My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
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Whoa, big puppy! Love his name, Chief.
Btw, yes, my cat is real. His name is Peach. I have no idea how I got lucky enough for him to sit and stare at the camera, he just did!
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Divine~ wow that is what I call timing. He looks like a statue just sitting perfectly. I would love to have a fire place, nothing like reading in a lazy boy arm chair with your favorite book!! Although I am temperature sensitive, crazy darn hormones! I wish that someday we would all be able to meet and have a drink together to toast our friendship and support we given each other!
Hope all is well,......Chelle, Mae, Claudia, Keetmom,Tanya, NO1,Minnie, Lynnwood,50's, leapfrog,Nan,Edwards,Chicagoan...Gracie...Grannax..... Blueshine.......MJH..hope everyone is preparing for the holidays and is safe and sound. Hugs to everyone. Any one I missed. I suck! Lol
Mae~is practice time over for packing ? lol it's soon go time! Please post along the way! 💕💕you
Much love~~
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Time for bed finally, what a lovely word. Bed and covers lol I hope everyone has a good night sleep another day down. I always keep spare presents just in case we have surprise people and guests who get us something that we hadn't planned on. So I thought I was done wrapping. I now have four more left. DH is going to help me with one of them, and I can do the others. Today my DS asked me to give him a "refresher course" on wrapping. Which I thought was so sweet, I love spending that time to him. It was just he and I, and it was just priceless time. He started wrapping up a storm and got everything except one thing done....he's waiting for another pkg, I hope it gets here in time ! Only three more days left ladies. I am getting excited. I can't wait to see the kids faces. It's so Much fun. Another year of pics and memories. Less than a week away! Then it's you're paying off the debt accrued during the holidays, after the holidays lol yuck. Hope everyone sleeps well. Night ~M~
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Devine, you decorated your house beautiful. The colors and the light make it look elegant. Thank you for sharing with us!
Mel, I love your dog. I have 2, but a lot smoler.
Good dreams eve
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Devine, you decorated your house beautiful. The colors and the light make it look elegant. Thank you for sharing with us!
Mel, I love your dog. I have 2, but a lot smoler.
Good dreams everyone
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Leapfrog, thank you! Tomorrow I am going to buy a box of mask. I am worrying too much about what the people would think, but Now is the time when my health is more important . I hope next time my body will cooperate and be able to finish the cilcle.
God bless you and Merry Christmas to you
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Divine, beautiful decoration. My little tree would go unnoticed in your house. I have a few things here and there, gifts over the years to help feel Christmassy! As always poinsettias for the beautiful red leaves and a lovely lady brought me an orchid the other day. (Help, help, I always kill them, any advice greatly appreciated). Off on our little trip to Valencia tomorrow with 2 good friends, hope to send some photos from Spain. Must get up and organise the packing!!
Wishing all you ladies a Happy, healthy as possible, wonderful Christmas, whether with family, or with friends, or alone. Hope you all enjoy some lovely food. (Calories are invisible this week). Kisses and hugs for everyone, my hugs with children and grandchildren will be virtual). Merry Christmas and I hope a great 2018 xxx
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Every year in our small community the fire house brings Santa around on the fire truck just before Christmas. The have lights and sirens and Santa is on a big float. The firemen go up and down the street and give cookies and candy to the kids. Tonight I heard the sirens and mentioned to my 25 year old son that Santa must be coming. I reminisced about when they were little and SO excited about this. We would bundle them up and run out to see Santa. I mentioned how I missed those days. Well when Santa hit our street last night, my son ran downstairs all excited and said Santas coming, let's look! We watched together shoulder to shoulder and I'll never forget that he took the time to make me happy. Makes me cry just writing this.
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Lynwood~The same thing happens in our neighborhood! It's precious memories that apparently you just experienced again. I am crying just writing this because my two were also always bouncing down the stairs waiting to be let loose through the door, outside to receive what Santa was giving! Precious memories, thank you for bringing that up. My DH agrees. Young memories of our kids always get us right in the heart!
One year I'm thinking like 2011, my neighbor across the street, her husband got up like every other December 13, and kissed his pregnant wife of 6 months goodbye for the day until he would be home later that night......she went about her day as normal, walking her precious son,a check up on the little girl they knew that they were having. A beautiful lovely family. For sure, wonderful man, picture perfect family.
Later that day, there was some word on the news about a terrible accident on the PA turnpike. We could see the helicopters above the road in the very very far distance, but they were there. A terrible accident had occurred with a passenger car and a large 18 wheeler truck was involved and the road was closed for 18 miles both ways. Everyone went about the day knowing about the accident butnot really knowing ....yet.
My DS and I were on our way home from picking him up from school and I did everyday, and we rounded the corner, and there parked in front of my sweet neighbors house, were a local and a state trooper cop cars. I immediately knew what had happened. Kevin, her husband was the one in the car, the tractor trailer didn't stop ontime, and it literally ran over his car, the car exploded on in pact and he was gone. All they could give her was his ring, which after the fire was out and the ashes of the wreckage removed, was laying in the middle of the road.
