new and future flat sister, with questions
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PRB, glad you talked to someone you know, I too had a lady that I bowled with before my surgery come and whisper in my ear " you will be fine.. I had a mx 13 years ago, and I like my foob so much I even sleep with it sometimes" that meant alot to me as I had no idea she was affected by bc. altho she didnt use the word foob like we do hear, you get the drift. She never had any follow up treatment after the mx, but that was several years ago too. I was told at Mayo that if i did mx no rads would be needed unless something more was found in pathology after surgery. This is never an easy decision, do alot of research as well. I dont know your age and sometimes that makes a difference in perspective too. My mom had mx and was always well dressed and "presentable" which was her word, not mine!! We are here for you what ever you decide!! hugs to you! It is nice to have someone to listen and to vent with but at the end of the day... it is YOUR decision and no one else. do what is best for you. I told my family I wanted and would listen to their input but it would be my decision and of course they know me and my ways and that wasnt a surprise to them.. ha ha!0 -
Everyone strap on your b! Blue bonnet. Spookiesmom, hope you have a van.
Bobo's mom is there until Friday and the resident didn't give her enough pain pills. Told her to take one and wait 45 min to see if she needed another. Unbelievable! No refills until the 16th. PS working on a solution.
I texted her last at lunch. I wanted to call and should have. She can always not answer the phone.
So I napped, met a friend at chik fil a and took the kids to see the lights at the Horse Park. At the end of the light show, you park and go inside to see the attractions. Animals are outside, of course, and you have to walk between buildings.
We went as soon as it opened to beat the crowds. It was cold. Saw Santa. Baby didn't like him. Watched the model trains. Boy was thrilled and baby enjoyed it. Must have sat and watched 15 minutes. They had a big Thomas and Percy. Then home. I was tired and so were they. Didn't ride the "train" or go to the petting zoo. Too cold. Also skipped the crafts.
Boy wants a remote control 4 wheeler with pretend guns. He saw it at Walmart. That's all he talks about. DH said its cheap. Most stuff is anymore. DH doesn't shop until Christmas Eve. He thinks he can find a better one. I'm tempted to get it and hold on to it, just in case.0 -
Poor Dex. Hope it's not too terrible an ordeal. I've heard pumpkin helps settle a bad stomach. Just a small bit of canned pumpkin.
Wren. I too have fine hair. So does the baby. It's been so long since I've bought shampoo, I wouldn't know whats out there. I'm still using baby shampoo. Need to get makeup too. Glad you asked. I'll know what to get whenever I get to that stage!
Granwe. Hope today is better.
ND. I love a party with GFs. Ours isn't until after Christmas when we can get together without feeling pressured. And I'm feeling pressure to get crap done!
Idesim. How much snow? Marika? Or do I dare ask? Miss Poopy Pants still has a cough.
GrammaB. Did you get the claw after shoveling?
PBR. Good luck with your decision!0 -
Zills - OMF not enough pain pills and the mother !!! Thanks for the update. I say buy the 4 wheeler and hold it
Idesim and GrammaB - This snow and below zero sucks ........ Ready for spring here
M- Hoping Dex is better soon . Too bad they don't make Marika pet outfits! Guess you can just spoil him with food he can eat
Spookiesmom - I say do it also , the mother is not helping
Granwe - Also hope your day is better
Wren - Oatmeal cookie recipe is on my list to make for Christmas
PRB - Welcome
ND - I need some of your energy.
Ok all a random question............... Just how long does it take to get energy back. I am trying to get this house thoroughly cleaned before the holidays. Yesterday I only made it through 2 rooms before I got "The Claw" now this morning I feel like I have been run over by a truck . Not that I have ever been a "Domestic Goddess" or my house is that big but I guess I really underestimated this recovery time !!0 -
Not enough pain meds??OMG! what is the matter with these so called professionals?? that is just not acceptable! We better all get the B. Bonnets on and hit the road. Got get them Spookiesmom, think you are closer. I cant stand to think of that pain for our girl.
