My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
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JFL. You have been busy, that's good. It must mean Doxil is treating you well. Is it the one that does not cause hair loss? Sorry about the pansies.💞
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Lynne~💜(50's)~Hello lovely lady. I am thrilled to see you and also thrilled to hear about how busy you have been. Spring hopefully has sprung and you are feeling the better temps like we are finally. Missed you but happy you are living life! What better thing to be doing.
Donna~. Hello sweet friend. I hope you had something to smile about today. I saw a butterfly 🦋 it was flying so free. Nature can be lovely!! I hope you're feeling better and so glad you're out of the hospital geeze. You're one tough woman.
Lynnwood~ I have been thinking about you all day. I know you feel gut punched. For sure. I can't believe four years. That's amazing. But. I have a feeling you're going to be on xeloda just as long. My onc seems to be convinced there are many lines to seek, that do not involve hair loss. I basically told him. Look dude. I am never doing hair loss chemo again. No matter what. I've been through hell and back with the ac chemo and Abraxane. My hair is back where is what before diagnosis and I don't plan to have it going anywhere! Bone only remember is really fabulous and he also mentioned that some women that stay bone only , sometimes can go back to ibrance after it's been cleared from your system and another chemo again confuses the cells. I found that very interesting. Imagine another 4 years on xeloda and another 4 on ibrance ? You are amazing. Never forget it. Ever! You precious angel.
MJH~yay!!!!!! Two of the our ladies came home this week after a while of missing you all. The two awesome grandmothers. (Including Grannax thinking of you too and your meeting imagine your posse standing beside you. Don't forget to stress the AA nightmare! You went through) you mjh. Are crazy busy woman. I am in awe. Last time you posted an awesome picture of you skiing. Lol I have to worry about navigating the stairs. Welcome back. Hugs to all of you! Hope your port is healing nicely.
JFL~ Hello lovely, always love seeing you here, hoping you're somewhere the sun is shining and nice outside . Makes you realize. Life is precious.
My DH and I went over to visit my Dad today. He was waiting in the wheel chair with his coat on and ready to get outside for his cigarettes! It was a great visit. DH and him discussed golf and golf courses. They have so much in commmon but never had a chance to really know each other. It makes me sad. They are both almost really identical. Except. My DH would never stand for any estrangement... that is the difference. I know now, that my father knows I'm there for him. When I went today. He had his hamper full, and my step mother was supposed to go yesterday and ended up changing her mind at the last minute. The agreement was. I would go Thursday and she would take Friday. I would go Saturday and etc... if I hadn't gone today like i promised I would. He would not have clean towels for bathing or clean pants to wear. I just don't like people who say they are going to something and then don't. It bugs me. A lot. If I can't make it. I find someone to go in my Place. She used to boast about her wonderful family, and how much they visit. Well he's been there since January end. I have gone every single week. None of her family has shown up, I can promise you that. Only One of his brothers.I visit the most. Then my step mother. But see the thing is, she lost her job, she isn't working anymore. They wrongfully fired her, I can admit that. But damn. Get your ass to visit. The other one that visits a lot is my DD and her DH. Funny how things work. Sometimes.
Waving to Runor my sweet friend. And stilllivin. Ty for reaching out. I needed it. .....
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Micmel,
I am happy to hear about your visits with your Dad. If you hadn’t restored that relationship, it would have haunted you later. Your father obviously cherishes this time with you, too.
You mentioned hair loss. I have decided to make the most of that no hair situation. I love getting out of the shower, towel-drying my head, and plopping on my wig. I sometimes joke about it with my dh and tell him that it will take me FOREVER to dry my hair. It is nice that I don’t have to dry my hair, and I never have to worry about styling it. It always looks decent. Oh, and I haven’t had to shave my legs for weeks! I find myself putting on a little makeup and earrings every day now so I look my best. It really helps my mood. Even my MO commented that I always look very coordinated and “put together”. So here is a picture of the new me - wig and all. Unfortunately, I had just come inside on a windy day, so the wig is a bit messy,but at least it gives you an idea about how I look, right?
Hugs and prayers from, Lynne
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Lynne~(50's)~You're beautiful, actually I would have never even guessed the difference... you're lovely. I had one made for my hair. Exactly like mine. I wore it two times it was so hot. I gave it to my sweet beautiful friend, who had intestinal cancer and unfortunately passed away October 2018.....she wore it till the day she went into hospice and she looked gorgeous and it's made her happy.
