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AStorm, Wow what a terrible start to Monday morning! Hope the CRY BABY BLUES drink will help...if not, get a pitcher full of them! Hope your headache and sore eye will be better soon!
Junie, I agree with Lori....I will try not to get on your bad side...LOL. J/K....I know you would never do that to your breast friends....ex-husbands are a different matter!!! With my first husband, he drank a lot, passed out, was mean to me, broke things, etc. SO one day I wanted to break something in anger....but didn't really want to break anything I liked...sooooo....my MIL had given us some acorn squash that I knew nothing about how to cook, so I threw one of them....into the trash can...LOL. Could not even throw it against the floor and make a mess! Not to say I don't get angry (far from it!), but I just couldn't break something that I liked, or something to make a mess that I knew I would have to clean up. Funny, yeah!
Chrissy, I am looking forward to your cooler temps, but will need to check temps for Sydney, and Brisbane to know what to pack. Also, we will be in the Blue Mtns a couple of nights, and I heard it may be very cold there! I would LOVE to get to meet you, but it looks like we have a busy schedule right now....getting together with the relatives, and doing stuff with my parents. Would be different if you lived in Sydney as we could maybe meet for a few minutes, but not for you to have to make a long trip. That was sweet of you to think of that though!!!! I really treasure the times I got to meet junie, and Stanzie.....very nice getting to meet our online bc friends!
OK...trying to decide which DOTD to partake in....hmmmmmmm.....think I'll just ask Pants to surprise me with a drink! And maybe if Jocks is not tooooo busy, can get him to give me a back massage by the pool! Pool seems pretty empty right now, but the bar and casino are packed!
BARMEN and ChEARS!
Kathy
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Ooo, Hissy-fit stories! I have Latin roots and a really bad temper but THANKFULLY a long fuse and many life lessons. I once threw a fork at my ex. He injured his knee doing something stupid and then got verbally abusive with me when I wasn't waiting on him fast enough. He needed a fork and it was the quickest way to deliver it! Then I got to watch him try to come after me on crutches... the lessons: never marry an abusive jerk but if you do, get out before he can walk again.
One time a neighbor threw dog poop on my front door mat (the previous owners of our house aparently allowed their dog to do this and we are both brunettes so I guess I deserved it), then he pounded on the door and stood brandishing his shovel at me when I opened the door with a newborn baby and a toddler. I called the police as I did not want some kook to think that he could take out his bad day on the wimpering woman across the street anytime he pleased. A few years later I was setting up a kiddie pool in the front yard and noticed him on the sidewalk staring into my backyard, which gave me the creeps because my girls were playing there. When I asked him if he needed something he confessed that his dog went into my backyard. I bit my tongue and went to retrieve his dog. I gently handed the sweet little dog to him and said "there is a leash law, you know." A few minutes later he was standing in front of my house again. Apparently the girls left the front door open and the dog went INTO MY HOUSE! looking for them. Before going inside to retrieve the dog, I suggested that he must be freakin kidding. No, he wasn't. I warned him that I have Latin roots and PMS and if his dog made a mess in my house I was going to rub his face in it. Thankfully I didn't. The kids in the neighborhood have all grown up now but they still call him the Poop-man. Lesson? Well, I made a conscious decision not to live with an abusive jerk and if one insists on living across the street from me he needs to know who he is dealing with.
I threw a glass of water at a jerk in a restaurant once. He was a prospective employer and I thought the lunch date was a business meeting but he made a different kind of offer and was quite crude. I swear it was not pre-meditated! Maybe my guardian angel did it. One minute the ice water was in my glass and the next thing you know he was getting the cold shower he needed. Lesson: men don't know when they are out of their league and can't always control their desires so we must always be prepared with an alternative means to help with these deficiencies.
August has no holidays so I think we should declare one! Any ideas? I could really use a party... preferably one that doesn't require me to see straight.