Fiaranch, I still get days that I used to describe just like you did.. a truck hit me, backed up and got me again. They aren't as frequent now but still happen. I had my surgery in the springtime, altho was such a cold snowy spring which allowed me to not be outside doing what I like with gardening, lawn etc. but I still managed to overdue and would just crash. Dont be discouraged yet, you are still early out. I dont think there is any set time, I have heard that it often takes a full year, but I pushed myself way too much because basically I felt very good, I had never had surgery of any kind before so did not know enough to take it easy even when I felt good. I also have trouble sleeping at nights and that doesnt help anything. Dont worry too much about your house, believe me I am not a neat freak either and have a small house but it is plenty big for the 2 of us and still hard to keep as clean as it should be. could it be I spend too much time here??? Nah! this is the best thing for me, checking on everyone!
Zills, get the toy, it may not be there later, if DH gets it too, just return! so glad you are in touch with Bobo. Until Friday? too long for that situation! If my mom was alive I would have dearly loved to have her take care of me, but I fully understand not everyone feels that way. SO wished I would have had a daughter, but that isnt the way things are. Take care all0 -
I'm not fully out a year from end of all treatment. Surgery was last Dec 17, then rads. I still have days when I simply can't do anything but sleep. So I do. They are less frequent maybe 2-3 a month now. Don't push or beat yourself up. It does get better!0 -
Spookiesmom ,
Thanks CRAP !! its worse than yesterday . I am trying to do 2 rooms a day to push myself a bit as I have not done anything since surgery. I keep telling myself how lucky I was not having to have chemo or rads (at least not yet) . I was told I was a "unique case" as I was diagnosed with BC on one side and lymphoma on the other . I had a bone marrow biopsy (worse that having 6 boobs cut off) and am still waiting to see what the treatment is going to be for the lymphoma. In the mean time just adjusting to the tamox . I swear, this week someone just needs to spray me with a huge can of BBG (Bitch Be Gone ) !!!0 -
Poor bobo is throwing up! She's not sure if it's pain meds or the flu. I don't know any more, like if it's new meds or if she has a fever or called the doctor.
I have 5 boosts left. And he's going to order a CT scan to make me comfortable. I will actually alternate seeing him with the oncologist. The scan radiation is like 5 sec of what I'm currently getting so it won't hurt me. Will be after Christmas. Yes!
Fia. I still nap every day. I can do errands or chores but not both. And some days are just pajama days. Try not to stress. Easier said than done.0 -
Zils,
So glad you are getting a scan just having one made me feel better (you know how our minds get) . Ugghh re Bobo I feel so bad for her . Good point re errands or chores. I have been trying to do a bit of both . I have also come to the realization that my previous life of stress and perfection was a huge contributor to getting BC again so I need to figure out what this new life is . However I know it won't be a career in cleaning as I would starve !! LOL0 -
Flaranch, two rooms a day seems a lot to me. Maybe 1/2 room would be a better pace. Perhaps you could hire help for a day or so. Let that person do the high dusting and vacuum pushing.
I agree that Friday is way too long for Bobo's mother to be there. I'll bet she still expects Bobo to wait on her. Some mothers would be a big help but I don't think this one is.
Since the weather got so cold here, I've been gaining weight. Grrrrr. It's starting to warm up back to the 40's and I'm hoping that will make a difference. I'd been steadily losing before.0 -
BBG. Oh I love that!!!! I need a few cans, is it on Amazon? LOL0 -
Nope but we could market it in our store LOL. Along with those see through Lululemon yoga pants Wren warned me about the other day. Wren I was thinking WTH maybe I buy some and wear them back to that thrift store and see if that woman appears. Then she could give me crap for exposing my undergarments !!!
