STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
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MelessaDallas, exactly! We all temember what it was like at that point, but it's not nice to bite the hand that will emotionally feed you, should it be needed.
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We must be thinking of some of the same people haha! One of those newbies has already posted TWO threads disparaging the members of this forum. All I could think is this is obviously not a good fit for her.
Can we please add the people who insist they have cancer despite seeing ten different doctors and having multiple scans and multiple biopsies and everything showing benign. Usually they insist it's IBC even though they have none of the symptoms. I feel bad for them because they obviously believe they have symptoms of something, but why do they want to insist it's IBC when they have no symptoms? I wouldn't wish this sh*t on my worst enemy! One even PMed me, and after I discussed the symptoms in private she developed them all the next day. After that I decided I'm no longer responding to PMs from newbies who haven't yet been diagnosed.
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My latest rant is folks, especially BC survivors of several years, who tell me I will be fine when I express some concern that I am in the second year since diagnosis and that my chances of recurrence could be increasing this year! Yes, they have been there and done that but I expect they were concerned too. I don't like false reassurance!!!!
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LoriCA, ah yes, the Munchhausenboobie gals. And they get offended by anyone who tries to reassure them. They must be exhausting to live with. Similarly, I have a work friend who actually had breast cancer, a miniscule one removed via needle in her doctor's office. She INSISTED on chemo, against his advice, and underwent a lightweight version for a month. She already had very thin hair and had worn wigs for about ten years, but started telling EVERYONE about her cancer wig need. And pink pink pink pink pink everywhere! I had endometrial cancer and a full hysterectomy at about the same time, but wasn't allowed to mention it because she'd say "But I had BREAST CANCER" and start handing out ribbon pins. It was like she'd bought tickets to the Disney Breast Cancer Experience and didn't want to miss a single ride or show.
Made me REALLY resent getting bc! 😏 I've noticed she's become pretty invisible, too, since my diagnosis.
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I gotcha Alice. There was nothing pink and pretty about my 20 pound ovary
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Well, Alice, you certainly one-upped your work friend! She probably thinks you got breast cancer on purpose just to spite her.
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Minor rant, speaking of pink. I'm on a couple BC support FB pages and it grates on me when people say “Hello Pink Sisters". Just too cute and folksy for my taste. Hello to all. I love this thread,although I only have one main anger source right now, which is this crappy diagnosis I got in January. Other than that I'm fine. LOL.
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Yeah, the pink stinks. Hell, the whole assigning colors to different cancers is so stupid. What, am I supposed to decide which one is most on my mind each day, or wear 'em all at once? If I see someone with a ribbon pin, I wonder if they're bragging or complaining.
Beesie 😂
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I never went on the breast cancer site at all until I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I have sympathy and empathy for those who are experiencing symptoms or waiting for results from scans for a definitive diagnosis . It is a scary time. For the most part, I believe they're seeking reassurance . Unfortunately all I can ever say is" hang in there and wait for the results'. I don't like telling people everything will be fine because quite frankly I don't know. I do remember my surgical oncologist looking at me after I was informed of my diagnosis and saying you will be okay . Even though I knew he had no way of knowing , but in that moment I needed to hear it. No crystal balls with this diagnosis.
I do recall a woman on this thread who pm me complaining that I was setting a bad example because I tolerated chemo and radiation very well. It provided her with false hope because she might have a hard time if she's diagnosed with cancer. What the hell. Tolerating chemo and radiation does not make it a picnic. It turns out she didn't have cancer. Instead of being grateful she was angry that she went through unnecessary scams.
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RR-I am sorry to hear of your most recent diagnosis. Please let us know how you are doing. You have my very best wishes.
I wear Nikes that are gray and pink and some folks think the pink signifies the bc -but it doesn't. It's just what they had in the store that I liked, and that felt good when I tried them on, so I bought them. That's it! Please shut up.
One day recently at work while I was out walking the parking lot, president of the company is getting in his porche and says, "Oh, you're getting healthy after that cancer scare?" I wish my fist could have met his face. All of it sucks and people are going to deal with it in different ways.
It is hard some days. Hope you all are having the best day that you can!