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My abusive ex (DD's "natural" father"--I like to say unnatural...LOL)...will be in town to see them this wknd....only 2nd time in over 30 yrs for him to see them. And his first time to see the grandkids. Of course I want to NOT run into him, so will try not to go out much, except to watch SIL in triathlon. But youngest DD told me this morning something she heard. Seems appropriate for our rants here lately...."It is better to have loved and lost, than to live with the psycho forever"! I like that one!!!!
AStorm, we have Lori's bday on the 27th to celebrate!!! Anyone else w/ a bday? Also,can celebrate NM's mom doing SO MUCH better and able to get out of the hospital!!!! SO glad to hear that, NM!!! So lots of reasons for more parties here!
BARMEN!
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N.M. - what a relief!!! I'm so glad your Mom is doing better and hope she goes home soon. That is always so scary and you'd have to leave Sadie!
Ok, goldie, I have to ask..... why did you think you were a year older? whatever the reason apparently your doctors are totally off as well.....
Kitty, you know one of the best makeup experience I ever had was just at a department store which I never do stop for their makeup as I just assume they want to sell you expensive stuff. Well this one lady was lovely and I really liked what she did and ended up asking her to do my Wedding makeup and she turn out to be really good cause the day before I somehow shut my car door on my nose! Yes terribly talented I am. It basically just scraped all the skin off my nose straight down. She was able to cover it all up! I was late for the Wedding but I looked good!
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Stanzie - What a story about your mom! That is incredibly frustrating that the dr did not act at the first signs!! I was told my mamo and us were B9 and I could wait and see for 6 months. I was going to wait since I'd had a few other times I thought I felt lumps, but thanks again to DH, he insisted (says he had a gut feeling???) I have it biopsied right away. The rest is history. I have a friend who also was bugging his doc for a long time. He's had multiple problems, surgeries, chemo, rads. So sad when they don't act when it's first starting and easier to treat. What a tragedy. As for docs, I've been happier with the female ones.
Junie - LOL Jocks doesn't know if he's buying Crystal Light, Ducolax or Vodka!! That's a good one! Great ideas on handling anger...when I was in the corporate world I did a lot of writing letters not intended to send, where I could get all the "f*@k You A$$holes" out of my system. Those got deleted and then I could deal rationally with the situation. I also started writing scripts for certain difficult phone calls. Then on the phone I could just calmly read what I wrote with all the "f*@k You A$$holes" tucked neatly inbetween the lines. Hope you are enjoying your dog beers!!!
Chrissyb - 55 deg? Where I am the temps have been all over the place. This morning it was 39 outside, now it's 70! By noon I'm guessing it will hit 80 or so. It's so nice and sunny and the bluest skies! I have some nice warm slippers for the mornings, then switch to flip flops in the afternoon!
Kitty - I agree with AStorm. You have a ton of natural beauty and no wonder they got you to be the model!! They were probably looking at you with envy and hoping they could look so good! I could never find one of those classes at a time I could get to until my last round of chemo which is in November, so I just have to rely on makeovers I've learned from in the past. The best was at Lancom. My eyes have been so teary it's hard to wear any eye make-up. When I do, I'm using a Le Crayon eyeliner pencil that is kinda soft and schmeary. It helps make up for my short, light eyelashes. I haven't tried fake eyelashes. I think I'm too lazy for that. I'm glad the beer tasted good. My chemo nurse said it was okay to have a glass of wine or a beer between cycles but wine hasn't tasted good. I might try a dog beer for happy hour today. Yeah, how crazy to like water over beer???
NM - as always the perfect drink!! Forget the beer, I'm having a PINK PANTHER. So glad to hear things are going better for your mom. Hope your lupron shot goes okay. Thanks again for the DOTD.
Goldie - Great drink for all us cry babies. I like the Hurricane glass too for those of us with bad tempers!! I'm almost a year older than you, I'll be 53 in Nov. Hope you have a great trip.
AStorm - I don't know how you parents handle it. My gorgeous neice had dreadlocks for a while, she went to UCSB...oh, my brushing them out must have been hard on you both! As for your eye, that sounds painful. One time I was trying on sunglasses and the plastic thingy that holds the price tag poked my eye and I ended up in the emergency room. It hurt sooooooo bad, but it got better so I'm hoping the same for you.
