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You two are still Mommies... doesn't matter if you have them yourself, or are Mommy to the little babies someone else can't raise.... And both of you CHOOSing to be Mommie is admirable and you are guardian angels!
Daughter in Orlando has 2 boys.... actually "our boys" as I call them... and our Daughter here, was married once, but thank GOD those 2 didn't have children! They divorced 4 years later, and she has made her life as perfect as possible... Her X on the other hand, has moved back in with his folks, now just his Mom, and lives from day to day... never working.... on so many meds, that he hardly knows what he is doing.
His Mom, (my friend) says she is better shape than HIM... Hah! She is 82, and I guess maybe having her dink Son living with her gives her some companionship... I know she loves him, but I would have ..... well, I don't know what I would have done.... if I were in her shoes.
There are so many "families" that are no longer a "family".... For whatever reason, something changes, and they no longer even speak to their grown kids! Or their kids are so far gone on drugs, that it robs them of any family life. My friend that I grew up with, somehow, for some reason, doesn't know anything about her Daughter... I asked once... but she just said "I don't know what happened... we just don't talk."... She has 3 other Sons... And the last 2 years, she is unable to speak... "Aphasia" from a stroke. Her oldest Son moved in with her, so she has 24 hour care... including her "fiance" who is over 80... Life is sometimes a heart-breaker.
And my Brother.... his Son is just wasted... BUT, while being homeless, penniless, and drugged-out, he managed to Father at least 3 kids!!!! He is supposedly in some sort of homeless re-hab.... but the State takes care of him.... because he can't, or won't.
So I never heard much from my Brother about his kids... but I see them on FB !!! They look so much like my Brother, and his Son! I just really feel bad that even my Brother doesn't have much contact with his Grand-kids, and GREAT Grand-kids !!! I am "friends" with the girls on FB, and they look so sweet, and "normal!" Their Mom's must have done a wonderful job, raising them alone... without a Dad to be with them! The DAD, my Brother's Son, HAS gone looking for help, and money from one or two of his "Daughter's".... But his habits eventually take over, and he gets kicked out....
So I consider all of us pretty darned normal.... Hah!
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I always used to sing the Barney song to DS, now 20 (I love you, you love me, we're a happy family...). I would have him wrapped up in my arms.
DD never wanted to stop still to do that, she hated to be cuddled or swaddled (she is wired totally differently from DS) so that was the end of the Barney song ritual...sigh.
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I'll take my cue from feelingfeline and chevyboy and join in wishing you a very Happy Birthday Patty! So glad you are home to celebrate. Here's to many more!!!!!
It was just a short time ago I was balling my eyes out after reading one of your posts. You were in incredible pain both physically and emotionally. You were ready to let go and I couldn't accept what I was reading. You are so young and sweet and have a beautiful loving family. How could this be happening? Yes, I know terrible things happen to wonderful people, that is life; but that doesn't mean I can't get indignant about it!. You touched me so deeply and I was beside myself with grief for you and your family. Whatever treatment you were on at the time clearly wasn't working and I couldn't understand why the doctors were allowing you to suffer like that. There had to be something else to try. But what did I know. I was just some stranger on the outside looking in and feeling incredibly insignificant Well, fast forward to now and nothing has changed for me. I still don't know anything and I am still a stranger on the outside looking in, feeling incredibly insignificant. You, on the other hand, have courageously overcome a dire situation and reclaimed your life. The doctors didn't continue to allow you to suffer and your new treatment has relieved you of that unbearable pain. You have a life worth living again and you have been doing just that! So once again, I wish you a very Happy Birthday and many more!!
Cathy
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AnimalCrackers - Your words perfectly express what is in all our hearts! Patty, you are loved by so many 💜
I couldn't post this yesterday but I was thinking of you! I guess these folks were too ☺
And for Tomorrow;
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Oh Sheppers.....! You gave Peppermint that guy again! And she will LOVE it... Hah!
And yes Cathy.... she is so much better now.... had all of us worried, because she couldn't seem to fine help! All I did was try and make her laugh, or at least smile..... And she spent so much time in the hospital....! It's a wonder they didn't have her own room reserved for her! So she is doing better.... that's all we can ask for.... well that, and a million more tomorrow's.
That's what I pray for every night.... Thanking God for today, and wishing for Husband and I to have a million more tomorrows together!
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Happy birthday Patty! You are well loved here and we are all thrilled to see you enjoying life again
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Chevy - That's not "that guy"...it's THE GUY! I know you know him......
I posted him for Patty.....and for you
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Oh yeah! I just watched that video with Jenna DeWan, his wife, doing a dance for him.... Needless to say I shouldn't post it.... DAMN!
Did you guys see his last movie! I went with my Daughter, and it was SO fun! So you guys can find it on You Tube.... for yourselves! I mean the dance Jenna DeWan does for him..... I didn't know he even had a wife.... Oh well.....
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You guys, I found one I could possibly post.... it's so funny!
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happy birthday Patti! Enjoy every crumble of cake
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Happy Birthday Patty! So glad you are feeling better:
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Happy Birthday!
I didn't know yours were adopted. I know mine have made my life better and makes me fight harder.
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Happy, Happy Birthday!!!!!
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Wishing you a very Happy Birthday, Patty
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Happy belated birthday, dear Patty!
May your every day be blessed with love and laughter!
warmest healing regards, Stephani
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good morning ladies. I am off to a good start. Didn't sleep well last night due to back pain. Probably got 2-3 hours sleep. Woke up at 5:30 and am doung much better.
