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Thanks Mom for the update on Patty. She is always in my prayers.
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Mom you are a godsend. Thank you for letting us know how Patty is. Patty we love you!
Babs
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Yes, Madelyn, Babs is right... You ARE a god-send...…… Just helps to know she is not in any pain...… Wish things were different, but we are thankful for every little thing... THANK YOU! xoxo
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Good morning Patty ~ I am here for my morning visit. I love you sweet sister. Always....~M~
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I had tried Patty's cell last night before I call Hospice House.
This morning, I got a call from Patty's cell, but it disappeared/dropped. I called right back and a polite man's voice answered, "This is Patty's phone."
I answered, "well, hello, Patty's phone, this is Patty's friend Madelyn. Is Patty available for a phone visit?"
And we three had a nice chat for about 6 minutes.
During that time, "Patty's phone" relayed messages back and forth. Patty was eating breakfast. Patty loves blueberry donuts and we give her donut holes as well. Glazed donut holes are her favorite.
I told "Patty's phone" that I'm a friend from bco, and that I called yesterday, and that I'm sending love and prayers from myself and all Patty's friends from bco.
"Patty's phone" got a little choked up and said they appreciate that.
I said to "Patty's phone" that when I spoke with Patty yesterday she seem tired and/or a little confused.
Well, "Patty's phone" said she is on a lot of pain medicine.
I asked "Patty's phone" if he had a name besides "Patty's phone"?
Yes, my name is D***.
Well, hello D***. (I remembered her DXH's name is D***.)
I asked about her boys. D*** said that they last saw her about 3 weeks ago. That seems to be Patty's request. She doesn't want them to see her this way.
Towards the end, I asked if I could call back. D*** said sure, he's there most mornings visiting with her and feeding her breakfast.
I told D*** that we will keep Patty, her boys, and him in our prayers.
D*** got a little choked up and said they appreciate that.
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I am so grateful to know that D*** is able to visit with her most mornings.
Also, every time I call, there is some very nice person answering the phone, either telling me she's asleep, or screening the call. It feels that she is in a protective bubble.
Madelyn
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Thank you for the updates on Patty Madelyn. Have to say your messages have me a little choked up. I mailed a card to her today, telling her how much she is loved by all of us here at bco and about types of things posted to her page. I am so thankful to hear that someone is with her. xxx
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Oh Madelyn that is so sweet and so sad. Thank you. I sent Patty a card today too.
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Thank you for the updates Mominator! I haven't been on BCO long (member since 12/16) and even through a smart phone screen Patty's bubbly personality was easy to see. I'm thankful she has friends like you! Lifting the family up with an extra boost for Patty!
Can you PM me Patty's address?
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I have to smile, because Patty has enough experience with us folks on BCO that she is aware hopefully in the depths of her mind just HOW MANY are holding her virtual hand. She truly set the bar high for me. Hootie Hoo..onward my friend to a higher love.
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awesome! So glad she's got someone she cares about there.
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Thanks, Mominator. I sent a card too. I am so glad that DXH is stepping up to the plate, and that she has him and other people caring about her and feeding her blueberry muffins.
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oh Mom. That is so touching. The love for her is palpable. Beautiful friend. Thank you for letting us know you special woman. Without you we wouldn't know. How unselfish of you. 😞💙 Rest well friends. So glad she isn't in pain. I'm going to have a Blueberry muffin.
I love you patty! ~M~
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Thanks, Madelyn! So good to hear that DXH has stepped up and is visiting and helping her most mornings. I put a card in the mail to her this morning; I'm sure she will soon have lots of cards.
You truly are the kind of friend everyone wants to have, Madelyn. I send love and thanksto you as well as love, prayers and hugs to dear Patty.
Ann
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Madelyn, you are so good to reach out and to reach back to all of us here who are praying for sweet Patty's release.❤️
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thank you Madelyn. I live in my little denial bubble most all the time because it’s the only way I know how to function, but every once in a while I feel the real impact of this dx...not seeing her boys hits hard...even though it’s her request, it’s just hard to hear. Can you pm me her address too please? I’ll try to be nice to xdh ! 😉
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Madelyn, you are such a kind and loving person. Thank you for serving as our extension to Patty. I, too, am choked up to hear that she hasn't seen her kids in 3 weeks. I do understand that she doesn't want them to see her this way but it is still heartbreaking nonetheless. Glad that D*** is there regularly and helping her, bringing her things she likes such as donuts.