Wahine - LOL throwing the acorn squash into the trash...I'm sorry anyone would treat you mean. Can we throw the bad ex's into the trash too? I was married before and am glad to have a good husband this time! Let's just have one of each of the drinks and jump back into that beautiful pool.
Now I'm going to town to get groceries and start on my bar. In WA we have state liquor agencies so you have to go to a separate store to get real booze.
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Well, my Mom called about an hour ago. She's finally been sprung from the hospital, had to wait to get an echocardiogram and have it read by the doctor. Apparently she has a couple of leaky valves, which can't be of much concern since they told her to follow up with the cardiologist in one year. Still, she is 73, and I'm a little worried anyway. . .
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NM, I am so glad to hear you mom got to leave the hospital!!! HOORAY! Still haven't heard from my dad's (will be 94) echocardiogram from several days ago....but do know he found out recently he has a leaky valve too, plus heart murmur. Glad to know your mom does not have to see the cardio for another year!!!! *****DOING THE HAPPY DANCE*****....oops, I slipped....j/k, but I really am soooo happy to hear such good news!
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doing the happy dance for NM's mom. I'm sure she'll feel better at home. Hospitals suck.
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Happy Dance all around!!! Bring us a round of something and I'll have a glass of water on the side, just in case!!!
Lori - how were you able to wear false eyelashes? I was told that you can't wear false eyelashes during chemo because you have to have lashes to anchor them. I still have some lashes left. They are long, but sparse. I'm doing okay on the make up, esp the eye shadow and liner. I've visited the MAC counter many o'times. However, I am now struggling with the brows. I got a new liner and it's too soft. I draw on the brows to fill in the holes and brush it out. I'm sure I'll get this right before my sister's wedding. Now I'm thinking of visiting the MAC counter and asking them about false lashes. Maybe I can schedule a makeover when I'm in NY for the wedding so they can help me with the lashes??? Hmmm....
I still have to get a dress for the wedding! My mom bought me a dress to wear, but I haven't tried it on yet. I wanted to wear something long or almost long. And I have to find something to cover up this STUPID port!!!
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I wanted to post a Happy Dance for the DOTD, but I couldn't find a recipe for one, so I guess we'll have to make due with Happy Juice:
1 1/2 oz Coconut Rum
1 1/2 oz Peach Schnapps
1/2 oz Guava Juice
1 oz Pineapple Juice
1 splash Passion fruit Juice
1/2 oz Looza mango nectar
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Astorm, sorry about your rough day. How DOES one do dreadlocks??? They certainly look like they would be hard to comb out! Also, sounds like weiner dog needed a Cry Baby Blues as well! LMAO at your "fork delivery", and I'm thinking that neighbor was a lucky man, that his pooch didn't do his business in your house. Altho, how funny would that have been, to see you rub HIS nose in it! And good job with the water.
Kathy, boy you really showed that ex of yours, throwing that squash in the trash. That'll teach him! Wow, only 2nd time in 30+ years to see his daughter. Why even bother? I think if I were your daughter, I would not want to see him. My son's paternal family wanted to meet him, so he went with his sister. After the first meet, they never contacted him again. The father said he would meet up with him when he came to MI for a family reunion, that didn't happen, also had him on Facebook. But at least I told him ahead of time, all this was possible and since he never knew any of them, it was no big deal. And, it might be my b-day, but I wouldn't call it a "Holiday"! But thanks anyways.
Stanzie, I have no idea why I thought I was a year older! Chemo brain? Maybe cuz I really don't care how old I am, I don't' feel like I should be 53 or even 52, for that matter! But more so......HOW THE HELL does one close their nose in the car door??? ‘Splain that one Lucy!
Beans, I would have loved to have read some of your "unsent" letters. I'll be they were doozies!
NM, glad to hear about your mom. I have one of those leaky valves as well. I was suppose to go for follow up, cancer got in the way, then asked my reg. Doc if I should go, and she said no, she couldn't hear anything unusual. I also hear it is a quite common thing. Great drink, and another one sounding half way healthy!