I have decided cleaning 1 room a day is enough ........... OMG its a "10 broom (witch) day for me today. My DH is out of town and tells me ....."It will all get done, I responded " How , Martha F ing Stewart does not live here ". He may want to stay gone longer than he planned this trip !0 -
Well, I got through the shoveling with out getting The Claw!! I have no idea how that happened. I truly expected to get it. Actually I have only had it once or twice when I waaaay overdid on driving and shopping. Just lucky this time I guess!
OMG, poor bobo can't catch a break with anything!! I am so sorry she is having to deal with pain w/out proper meds and that she is sick on top of it. And more than sorry she has to deal with Mom until Friday!! What he11 were those drs thinking with the pain meds???
Ariom, sure hope Dex gets to feeling better soon. I always feel so bad when my Baby Boo is sick because he can't talk to me and tell me what is wrong. Got the multi opener today, looks like it is going to work great!
Fiaranch, I'm 4 months out, andI still have days where I am wiped out. If I have to go up to town 70 mile round trip and do shopping, I can only make about 3 stops (normally would make 5-6). The next day I am totally wiped, the day after very tired. I reconciled myself to the fact that it is going to take a long time to get any good measure of energy back. BBG!
Zills, sounds like the light show was a fun outing! I'd get the toy too. Things tend to sell out quickly this time of year.
Warmer today, 28°F (-2.2°C), temps should be over 0°F for the rest of the week, but will still be below freezing though!0 -
Hi all!
Don't get me started on the overdoing it rant. I know you've all heard it before , but Fiaranch is new, so please indulge me!
One week from today is my 1 year since surgery, and I can honestly say that it was fairly recently that I have found myself feeling more back to normal in the "Energy" department. Colin and I had recently moved to our forever house, when I was Dx. It was supposed to be a "Downsize", but is almost twice the house and at least three times the land. Colin and I never do things by halves. Long story short, it's a lot to look after.
I too, felt fantastic after my surgery, almost bulletproof. I would throw myself into doing things and then find myself, on the couch feeling a nap coming on....thud! It was that fast. I would drop off during a conversation in those early few months. That was also the time that I named that revolting sensation "The Claw" which would arrive at about late afternoon or early evening on a day when I had worked in the garden or got carried away unpacking boxes. It became my early warning sign for how much I could comfortably do.
The "Claw" rarely pays a visit these days, but as I said, it's almost a year. I am 60, so I guess the age thing has to figure in it a bit, but I know from the others here that we all had to adjust to the reality of this surgery, and I was one of the really lucky ones who didn't have to have chemo, meds, or rads. The girls who had, or are having this extra stuff, like you are, experienced it a lot worse than me.
This lack of energy has been a subject that we have often talked about here. All I can say, is that it does get better over time which sounds like a crock, but it really is very early days for you, and I see you also had an axillary clearance too. That's got to be as uncomfortable as hell when you overdo it. I only lost that sentinel, and it has been the most uncomfortable part of my recovery.
I know it sounds so boring, but you've just got to pace yourself, and not give yourself a hard time while you heal.
I think, knowing that we all suffered from this energy loss, and all overdid it, makes it a bit easier.
Hugs to you! M x0 -
Bobo says she's hanging in there and loves you all. She got the card.0 -
M,
Thanks! Sorry to bring up stuff you all have previously discussed but your posts are always so helpful !! Ironic we are in the middle of building our forever home currently. It actually will be smaller (bust still costs way more than what we have now) . It is 4 hours from where we are now and remote. So my job is to de clutter and downsize all of the things we have here, while my DH supervises the construction . At least that was the plan till cancer got it the way. Now I worry about how many freaking MO appointments I will have to drive to and did we make the right decision on the forever home. But it is what it is ,so I will just "put on my big girl panties " and deal with it . I have decided I will focus on 1 room at a time after the 1st of the year and de clutter. Now that I am not working I no longer need 72 pair of BLACK dress pants. Yup I have always loved clothes.......... and antiques and etc. While I am not a HOARDER it certainly feels like I am, trying to sell and get rid of all this stuff.........