Now she wears his ring around her neck as she walks her now 5 year daughter who was born three months after her father died, the man she willl never know to the bus stop for kindergarten She looks just like him. Amazing. So damn sad, everytime I see his wife. I realize how strong she is, and actually how lucky I am. Even though I have cancer, I get to say my goodbye.
He just went to work one day and never came home. I wouldn't want that. She still six years later, has never remarried and won't even date... she had her once in life love she says. Maybe when her kids are grown, she will change her mind. She is only 33, when he died she was only 27& he was just 31. Real love.
That year the Santa float and truck stopped at her house and everyone in the neighborhood came over to her house and laid gifts all over the front porch and stairs leading to her husbands second car, her son little zachary was only 3 years old at the time. Everyone bowed to her and her family carried each and every gift inside to her tree, that they also carried in fully decorated because everyone knew there was no time for a tree to be done , the funeral had just happened!! But for the young boy the community did it. No one knew what else to do.
It was so very heart wrenching watching her fall to her knees when the state trooper walked to her porch and told her. I live across the street, although I could not hear the police Officer, I heard her crys. Of. "OMG PLEASE NO, not Kevin......and screaming and she then fell... her sister was visiting for some reason at the time. We didn't see her again, until the funeral,and then she didn't come out again until the night the truck came which was about 4 days before Christmas. She is not the same, never will be. Every time I sit on my porch, I can see their yard, where the now aged 8zach and now aged 5, Madeline play and laugh on their swing set. All I can remember is Kevin waving and then the biggest smile ever when he was playing with his son everyday after work. They went everywhere together. Awaiting his precious girl. Who looks just like him. But he won't be seeing them. It's just wrong.
So my point in telling you all this story is this.... let's love while we can, tell everyone how we feel while we can ...even though we have cancer. We are alive and fighting everyday. Some people don't even get the chance to fight. We have been given, not only a chance to fight. But to love like we are dying. Maybe not today. Certainly not tomorrow, could be ten years or more. But let's appreciate love, friends , family, (ok some family members that are estranged, like a big portion of mine ,) I know some people have estranged family for a reason. I don't mean them, but hold our people
We love as close as we can. Don't let one day go by where you don't tell them you love them. Love is precious and so fragile. I have that constant reminder every time I go out my door. That story changed my life. It made me see, terrible things will and do happen. We need to fight, for everything in life. Just plain everything.
Love you guys ~M~
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Just stopping by to wish you all a Merry Christmas, oldest dd will be home soon, we will do some shopping and lunch before her sisters get home from school and then the fun starts..Scans Wed next week and results Thursday, Ive been feeling pretty good so not to concerened....but still thinking about it..
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Keetmom~Merry Christmas 🎄 to you too my friend. Hug those precious daughters for me and I hope you make some wonderful memories with your very special family. Big hugs to you sweetheart! Much love ~M~ We will be with you during your scans. I will be thinking of you and little mini me will be in your pocket, making sounds to distract you. We are here. Lean on us. 💕
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Micmel, what a tragic yet beautiful story. Life truly is a fragile thing. Cancer makes us even more aware of this every day. Thanks for sharing this story and your message of love,
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Lynnwood~ it truly is tragic....I went out today to go grocery shopping,with my DS, it was a zoo, people everywhere. I can't imagine wanting to wait until Christmas 🎄 eve to get everything purchased and wrapped. Even when I was young I could never do that. Some people enjoy the hustle and bustle of this. I say no way.....more power to you, if you can do that. I have four more presents to wrap! I am not doing anything tomorrow, there were a few things I missed even on a list. It was just too busy...someone is going to have to run out and get it. I hope everyone is safe and all done things that need to be done. Much love ~M~
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Good Friday afternoon all
I read through our thread on my phone. Everyone is making amazing memories and the pictures look like home and garden. Magazine from the decor inside and outside balconies included leapfrog.
I had a couple of miserable nausea hot flash days. Relatives came and I sent food out to them. I had no strength left after cooking. Cancer is not hospitable.
Hubby and I are off to Atlanta to visit grandkids. Ginger ale ginger candy pretzels are keeping the hurl in check.
Happy holidays to all
This makes for a great read like a novel if you miss a few days.
Take care all and thanks for sharin
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Micmel I didnt see that story in my email. I think it updates into the thread sometimes and mail later.
It was a heatwrenching tragedy. I appreciate you for sharing. It definitely encourages us to be the best we can be while we're still beings.
My granddaughter 23 contacted me a few days ago and told me that she was. Breaking up with her 30 something year old live in boyfriend. She asked me for help getting her stuff out of his apt. We agreed to help of course so we're on our way to Atlanta. Well try to make the best of it.
Grandma and grandpaduty calls
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Tanya~Please be safe on your travels. Sometimes people are jerks on the road. It's wonderful you're going to support her. She's very lucky to have you. Life is so hard. But So is love sometimes as well. I sure hope you're feeling Better. I hooeThose chills\heat flashes are hitting the highway the other direction than you! Hope everything goes smoothly for your granddaughter. Much love ~M~. That story is very tragic and it enters my mind quite a bit and allows me to be thankful for the medicine working and I am getting stronger !