I don't look good in short hair like you do. No Idon't. I am like Linus with a blanket. I would rather loose my breast than my hair. I don't know why. Just my feeling. I realize everyone has their own choices and ways they deal with loosing a literal body part. I always wondered what they did with my breast? Did it end up in the trash? Are they testing it? Looking at the disfunctional cells? When I was Young I always thoughts wigs were really cool. Now I just chose to wear the caps. They weren't itchy and hot to me. But if I looked that good in one I might try a shorter style. I'll post my hair now. I'm pleased with how it's grown in. It is thinner I cannot lie. But I'm happy with it... I love how you always point out the ways to take lemons and make lemonade. 💜 missed you!
Much love ~M~
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Micmel, Hello, nice to put a face with your name! And it's a great picture too! You're so strong and determined to uphold your every other day schedule even when it's a struggle. I know you're doing it for your dad and that you're the person who does what you say you will. Step mother apparently never learned about doing the right thing even if wedon't really want to. I'm glad to see that you and your dad both enjoy your time together, even if it's bittersweet.
Lynne 50s, Great pic of you too! I'm sure you'd rather have your own hair but good that you're comfortable with the wig. I had a wig picked out that I actually liked. It was a bit different than my real hair in color and style, and I felt kind of daring, lol. But, when scans showed mets the original plan to start with chemo went out the window, so no wig, (at least for now). Love the hair “prep" joke!
Lynnewood, sorry to read about your progression. Your long run gives many of us hope. I hope your next treatment is easy on you and tough on your mets. I have yet to have my first scan and have nerves already, hoping it won't end my run super early.
Hubby and I have been spending some time on the road, finishing up tonight on the FL panhandle. We were returning north after visiting family further south and wanted to check out the area for a few days. Solid rain yesterday and heavy fog today so not the prettiest of days here but we did get our feet wet and walked the beach some. I can see why it's a popular destination though. The remaining hurricane devastation (from October) we saw on our way here was very sad. Tomorrow we head for home. As several of you said, I'll be happy to have my own bed (and bathroom) again.
It's so good to check in here and hear how you all are doing. There's nothing like sharing ups and downs with friends who are walking the same walk.
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great to see your beautiful faces!!! Lynne the wig looks so natural! I honestly wouldn’t know it is a wig unless you told me!
I am laying here on the sofa with my parents hanging out watching the 76ers. I developed a cough today and took Claritin. Can’t tell if it’s allergies or coming down with something. The Claritin has calmed down the cough as well as some Ricola cough drops. Also, I don’t usually get allergies but I know that all my immune system cells are lowered so who knows! Gonna pound my herbs and get some rest. I don’t have to work tomorrow so I can sleep in yay!!!
Just popping in on a mellow Saturday to spread love and send hugs to everyone
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Looking good 50’s and micmel 🙂
So sleepy, goodnight all
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Grannax, I have moved on from Doxil and have been in a clinical trial for erdafitinib, and FGFR inhibitor, for 6 + weeks now. I get a scan next Saturday to find out how things are going. Seems awful early to get a scan but trial requires one every 8 weeks. My insurance has approved PET scans every 3 months with no issues but never more frequent than that. Trial does not pay for scans, and only pays for the medicine itself and a monthly eye exam to check for signs of detached retina.
Micmel, your hair is so beautiful. Stick straight. I have always had a bit of natural wave/curl and could never get mine that straight on my own! Would need a professional for that. I love it.
Lynne, your wig looks so good and so natural.
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Rosie~Hello lovely lady... I agree it is nice to put a face to the name. I guess you cannot google a face! Not yet anyway. I have never been to Florida,I know it’s a popular destination for alot of families and vacations. I just was never lucky enough to go. I was very lucky to go to Hawaii at a young age. So I cannot complain one bit . I am sorry for the hurricane area. That is so hard to even fathom. I hope they were able to recover someplace else. So nice you traveled with your DH. Those moments are so special. Hugs to you!
Mae~ Hello beauty! Nighty night to you. I slept ok. As soon as I wake up my joints have fo start functioning. I hope you have sweet dreams my friend. Goodnight.
Philly~ nothing like a good night relaxing with parents. I also am struggling with allergies a lot of people are right now. I noticed Claritin doesn’t work for me unless it’s xgeva. I take zertec. I am taking so many things it like become a joke lol. Always love seeing you here . Get some rest..... today i also going to be another beauty. I am hoping to get outside At some point today. Hugs beauty!