Heather, I just put the glue on the lashes and stuck em on my lid. I think that's why they poked (on the ends). I know they have those individual lashes that can be glued on as well. I didn't try those. You will be just fine, and you will be your own worst critic. I doubt anyone will even notice that you don't have lashes, let alone the port.
Heading out very early tomorrow morning, and y'all know I don't usually post when I'm gone. Just don't have time. I do try and get some reading in tho, just so I can keep up. Have a grand ParTay for me on Friday, and know that I am there in spirit. Have a Duck Fart toast for me! Maybe I can check in later for Pau Hana (hope I spelled that right).
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Ha ha...just came upon this thread, haven't seen it before.
YOU KNOW YOU'RE A CANCER PATIENT WHEN.....
I only read the first page, but putting it in my favs.
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A-storm - I so have too many days like that. Today was the first day of school for all the kids. So I told them over and over last night to make sure they had all their stuff together... So who is the worst? The oldest of course, he couldn't decide what to have for breakfast or what shorts to wear ! He is going into 8th grade and wanted to look "cool"! My youngest DD she was up before I got her up dressed, made her own breakfast, packed her own lunch, took out the trash.... My son with Ds was perfect till we all piled into the car. As he rides the bus which depending on when it comes not much time to get the other two to school so we all sit in the car at the bottom of the driveway. I told him to sit in front as it is quickest to get out and won't have to climb over the other two's backpacks. So where does he sit. In the furthest back of course then refuses to move.... At this point my oldest is still trying on clothes which he brings into the kitchen saying "don't look!" and then left his soccer shoes and sock out to dry - ( in the rain! last night???) . Sorry about your eye A-Storm not fun at all.
Love the poopman story!!!! Hilarious, Hilarious!
I'll also throw in agreement Heather you are so pretty no one will think twice about you not being just beautiful for the wedding. I never knew that about false eyelashes and needing real ones to stick on..... And the spider eyelashes story for the Wedding - AStorm I can so picture exactly what you mean by spiders! I'm glad you were able to get some good pictures.
NM and Wahine - I so understand still being worried about your parents - it's as much as worring about your kids.You just now have it on both sides - very hard times.
Happy back to school day for me!!! I mean my kids are in school, not me!
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Goldie - we must have been typing at the same time. Man what is is with these awful Dad's? I'm so sorry for you and Wahine but sounds like all the kids did more than fine without them.
As for my nose - rare talent and supreme un-co-ordination - did I tell you about when I punctured my ear drum by falling when I had a Q-tip in my hand not even anywhere near my ear??? My Doc just stood there and looked at me for a long time when I showed him how it happened..... just weird talent of the not wanted kind.
Happy Birthday Goldie - So many August Birthdays!!!!
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OMG Stanzie...slamming your nose in the door and then another time falling with a q-tip ending up in your eardrum!!!! We are lucky you are still here with us!!! Sounds like everyone had some rough "first day getting the kids to school" times....NOW get a cup of joe and RELAX!!! Now you'll have time for some "me" time. I'll never forget those school year days....seeing the kids all bundled up cause it was cold outside, catching the school bus in front of our driveway, while I was inside all warm and cozy in my robe, and drinking a cup of coffee. OF course I would wave as the bus pulled away...lol....snug as a bug!
Yeah, rough when fathers don't really get involved, but I was glad while they were growing up, since I remarried the most wonderful husband and dad. He adopted my girls when we married. We were all lucky to have him (for only 12 short yrs though b4 he died), although in the back of their minds I know my girls wondered why their "real" father never seemed to care. My youngest DD is sorta putting it out of her mind...she doesn't really care if she sees him or not, but my oldest DD has lots of problems there. Maybe on this visit she can figure some things out. Will be a stressful weekend!!!