Today I am grateful I did not choose recon. I feel so badly for Bobo and hope they are managing her pain .0 -
Zills, I will try the pumpkin if Dex gets sick. I started him on the antibiotics last night and he seems aok! The biggie will be the anticancer which I am assuming is like the methotrexate shitful chemo I had to have for 7 long years. He will get that at 9.30am. I just hope it all works. Poor little guy.
I can't believe you are down to 5 more rads. I am so glad you are going to get your scan!
I say buy the toy too!
Poor Bobo, what a crappy time she is having. Now the flu, that's just not fair. I had a look at her thread for surgery and recon and the others over there are doing well. I feel so bad for her. I feel bad that her Mother isn't the help she should be. I wish my Mother could have been there for my surgery, just because she would have understood. I was there for hers, and I know it was the way she handled it that made it an easy road for me.
Wren, I always put on weight in the Winter too. You can't get me out of the house when it is really cold. I am with you that 2 rooms is too much too!
gB, let me know how the gadget goes.
I have Bec on the phone, she has just been for a blood test before going to work. She had to fast, so she is in a cafe eating a crispy bacon and egg sandwich. I was telling her about you reporting that is is warmer in Montana, she nearly choked when I told her your temperatures.
She was thrilled that the lady doing the bloods was a Scot. Bec has always been attracted to Scotland because my parents were still sporting a broad Sots accent right till they past in their late 70's. She loves it when I turn my accent on and off when speaking of my Mum and Dad.
Spookiesmom, can you order a few cans for me while you're at it!
ndgirl, I am with you too, I think checking here is better than housework!
Take care everyone...M x0 -
As Zils said, she has been throwing up.. eight times.. ugh.. she promises she is drinking and eating watermelon (I have a bad feeling that is all she is getting down) and she expresses her love to all. She seems to be in good spirits by the tone of her texts.. but then again that's the way she is anyways isn't it.. I hope they sort this sh1t out for her soon! I am so upset over this
There's more mommy dearest reports.. but I'm just too disgusted to relay them.. I wish she'd just throw her the hell out ;(
Zils, I agree to buy and hold.. worse comes to worse and you can return it after the holidays. Why do men like to wait to shop on xmas eve???? Joe, my father and my brother all have/had that habit.. I don't get it.
Fia, I agree as well that you are doing too much... cut it down.. try 1/2 room first and if that goes well then do the entire room. I had surgery in April and still have roadblocks with the energy... which annoys the hell out of me!! You are not even 2 months out.. be careful! It does get better, but it also takes time.. I got cocky in the fall and really suffered for overdoing it with the raking!
M, my fingers are crossed for poor Dex that he tolerates his treatment.. so sad.. but he sounds like such a trooper!
Marika report! I tried on the yoga pants and the hooded shirt this morning and they are perfect!! Yay!! Love love love the shirt.. it is so flattering!! The pants are long, but I expected that and very comfortable. I still have the tank and capris to try.. but the pants and top were the ones I was really going to be upset over.
I now have a Marika ensemble!!!!!0 -
Hi everyone, I have been reading your thread in the past few days and I just want to say "Thank you"!! You make me laugh and smile, you seem to be a wonderful group of ladies, so upbeat and supportive! Thank you for sharing your experiences, I have learned a lot and it's reassuring to see that I am not alone in this journey.
I had a BMX 2 weeks ago with sentinel node removal. Although the biopsy before surgery only showed DCIS (in both), it was multi-focal in one and a large area in the other. Also, I found out earlier this year that I have the BRCA2 mutation, so I knew that if this first mammogram/biopsy showed any cancer, I would opt for BMX. No reconstruction yet since the BS said that the potential radiation/chemo I might need could interfere with a successful reconstruction. Anyway, one thing at a time, I want to get rid of the cancer first and will think of this other surgery later next year (in addition to the dreaded prophylactic ovary removal, which means I will be in menopause at 41.........). I will have the full pathology results from the BMX on Monday, and should know then what next steps I might need...
