STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
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Dancemom, if your bestie was crying and told you the stuff you told us, what would you say?
You'd say, "Give yourself room to breathe. Room to heal, and 7 weeks is just the beginning. Time to figure out your new normal, which completely sucks right now. But give it time. You'll get your rhythm back."
And you will. Tell your inner critic to shut up; you're on a slow road to recovery, and that's just fine.
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I agree that it takes quite a bit of time to adjust to new normal's whatever they may be. I think it's OK too to lose patience while going through the process and it's also Ok to say Why me!
I survived the upper endoscopy. Nurse took 3 times to get an IV needle in, all while telling me she is not a digger and apologizing. I may have said something if she didn't keep saying sorry. She was literally digging while saying she is not a digger! The top of my hand is bruised but it doesn't hurt. Having a little D. Daughter thinks it's the soft food, I hope she's right and I'm not having a side effect of taking the anti biotic for the recent uti. Next few days I will only be stressing over having a normal poo!! These are the things we do now. It's all perfectly normal, right? I LOL a lot to keep sane.
Having had a bc history, although I didn't have aux. nodes removed, just sentinel I don't do needles on my left side. After radiation I had a skin reaction to a blood draw that lasted for months. A BP cuff is all I allow.. Does the risk of LE or a skin rash ever go away? Is it time for me to give up my left arm?
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Please know I support all feelings. Get steamed, get pissed, get angry, vent your frustrations. We are allowed to have them. And that’s specifically what this thread is all about. Dancemom, your feelings are understandable. It sounds like being a mother has had to take a backseat to cancer treatment and all it involves. It seems so unfair.
My comments earlier were only to suggest you be kind to yourself. I don’t mean squash your feelings down or that you should try to slap a happy face on what you’re going through. Feel all the feels. For me, after I give myself time to process similar emotions, whether its days or weeks (hopefully not months) I reach a point of, ok, wtf can I do to get a better handle on this to move forward. I start looking at things from a different angle, ask myself what is working, what isn’t working (and eliminate that), can I try something new. Even small adjustments over time have an impact.
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thank you everyone. Yeah, I just needed to vent. It's been a year of doctors and treatments and it keeps going on and on. I'm tired of always needing to "do less". It feels weird to have my little guy be the one to remind me.
Ctmbsikia, Oof about the IV! Im sorry. I have hard to find veins (very fair, so they look accessible...), so I am lucky that often the draws are at the cancer center with a great phlebotomist. And my GP is old school and does them himself VERY WELL. My sister tells me NO doctors at her hospital can do them anymore. I didn't know about that rush of skin reaction on the surgery side.
Here is to continually lowering the bar 🥂! haha.
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Vent anytime Dancemom.
I called to schedule a GI follow up as instructed, and they said doc is booked out and they don't have her schedule beyond 2 months. I'm not calling back, I'm done with this practice unless I have another issue. It only took 7 months to get an endoscopy done, although a couple of months was due to investigating my liver. Should they send a survey I will fill it out with my comments. If you're too busy for your patients, then they should be referring you elsewhere, no? Ugh
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ctmbskisia thats crazy! Specialists always have waits for initial appointments, but follow ups are scheduled differently. Did they understand that this is a follow-up? Wow.
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Yes, I told them it was a follow up and I got as far as my name and dob so I'm sure I'm in there. Oh well, I've moved on, up next week is MRI of breast. Hate that damn machine
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Scans are the pits sometimes. Will keep good thoughts going your way that yours will come out ok ctmbiskia you deserve a break for a bit.
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All cancer is the pits. We just got back from having to take our little dog to be put down. She went downill fast today in an hour and was fine this morning. Vet said tumor on the spleen and she was bleeding internally. Common in dogs and cancer has probably spread to other organs as well. She went seriously in 2 hours. So sad and it is the pits. Hate cancer. Vet said it is something they can't even catch to treat early.
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So sorry, bcincolorado. Our fur babies are important members of our families and we feel real pain when we lose them. I’m sending prayers that your memories of her unconditional love bring you strength. We have them with us for such a short time but they remain in our hearts forever
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bcincolorado, I’m so sorry for your loss. I am thinking of you and know all too well how it feels when we have to say goodbye to our animals. Hugs!
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bcincolorado, I'm so sorry. There's something about losing a pet that makes us feel so helpless, I guess because we can't explain it to them.
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bcincolorado - I’m so sorry.
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Thank you all. Our other dog who is 14 is lost right now and keeps looking for her. We know we gave her a good life for 9 years and she was our baby spoiled dog. It just happened so fast and we were so shocked when the vet said it was cancer in her spleen and caused bleeding internally and they could treat her. I did sit with in the car going there.
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bcincolorado, thank you for your compassion in ending her pain gracefully. I'm so sorry for your pain and grief. There are just no words to describe saying goodbye to a beloved animal.
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bcincolorado, so, so sorry for your loss.
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BCincolorado hugs dear lady. We lost our last pooch this year to cancer after having him 15 1/2 yrs. It is awful.
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We had two little rescue terriers, about 11 lbs each. They were both diabetic and blind, but did fine with walks and twice-daily insulin shots. They were littermates, and had never been apart. On a sunny fall afternoon when they were 11 years old, they were playing in the backyard, rolling around in the grass...and they lay down in the shade together and died. No illness, no poison or paint or mushrooms back there, nothing. The vet can't explain it.
I think it was just time, and the angels came.
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Oh no, so sorry to hear.
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I'm so sorry, sbelizabeth. Losing a pet just sucks!
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sbelizabeth: What a poignant story about your two angels. Thanks for sharing it.
bcincolorado: Sorry for the loss of your small dog. They just had an article online about how dogs will grieve the loss of their pet companion just like we grieve the loss of a pet. My sympathies to you and your remaining dog.
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bcincolorado,
I am so sorry for your loss. Our pets really do become family.
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This “new improvement “ Sucks!! Wasn’t necessary.
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Totally agree with you spookiesmom. Navigating has become more of a challenge and trying to read previous pages is not possible now. Are we the guinea pigs to test the "new and improved site"?
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I had a missed call from my son at 11:55pm last night, so I called him this morning to see what was up. He informed me that my neighbor passed away last night of a heart attack. He had called to see what all the commotion was with the medics and everyone coming in. I slept right through it, which I guess is a good thing. She was younger than me, I'm thinking she was about 50-55. Her husband is younger yet, he's probably mid 40's. Everything seemed normal just days ago saw her daughter dropping off the grandkids. She watched them during the day. So shocking. You never know.
The new look is OK but I'm at the age where anything that changes gets under a my skin a bit.
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I really dislike this new look!
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Thank you everyone. Still many crying spells and big dog keeps looking around for her friend all day.
Agree this is hard to read for me with the colors the way are as well for me. Did anyone look at the main site as well and try to see what is there and how it is different as well? It was great how it was so not sure why it needed to be changed. Some of us are people of habits and do better with a routine as well.
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ctm, I'm so sorry to hear about your neighbor. What a shock. I feel for her husband and her kids.
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Just saw something about someone who was only 54 and had cancer and tried for several years. Just died. Cancer is terrible. All forms for everyone.
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bcincolorado:
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. The loss of a loved, one is never easy. Sending hugs to you and big dog your way.
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