Heather, I second, and 3rd, etc., everyones comments that you ARE beautiful anyway! With or without lashes and brows!!! About those individual lashes though, not sure if they need real lashes to adhere to, but I saw a girl with them on last wk, who said she can leave them on for several days, unlike the strip lashes. IF they don't need lashes to adhere to, you could get them put on b4 you leave for the wedding. Just a thought! You will be gorgeous anyway....just give them that big smile!!!
Love the DOTD NM! All my fav fruits..mango, guava, passion fruit, and pineapple....yummmmmm! And I still have coconut rum from St.Thomas......lets mix some pitcherfuls and pass it around! The temps have lowered...yay....around 90...might need a sweater (j/k!). Lots to do, so will have my "Happy Juice" and get started!
ChEARS,
Kathy
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Happy birthday, Lori! Actually I don't know if there is a technique for creating dreadlocks. I think you just stop combing it. My DD just doesn't comb her hair, ever, and she has this way of pushing it back that makes it tangle. Once the cuticle is damaged, it just mats itself no matter what you do. She doesn't want a hair cut and doesn't understand what my issue is.
Stanzie, congratulations on getting the kids out the door. I've stopped giving advice ... they can't hear you ya know.
The new avatar is our wiener-dog in the custom knit sweater I just finished -- now that there is a heat wave. We're supposed to have our 3 days of summer all at once. I'll need a bucket of that Happy Juice, Pants.
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Awww love the sweet picture!!!! I keep meaning to take more and more pictures of Liesl so thanks for the reminder....
I can NOT begin to imagine not combing hair and what happens.... That must be something else1 I would think it would hurt just being all tangled?? How does she wash it, or do I not want to know the answer....
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Stanzie - actually she washes it a lot, which contributes to the damage and matting. After combing out a particularly damaged section, I showed her how the hair was broken and she had a clump of 1/2" long hair sticking out. Didn't phase her. I think it's an anti-princess thing. She had really beautiful hair and everyone used to cpmpliment her which irritated her because "hair" is not something one has accomplished. The night before school started, I sat with her and explained that I can accept anything about her because I know she has a kind heart and would never do anything to harm anyone. Then I explained that, although I don't know why, her hair hurts my feelings and makes me sad. She agreed to let me comb it but this morning it looked tangled already so the next step is to get her to let me trim it up a bit. And I thought my concerns would be drugs, sex and alcohol!
For those mothers with daughters, wondering how you respond to the question: "will I have breast cancer too?" When my mother had bc, it didn't occur to me to ask that question. I didn't start thinking about it until I was in my mid 20's and my gyno told me I was at a higher risk. I don't want them to worry all the time, but they do need to take precautions and have early screening. I also share with them how much things have changed in the last 25 years and my hopes for a cure and for less harsh treatment options in the next 25.
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AStorm--I don't have children and so should probably keep out, but I wonder if you have had genetic testing? While that won't give a complete answer to your daughters' question, it would give some info. If your daughters are old enough to ask the question, they're old enough to hear the facts. Maybe you could ask your onc about the stats for your daughters given the family history? Having solid info to work with makes it a bit easier, even if there is no absolute answer.
Goldie--ifyou don't care how old you are, neither do any of us! I've been following the "You know your a cancer patient" thread for a while, it is hilarious!
Stanzie--do we need to wrap you in bubble wrap to keep you safe and uninjured?
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Ok, I NEVER laugh out loud but that got me - My daughter just came running in to see why I was laughing!!!! You are SO good!!! You know I used to compare my Mom to Lucy - as in I love Lucy which also makes Goldie's comment amusing as well but I never thought of myself that way but.....She just used to get in the strangest predicaments and it was alway hilarious....
I would love to find that you know you are a cancer patient thread and I can not find it, maybe all the bubble wrap is in the way. The link didn't work for me and I have been going thur the humor site till I noticed I was in 2005 and gave up......
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Ok, I'm going to have to check out that thread...