A few questions:
- I know our nerves were cut, etc., so it's normal to feel weird sensations. Does it subside over the months/years? For e.g., I regularly feel as if I still have my left nipple, it's like I feel a pulsation, it's quite annoying!
- Does the cold weather affect your chest area? I feel my muscles tighten and the incisions tightening too, it does not hurt but it's not a good feeling.
Good luck everyone! I hope bobogirl gets better soon, and thanks Ariom for being such an inspiration!0 -
ldesim, thanks for the report! 8 lots of throwing up is not good. I hope she doesn't end up dehydrated again. I wonder if the surgery is the least of her pain?
As for Mommie Dearest, where are my wire coat hangers, she could do with a beating! and I am just the beatch to do it!
I am so thrilled you like your Marika! I was concerned I had given you all a bum steer on the brand! I am imagining you in your "ensemble"! I rarely wear anything else these days...just love it!
Dex is doing alright so far. I got home, pushed the remote and the gates opened, but Dex was right there waiting for me. I thought he might take off down the street, or across the road, which is how he got his nickname "Houdini", but no, I opened the car door and he jumped in with me. He is relaxing on a faux fur rug on top of a couch in the family room, still watching for any interlopers on HIS foreshore!
Zills, at least we know she got the card! She'd have enjoyed that, or maybe she'll enjoy it later!
Fiaranch, no worries, we are happy to talk about stuff that is relevant to anyone. I just wanted to give the girls a heads up that I was about to rant about overdoing it..... again! We all did it, and we all learned from it, just as you will!LOL
That is so interesting that you re building your forever house right now. We built our forever house 15 years ago in the city, but so much changed about the place we were in, that we decided to do it again almost 4 hours away. It's a place called East Gippsland, which is the Lakes District and are fed by the ocean just over the dunes.
I thought I had de cluttered and downsized before moving here, but I still have stuff to get rid of, and have only finished the unpacking fairly recently.
I was Dx just 4 months or so after we moved in and had to decide if I wanted to go back to the city, or to go with a local Surgeon and Hospital. It was a no brainer for me, mainly due to Colin being a quadriplegic in a wheelchair. I hate leaving him for extended times, He is a very high functioning quad, but we have carers who come in daily. They are fabulous, but I wasn't familiar with these ones, at the time, so didn't realize they would have looked after him well. It turned out really well for me, and I love my Surgeon, and his staff, they are just over an hour from me, so not a hardship.
I am sure you'll find ways of arranging the appointments. The benefits of living in a quieter area, will far outweigh the stress of being in the big city. Don't stress too much, things have a way of working out. M x0 -
Hi otceb! and welcome to our little group! Thank you! The more the merrier!
So glad we can give you a laugh, or a smile.
I am sorry, but so pleased that you were able to have the test to find if you were BRCA 1/2. I can imagine how hard it must have been, but also a real positive to know there was something you could do. I wish you a good final path report on Monday!
Everyone that asked me about how I felt after my Uni Mx,I said that it wasn't a painful surgery, but a surgery of weird sensations. I quizzed my surgeon a lot about the different feelings I was experiencing and he put most of it down to the cut nerves regenerating and trying to find the other half across the abyss! He actually told me that occasionally some actually do meet up again...oh ain't that sweet!
I had lots of zinging and strange nipple sensations early on. I think I would have to say that the most uncomfortable thing for me was the underarm where the nodes were disrupted. That remains totally numb, and can be easily irritated by anything rubbing against it.
For me, it has gotten way better, and now although I still have a numb couple of centimeters above and below my incision, I don't really notice it much.
The other sensation that may startle you, is when you drink something very cold or very hot. It can feel like there is a waterfall inside your chest and you can feel it going all the way down on the inside. Very weird, but very common!
