TIME TO CIRCLE THE WAGONS GIRLS
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Gina,you should talk to Nicki about these sorts of posts on a breast cancer site since mine was in response to hers. Actually, you are really the only one I dislike in the group you named. When did you start likeing them again? hmm? Don't mess with me gina, i got your number and people tried to tell me but i stayed loyal to you way too long. I am ashamed of myself for the things I said to people because of you. I was such a fool. But I know now. You would come to my site and rile everyone up and talk about bco like it was a hell hole and say you were just posting here once in awhile to troll for members. C'mon Gina, the jig is up. I know. Lots of people know but I woudln't listen to them at first. No wonder I was usually the only one sticking up for you.
You are such an egotist, you had to turn this around and make yourself out to be such a peace keeper with your flowery words. Well, this isn't really about you is it. I finished with you when I saw the truth about you in black and white. I responded to a very mean spirited post smearing my name. Mind your own business.0 -
Charlene,
I wish we could forget EVERYTHING and start everything fresh and new with the new year.
Just say good riddance to 2007 and move on.
THAT would be fantastic.
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Charlene, I am most impressed. Thank you girly friend broad!
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Gina .. yes, that Would be fantastic, wouldn't it? It sure goes down as my worst year on record, except for making some of the best real friends I've ever known. Too bad I had to get cancer for that to happen!
Cheri .. always, my friend!
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Parking my butt firmly on the confused couch...once again....
Liz- I just stopped in to check on you...DAMN inconclusive??? What the heck does THAT mean?? Grrrrr..... I am so sorry you have to once again wait through a weekend. If it helps any I have had 2 different radiologists tell me that bone mets were usually very clear cut, so if they couldn't tell, I bet you are just fine!!! They are just practicing CYA medicine. I have never had a pet scan, but it doesn't sound too bad....Hugs!
Slonedeb - glad to see you posting
Lynncan - are you Cheri? How is your foot?
Puppy - Hillbillys are welcome... you will feel right at home. No need to sleep in the barn, we have lots of room
Nicki- glad your snow stopped. Ours is still falling, but we WANT more snow for the skiing crazy kids.
Margaret - HI! Missed ya
OK...didn't go back any further...don't have the time or the patience for the drama. My girls both have a friend spending the night. I am going to go make dinner for them and watch a movie. Hope everyone can just get along....
Hugs
Deb C
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Amen, Charlene . I've made some of the best friends of my life here. Cheri's site is not negative at all. In fact, it's not a cancer site. We just enjoy each other's company. We all met here for crying out loud.I just don't get how people make us out to be so negative. I still enjoy the people here. Stop the BS, please!
Alive and Kickin'
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Charlene: I had to go back and read my post - and I stand corrected. I used the wrong choice of words referring to the forum being negative. That it is not.
DebC: We just got so lucky here in Chicago I cant believe. After all the fuss and worry we got about an inch of snow, the rest turned into rain. Now if I lived in Alaska I would want snow too. Hope the kids have fun going skiing.
Gina: I just know 2008 is gonna be a good year. I can feel it in my heart.
Have a wonderful evening everyone.
Nicki
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OK....Have you ever been in a crowded place and been able to hear only one part of a three-way conversation? Maybe someone says something titillating or interesting, but you really don't have any idea what the conversation is about? You can't help listening...because, well, gossip and drama are like driving by a car wreck...you just have to look....
Well...that is how I feel! I am sure that people have done and said hurtful things. I'm sure people are mad. Even going back and reading everything again, I still have no idea what is going on or even who is who for sure!
Can I ask a favor? Can we just drop it here? If there is a problem on another site can it please stay there?
Just my humble opinion...not picking sides, don't even want to know what the drama is about....just don't want to wade through it all...again....
Deb C
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YES DEB!
ABSOLUTELY!
I came into it because I wanted to support Nicki.
Everyone here knows what a valued member of this board Nicki is so I am leaving this now. I have asked everyone to drop it. Leave it all with 2007 and move on.
I have enough drama in my life with cancer- I don't need it on a breast cancer support board.
I am with you.....
NOT again!
Love,
g
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Oh my sisters and I will still say friends - Please, please stop this.
We have all suffered through so much; sometimes our words are based on lots of emotions that we are learning to deal with still; hormone levels that are all out of kilter. Do you get along with your closest family members at all times; do you not say things that aren't very nice about them or to them at times? I thought we all felt we were family - caring, love and hugs and then sometimes mean words and slaps. I thought we called each other sisters; I thought we all meant those words. I thought we had all learned that we were drawn to some more than others; just like in real families.
Please, please can we just stop talking about each other and saying mean and hurtful things. Can it please just end here tonight.