JFL~ Thank you for the compliment, I don’t know how to accept them because I feel like I have been beaten so hard with that cancer stick. It’s hard to look at younger times of myself. Like asking myself over and over. How could this happen. Why did this happen ? I’m trying to keep up my energy. And do the right thing for my father. I’m not doing this for her. I’m doing this for my sweet father. Because sometimes love makes people want to help. Love makes people know that when people do things for you, you know it’s coming from the right place and not just a forced act. I do it because I love him! Hope you’ll enjoy your Sunday’s ladies. Much love to all! ~M~0 -
50sgirl & Micmel, you both look terrific!
Yesterday I spent a glorious day doing some early spring yard work as the Ohio weather was finally cooperating. Trimmed up rose bushes and started re-doing a dry-stacked brick column I'd created in one of the flower beds. I love garden art and could never find the right piece, so I created something myself using Pinterest for inspiration. After a couple of years, the roses and black eyed Susans have grown so large the dry stack column is lost in the blooms, so I'm raising it by adding several more rows of bricks and a couple flat pavers. Will post a photo when all is done.
Last fall I did lots of weeding making the flower beds easier to tackle this spring. I've been flower gardening for 30 years and look forward to each and every bloom in the yard of which there are tons, something always in bloom from early spring to late fall. Everyone in my family has a green thumb. When we visit each other, we always check out what's growing in the yard. I was named for a flower as I was born in May, so my love for growing them is fitting.
~ Camille
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Good morning. The meeting the infamous meeting went well until the last part of it. We had already gone 30 minutes overtime so we didn't get to go into the nitty gritty that was revealed at the last minute.
DD took the first 30 minutes by telling in great detail her version of the event that sparked the meeting. Okay, I took full responsibility for my actions and asked if we could start counseling together to resolve our long term issues stemming from her childhood on that she thinks were the cause of my blowup. I was able to throw in and prove that the AA SE were the root cause of me behaving in a manner that has never happened before or since. Each person expressed how much stress it causes them to watch me treat Tami in disrespectful ways. It seemed like addressing that issue was key to solving the big problem. Okay all agreed, right? Wrong. My son and DIL started talking when I brought up my question of what I needed to do to have unsupervised visits, with my grandchildren again. Turns out that both of them, especially my DIL, are harboring distrust of me because of past behavior. They said every time you have been with our children alone something bad has happened. EVERY time. I was flabbergasted. They listed off my horrible offences. For example, my 11 GD was behaving in a snotty pre teen way, doing the eye roll and stomping upstairs. To which I responded by telling her into go to her room and not come back down until her attitude was different. Nope, I was not supposed to do that, that was me trying to be the mom, that was wrong and it upset GD. The rest of my offences were listed in detail going back six years. So it came out that their trust and anxiety about me being alone with the kids was reason for concern. What if, something happens while you're on the next medicine? We just don't want that to happen. So we will keep it from happening by not letting the kids stay at your house. To which my mouth fell wide open.
By last night, I realized they had no plans of ever trusting me with their children again. There was absolutely nothing that I could do to win back their trust because my record of wrongs went back forever. There was no grace allowed for being on TX. None. It was a set up for failure. So, last night I told my DS that I had made new boundaries for myself. I will never allow myself to be put in that position again. I will NEVER be alone with their children again now that I'm aware of how deep of a hole they have put me in. I will not be put in a position that's bound to fail because of their definition of all my previous failures that they are holding so tightly. I won't . It's a set up, I told him. I won't expect to be trusted.
The unreasonable expectations, the what ifs, the recitation of my wrong behavior was almost laughable in its audacity. I expected this from my DIL but not from my DS. I told him it was more painful than having stage IV MBC to not be trusted to be a real grandmother, it was the death of a dream.
So, that's where I am ladies. He said he wants to talk more about my misconceptions. I said no. My boundaries are set by me, not you not DIL. ME. They are not up for discussion.
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On another topic, I wanted to mention the artwork—photography, actually—at the Pittsburgh hospital where I go to the cancer center. Several years ago they hung many beautiful, large, silver-framed photographs throughout the main halls of the hospital’s first floor of different iconic Pittsburgh landmarks and landscapes. Some photos are 72” x 48”. Some are split into three large frames, side-by-side, to show one scene. I heard several million dollars went in to the project, it shows.