The other is "The Claw" I take pride in having named this nasty sensation which will rear up and get you if you overdo it. It seriously feels just like a sharp claw holding on to your chest and under your arm. Mine is all but gone now, but a fierce day in the garden using power tools can awaken it again for me!
A feeling like bad sunburn is also another common one. Our Zills does a JS movement for it where you hold the area with the opposite hand. I did the same thing and found it helped a lot.
I have just come out of a fairly cold Winter, not as bad as you get there, but I did notice my chest felt it more this year. I made sure I always had layers on and a scarf that could be tucked down my jacket to keep the wind off my chest.
I would have to say yes, it all does subside over time. I don't know how much actually goes away, or how much we just accept as the "New Normal". I know for me, I put on a foob, boob, or prosthesis, most days, and I don't think about it again till I take it off at night.
The others will be along later to join in and welcome you. Each of us have had different experiences, and the same experiences and we all like to share. You're never alone here!
Looking forward to your posts! ps I went through natural menopause at 38, all finished by about 45. I am sorry you have to go there at your age. Take care M x0 -
ldesim, you got the black top with the flock design on it right? I got that one too and love it!! My yoga style capris fit great but the solid color legging type in M were too small.( I have another pair in L on the way.
Poor bobo! That is way too much throwing up! I would dearly love to throttle her mother!! I'll be right behind you in line Ariom!!
Welcome otceb! Sorry you had to join us, but nice to meet you. I am 4 months out from a BMX, no recon, and do have some tingly/prickly sensations once in a while. My MO said it was from the nerves, I guess they are regenerating some. Early on I did have a nipple sensation, but not so much any more. My chest feels more tight than numb. As far as the cold, it is so cold here I don't go out w/out about 5 layers on so it never really hits my chest. I didn't notice anything in the Fall.0 -
Hi Otceb, two weeks out.. how are you feeling? My fingers are crossed for you that your pathology comes back with good news. I haven't had the cold issues, but my surgery was in Spring. I did have the sensations the first couple of months, but they have tapered off now or I just don't notice them anymore. As Ariom stated, I do have issues with the claw, but they are always my fault in overdoing it.. an issue we all seem to have.
Aww Wren, poor Radish sounds like he's had a hard life, I hope he finds a nice home for his final years.. it's so heartbreaking. I too think I am going to have problems with weight gain over the winter.. it's just so much harder to stay active.. I hate the cold so much.
PRB, I'm glad that your mind has been eased a bit.. and you're more than welcome to stay and be silly with us
Zils, I am so excited that you are at the end of your rads journey!! I found to boosts to be so much easier.. I hope you will too... you have just done so well through this.. let the countdown begin!! I hope you are doing something to celebrate after your last rads.. even if its hopping in your pillow palace and taking a nice long nap! I am SO SO glad you are getting your scan!!! Its nice to know they are taking your concerns seriously. Hows Miss Poopy Pants doing with her cough?
Hmm.. I think we need a giant can of BBG for Bobo's mother!!! Fiaranch, yes, please add that to the store's inventory lol!
Fia, that woman would bust a gasket if she saw your roaming around her store in your see through pants... just make sure sure your undies have a nice message on them for her.. like kiss my ass!!
M, I love my ensemble.. they DO feel so good.. I didn't want to take them off and since I tried them on before work.. did consider if I could get away with it! I probably could have.. not sure anybody would say anything to me.. at least not to my face and it would make sprinting up and down the stairs 20 times a day so much easier and I'd look great doing it lol.0 -
WTH I did it again.. I lost some paragraphs.. FFFFFFFFF!!!
GB, yes that's the top I got.. I love it.. I didn't realize the flocked bit was raised and soft.. that was an added little bonus. I haven't tried my capris, it was the pants that fit for me.
I'm glad you didn't suffer any from your shoveling and you got a good bit of exercise. So cold where you are, I would never leave the damn house!
Spookiesmom, you may very well have to take that trip.. are the gators out in winter????
