STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
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MoreShoes, I say this with all respect, bu you are a better woman that I am. I think that "ignorance" can only go so far in adults and even in older children when it comes to this kind of thing. Anyone who would make fun of someone who had ANY surgical procedure for cancer and had to wear a prosthetic is definitely rude and enjoys cruelty and is not ignorant. My children would have known better at the age of 7 or 8 then to say something rude about another child who had a prosthesis or a deformity. The ONLY way to teach someone who is that cruel a lesson is to go to management and then demand an apology imho. If they value their job, they will think twice about making cruel comments in the future. That is the lesson.
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April485, I'm not a better woman. I think it's occupational hazard... I'm a teacher and feel that everyone needs to/can be educated :-)
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Leslie-Fay, you are way more than your body and your body parts! Please NEVER sell yourself short. You have a brain and a heart and those are the single most important things we possess. Never forget that. There are men who are not superficial. You haven't found one yet. You have to also look past your own bias about your body before you are comfortable with a man loving you again. Hugs. You are wonderful just as you are. Remember that!!!!!!!!!!
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Really!!!! Coworkers and relatives getting upset by our boobs or lack of and hair! It's so upsetting...but people who comment on our trials and physical issues should be smacked. Can you imagine the crap they must say about people who have lost a limb or are in a wheel chair? My dog doesn't give a shit....so why should anyone else. This makes me so angry and emboldens me to speak easier with my 6 year old who I think it's so unfair for him to have to learn about cancer at age 6. Then again at least I will raise him not to be a bastard or bitch like these people are. And to think some of the have/will reproduce. Mind boggling.
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Dr. Erika Schwartz's article just told me it is my fault I got cancer! She also told everyone of my family/friends/co-workers/neighbours etc - if they read her article! Great. Now they think I was too fat and lazy not to get cancer. Did anyone mention that 3 of my father's 3 sisters died of cancer (2 of breast cancer) and that cancer now extends into the next generation even in the male sons of these sisters! Are we all just fat and lazy?
I read this:
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Little-Known Truth About Cancer
By Erika Schwartz, M.D
Thursday, 28 Apr 2016 03:26 PM More Posts by Erika Schwartz, M.DHere's a truth few women know: Cancer cells exist in our bodies all the time, and a healthy body controls them so that they never turn into a cancer diagnosis.
If we treat our bodies kindly, with a healthy diet, regular exercise, supplements as needed, balanced human-identical hormones, stress management, and proper rest, often the cancer will recede.
Have you ever wondered about the millions of women around the world who have never had a mammogram and also those who have never even seen a doctor? Are they just lucky not to get cancer?
No. They avoid cancer by avoiding radiation, toxic foods and drugs, alcohol and sugar, processed foods, and also by getting regular exercise, sleeping well, and living a generally healthy lifestyle_________________________________________________________________________________________
I have read enough on this site to know that many slim, fit, health conscious, calm ladies got cancer despite doing everything right.
The good doctor asks and then answers her own question - but she is wrong. Are they just lucky not to get cancer. YES.
And she does them a disservice by lulling them into thinking they are safe.
Rant over.
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Bounce,
I'm one of them. First BC dx at 31. Fit, runner, vegan, no sugar, alcohol. 2nd dx 12/15, still no alcohol, sugar, no red meat, vigorous exercise. Stage 3 IBC.
Since having BC I've gained weight. Hmmm. So now it will really be my fault if I get a recurrence or progression
Arghhhhh
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I posted this on the Newsmax site of that idiot doctor
"Re: Little-Known Truth About Cancer..By Erika Schwartz, M.D
This doctors license should be stripped from her. This is probably the worst article I have ever seen in print about cancer. None of the things identified in your article have been absolutely proven to prevent cancer. I hate that researchers and doctors can get away with falsely stating things from studies. Since each person now has a 1:2 chance of having some form of cancer in their lifetime, to blatantly say it's their fault is unconscionable. Ms Schwartz when you get cancer, you will realize how stupid your words were. Shame on you"http://www.newsmax.com/Health/ErikaSchwartzMD/cancer-womens-health-sugars/2016/04/28/id/726295/
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You should come with your own "like" button, SAS
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Amen to that BlondeDoris!
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That Doctor is horrible. Good for you sas. When people have asked why I think I may have got breast cancer, I tell them because I had breasts. That is all it takes for women/and some men too to get it. I don't buy the strip out sugar/eat well blah blah blah will 100 per cent save you and blaming people who already have it is like slapping a rape or crime victim after the fact. Just plain ignorant. Lots of overweight, drinking, junk eating, no sleeping etc people will NOT get cancer. Sometimes I think the blame is easier for people than the fear it can happen to them. Just a matter of whether their cells decide to go crazy on them more than anything.
That is not to say I don't believe in healthy lifestyles but I have come to believe the healthy body may assist in treatment in mitigating some SE, not preventing it. Possibly risk reduction but who knows.