It made a huge difference in the feel of the hospital, gave it personality and feels less antiseptic. Sometimes when I’m there in between scans I walk the halls looking at all the pictures. Many people seem to zip on past them, I hope some do notice. Here’s a sampling; the tall building that the rainbow is landing on in the last photo is the hospital, Allegheny General.
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Grannax, I'm sorry about how yourDIL and DS feel. I think you are right, very much so, to take your stance. No more setting yourself up to be torn down. Do not let your son try to further explain. He sounds kind of pompous for wanting to go on and on even still. You are not a child. He should not act like he is your parent, You are right to set boundaries for yourself. Six years, I mean, come on. They are really holding on to some grudges. It’s like they lay in wait for you to make what they consider another offense. No seeing your good attributes and contributions. Yes, stand your ground. You may have to accept the visits with your grandchildren according their parents' demands, but you can move forward with dignity. Let them know the tribe has spoken, you heard the tribe, and now case closed.
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Grannax - I AM BEAMING WITH PRIDE FOR YOU!!!!
This was such an impossible thing for you to go through and you DID IT!!!! And you did it ON YOUR TERMS!!!! Wow I am so amazed.
Divine - I agree with you. Those astounding photographs do make a difference. They are so very beautiful, they seem unreal, surreal!!! Hundreds of miles away, you are making a difference by sharing with us. Thank you so much.
Gumdoctor
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Grannax, good for you, standing your ground. Hopefully, the meeting helped with some issues. As for grandkids, it sounds reasonable to use mild discipline when necessary, sometimes I don’t know what’s worse, today’s children or their parents.
Personally, I don’t care much for kids, I find them annoying but I was surprised on the trip to see bff, her kids (other than signing, a lot) were well behaved, courteous, not on devices much (they have a cell phone all 3 share and they almost never use it!). I didnt hear a single whine or stomped foot, it was amazing. She gives them freedom and gets respect in return. (Just a story of my visit, not meant as advice in any way)
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Quick story: While waiting for coffee to brew, I was looking at the refrigerator magnets of places I’ve traveled (San Francisco, Roswell, Wisconsin, Destin, Bahamas) and feeling fortunate to have the ability to afford and enjoy these trips. I then noticed a theme in the fortunes I had up as well and realized that although I’m not a bouncy, high energy type person, my positivity is simple, like my collection of fortunes, hold on the the good ones, leave the rest on the table.
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Thanks for encouraging me to stand my ground. I needed to hear that. I've never stood up to my DS before. Never needed to until now. I will not change my mind about my boundaries. I will not put myself in harm's way. I will stand firm.
I don't know at this point what it will cost me. My DS the doctor, likes to be right. He is very angry with me. And has added things to what I said, misinterpreted them, added consequences that sound like I will no longer be at family functions. Hurtful Mean things were added to my words.
I've got to say Rant over. We all have family drama, mine is just another one to add to the list of what we try to do day in day out. It seems heavy. But, maybe it will seem lighter tomorrow. Yes, tomorrow while I'm having my PET. Ugh
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Mae~ I think you're one of those rare gems that come along once and a while. I love your honesty. Clarity and friendship. You inspire me to live and love each day to the fullest. I'm trying to push More because of you!! Because of all of You amazing sisters here.
Yes Parry you toooooooooo
Divine~what a lovely name you have. Camille. Just beautiful... just like you art work is divine. I enjoy seeing others areas. And happy rooms and places that we spend most of our down time. Relaxing and just being alone with our thoughts and process what we need to get through the days. Love the art. I have tried to bring some into my life. Thank you !
Grannax ~Sweet Grannax~. Where do I even begin. Except Shame on them. Shame shame shame on them. Trust me when I say someday it will hit them like a sharp blow to the head and gut . What they have done is disgusting. I am so sorry that you had to do that alone. I so wish I could have been with you. That is just plain crap. Let me have a hour with them to explain how My father and stepmother threw me away. I'm not harboring any grudges any longer. Life is too short. No one is perfect. Nothing is perfect. Love your grandchildren as unconditional as you have been. YOU HAVE NOT CHANGED!!!! They seem to have a wild hair up their asses... just breathe. Remember you are loved. You're a special magnificent woman who has represented MBC with dignity and grace. You cannot pick your family. But you can choose to limit the toxic behaviors. Choose one person who is less toxic than the rest and simply say. I'd like the supervised visits need to be happy, no negative feelings or discussions. Those days are over. Enough abuse and anger directed towards someone who needs love and affection. What I'd like to do, is seriously have all of us sisters write them a letter and let them know that our LIVES matter. And that we. Suffer everyday. The mere fact of even hearing of such treatment enrages me. They need to be put into their corner and read real peoples words that are neutral and REAL. This is not a game.
