My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer

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  • blueshine
    blueshine Member Posts: 247

    MicMel, thank you for sharing with us this special moments. You and your DD look stunning , so happy and beautiful. You deserve a big applause for the decorating . Now you can relax and put all this precious moments in a memory box, which you pull in the cold wintery days to warm your heart.

    Hugs and love. Elen

  • blueshine
    blueshine Member Posts: 247

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    This is the view from our new home. Finally the moving is over.

  • blueshine
    blueshine Member Posts: 247






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    My precious grandson. Already 10 months! He is the sunshine in my life

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,055

    Blueshine~Thank you. I feel happiness inside and looking over the decorations makes me smile all over again. The thought that she wore my dress gets me every time. ! I could handle that view with my coffee each morning. So glad you're all settled in and enjoying time in your new home. That precious grandson would bring a smile and fill a heart with sheer joy. I am happy to see that precious face.... thank you for the smile.

    Much love ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,055

    some of the pictures are coming back. They turned out so nicely. Smiles all over again seeing her In our dress. 😊❤️ image

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,055

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  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,055

    image ...... I look like I had been dancing. And a huge load. But it was a touching moment between my sweet DH and I. So much fun!!!

  • bigbhome
    bigbhome Member Posts: 721

    Blueshine, Love the view from your new home! Your grandson is an adorable baby! What a cute bundle of joy! Enjoy, I miss the baby years already. Our youngest dgs will be three in December.

    Micmel, Gorgeous!!!!

    Lynnwood, I'm sending you lots of hugs!! 🙏

    Minnie, rest, rest, rest and as for the cruise, you've got it. Pictures please!

    Lynne, Lynne and Mary Jane, I can't wait to meet you too!!!! I wish I could get all of us together! That would be fun! I met a Mbc sister today at Mayo today, that was good, but it wasn't special, like meeting you will be.

    Hugs and prayers,

    Claudia

  • blueshine
    blueshine Member Posts: 247

    MicMel, your doughter is very pretty in your gorgeous dress! The picture of you dancing with your DH melted my heart! I can see how much you love him and the words are never enough to describe it! I love this picture!

    BigBhome, thank you. This baby is the light that I am holding on , to continue my journey. Minnie, where are you going on a cruise? I am sure you are going to have a lot of fun there and plenty of time to relax. Good luck!

    Good night from me. Love. Elen

  • SheliaMarie
    SheliaMarie Member Posts: 284

    Second dose of ixempra today. Let’s see how this cycle goes. Fingers crossed it will work

  • runor
    runor Member Posts: 1,615

    Rant coming.

    Have a friend, dear person, salt of the earth. But lately she's become a 'believer' in this multi level nutritional patch thing that you wear. All of her Facebook posts are about how life changing it is. And now she has moved on to sending me private messages about how she is willing to give me free samples, here is all the information, I should really talk to my doctor about it, it could fill all my nutritional gaps and help in my recovery, blah, blah, blah.

    Oh my god.

    First, we are among the most well fed people ON THE PLANET and I DO NOT for one second believe that I'm lacking anything nutritional to the detriment of my health. That we make stupid food choices is a certainty, but few of us have scurvy or rickets from true nutritional poverty.

    She is not promoting this product because she has done any impartial, indepth, independent third party research. No. She is promoting this because her family members are and they are making money and have lost weight and go off to big conventions where everyone is sparkly and shiny and very cult like and they sing slogans and it's all very mind control under the guise of making the world a better place, one sale at a time. Make no mistake about it, slavish, unquestioning belief in ANYTHING is a religion and I don't shove my religion on other people and I sure as shit don't want them shoving theirs onto me. But her claims that this is somehow the magic bullet in my 'cancer journey' is pissing me off in the extreme. It implies, backhandedly, that my cancer is the result of some deficit in my eating or lifestyle choices and this patch will magically patch that all up. First, too late, second, fuck off. My cancer is the result of Bad Bloody Luck. It was not deserved, it was not earned, it carried no lesson, it did not turn me into a saint. It scared the shit out of me, it changed me in ways I can't really communicate. It left me with life long effects and it knocked me off my feet and when I stood up nothing was the same and it never will be. So in the face of that, take your stupid little patch and stick it where the sun don't shine.