Thanks for the bday wishes all. Sure put a huge smile on my face. Who knew my online friends would mean so much to me. But truthfully I feel more comfortable expressing true honesty here. Things I would never bring up to local friends. Actually most of my friends have faded away. Seems like many people here feel the same way. My fault. Just don't ever feel like doing things, have cancelled so many times on people. Plus I am horrible about returning calls. When I feel good I spend that time with family. I have 1 really close friend left plus y'all and I am ok with this. My bestie is treating me to lunch Wed. Hoping my mouth sores will have time to heal a little. Plus Wed is free pie day at O'Charleys. My favorite restaurant. Always get the same thing. Chipotle chicken tenders , broccoli cheese casserole, yummy rolls ,( I am usually not a bread lover ) and a salad ( a meal is not complete for me without it ) and cherry pie. M favorite. I never bake anything cherry cause only I like them.
Monallthetime -. Oh so sorry. I wish her Mo/to to be honest and quicker with her treatment. She is really lucky to have a mom like you in her life. I am keeping Dani, you, and family uplifted in prayer
Lovely. Thanks. Psalms is my favorite book of the Bible. Such romantic poetry.
Shep. Yes please I'll have a piece of both. Cake and that hunk of a man. Oooh laa laa. Got my blood flowing.
Animal crackers / Cathy. Thank you for taking the time to post. Your compassion Brought tears to my eyes. I was def ready to give up. I so wished we lived in a right to die state. I am glad that I didn't die. Before hospital stay I was doing very good and I feel confident I'll get back to that. Kind of makes me question it. But in the end I still believe in the right to die. I almost didn't post my real emotions back then and have thought several times to go back and delete those posts. It certainly isn't very encouraging to any of our members but esp the new ones. But then I think no: other people need to know they aren't the only ones feeling this way and I needed this outlet to honestly express my feelings. Many things I wouldnt say to family and friends because I don't want to upset and make them cry. They just can't really understand and truthfully I can't really understand how they feel esp dh.
Chevy. You make me smile and laugh every time you post. Your right I love the sexy man bday wishes. Course I am not as brave as you. I didn't go see magic Mike.
Hugs to all. No way I could remember all the names and I wouldnt want to forget someone so just saying thanks to all for bday wishes
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feline. Oh yes the Barney song. Oh my. We wore that one out. My sister had found some tapes at a rummage sLe and sent us a box of about 10. If I had to watch another Barney show I was ready to scream. Ds1 was addicted. Thankfully ds2 was never into Barney. Ds2 really loved miss patty cakes.
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Happy Birthday sweet Patty!
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No.... don't go deleting nothing..... I mean most of us usually don't go back to read those earlier pages, and if we did, we would forget them anyway.... And besides it WAS your feelings at the time! That's okay! It just would show you have feelings, and that you, like lots of other women, are just about at the end of your rope. But we climb out of that black hole.... usually....sometimes.....
I think we've all had days, or months where we think "this just isn't worth it"..... or you reach a point where giving up seems like the only alternative. And yes, I believe in the right to die also.... probably because I'm older than almost dirt.... But if I really get sick, or can't move anymore, and if I am alone, and without any more chocolate cokes, then I'm-a-thinkin' that what else is there..... THEN I would start thinking about my loved ones..... and beg them to go get me a chocolate coke.
Wait.... You didn't go see Magic Mike? Didn't you have some trashy friend to go with you? Get Net-flix....! Then maybe you can watch movies all day! I'm starting to watch "The Ranch"..... with Ashton Kutcher.... It sounds good....
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Patty-Cakes,
Don't ever regret a word you've posted. You've been so open and honest about the ups and downs of living this not-normal life. You express thoughts, fears, and emotions that so many of us have. Oh and the hope! So much hope, grace and beauty. Your heart warms us all.
Long before I became "brave" enough to post, I was holding you close in prayer. I don't know anyone else personally with bone mets -reading your posts back when I was first Dx'd made me feel not so all alone. "Wow! That's how I feel!" such a powerful and positive impact. I've learned so much from you....medically, emotionally and spiritually. I've wept for your sorrows and rejoiced with your each and every triumph.
Today is your birthday! A blessing for you ~ a gift for all whose lives you've touched 💓
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That was beautiful Sheppers!
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Awww group hug. You ladies are the best!!
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agreed beautiful sheppers. Silent tears falling.
Dss just got home and working on homework. Soon we are off to the library ( I love reading and its good for dss seeing adults reading something besides facebook), going to Sam's club and ocharley' s. Did you know you can get gift cards from Sam's for ochatleys $50 card for $39.99 same for papajohns. Some gift cards only save a couple dollars. Each saved dollar adds up. And no I don't have Sam's club stock lol. Going to get some new clothes esp jeans and sweats and jammies for bday. Not sure if I am up to that tonight after everything else. If not my bestie who's taking me to lunch Wed will go shopping with me. Actually that would probably be more fun than dragging dss and dh along with me tonight. Lol none of my pants fit any longer. Too tight. At first I was like, umm time to push away from the table but I am kinda liking having some meat on my bones. Def feels better. Felt so bony before. Anytime e I bumped into something it hurt and bruised. Unfortunately all the weight gain went to my face and thighs. Actually lost about ,10 lbs in hospital but confident I'll put them back on. Oh yeah, and not vomiting all the time has added to weight increase.
Hugs
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Oh no.... wait.........
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ewww ok that's just gross. Grown mostly naked , oiled up men. Shouldn't be rubbing up against each other. I mean really ,put a girl in the middle.
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