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Madelyn, thank you so much for the update! I’m so happy that you were able to connect with Patty and relay our messages of love and support. Truly heartbreaking that Patty hasn’t seen her sons... but this is her wishes and is respected. Nice that D is there with her now , I’ll leave it at that. I’m glad she has a familiar face with her every day. My prayers continue for her and her whole family.0
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from "Patty's phone" just now
Hey Madelyn...
This is D***…
Patty says Hey !!! To you and everyone...
she is munching on Blueberry Cake Donuts & Donut holes rt now … :-)
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Mominator, Thank you for everything you are doing for Patty and for us. You are a blessing. I am touched by the updates you have given us. It is good to know tha Patty is not alone. I understand her decision to protect the boys at this time. I continue to lift Patty up in prayer.
Hugs and prayers from, Lynne
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Patty and Mom. Love you guys! Special bonds really do happen over the miles. We are all living proof. I love you Patty !! Much love ~M~
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Thank you, Mom/Madelyn! Not sure I love blueberry cake donuts but so glad that Patty is eating them! It's so great that D*** is keeping you posted. I do wish Patty would change her mind and have her boys with her. I understand her decision, buther boys really need to spend time with her now. But as we all know, that's Patty's call.
Prayers for them all and a special prayer for you, Madelyn.
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Thank you, Madelyn for the updates! I, too am thankful that D.... Is there for dear Patty♥️
Hey Patty - Hootie Hoo !!!
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I know, we are torn about the boys seeing their mom.
My grandmother died of ovarian cancer at age 48. My mother was 20, newly married and had a little baby not 6 months old, and her sisters were in their teens. But my uncle was about 8 when she died. He was kept away from the wake and funeral. (I don't know about the weeks leading up to her death.)
Of course uncle and his wife attended the wake and funeral when we buried my mother (the first sibling to pass) this spring. At the repast, uncle mentioned that he didn't get to say goodbye to his mother. He remembers and feels that loss still, over 60 years ago.
I'm sure my grandmother (before she died) and grandfather felt this was for the best. Maybe grandmother didn't want him to remember her like that.
Is it best not to remember his mother that way? Would it be better to say goodbye?
There are no easy answers.
Madelyn
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Another "Thank you, Mominator." For keeping us posted. For talking with 'Patty's phone', and with Patty.
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Continual thanks Madelyn. I agree, it's terribly important for the boys to say good bye. Maybe she could allow them to come for 10 or 20 minutes on weekends as time gets closer. They don't need to be there long or to sit and watch her struggle - just say Hi and give her kisses. But since she is still eating (and I presume drinking), it could be a while yet. Oh - and I think blueberry cake doughnuts are awesome but hard to find here.
Patty - holding you in our thoughts.
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I guess we really can't say what we would do, thinking about our Patty in bed, and not feeling like seeing anyone... I can understand.... It might be hard on her, seeing them.... Who's to say? I'm just glad that girl is having fun eating blue-berry stuff!
Wouldn't it be fun if we all could go see her on a special day, and bring her boxes and boxes of blue-berry everythings? Hah! We could wear her out singing to her and telling jokes and just generally tiring her out so she could sleep! Of course with Mr. phone-man! Oh wait.... I just re-read this.... Maybe not sleep with Mr. phone-man, just sleep..... or whatever! Hah!
Let's just think of every day as being a gift to Patty, and to us! None of us know when our time is up... We just need to carry on, and love every minute we are given.... Love you guys! xoxo
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It is hard to know what factors went into Patty's decision about the boys. I wonder if her experience and memories of her own mother's passing entered into it. It is never easy to lose a loved one, and there is no right or wrong way to handle these situations. All we can do is choose what we believe is best for our children, and I know that Patty has her boys' best interests in mind. She is very protective of them, as we all know. It might not be what we would do, but she is following her heart doing what she believes is best. Sending prayers to Patty and her boys.
Hugs and prayers from, Lynne
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I dont know Patty and haven't commented before but have checked in on her every day . As a single mum of 11 kids and knowing how close we are it absolutely breaks my heart to read she hasn't seen her boys in 3 weeks.
Single parents have a relationship with their children that is very different to both mum and dad living at home and I can honestly say to Patty, your boys wont care how you look they will just want to be with you.
The reality as hard as it is will be much better for them to see than what they could be making up in their heads. Not seeing their mum will affect them for the rest of their lives.
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Yes of course it is Patty's decision and we don't know what is driving that decision. And of course we will support her no matter what.
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