anyone know how far the Hospital is from where she lives? M x0 -
Hi everyone. I posted a few weeks ago here that I am trying to decide between radiation or a mastectomy. You guys make me want to do a mastectomy just so I can be part of your club! Seriously, I really need some guidance here. If I proceed with the mastectomy, it will just be one side. Do you feel lop-sided? If you wear a prosthetic, is it heavy? Are you aware of it all the time?
I'm concerned that with my tendency to obsess about stuff (like this decision) that my mind won't be able to adjust to the new me. What does your scar area feel like? I asked my BS if I would be numb from the collarbone to the breastbone (something I saw on youtube) and she said it wouldn't be the kind of numb that is tingling...that it would be more like no feeling. So, when your shirt rubs on your chest, are you aware that it's numb... or is it like the back of my arm.. numb, but only noticeable when I touch it?
Time is flying by and I have to make a decision soon. Radiation side-effects and higher recurrence rates scare me, but another surgery with possible complications and quality of life issues scares me too! I have over analyzed each option, talked to all my doctors twice, and am still undecided (they all recommend radiation based on my grade/stage/onco score 11).
It's so strange, I feel like if I choose the radiation, I'm making some sort of conscience decision to go through this all again in the future (like I control my own destiny?). On the other hand, if I get the mastectomy and can't turn my brain off, the rest of my life looks pretty bleak.
I'd appreciate your insight on what it feels like to have one breast, how you coped, and if you ever wondered if you made the wrong decision. If you'd rather PM me, that would be fine too. I am just so lost these days, and have to say that reading this thread always makes me smile....and trust me, smiling is not something I do very often these days.
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I think it's in the same town. Hopefully she is home safe and sound and maybe if we are all really good, she might pay us a little visit tomorrow
I drifted off a bit watching the tree lights with the laptop on my lap.. so much for getting the bills done tonight
Sweet dreams! Have a glorious day M0 -
Hi PRB!
I am just reading your Dx chart and see you've had a lumpectomy, and you are deciding on whether to have a Mx. Did your Doctor tell you that there could still be a possibility of having to do Rads even if you have the Mx? It all depends on whether there is a good enough margin.
There are several of us in this little group who are "Uni's" I am a right Uni, and was a size "D" before surgery. I am sure the others will come and join in, to give you an overview of how we have each adjusted to the differences.
To answer your questions, I should say that, for me, it was a no brainer, to go for the Mx. I didn't want to do Rads if I could possibly avoid them. I have a bit of Asthma, and Rheumatoid Arthritis, so along with the fact that I live in a small coastal town hours away from the Rads Clinic, with my Husband who is a quadriplegic from a hang gliding accident 37 years ago, it was just too hard. I didn't want to have to live away from home, 5 days a week for the 6 weeks it would take to do the Radiation. So I took the punt that I probably wouldn't have any invasion, and that I'd get good margins.
Now, for me, I have no feeling of lopsidedness at all. I can spend time half flat, without a prosthesis and I feel fine. I do have extensive numbness, but not all over my chest, just above and below my incision and around, under my arm to the back. I have a very long scar, about 11" which starts about a centimeter onto the good breast straight across my chest and it goes around the back under my arm. I am completely numb under my arm, and have very little sensation on the under side of my upper right arm.
I wear several different types of Prosthesis, depending on how I want to dress. For me, I couldn't have just "one" Prosthesis. I like to wear different things that sometimes require a lighter "Foob", there are lots of alternatives. I probably do wear the Silicone Prosthesis, the most, and I don't even realize I am wearing it, till I take it off at night. It did take a little while to get to this point.The nerve regeneration and the strange sensations can be irritated by clothing and underwear, so you have to take it as it comes.
For me, I don't have a single regret, not about my choice to have the Mx, or my choice not to have reconstruction. I am coming up to my 1 year out from Surgery, on the 19th and can't believe how fast the time has flown. I would have to say, I think I have coped well with the changes to my body, I am strangely proud of my scar, and just look at it along with the others as the road maps of my life. Although I don't feel it, I am 60 years old, I think I would have felt the same if I were younger, but I can't be sure.
