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STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

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  • bcincolorado
    bcincolorado Member Posts: 4,758

    I use those big ice cream containers to pack home-made cookies to my daughter to who lives in another State and is a teacher. They have no time to make stuff since she works so much and he is a Pastor and working a lot too. It protects them well from breaking that way at least. Of course the mail always if there is anything fragile in there and think they are careful with the boxes too.

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    Broken cookies still good!

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    He took the last of the coffee! Coffee is not a privilege! 🤬

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    He's on Zoom. We need this pandemic to end!

  • kbl
    kbl Member Posts: 3,028

    exbrnxgirl, I can’t even imagine. I hope you gave the member a piece of your mind back.

  • alicebastable
    alicebastable Member Posts: 1,961

    For decades, from when I was a young child until I was in my 50s, my aunt would send a box at Christmas, with cookies packed in coffee cans and oat cannisters. She'd place them so carefully, and cushion the containers so well, that there was seldom any breakage. Any time I've sent cookies, carefully packed, using regular nice plastic containers, they turn into crumbs. I did not get the cookie shipping gene.

  • lw422
    lw422 Member Posts: 1,419

    OW!! THESE DAMN DRAINS!!! :cursing:

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 5,340

    KBL,

    Actually, I didn’t. I simply had no desire to get into what probably would have devolved into a pointless back and forth with a person who would post something like that. You have to have a certain amount of sympathy for someone who is so cold hearted as she must be a hurt person herself.What a way to live. Of course, I ignore this member and hope that she finds peace in her life. You can’t have peace in your own soul if you spend any time being cruel and unkind to others. This happened at least 5 years ago. I forgive her as she must be hurt soul, but I haven’t forgotten.

  • kbl
    kbl Member Posts: 3,028

    exbrnxgirl, I hear you. You are exactly right.

    LW422, I’m so sorry. I have to be honest. I have not experienced what you’re going through, but I do feel for you. I hope things get better soon.

  • lw422
    lw422 Member Posts: 1,419

    KBL--thanks so much; you are very kind. I know I'm not going through anything that millions of women haven't had to endure before me, but I'm whiney today. I want my boring life back.

  • nkb
    nkb Member Posts: 1,561

    I prefer broken cookies !

    LW422- the drains were a pain- looking back mastectomy is a major surgery that I think most can't contemplate.

  • kbl
    kbl Member Posts: 3,028

    You definitely deserve whiny days. I find when I’m having a rough day, I give myself permission to feel the feelings.

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    LW - I've been there, but my recollection is a bit fuzzy. When I had my mastectomy I also had severe sciatica. I thoroughly enjoyed the drugs and felt no pain for the first time in over a year. That overshadowed the drains. Take care.

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    COVID rant warning

    Yes, I finally got vaccinated. It's been stated that's enough. Do I want others to be vaccinated? More of us, yes. Why? So I feel safe? Well, data show that vaccinations are highly protective against severe illness and death. At least one of us here got COVID though fully vaccinated. She was hospitalized and survived. If infected, I'll likely just feel sick. I'd rather not have that either. With vaccination, masks, and limited public indoor time, I feel fairly safe from getting infected and suffering serious illness. It's a good feeling. Highly recommend. I'm lucky to be able to physically distance and enjoy it.

    Recently an unvaccinated nurse here tested COVID+, and one of her patients has developed symptoms. In this instance did she really infect her patient? Doesn't matter. Last year in QC we had many instances where HCWs and visiting families infected patients. Thousands died. Sucks for them, right? I mean, they were in the hospital so immunocompromised. Wait, I could be one of those.

    COVID cases are on the rise again, but is it really a great threat? A NV hospital released a letter begging their citizens to get vaccinated. Texas hospitals have ordered morgue trailers. COVID-19 made the top 20 of epidemics by population percentage dead (top 8 by raw count dead). Counters still going. I'll check back in a few, but seems to be bad. By the way, I have a smallpox scar. Would smallpox be eradicated now if people had rejected the vaccine?

    Should we just let the virus wash over us? This gets tested in some areas. The town in the link is practically shut down. I'd prefer not to go through that. I'd prefer to be like Iceland or New Zealand.

    https://www.kalb.com/2021/08/24/texas-town-reeling...