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I'm so over this and nowhere near the end. I meet the plastic surgeon today and if he asks me what size I want to be I will either hit him or start crying tears of anger. I want to just be myself. I don't want a freaking boob job. Never did. That's not me.
The last visit with my breast surgeon started with asking me what size I want to be. I think it must have shown all over my face that I wasn't going there. I just want what I started this with minus the tumor. He was talking lumpectomy originally now mastectomy because I'm small breasted. Well I didn't freaking grow over the past 4 months. IDK if I'm a AAA cup size when this is over if that means a lumpectomy over a mastectomy. I just want this nightmare to end.
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Yes yes it is a nightmare!! But then again life is beautiful and then again it's ugly.
The lovely trees, our stiff knees.. the smell of the rain, our eminent pain.... the sound of the waves, and all the emotion we save. Feeling the breeze....a cure ? God please... walking in the forest...how many days rest, will that cost us? Watching people come and go and normally living.....while we sit and wait, because all we've got we are giving. A movie to watch. With a happy ending makes us shrivel with fear and terror....with us worrying about even looking in the mirror. People running and full of clueless vain, while I sit here typing with chest pain.
Yes it is a total nightmare!
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Ladies - you have made my hockey-player teethed mouth smile. I am also so not a pink ribbon kind of girl and will hurt someone if they buy anything with that crap on it for me. As for the pre-diagnosis gals, I understand because I also posted pre diagnosis about my BIRads score. However, there are those who wallow in their almost-sort of close-miles away-near death experiences. My dad is a bit of a hypochondriac and acts like the slightest pain signifies impending death. Me: I have BC and will need surgery, chemo and radiation. Dad: I have cyst on my neck that needs immediate surgery. Me: Is is life threatening? Dad: No but it hurts when I do this..
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ctmbsikia, what a POS your boss is. A "cancer scare" is when you wind up NOT HAVING CANCER after having one or more symptoms. What a dumbass.
We need a designated Slap a Moron Day.
I have a pair of bright pink shoes, but it's because I wanted a particular style in a bright color for summer, and there's not much selection if you're a size 11. When I made my FB announcement to family and friends last year, I did preemptively threaten any one who even said the word pink.
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AliceBastable:
OMG, LMAO. Here is my vote for Slap a Moron day. Did you have a specific date or month in mind? It should probably be scheduled for once a month so we can let off steam on a regular basis and not have to keep it in.
My Mother had a pair of pink shoes that she wore with certain outfits and her one GS used to bust her chops about them. She finally threatened to leave them to him in her will. She recently died and he asked me if she had left him the shoes. He was worried. LOL.
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People who are into foisting that BC pink crap on us...
Che fai! They're "mamaluki (mamaluke, singular)" Italian slang for idiots/fools!
Not all of us are into that. I deliberately DON'T wear pink if I can't hide it under something else.
It's "shangadda," messed up, or effed up. ((As you can tell, I'm having lots of fun with this Italian slang...I go to the site everyday for a NEW word, but because of my brain mets, I can't remember the words the next day, ha ha. Have to write them down.))
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Ha, Alice I love it. I think I'll make a pink ribbon with those words written in black thread: "Today is Slap a Moron Day" and wear it everyday! LOL I'll probably get sued for copyright laws or defamation or something...………….
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Lita, I have a friend who speaks and teaches Italian (her family is from there)-she also teaches Spanish. When I saw you say "shangadda" I actually heard her say this a few times! It's a great word!
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In Yiddish, we have schmendricks.
I think for women with breast cancer, every day needs to be "Slap a Moron Day" (or Slap a Schmendrick Day", which has a nice ring to it) because there certainly are enough of them for each of us to find someone new every day. And it would ensure one bright spot in every day.
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Alice I almost spit out my coffee at "Munchhausenboobie gals"!!! I love that term!
Pink used to be one of my favorite colors. I own a lot of pink tops because the color looks good on me. I have those cute gray and pink sneakers (NE term haha!) too. I'm a bit of a tomboy and pink was always my way of adding a feminine touch and pop of color to my jeans-t-shirt-hoodie-hiking boots look that is comprised of mostly earth tone neutrals. When I worked in finance back in the days when I was told that a woman's brain wasn't smart enough to handle math, wearing pink with my gray or navy suits was my way of reminding everyone that I was a woman with a brain capable of handling math. Now I feel like I'm making a d*mn statement every time I wear something pink and I hate that. I want my color back!