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Who is this Bi****??? I was diagnosed in 2008 (I was 63) because I was adopted and had been given no health advisory (even though I begged for one for years) there was no way to figure out the "why" for my bc - well as luck would have it I heard from the adoption service the day of my second chemo and guess what - my birth mother had died from Mets bc when I was nine years old (that would be 1954) so for all those years I didn't know that I was a "ticking time bomb" - I was tall, slim and got lots of exercise, ate well (still do) but I don't believe that has anything to do with anything - I still ended up with MBC because I inherited it!!!!! Now I am quite overweight thanks to the lovely drugs I have to take to stay alive and I have trouble getting exercise because I hurt in every tendon, bone and muscle in my body - can never stay asleep longer than 5 hours......the list goes on and on. All this just to say WE AREN'T RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR DISEASE - IT'S THE LUCK OF THE DRAW!!!!! Leave us alone!!
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ditto. Nothing we did or didn't do caused our cancer.
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Sas - thanks for posting a comment telling it like it is! Today you are my hero.
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Aw gals I'm gushing
I have thought over the years I could mess with peoples minds when they ask what caused the cancer. I could say mindless things like "Toothpaste", "Coffee", "Chocolate", "Sex". Can you imagine their teeth falling out, can't wake up, never satisfying the craving for chocolate, that goes for sex too LOL. Please, come up with some other suggestions we could really make a good list.
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Sas,
I'm fairly new to BCO and just found this thread - just placed in on my favorites list. I think you'd make a great third party candidate...
I have another cause for cancer to put on your list. The first thing my DH said when I was first diagnosed was he "told me that sleeping under a heating blanket would ruin my health."
Best wishes to everyone here!
Angela
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I want to scream but it's late and the kids are sleeping. F*CK cancer! It took three years of my life, it took my carefree look on life, it took my breasts. I know people have bigger problems, but here and now I'm feeling sorry for myself. I've become a "cancer patient". I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. And to be honest I'm ready for whatever light it ends up to be.
Tomorrow I'm going for a BMX. I was proud of my decollete, how shallow is that?
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MoreShoes, not shallow at all. Sorry to see that you are joining the BMX club. I will keep you in my thoughts tomorrow and in the weeks ahead. Best wishes for a speedy and uneventful recovery.
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((((Moreshoes)))) May tomorrow go well for you in surgery. Hugs and know that we care.
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Yes ((moreshoes)) thinking of you and its okay to feel that way!!
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Moreshoes sorry very sorry. it sucks. your normal to feel that way. Take your NSAIDS regularly after surgery. Important.
Angela :0...
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Earlier tonight I posted the below on my fb feed on the Holley Kitchen thread. Holley made the video feed in the link. Holley has passed. BUT BUT she started a great thing. MBC was never really in the public awareness.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QDQ0FjP7J-c
Holley was a big part of the breastcancer.org family. I have been there for 7 years. We know that some of us survive and some don't. We know that there isn't a rhyme or reason to any of the beginning or the ending. We know that the stupid "Healthy Lifestyles" promulgation is total bull shit. Holley brought to the world what MBC is. Thank you Holly. You created a voice for MBC. "
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I've shared this and have been bawling since.
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seachain,
I'm right there with you - on both the bawling and the sharing...
Sas,
Thanks for posting the link on this thread. I wish I could have known Holley in person, but her spirit is with all of us.
Angela
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Sorry, didn't want to make anyone cry. But Holly's message was more clear than most anything I've seen in my life. Her message will go one for decades. The stats may change, but her strength of message won't.
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Can't Believe I SURVIVED working through first three rounds of chemo taxtore (should have taken this week off, so stressful I was really playing with fire). Now driving on vacation...what the HELL was I thinking....didn't leave til after husband came home from work ( two hours later than he said he'd be of course AND my son's field day was today that I volunteered for). No one helped me pack....was trying to get 4 of the twelve hour drive out of the way tonight. Thought we'd be checked in and in the pool and hour ago. Wrong! On top of it I refused to bring a wig with to a warm , hot vacation by the beach. We are sharing a house with cousins and tho they are a lot of fun, will be kind....here come the looks and questions from the kids. This is not going how I'd planned at all. Time for attivan and ambient soon....maybe tomorrow we will unwind. Not successful at all so far. Hoping a few more hundred miles down the road and I can leave most of cancer behind for a week.
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Seven...............have fun
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thanks sas....what a difference a good night sleep hundreds of miles away makes!
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MoreShoes--Hi reposting this on some threads, may be old news to some, but to good of info not to pass this on,Sassy
Bluebird144…NJJoined: Apr 2013Posts: 39313 hours agoBluebird144 wrote:
Knitted Knockers Charities is a non-profit that exists to provide free patterns for knitters and crocheters to be able to make knockers and help mastectomy patients get freeKnitted Knockers made by volunteers.
I love my Knitted Knockers! They are light and soft and warm. Unlike my silicone prosthetic which is heavy and cold when first worn, then it later causes me to sweat.
I wear my knitted knockers inside a regular bra or tucked in the pocket of a mastectomy bra. They are beautiful, and a godsend to those of us with an uneven mastectomy scar.
Knitted knockers website:
http://www.knittedknockers.info/
Fall down seven times, stand up eight.
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