    While I appreciate that she is well intentioned, I grow weary of rising above and being the bigger person to all those people who say things out of stupidity and ignorance. Why do I have to expend my energy in those circumstances to be the bigger person? Why can't they expend their energy to grow a bigger brain and THINK before they open their mouth to spout some platitude (we could all get hit by a bus tomorrow) or try to offer me some magic bullet cure (stick this patch on and see how everything improves). I am tired. I am tired of trying to get my own shit under control. I do NOT have energy for other people's shit. And relentlessly harassing me with reams of unwanted promotional information, is shit!

    What I want to do, at least for the next year, until the next mamm, is FORGET about this stinking cancer. I want to forget that a routine mammogram turned my life upside down. It may have saved my life. BUt it still left it changed in profound and painful ways. Do I need someone sending me their energetic, ridiculous heal-all promo and asking me over and over if I've read all the literature they sent? No, I do not need that and no I have not read it. And I'm not going to. I have read and researched enough in the last year and a half. More than I ever wanted to. Your stupid little patch is not even on my radar. Quit bugging me.

    To all those who sell this patch as a way to make a living, I am sorry if I have offended you, but hot damn, if this is how they tell you to promote and sell, you are being offensive as hell yourself! Rant over.

  • Minnie31
    Minnie31 Member Posts: 494

    Daniel, Bigbhome, its in, Mediterranean, visiting Marseille, Genoa, Rome, Sardinia, Corsica and Majorca! Hopefully the weather will be kind

    Blueshine, how,lovely is your view, and how gorgeous is that little baby. Happy for you x

    Runor, understand you completely. Have had to tell people in a nice way that their advice, cure, recommendations have already been tried bla bla blah, won't help, could actually harm etc etc etc, ears closing, move on. Good luck with your whatever (2fingers to your back).

    Last day of our visiting friends and have nothing major to do today, then a nice tapas restaurant this evening. Everyone can enjoy the wine and I can be designated driver. Mind you, the mosquitos have been out with a vengeance, biting only our friends, bites so bad, I may need to take the husband to see a doctor this morning

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,055

    Runor~ leads me back to my original statements that people can be dicks. Unfeeling, uncaring, jerks, you should take the year and live every second to the fullest, eliminating people that are toxic for your mind set along the way. Wear a sign that says leave me alone Or I'll tell you exactly what I'm thinking, and that may not be a good thing for us both. People just push and push and just never respect our own spaces. My way is. If I don't brig it. Up. Don't ask me. I'm sorry honey. But you donstill have some awesome news to push that idiot away and focus on what makes you happy. Clearly it isn't that person. Love you sweet friend ~M~

    Minnie~ so jealous. Sounds lovely. Except for the critters snacking on everyone else but you. I wonder why they aren't biting you? Did you drink anything ? It could be the sugar! But you're sweet you would think they would be swarming you ! Precious woman!

    Much love to all ~M~

  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,739

    Runor, “second, fuck off” 😂

    I haven’t heard of this patch yet but I wouldn’t be surprised if my mom sends me one, ugh. It’s weird, this cancer came with a bitch button, I have little time for obligatory niceties and find myself very blunt in situations like this or I dismiss people altogether.

  • MuddlingThrough
    MuddlingThrough Member Posts: 655

    Yes, Micmel, coffee and fresh muffins for everyone. Would be fun!

    runor, you are so right. Just email or text "Not interested. Don't send me anything else about it." Sorry this kind of junk happens. For my own curiosity, how long have these patches been around? If they were so % #@& good, wouldn't they have "cured" every disease on the planet in at least a few people with each disease? That valid point is where the snake oil people make amazing claims that "our cure is quashed by big pharma" BS. Who BETTER to rake in all the lovely dollars from a real cure than the big guys, with, you know, real labs, and trials, and stuff? The ones who have done all the hard work? Maybe I'm naive but I think real doctors and scientists want to find genuine remedies and cures.

    I slept late this morning without meaning to and that makes me very grumpy. So, I'm off to shower and see if I can accomplish anything today.

