Sep 26, 2021 10:11PM - edited Sep 26, 2021 10:15PM by Miriandra
IllinoisLady, We have several of those signs around our neighborhood. They always comfort me.
Sandy, I liked your essay on "woke". I especially appreciated this part: "... and the pattern of words & conduct that demonstrates whether or not that person has since acknowledged the wrongfulness of their prior words & deeds and has sincerely rejected them. (Or, conversely, tries to justify or defend their prior insensitivity or even worse, continues to stand by it)."
This was what made Kavanaugh's (and Anita Hill's testimony against Thomas) hearings so odious. Bill Maher aired a rant against people being held accountable today for acts done ages ago and how we should just let it go as the past. He offered Al Franken as an example, but also Kavanaugh's high school "hijinks". But the big difference was that Franken owned his mistake, recognized he was wrong, and gave every indication he regretted it and would never do something like that again. Kavanaugh, however, put on a big show to deny everything and discredit Ford. And his "defense" was so obviously contrived and bogus. Yes, high school and college were a long time ago for him. But the message he delivered to today's high school and college boys was, "You can do whatever you want to girls in school, with no consequences or negative impacts on your adult career. Just deny it all, and you'll be fine! We got you, bro." The message sent to today's high school and college girls was, "You are just fodder for boys to inflict their hormones and penises on. You can go on to a successful career later if you want, but your sexual safety in school is way low on our priorities. You just don't matter as a real person."
If Kavanaugh (and Thomas, before him) had turned the story, - "I'm so sorry. I was a real idiot in school. I was a spoiled, privileged rich kid who thought everything and everyone was at my disposal. I was steeped in a frat-boy culture that objectified women and deviously tried to set them up to be accessible and available for sex - conscious or otherwise. Now, as a mature adult, I look back on my early behavior with disgust and shame. I hope the Committee will see and accept my sincere regret and contrition. Dr. Ford, I am so sorry for what I did to you in school. I was wrong. My message to young men today - do not behave as I did. Do not harass or assault your fellow female classmates, or any woman for that matter. She is there to take classes and enjoy campus life, just like you. She is not there for you to trick, coerce, or force into sex. So don't do it. Otherwise, you risk long-reaching consequences that could cost you the successes you think you might deserve. And if you casually harm someone to impress your friends, use someone for sex without their consent, or use sex to flaunt your power over someone - well, maybe you don't really deserve those successes after all." - they might have mollified a lot of their opponents.