I didn't go through any emotional issues about losing my breast, which I was warned about prior to my surgery. The truth be known, since I had made the decision, I just wanted it off, and gone! I had a long wait from call back to biopsy results and then another month till surgery, and I don't do waiting for anything, well!
The one thing I think we have all learned here, is there is no right, or wrong answer to the question of which surgery to have. It is just, what is the right surgery for you! Try not to be swayed by anyone, it has to be what feels right for you..
I know the others will be here to give you their input about how they feel, and how they made their decision.
I am sorry you are feeling so conflicted, but don't give yourself a hard time about it. We are all here if you want to chat, ask away, nothing is out of bounds here.
I am glad you finally felt you could come in and post, you're right about this being a great group of girls, and I am glad we could make you smile.
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Thanks ldesim, I hope she's up to posting soon, between her and gramwe being MIA, I am having withdrawals! M x0 -
Just got a quick email. She's home, and up in the night getting pain meds. That was it.
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That's great news! She's got at least three pages to catch up on!
Granwe. We'll be in the bag for OGs surgery on Thursday. I'll be the one napping as I hope to take the kids to the light show and train display at the Horse Park wed night. Is it outpatient? Will you have to tie him up again:)
Pat. I had a BMX. I could have had a UMX but I didn't want any more surgeries. I'm at a higher risk than you. I can tell you I've had minimal side effects from rads and I have 8 left. My side with the node removal is kinda numb. I have small children that climb on me. I can feel it. I don't always feel something that I'm leaning over until I've pressed too hard and I'm like oh that's in my way. It doesn't hurt. It gets better the further you are out. I've worn foobs twice and it really doesn't appeal to me. You'll feel better once you decide. It's your body and there is no right or wrong answer and unfortunately we can't see into the future.
It actually was above freezing last night so drip, drip, drip. Should have little problems getting to rads this morning. Baby was more like old self last night.
I increased my Effexor and believe that's why I wasn't so tired this weekend. I got all the laundry washed except my bedclothes. I even stayed up until 11:30 last night! And didn't sleep well. Darn it. I'm a little scared of it. Both my ob and onc said to increase it.
Time to get the troops moving. Have a great Monday.0 -
All this is how I feel like I look today !!! I have no clue what the H is wrong with me but I am not motivated to do a damn thing !! I attempted to clean out more old lingerie this morning .All of a sudden both cats jump on the bed and start fighting over the foobs that came in the hospital surgical cami’s . Wth I just let them have them (they were way too big anyway ). Pretty soon the UPS guy rings the doorbell to deliver a package.I see him looking at one cat that has appeared at the door with her “new foob” . I just said to the UPS guy , yup it’s a fake boob, she likes it better than her toys !!!
Wren – Glad you tried on Marika before you bought any . M is right you will love them if you can get the fit right and find a model # you like.
Ndgirl – Wow you are putting me to shame with all of your holiday cooking, I am having a hard time even thinking about baking those pre made simple things that you slice !!
PRB-If this thread accepted me with my mouth you will be fine J . I opted for a bi lateralgiven that this is the 2nd time around for me with BC.
Idesim - Georgie & Grammab – I have decided the thrift store women happened for a reason . That reason was for me to just say the hell with even trying to get fitted for silicone foobs. If I ever need to be “perky for a day” I will just use the ones I ordered from Mary.I do wonder though why I keep attracting all of these WEIRD people ………..
Zills – Glad baby is better
M – We need a picture of this new Marika room . I have found another line I love” Lululemon “ . It fits true to size but costs way too much L .Perhaps I can sell off enough cashmere on EBAY to afford some .
Bobogirl – Hope you are not in too much pain and are back to posting soon
Ok sorry I wont type in email anymore and then try to copy to post . I cant get rid of all that font stuff :-(
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Flaranch, be careful with Lululemon. They're the brand that had the see thru yoga pants.
Bobo, hope you feel better soon. Hurting sucks.0