Thanks, NM. Actually I did have the BRCA test and was negative. My mom had 5 sisters and of the 6 of them, 3 had bc. I suspect there may be other gene patterns they have yet to identify. I think my girls are also concerned because we lost their aunt (my SIL) a couple of years ago from ovarian cancer. Unfortunately she was not tested so we don't know if she had one of the gene changes. My girls are 15 and 17 so it's a little early to test (plus we expect tests to improve significantly in the next few years). I'm hoping that in the next 10 - 20 years there will be advances not only in detection but also in prevention so that if they do test positive for a gene pattern they can do something about it (other than surgical removal of all the at-risk organs).
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AStorm--good point, there are a number of mutations on those genes that medicine doesn't know what, if any, significance they have. I hope lots of advanced, and a cure or, better yet, a prevention will be developed in time for them to take advantage of it.
Glad I could amuse you, Stanzie!
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Oh my gosh N.M you have no idea how fabulous your sense of humor is and how much I adore all your posts and I'm so flattered to be part of one!
Astorm as for what all it means to kids. wow that is just so huge! From what I know about you from your posts you will handle everthing just perfect. I do think telling my kids about this was just so life changing for all of us aside from telling them I have M.S. a few years before. sigh I just don't know I hope my kids will be stronger and more able to deal with life but where is the carefree fun childhood. With all the deaths of all the grandparents and relatives, my health, and my son with DS and divorce I can't imagine how they deal with everything it seems like too much to me. I only had one relative die when I was under 25 so this is so much ...... I hope they will be OK.
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http://community.breastcancer.org/forum/67/topic/755825?page=3#idx_61
Hmmm, maybe this will work. If not I will have to go back and see where it is. I think I saw something about the Stage 3 threads.
Astorm, I guess if dreadlocks are the worst of it.....let it go. If her hair falls out, she will have to deal with it, at least its clean! And you are right, they can't hear, so quit wasting your breath! They are young. I so love my relationship with my kids, now that they are adults. Teens and Tweens are just the worst! Hang in there! Try not to tell them too much, as it will go in one ear and out the other. It will make more sense when they are older and can comprehend what you are really trying to tell and teach them.
NM, love the bubble wrap for Stanzie! Too funny! Glad to hear ya don't care how old I am either!
Ok, I need to grab some Happy Juice and hope it helps me sleep. Had 13 STUPID hot flashes last night and need to be up at 4am to pack and head out by 6am for 11 hour drive to CA.
Love and huggles to all of you!
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No idea why that link doesn't work
You will have to search for it, or watch "active topics" for it. Below is where it's at.
Forum: Stage III Breast Cancer: You are not alone. Meet others who have stage III breast cancer.
Forum Index → Forum: Stage III Breast Cancer → Topic: You know your a cancer patient when....
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Goldie - Thank you finally found it. OK so it didn't occur to me to look under subject! Whoops!
I don't think I care how old I am anymore either....
As for the bubblewrap - you jut don't even want to know about all the other times it certainly would have come in handy....
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The lounge is sure quiet. Did everyone have a party without me and get 86'd? Well, not to worry....I will keep Pant's busy. g'day! Hunkydory
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Hunky - I think cause it is just way too hot around here even the pool isn't working to cool off in.
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Welllll, I looked at that other page and it's very funny and cool, but there were no drinks and no bars (not to mention party buses and yachts). I'm thinking of my HTL Hottie Tipsy Gals with big love and mucho hugs. Weeeenie Beenie
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Had to go to Back-to-School night at DD's school. It is a small school but almost every parent turns out. Last year I missed it. Tonight I got dozens of "how arrrre yoooouuu?"s (delivered with sympathetic looks). One mom commented that my hair looks good. Weird - my hair always looks the same. Oh, maybe she expected me to not have hair. ?
Stanzie - saw your post on the "know you're a cancer patient" thread. My DH had a similar reaction! Last night I was stressing about my surgery next week. He commented that he hopes the new ones are softer.
Way to ease my concerns. Compared to the TEs, the implants seem extremely soft to me, but crunchy. Guess he was just jaded by my awesome natural tatas. I ate my dog's antibiotic awhile ago. I'm so used to popping pills I just tossed it back without water. At least it's just cephalexin -- I won't be growing a tail or anything. I think I need a shot to go with it -- preferably tequila.
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