    Today I read an anti-masker/anti-vaxxer who lead rallies is in a Texas ICU. Got sick in July. Tried the ivermectin cocktail. Hospitalized July 30th. He's on a ventilator now, and his wife has been asked by the hospital to sign a DNR. Obviously they have not refused to treat an unvaccinated person. Sure, ICU stays can be lengthy, but COVID patients take up lots of resources. Bodies are stacking up. Not just COVID bodies. A 46 y.o. Army veteran in Texas died because they couldn't find him an ICU bed. It wasn't COVID, heart disease, or cancer. He had gallstones and died because he couldn't get treatment. He probably needed an ICU bed for just one day. But couldn't get one day. That shouldn't happen...ever. So, for someone with advanced cancer, the idea of hospitals being full of patients who linger is scary.

    I guess I'm selfish, not altruistic, for wanting people to follow public health guidelines. I want to be sure the healthcare system always has room no matter the reason. My hospital is fine at the moment. I'd like to keep it that way. Since it's a pandemic, my hospital isn't safe until the pandemic ends. And I want to travel again.

    What does your hospital recommend? If you trust them with your cancer care, please trust their public health guidelines. If you don't trust them, you probably should get a different hospital.


  • Kikomoon
    Kikomoon Member Posts: 358

    I just typed out a long-ass RANT about Covid and how sick I am of it, and went to submit it, BCO made me sign back in, so now the RANT is gone but I do still feel better and you all are spared 🤣. Double-win! The gist was- I hate Covid and I hate being scared of ending up in the hospital with it and am tired of it all! I hate that it is making families and friends fight and ruining my plans I just want to FLY somewhere and eat out with my FRIENDs and not worry dammit. Is this too much to ask? Y’all understand

  • kbl
    kbl Member Posts: 3,028

    I started a new thread in the COVID forum. Hope that helps.


    Edited a few times so I didn’t sound like I was booting people out.

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    I'm glad you edited your post. Now it reads less like you're booting people out.

  • kbl
    kbl Member Posts: 3,028

    SerenityStat, you sure are a trip. Seems you are right on top of this thread waiting for me to respond so you can jab.


  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    I've been posting on a different thread. It's not always about you.

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    I don't know what your edit is driving at, but we should stop. Have a good evening.

  • kbl
    kbl Member Posts: 3,028

    Oh, trust me, I have never felt anything was about me. We can certainly take this private if you have an issue with me. You have a good evening as well.

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    Wow. No. Good night.

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    Nice of you to edit out that you called me sassy.

  • kbl
    kbl Member Posts: 3,028

    Yes, I did, because I knew it was wrong.

    I will no longer be responding to you.

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    I was perfectly fine with my last post, but please don't send me a PM after you said you won't respond to me.

    Don't respond to me. Don't PM. Please ignore me.


  • kbl
    kbl Member Posts: 3,028

    I just want to apologize to everyone here for what has just gone on. I will try to be better.

    To be totally transparent, I did send a PM. Here is what it said. I do not want anyone thinking I said anything mean.

    “I am not the type of person who likes to get into spats with people. I would like to stop this. I won't be responding to you any longer in that thread. I'm an adult, and I'd like to keep it that way. If you would like to block me, please do. We can't all get along all of the time, so it's best to steer clear of each other.”

  • ddfair
    ddfair Member Posts: 65

    LW422

    I am so sad that your very valid complaint about painful drain is being overshadowed by the petty meaness that this thread has devolved into.

    I know all too well how uncomfortable those drains can be. Especially that stitch that holds it in place. However, that drain is necessary. The first time I had breast surgery the doctor pulled the drain after 2 days. I kept forming fluid that had to be needle drained every other day for weeks. That's no fun either. The last mastectomy I had I asked the surgeon to please leave the drain in for 3 weeks. She agreed. Still had multiple needle drains even after a 3 week chest drain. I've had 6 lumpectomies, 2 mastectomies, and a re excision of the mastectomy bed. So lots of chest drains. My right side is pox marked from drain scars. You have every right to say ow! Damn those drains! This the steam room. Scream away!

    Hope you feel better soon. I've been following your posts from the beginning. I admire how well you handled the cards you were given. Hang in there. Sending hugs.

    De

  • SerenitySTAT
    SerenitySTAT Member Posts: 3,534

    I'm sorry for my part in the pettiness.

    How about a thin slice of joy in our collective crap sandwich.

    New Yo-Yo Ma Songs of Comfort. Never heard it before but definitely soothing.


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iQMGBJ0ymXU

  • lw422
    lw422 Member Posts: 1,419

    ddfair--thanks; I appreciate the kind words and for the reminder that all this unpleasantness will pass. Sounds like you've had more than your share of the crap show of cancer treatment. I hope you are well these days. Take care.

  • NotAsCalmAsILook
    NotAsCalmAsILook Member Posts: 133

    I agree that drains suck! They were the worst part of the entire surgery and recovery!

    My drain scars/spots still are tender… and surgery was 7 months ago