There is a woman in my metastatic support group who wears head-to-toe pink and absolutely everything she owns is pink,I mean everything, including her car. She's involved in a lot of advocacy efforts and I understand that it's a great way to call attention to what she does, and she deserves a lot of credit for all that she does, but every time I see that color I want to slap somebody. Not the woman who is doing a lot of hard work on behalf of us, I can't be mad at her, I want to slap the person who chose pink to represent breast cancer.
Every day is Slap a Moron Day for me.
Lori
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I have really been enjoying this thread this afternoon found myself laughing and smiling. Well I think I'm sorta exiting my sorry for myself phase (it may be on standby tho) after flipping off the latest cancer center for America commercial advertisement on tv, burying in the backyard my breast cancer ribbon gift pin and shaving my head so my hair that's starting to grow back beyond baby bird phase starts to look even again, I am feeling a lot better. I hate October btw, just saying. The hit to the gut happened at first diagnosis and then I got pissed shaved my head and did what needed to be done. This kinda feels like like I'm being told to “wax on wax off", “side side", “sand the floor" and “paint the fence" all that the same time. This new revelation makes me feel at square one again. Truly.
I had my brain mri today. I had this mental picture while I was in there with the cage around my head:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SR5BfQ4rEqQ
Ctmb, what an asshole of a boss. A true candidate for slap a moron. I'm glad I buried my tiny breast cancer pin... only wore it to fend off questions of why I was bald.... I surely denied myself a hidden gem of this disease, knocking some sense into a moron
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Micmel, thank you for your words of honesty and comfort. That's exactly what I need to hear. My husband has assured me he is dedicated to fixing our marriage, however I know he is going thru a midlife crisis. His is vulnerable to the fairly tale story she is offering him. And she takes him back to the fun and excitement of their time together in high school. A time when everything is fun and you can act like an adult without all the real world responsibility. I know it's going to take time but I'm going to try to make it work. However if there is any more contact I'm done
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How about the first day of every month for Slap a Morons Day? Easy to remember even for those of us with wobbly memories, no matter what the cause. I told a friend yesterday it's one reason to have my phone on me, when I can't remember something, I just scroll until I run into it. I email stuff to myself, or download, anything I might want to remember.
RadagastRabbit, a friend of mine is undergoing simultaneous radiation and chemo for tongue and neck cancer. The headgear for radiation is just like the white helmets in Star Wars. I think the medical profession gets ideas from sci-fi movies and shows.
LoriCA, I never wore pink until recently. I was a redhead of the icky orange variety so I was brainwashed to never wear pink or red. Once my hair turned blonde/gray (more blonde when I bother to help it along), I started liking pink. Now it's kind of ruined for me, but I'm not giving up my huge bright pink clodhoppers
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Doodle~
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Oh, here's my favorite pink thing that I use as an avatar/profile pic other places. I love the removable chesticles. It's the perfect robotic 1950s female!
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Munchausenboobie ... ha ha, laughed and peed a little. Good one!
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Slap a moron day? I won't even have to leave the house.
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Alice you totally crack me up with munchausenboobie and slap a moron day.Thanksfor making me laugh.
Jaycee hilarious with letting us know you don't even have to leave the house!
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Sometimes the venting needs that "Laugh so hard a tear trickled down my leg."
Ooh, Jaycee49, you'll be so good at the slapping with all the household practice!
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Do you know what is really disgusting? Being diagnosed during October. All of my tests were during October. On the day of my biopsy, they were having some sort of “reception" or something in the waiting room of the breast imaging center. Punch, cookies, music, smiling young women. It was awful. My husband was with me (they said I might need a driver), and I wish you all could have seen the look of horror/disgust/anger he directed at the smiling young woman offering him a cookie. While we waited to find out if I had cancer. Makes my stomach turn just thinking about it. Do you think they had a clue about what was really going on in the back?
I, too, love pink (more of a hot pink/magenta person, but still). Now, every time I wear it, I wonder if people think I'm making a “statement" or something. Nope. I just like pink.
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