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Grannax, I'm definitely an emerging feminist, so keep that in mind when I say that white men your son's age feel a lot of entitlement. They think everyone around them should see things from the male perspective. I'm not picking on your son. I'm continuously learning how to assert myself even with my own husband who is really good to me. But I will call him out if he minimizes my efforts, trivializes my feelings or if he acts like he's the boss of me. Being that your son is a doctor, he is used to people obeying him, not questioning him and putting his opinions on a pedestal. That probably influences his relationship with you. Also, there is something a man feels valiant about by being caught between his wife and mother. Somehow it feeds the male ego. If you defuse that by saying, fine, its going to be done your way, he almost misses the fight. I noticed this phenomenon when I married my husband and at some point realized he was a good one for enjoying the demands his exwife put on him since they had a child together, the pressure his widowed mother put on him all the while trying to meet the needs of his second wife, me. It made him feel so wanted and alive and the center of attention. I finally put my foot down and called him out on it.
You're right. If you've never done so before, you don't know how standing your ground will affect the relationship. But your son sounds like he's trying to bully you and you don't have to put up with that. I have bullies in my family and have to watch how much interaction I choose to have with them to protect myself. It really is a form of self love.
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Grannax, well done. Hold your head high! I think, even as Grandmother, you are allowed to set the boundary with grandkids as to what behaviour you will accept. Parents can be very relaxed these days, but kids need to know that in life, not everyone will accept bad attitude.
Divine, lovely pictures, which deserve to be looked at!
Mae, like those fortune sayings. We all need positivity.
50s, from another wig wearer, I agree it saves a lot of time getting ready, and it always looks good. You look really well in yours.
Best wishes to everyone else, for treatments, scans etc
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Divine~ good point about the doctor comment. We all have dealt with those. Always being right. Forgot that part. You made some good points in your postings as well. I have already decided drama is something I just cannot afford right now. None of us can!
Minnie~ Hello beautiful hope you’re all rested up from your trip! My DH went to see Chicago on Saturday night in Washington DC at the Harbor water front area! He said he had a Blast and it was awesome! Another thing I didn’t get to see. Last time it was REO speedwagon. Missed them also. Makes me upset. Who have i become? You guys help me want to do things to force myself. My next challenge is my SDS he graduates in June And Its in Maryland.. i dont Do well with long car trips at all! Ugh! Good to have you back beautiful friend. And another wig person! You both. Look amazing !0 -
good morning beautiful friends!
Grannax - wow! I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this.
I have been a witness to the odd relationship between my sister, her wife and their child (now 3 years old) with my parents, particularly my mother (MomMom to the grandchild). I get what folks are saying about the male ego and doctor ego but this stuff also happens with the overprotective mothers and simply put, DIL’sand DD’s. Just a lot of inner family conflict and triangulations and plain ol feeling hurting BS. It is an unfortunate and common theme.
My parents LOVE being grandparents. There were so many issues when my sisters son was born (her wife carried and they used a sperm donor). My sister and her wife “did not trust” their baby with my parents. It was so incredibly painful for my mom to be held at arms length from her grandson. I think that now that he is 3 years old, and the trust has built up more, they have come to realize what an asset grandparents are. Also because my nephew is head over heels in love with his grandparents! And they babysit! For free!!!
I guess my point is that, sadly you are going through an awful and rather normal exclusion. And it sucks. You just do you. Keep loving those grandchildren with all your heart. Write them letters. When you are together hug them and tell them how much you love them forever and ever.
unfortunately the parents of the children get to call the shots. It is a real bummer that they chose to do it in this manner.
If you keep loving and hugging your grandchildren, they will tell their parents that they miss you and start asking questions about why they don’t see you as much. Your son and DIL will have to figure it out. It rests on their conscience.
I would tell them NO to anymore family meetings. Sorry, life’s too short and too precious!! And we beat ourselves up enough and cancer beats us up enough. We don’t need anyone, ANYONE, beating us up in any way shape or form. And family members DO not get a pass from this.