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Blueshine ....I'm so glad you're going to buy the masks. Be sure to get the best ones you can. Some of them are hardly worth wearing so ask at your pharmacy or at a medical supplier if you can.
I'm going to wish you all a merry Christmas and a much healthier New Year tonight as I'm having my son and his girl friend (note two separate words!) here for the day and will be busy.
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leapfrog~I love the picture. I love that fact that you're having your son and his girl friend over. I know the love you have for him and spending time together for 🎄 Christmas is very special when you remember all the times before, and how you watched them grow! Every year we have a picture we take at the too of our steps upstairs, they sit together, the after pics are done. They come down stairs and the opening begin.... usually with stocking stuffers. But hang on to every second and Merry Christmas to you and your family!! Much love ~M~
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I sometimes thread hop as we all do, there are some sisters on these threads, that are really suffering. They didn't get the results we have, they are struggling and trying to live everyday without terrible pain and loss of sight, I want to send big supportive hugs and let them know we care.....we are thinking of Lita & Blue bird! Sending out love and support! Much love ~M~
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........Hope everyone is going to enjoy Christmas, and with tomorrow being Christmas Eve.. grab the ones you love, and never let go. My DH is surprising me tonight with a red lobster dinner, one of my very favorites. It's raining and gross out. But he went anyway. I adore this Man, I have been blessed with in my life! Hugs and best wishes. Much love! ~M~0 -
mmmmm.... lobster
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Mae~Hi darling. I thought today was the day you took off. I am sending you happy traveling thoughts, I hope you have a blast with your DH and enjoy that beach front place and the feast of seafood. I am so jealous !! Please send pics! As many as you feel like sharing. I have never really Been to California only LAX airport! Not too much views to see there. Be safe.... How long will you be gone?Much love ~M~
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Hey gals! I will resurface after Christmas! Just wishing you all a restful, peaceful, and joyous holiday.....Love MJH
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MJH~Be safe and Merry Christmas sweetheart. Thinking of you and your daughter and her strength she's shown and the devotion of a mothers love. You're a wonderful woman. Much love toyou and yours! Hugs ~M~
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.....my DD is the one on the left with the dark hair with her friend and coworker. They were the winners of ugly sweater day! My DD is my precious sweet 22 yearold and she is a good girl. My princess without a country ! But she is my oldest !! Enjoy the love of your family!! Much love ~M~ 0 -
I'm not a fan of selfies, but my granddaughter is. Merry Christmas.
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One last Christmas pic. My beautiful granddaughter is on the upper left, grandson just below her. This from my Christmas gathering with my best friend and all of our grandchildren and children. We have nine now. We get matching pj's for them each year 0 -
Grannax and Michel, LOVE seeing all of the pictures of the most important people in your life! There are only 9 of us but I say we are small in numbers but mighty in love. Wishing all of my friends here a blessed holiday and enjoy! You are all important to me and have helped me more then you will ever know. I thank you all
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micmel. Your daughter is beautiful, and a princess without a country? I'm curious about the story behind that description. Ha.
I'm having my DSIL's family for dinner at my house at 1:00 today. And here I am writing and drinking coffee ( like I do almost every morning) instead of vacuuming! I still have lots to do. I decided to do this every Christmas for their family because having my house decorated and having no one see it is very sad for me. It also helps their family because none of them really like to decorate and my house is a central location. I'll never understand how my daughter did not get the Christmas decor gene. I have every Christmas type decor known to man because I was born on Christmas day. Through the years the my collection has grown. Nothing fancy, just things that remind me of the people who gave them to me.
I especially miss my DH this time of year. Not just because I can't get the house lights up without him, it's just a void where a loyal, always smiling, always helping, big hearted man used to be. He was the draw for our family. He made everyone feel as if they were the most special person on earth. He was loved everywhere, at work, at church and with family. He loved me for forty years.
This year, I get to go to my son's home tomorrow. This is the first time in seven years that has happened. He's been far away, during medical school and residency, but now he's here, finally. It's a real treat to be able to be with my family on Christmas Day/my birthday. I'm having a big one this year, 70 years old. Because of BC and MBC, there were times I never thought I'd live to be this old.
Last Christmas I even wondered if I'd be here. I'd just been DX and prescribed Ibrance/ femara. I had sceptical faith in this TX. I didn't know if my cancer would respond. I didn't know how the SE would make me feel. Then, I found this forum. Your stories gave me hope. Then, I felt more courage. Then, best of all, I found out my MBC was responding. All of that got me to this Christmas. Here I am, able to decorate,able to have family for dinner, able to drive to my son's house, able to enjoy my grandchildren and happy to celebrate the season. What more could I ask for? Maybe a little more energy to be able to vacuum my house! Ha 🎄🎂🎅😍
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