Ndgirl, hope you are getting some z's.. which is where I need to be headed now! I too always wished I had a daughter!
Night nite everyone.. M.. stay cool, we here in the US sure are!0 -
Nice to meet you otceb! too bad you had to join this club, but this is one good thing about the dreaded bc, these boards are wonderful.
Thinking of you and your pathology reports, only 2 weeks out, take it easy and slow. I cant give any better advice to you then the previous ladies did. I see you are a Canadian, we live on the border of Canada, just south of the Manitoba border and boy is it cold here! this is such an unusual time to be so cold but the whole nation is cold,, well except for Florida, at least Bobo should be warm, I have never had any issues about a cold chest but we dress warm here this time of year. Idesim and I had our surgeries about a week apart and we both have had the claw as the others do, just thinking it has been awhile for me, but then I dont do the physical work in the winter as I do summer, but I did shovel a little of the sidewalk a few days ago and didnt pay the price!! yes weird sensations come and go but they lessen with time too. Take care and glad you are here with us... one big happy family! The PARTS MISSING CLUB!!
Good night everyone.0 -
Hey ndgir, I had no idea exactly where you were situated. When I was working for a Band Booking agency, many many years ago I looked after a band from Canada called the "Guess Who" one of the guys was from Manitoba. I still remember how he spoke of this place that was so different from here. I took them to one of our beaches that is close to the City center and he was telling me about Ice Fishing! Isn't it funny, the things you remember.
I like that "Parts Missing Club!" I hope you get a good sleep!
ldesim, I have been losing posts too, hate that!
I have nearly finished the back room, another day and I think it will be over, it has been a nightmare. I have huge bags on top of the benches in the laundry for my girlfriend to take back to Melbourne after New Years.
Going back for another hour or so, been at it for about 5 hours today, and I am almost over it,
Sleep tight M x0 -
M. Can you give Dex yogurt? I also gave my lab a regular pepto tablet. Dex is a lot smaller so maybe a baby pepto or ask the vet. Pumpkin is probably easier if you can find it. Ours is usually in the baking aisle with other pie fillings. Be sure it's plain, not pie filling.
The black kitten was locked in the garage last night. I heard him about 4:45 am. Wish I could say he woke me up. I guess this means he's potty trained.
Good luck today Granwe.0 -
Otceb. Are your drains out? If so, started massaging and stretching? It makes a huge difference.
Yes the strange feelings go away. I'm 8 months out and very little strangeness. The baby climbs all over me. The iron bra came back with rads but stretching helps. So does having someone rub your back and shoulders and rubbing your arm up towards your armpit.
If you think you are having any range of motion, scar tissue or swelling, ask for physical therapy. It makes a huge difference.
I don't find the cold bothering me now. However I kept my chest covered with a baby blanket at night after surgery in April. You could use an extra pillow case or towel. I would also microwave a kitchen towel for about 30 seconds and put it on my chest during the day if it felt tight. The towel must be clean or you'll burn holes in it. The towel was the right weight and I didn't worry about it being too hot, too long like a heating pad.0 -
One last thing before waking the munchkins and getting thru a long day of appts but not as long as Granwe!
This is a great bunch. They've made a huge difference in my recovery. They get it. They're not only supportive but funny. Nothing is off limits but we talk about daily stuff and don't dwell in bc land. We're all at different stages and levels so someone has been there, done that and can hold your hand or tell you pull up your big girl panties, it's doable.
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Hiya Zills, I was just going to bed when I saw you'd posted.
We are keeping fingers crossed, Dex is doing fine so far. He is still on his pro biotic food ans hasn't actually shown any ill effects yet. I bought fresh pumpkin, just in case, I thought I would steam it if he gets sick. I don't know about yogurt, he has never had dairy.
I am with both you and gramwe today. I know you've both got a long day ahead of you.
Hugs to you both!!!!
otceb, great advice from Zills, I couldn't agree more about the massage and the exercises. I still massage my chest every day! M x0