Sending you power strength and love,
Philly
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Philly~ Very very well said. My DD and SIL do the dance from time to time. I suffer from word 🤮 vomit! I can't hold my feelings in. Thing about cancer is it makes you realize you lack a filter sometimes. You see things as trivial and unimportant. Family cannot be dismissed, but they can Be manipulated just as they can manipulate. Things must be smooth sailing. If they are not...... press the pause button on your own terms.... for us all of us. ~M~
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Grannax, you have gotten some good feedback here. We support you in this crapshoot that your family is putting you through. You have been very honest with them ( and us) that your behavior has not been perfect. It seems to me that their behavior has not been perfect either but they only want to focus on yours. My immediate thought about the supervised visits was.. they better be careful what they wish for. One want or another they will eat their words one day. Some people you just have to love from a distance.0
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Good afternoon all
Grannax I felt the pain in your words as you laid out that meeting event. I’m glad you have the strength to stand up for yourself. The grandkids will put that supervision thing to rest in due time. I hope they end up loving you unconditionally like your son and DIL cannot figure out how to do.
Wig ladies look good. I have the ibrance thinned hair look. Nothing comparable to the former thick curly hair that I had but nowadays many things have changed.
Fighting the fatigue monster today. Goal is to plant some seeds outside. Still in pajamas after 12
Tanya
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I would ilke to thank all you ladies for the encouragement to not cancel my vacation. I did not feel like I should go being newly diagnosed with lung mets. My oncologist put me on letrozole and started paperwork for ibrance and she too encouraged me to go. I had fun not the same fun as I usually would have had but I did get a mental break.
I have so many questions like am I going to be covered for Ibrance?. Has anyone ever heard of someone not being covered ? My coverage sucks so I would not be surprised if my private insurance doesnt cover it.
Will I be able to work? I am a business owner and work on my own its somewhat physical cant afford to hire anyone or train them for that matter. I dont get sick day pay or holiday pay. I dont work I dont get paid. I am actually thinking maybe giving up my business it takes alot of my time mentally and physically? . But would someone hire me? Do you have to tell a new empolyee you have cancer?
I really hope after all the appointments in the begining and treatment has started my life goes back to normal I know it wont be my old normal but a new normal that doesnt have all this anxiety would be nice.
Any wise advice would truly be helpful. Thanks for listening
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Pippy1963 Welcome to BC message board and the new normal.
On the Ibrance thread you will find all types of resources for payment should your insurance not cover Ibrance. I think a member named Jaycee and PatMgc usually post them when asked. The drug company Pfizer does offer assistance some times too.
I travel but with lots of fatigue. I usually feel it more toward the end of my 21 days and try to plan trips etc. around treatment.
I think how you respond to Ibrance is individually unique. Some have less and or more SE's than others. It depends on your age for sure and any other physical ailments and strengths. The effects seem to be cumulative, the longer you're on it the more fatigue you feel. Other SE's that people have posted about are mouth sores, hair thinning, nausea etc. I don't know if you ever had chemo before but the Ibrance SE's are not as bad and you get used to them and make a way through them so that you can function.
As far as a physically demanding business it's up to you. I'm a senior citizen 61 so I opted to apply for disability bc my job was too demanding and stressful. When you set up your profile they ask you questions about your diagnosis date, type of treatment, etc. Providing this information may make it easier for people to respond to your treatment questions.
Please try the Ibrance thread. You will get lots of support and may meet others with similar needs.
Take Care,
Tanya
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pippy, here is the link to the Ibrance thread, come join us!
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/8/topics/828848?page=553#idx_16565
From what I understand, Pfiser helps with paying for Ibrance when you have private insurance which it sounds like you do. Can you check with your doctor's office to see if they have a financial advocate who helps patients navigate the health care costs. Also, go to the Ibrance website for financial help info.
I began Ibrance almost two weeks ago and worried it was going to be rough and so far am finding it isn't too bad. So keep your hopes up. Once you're on it a few months, my pharmacist said patients tend to do fairly well on it. Take your time mulling over the work issue and make an informed decision whether to stay put or leave. Best wishes to you.
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changedname, I hear you about the overly protective parents these days. A close friend of mine with whom I worked with as an elementary school aide has two grandsons. She’s in her 50’s. She lives one block from the local pool that has a splash pad and small baby pool for small children, all fenced off from the big pool. She’s had her job as a preschool aide for over 20 years, caring for literally hundreds and hundreds of young children over the years and is amazing at her job. But her son and his wife don’t want her taking their 2 boys, ages 4 and 6, to the pool! They don’t feel comfortable with it. I mean, that is actually insulting! But no, she has to go along with their wishes. It’s pretty pathetic.
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