STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
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bcincolorado - my heart goes out to you. I think between cancer and the pandemic, our pets somehow became more connected to us. It’s a really hard loss, especially when we are the ones having to assist them getting over the rainbow 🌈 bridge. I’ve never had angels come and take our pups although I sure prayed for that to happen. Our last 4 dogs needed assistance. Hardest thing for a pet owner to face.
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Thank you sunshine.
bcincolorado, so young. I was just reading my neighbors obit which was nicely done by her daughter. She was 52. I feel there was some sort a family thing on her Dad's side. He died young, and my neighbor was predeceased by 2 sibling s as well. My son and I went over the other night with some food and drinks.
Sudden deaths are hard for those left behind. It takes a good long while to process and be at peace with it. When things like this happens, it brings back my own father's death. The image of him laying on the floor with paramedics working on him. Another person in the room just waved me away and as I was exiting the garage I almost fell to my knees and let out a most horrifying scream. I knew he was gone, but I didn't do it. I kept walking and just thought about getting to my mother's side. Even when my husband passed, I felt the need to let out a scream but didn't since I was in a hospital setting. I wanted to be considerate of all the sick people in there. Plus, I didn't want to traumatize my children any further than they already were. One day I will let that scream out!
I am so thankful it is Friday!! Woke up a little chilly this morning and found the furnace was making a noise, so I went down and did a little look and a tap tap on the relay and the damn thing started! I get so mad having to do and worry about these things. I really miss saying, honey the heater's not working.
I also did some retail therapy (on line) this week for some beach cottage stuff that will be getting delivered soon. Will be starting some little projects at home this weekend. I found a bedspread f on Amazon for $32! Including 2 shams. I really like it. Hope you all have a good weekend. I'm all over the place but OK. I think!
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Just lost another friend from high school. His daughter was dating my nephew. Heart attack. Unfortunately, many of us never gave up drugs after the 70's and 80's and are not making
old bones. I REALLY do not like this new whatever u want to call it. I liked the previous web set up better.
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And it's slowand hard to find where you left off.
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and it willl only let you in one favorite then you need to do it all over again.
It’s a year this month DH died. He left me with a leaky roof and a/c. He knew about it. And a lot of smaller problems. As I’ve looked back at this year, I’m proud of myself for taking care of the messes he left. I’ve also pretty much stopped thinking I have to tell him about something I saw, or needs done. The dogs hear it instead.
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Spookie, I hear you. I had been wanting new windows for an 80+ year old house as they were the originals. Oh the fussing I heard! Husband hated spending money on house maintenance. I was the one who had to initiate repairs. When he passed, I got all new windows, entry and storm doors. Then decided the inside needed painting. Late last year, I thought I saw the beginning of roof problems. Roofer came out and confirmed there was a problem, so I gave the go ahead and also had new gutters installed as well as they were 30+ years old. Hate to say it but damn it felt good to know I didn't have to get "permission" to take care of things. And like you, I'm proud I did this all by myself.
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spookie and kath, good for both of you for continuing to move forward in your lives after the passing of your husbands. I know it must have its ups and downs. Thinking of you.
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Loss is hard and retail therapy can help sometimes. Stress baking does it too.
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Spookiesmom and KathinDC good for you ladies getting things done! I am so sorry for both your losses but I see your strength in moving forward. Yes, we ladies can do anything we set our minds to.
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Sorry it's so hard to participate here more until it's fixed. Just dropping in (if the post goes thru!) to say I passed my breast MRI this morning!!! All done doing that for 1 year. My spot they have been following is improving. $500. co pay, also seeing some of the endoscopy claims coming thru. Insurance isn't as bad as last year. Will just wait for the bills to come. U of PA also called me yesterday to ask my permission to apply for the Prolia co pay grant thing that has been mentioned here. Got the message that I was approved. Have another blown vein from the IV is all. I'll take it.
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ctmbsikia, all good news!
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ctmbsikia, that's all good news! good thing Prolia is just a regular shot so it will spare your veins
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ctmbsikia, Glad your results were ok for now. I know that is a relief for you.
I know they are working on the issues since we've all had them.
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ctmbsikia - Good news! It’s also nice that you are getting a little bit of relief on the financial side of things.0
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wow, so many different losses on this page (that finally loaded) I'm sorry and thinking of each of you.
New rant is insurance. Very EXPENSIVE insurance. A new $73 fee kept popping up. Turns out that insurance no longer covers the "facilities fees" until we each hit our individual deductible. So on addition to the $60 co-pay, we have that $73! I hit my deductible already (thanks cancer!), but now my young adult daughters don't want to go to dr because its too expensive. What happened to catching things early...