  • Grannax2
    Grannax2 Member Posts: 2,387

    I'll pretend I have one of those muffins with my coffee today. We're having another beautiful day on the bay today. Absolutely no affects from the Hurricane. We had a very short thunderstorm yesterday but that's it.

    I'll send pics soon. It's so fascinating here on the Eastern shore. I'm not in Texas anymore for sure! My DD and I like to see off the beaten path historical sites. Yesterday we went to Easton and found a hidden treasure. We had to ignore GPS to find it. So fun. it's the oldest, continually used, frame church in the U.S. We wandered around pine lined path till we found it. We felt as though we had stepped back in time 400 years. Explorers we were. The doors are always open, so we went in the meeting house. It felt so peaceful.

    It's magical to sit in this beautiful home and watch the happenings on the bay. Sailboats, Cruise Ships at night, Navy ships slowly sneaking by, fishing boats every day. That and our daily adventures, with plenty of pics to document our stay, is the quintessential vacation. Making memories.

    Saying Hi to all of you, I've read everyday but not posting much. I'm sure y'all understand why.


  • MuddlingThrough
    MuddlingThrough Member Posts: 655

    I went for regular bloodwork and my every other month visit with my oncologist last Thursday

    Counts were good enough to keep on taking the Ibrance and letrozole. Tumor marker down a bit. I wish it were down more but will take it. Just bloodwork next month. Scans in early November. I don't like this merry-go-round but I'll keep riding for now.

  • Daniel86
    Daniel86 Member Posts: 207

    Minnie, I am sure you are going to have a blast. I am not sure what they are going to suggest you see in Genoa (it's got nice churches and buildings but the heart of the city is uphill. The harbour is per se not very interesting so maybe they will point y'all to the aquarium, which is a great point of interest up here), but make sure to try their focaccia and their pesto if you haven't yet. That's where that was first invented.

    Sardinia this time of the year is nicer than usual because there is virtually no tourist and you get to stroll without the summer hassle of a bunch of ppl around.

    I don't need to dwell on the beauty of Rome but watch out for pickpocketers! It's getting really bad

    Enjoy your trip to the fullest!!!

  • tanya_djamila
    tanya_djamila Member Posts: 1,540

    Good afternoon Ladies and Daniel

    You miss a day on here and you read a book.

    Blueshine your smiling grand baby is gorgeous. Your new view is amazing.

    Minnie looking forward to a cruise must be amazing. I love having travels to look forward to.Enjoy your nap now and your company later.

    Micmel you need to rest up. The pictures are beautiful. The dress is wonderful. I'll take one of each dessert please.

    Big B I'm sorry about your Westie. I still get sad when I remember the day we lost our childhood german shepherd, Pal.

    MJH enjoy the rest of the quiet summer/fall. Enjoy your upcoming travels.

    Sheila Marie never heard of bulimic shopper - too funny.

    Mae hows your PT? I have an appt. next week to start again after my khyphoplasty surgery.

    Pots glad you guys are all unpacked and settled. We moved here 11 years ago and I still have one unpacked box. I think I dont want it anymore.

    Runor I get that from my friends often. I don't even look at the videos anymore with the cure for cancer. Someones always selling herbalife or some other pyramid project scheme. My grand daughter came to town and wanted me to come to her sales pitch venue. No dear I'll see you another time when you're not in sales girl mode.

    Muddling I love muffins. If you care to share your recipe you can message me.

    I had bloodwork yesterday and didn't even stay around for the results. I'll be there next week for treatment and I can look at the patient portal if I feel so inclined.

    Hope Magda is doing well. Hi Divine, Holmes, Grannax, and anyone else I forgot.

    Tanya


  • Grannax2
    Grannax2 Member Posts: 2,387

    Our home away from home. I’ll send a few more. I don’t have a good selfie on my phone. I guess it’s on DD phone.

  • Grannax2
    Grannax2 Member Posts: 2,387

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    Our home away from home. I'll send a few more. I don't have a good selfie on my phone. I guess it's on DD phone.

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,055

    GrannaX~Xcellent photo of that ship. That is truly so neat. I would never want to leave. No wonder you call it home away from home! The Home looks magnificent! I am so happy for you ! Enjoy every single second my sweet friend!

    Daniel~ good advice on the travel. But then again you were just traveling this summer huh!? With your trooper Leslie. How is the sweetheart doing ? How is her leg ?