Also, tell me, WHY do they take your BP AFTER you lie absolutely still on a plank holding your breath w machines whirring and moving around you and laser beams flying at you?!!! (Aka 1st radiation) well, yeah, it was a lot higher than usual!
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dancemom not sure how you insured but before I became Medicare eligible I went on the state exchange here and they had income based premiums and mine was very affordable with great coverage. I had a plan that covered all my doctors as well and made sure of that before I chose one. May help reduce costs. May be of some help to your kids as well since sounds like they may be grown and are not earning as much and cost is a big factor as well. Worth checking out.
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I need to vent.. this topic is on my fav list and I've really been battling to vent but I just need to get this off my chest.
I've been with my husband for 25 years married for 20. Probably 3 years into our marriage (the birth of our son) i noticed a drinking concern. Long story short, he is an alcoholic. Been to rehab blah blah blah. He is ok for a while then slides straight back into it. In the last 5 years he had been admitted into a mental institution twice and I have stuck by him through it all. When he is drunk he verbally abuses our 2 children- i should have ended it the first time but I loved him. So he was sober for about a year and I thought this was it, we would be ok. I was diagnosed with stage 2, did surgery and chemo and he was phenomenal. About a year after treatment he started drinking again and a suicide attempt and back to mental institution. I had recurrence symptoms and 2 months later I was diagnosed stage IV.
He was amazing during the waiting period and assured me he will be by my side through everything.
Not true he fell off the wagon badly. It's been 5 days continuously drinking (heavily drinking i would be dead.if i drank that much) He told my 2 boys (17 & 12) " when your mother dies don't think I'm sticking around for you two. I dont give a fuck about you, never have "
So now I'm dealing with stage IV, traumatized children, trying to sort out my Will and guardianship, working full time during treatment because he doesn't go to work, I am surprised he still has a job. I have told him to leave and he just sniggers at me.
I just don't know what to do
But if feels good to get this off my chest. I k ow this is a super long post, if you read it all thank you. If you skipped it, I dont blame you, we have enough shit to get through.
Strongs to you all ❤
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Jo-Jo you are the strongest woman. All the things thrown at you and you keep going. I am so very sorry that you and your children are going through this. It isn't fair and it isn't right for any of you and none of you deserve another single minute being abused. Do you have family nearby that can assist you to exit this terribly toxic relationship? Could your cancer care team help you with referrals to any programs? I am also thinking counseling and programs for your dear children as well. I wish you all the best as you sort through this. Glad you vented, especially if it helps you determine a path forward. ((((Hugs)))))
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Oh, jo-jo, I'm so sorry. I'm sorry you've been through and are going through so much! As rah suggested, maybe your cancer care team would have some resources for you. Neither you nor your children should have to be living with this.
Please come back and let us know how you are doing.
(((hugs)))
Carol
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jo-jo sending you virtual hugs.
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Thank you so much for all your kind words and support. I am seeing a Psychologist on April 5th through the cancer clinic so I will get some resources from her to help me and my boys.
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Jo Jo that is wonderful news to hear. There may be other resources available through your cancer care clinic to assist your family during this very complex time. All my very best to you and your boys.
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I am glad they were able to offer you some resources for you. Wishing you all the best.
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Adding my hugs and best wishes to you, jo-jo2018.
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Adding my hugs and best wishes to you, jo-jo2018. I am glad your cancer center has resources for you and your boys. We are here for you!
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Love this thread. One of my friends wasn't happy with me when I did not let her know about my cancer of 2015, which was taken care of by lumpectomy and radiation. So, this time after my mastectomy, (yes, I got triple negative this time within 6 years! this year sucks and hate it) I let her know what is going on. She called me right away and was very nice. But then she HAD to tell me that she doesn't go for mammogram because she doesn't want to know the results and was worried about radiation from mammo!! REALLY? Who would that help? ME? YOU? Some people are completely stupid and thinks if their mothers have lived life without cancers, they will be ok too.
It's my time! Time for her to give me pep talk, instead, here I was telling her what the right thing is to do!!
Like I said, THIS YEAR SUCKS
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Test bump
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It's working! So pleased we're back online!
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We're trying it.
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nipabj everyone makes the choices that are best for them at that time in their lives. No one has the right to second guess any person's choices. I am sure they were mostly concerned for you based on their own experiences and did not stop and think. You deserve to be respected for your choices.
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