    Tanya~Hello there beautiful, thank you for the kind words. The desserts were absolutely lovely. Every single one was delicious. Luckily we got the left overs, not sure if that was a bad or good thing. We gave some away and penne pasta aka vodka is the meal of choice this week! I regret my choice of the dress, I Should have went for something more form fitting. I looked like a walking tent. I should have kept looking. I did love the color. And I was comfortable, it just makes me realize that this medicine really packs in the pounds. No matter what you try to do. I would gladly give you one of each. You're adorable.

    Mae~Hope PT is treating you well!

    Muddling~ thanks for the muffins and memories. We should open a cafe. The MBC muffins and memories. Lol

    I am still so tired so off to resting I am again

    Minnie~ I am so excited for you.

    Runor~No patch for me either. It would be front page news.

    Love you guys ~M~

  • Minnie31
    Minnie31 Member Posts: 494

    Illimae, couldn't agree more. Be brief, be concise!

    Daniel, thank you so much. I think Rome will be my main trip, and will sew my money into my knickers haha!! Focaccia and pesto sounds heavenly yummy!! Best wishes to Lesley, hope she's doing ok.

    Thanks for the good wishes everyone. I will try to post pictures as I go.

    Grannax, that's a lovely home from home. Enjoy xx

    Love to all, my eyes are closing, need sleep x

  • runor
    runor Member Posts: 1,615

    Now I want a muffin. And coffee. And a house in the woods with a magical driveway.

    Mae, I think you're a badass. You would pick that ONE line to quote. Shame on you. (it's my favorite line too!)

    Tanya, I hope also that you get to see Granddaughter when she's not in selling mode. It can be a hard mode to tolerate some days.

    Micmel, have you recovered from your disco frenzy? Shake your groove thing, sistah!

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,055

    Minnie~Can't wait to see the pictures. How exciting. It makes me want to travel. My DH and I are planning to take a nice drive down to the beach out of season. Which I love. I want to hear the ocean waves crashing and see the endless reach of the sea. Has always fascinated me.

    Grannax~That is why I loved seeing that cruise ship out there. So big but yet small compared to the massive ocean itself. Amazing.

    Runor~ I don't feel too bad. My muscles know they have been used but that is ok with me. A little back aching but if I'm honest, it felt good to get up and move again, no less dance. I'm just thankful for the fact that I was able to feel so well that day. That's all I could ask for. Ty for always making me laugh 😂.

    I'm getting ready for bed, best time of the day! Sleep well ladies. Much love ~M~

    Hello GP my friend. Miss Bianca... Footprints Angel!! Sending love l! Patty am thinking of you. Everyday!


  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,739

    PT is going well, just 2 sessions left and my knee feels much better. I’ve got two 5k’s next month, so they need to be strong.

    Funny, I just finished this 1,000 piece puzzle in two days and the hubs still thinks he can pack a car better than me, lol

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  • runor
    runor Member Posts: 1,615

    I've never seen a puzzle quite like that. That is awesome!

  • Minnie31
    Minnie31 Member Posts: 494

    Great puzzle!! 2 days, wo

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,055

    loving puzzles!! Myth buster did a study on packing the car better and faster. Unfortunately the ladies did not win. But you might be able to. You and that awesome super hero puzzle. I hope you crush your 5ks.

    Waving hello to Runor and Minnie. I’ve never seen one like that as well 1k pieces no less. ! Maybe I’ll break out mine... since my wedding planner days are through!

    Love you ladies. ~M~


  • SheliaMarie
    SheliaMarie Member Posts: 284

    Morning, sweets!

    Mae - love the puzzle! Makes me want to do one!!

    I had my second ixempra infusion Tuesday. Then yesterday CVS refused to fill my pain rx. They said it was too soon and I should have plenty. WTH do they know?? I was so embarrassed, and PISSED. I’ve never dreamed I would be labeled a “seeker”. But there you have it. Of course my onc nurse called them and had it pushed through, but the emotional draining was real. I laid down for a nap at 430 yesterday afternoon and woke up at 735 this morning. Hoping today is a better day.

    And hope each of you have a beautiful day as well. Xo