My stepchildren, spouses and grandchildren have just arrive for Christmas and I'm here and my heart is breaking once again. I always thought I was liked here and I thought I had been a friend - "thought" is the word. I've learned differently. It is quite a shock to learn that you are "totally disliked" and why do those words have to be even said for all to read after all we have encountered in dealing with breast cancer. Once again my heart is broken. People are being named and hurt. When we are upset or very angry with someone, are we any different than the person we are so upset with when we make negative post.
For whatever it is worth - PLEASE STOP, PLEASE. MOVE ON FROM WHERE YOU ARE NOW; LET IT GO. We just sent Christmas cards with kind words and good wishes - were they not sincere?
Cheri, I'm sorry your upset. Just as Jan and Charlene said you have a private site of people that are your friends; good friends. I'm not there anymore; but I only wish you good things; I want your leg to be 100% so you can enjoy a more normal life.
Nicki, you have been there for me since I arrived on the board. We are close in our treatment dates. You too often take care of others and not yourself. Thank you for being a friend in some very dark days a while back. I wasn't sure where I was welcome or if anyone would even speak to me. That hurt went very deep.
Gina, Vickie and Nicki - I've apologized over and over if I in any way have caused you to be hurt.
I'm just sick; just physically sick and emotionally crushed. Please stop. No one deserves to be hurt - NO ONE!!
Brenda
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I just learned that a friend from the Illinois thread - Fitzpatti passed away the day after Christmas. I was entering her name on the Angel thread and realized we have lost 6 sisters since November 15th. I want my energy to be used helping people.
DebC: Thanks and I so agree. Moving on is good.
Gina: You will always be a special friend to me. An inspiration.
Brenda: You stop crying and enjoy time with your family. You are very special to me also and always will be.
OK - its really bedtime now. See ya in the morning.
Nicki
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I would like Mena's current address. I have her old one. Would someone please send it to me via PM? Thanks!
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I'm going to stick my foot in it and just say this: I have been a much happier person since I left the other 2 boards I was participating in. I did not like who I became when I was part of it. If some of you are happy gossiping and badmouthing people in one place and then turning around and being all sweet and nice on another board, then that's your life. I have apologized before to anyone I may have spoken about on either Cheri's or Gina's board, in a private chat or anywhere else. It is not the person I want to be. Some of us have enjoyed the dreamer thread, there is the feeling of support and love we used to have before all the fuss started.
As for me, I will say Jasmine has been one of the most supportive people here, Pam, Cherryl, Odalys, Vickie, Peter, Jankay, and others, I'm sorry if I left you out, have always been there for me and others. Anyone is welcome at the dreamer thread, just please leave the controversy out. We are there for each other, good times and bad.
So, that being said, I'm off to pogoland.
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Nicki.
Why on earth did you start this?
Wrong thing to do especially here where it didn't belong.
Shame on you.
You even posted laughs about chocolate on popcorn as posters watched what you started.
Happy now? Try to keep your personal problems private instead of bringing them here and stirring everyone up.
Hinky meters are flying all over the place now.
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I didn't bring this here ladies. Your sweet sister, Nicki, did. I started nothing. I was slandered and simpley set the record straight. Nothing anyone here wouldn't have done. I'm finished unless it starts again. Sorry, to you ladies that had nothing to do with it. If I'm guilty of something then I accept that responsibility but I could not stand by and be accused falsely.
Cheri
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Nicki .. thank you for standing corrected. You really should edit your post once again to correct the poor choice of words because those that don't bother to read beyond your negative post will still have the wrong impression of Cheri's private forum. Perhaps you can clue Sheri in to what the people are really like that she is accusing of badmouthing and gossiping at another place (read Cheri's site, obviously) and how that kind of crap isn't happening there. We have so much to talk about involving our own real lives that we barely even give this virtual community a thought, unless it's to support someone in need. Tell it like it is Nicki, I think they'll listen to you.
Vickie .. wow, it's a real shame that you think "this is fun!"
Brenda .. beautiful post
Deb .. I agree, I'm done. Sometimes people get pulled into things, because they need to defend a friend against BS and/or defend themselves. Lord knows I don't need any drama in my life but it seems that a select few poor souls thrive on it.
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Deb,
I feel exactly the way you do. I only started posting on these boards a few weeks ago, everyone seemed so friendly, and caring---then BAM !!! I don't know whats going on or what to say to who ?????? Maybe I'll just go back to reading.0 -
Barb, please keep posting here. It is a very supportive and loving place. This was just a passing thunderstorm and has blown over.
Some things get blown up and when you don't know the history it is made even worse.
I have been here since the beginning and it is upsetting to me too.
This used to be a place where there were never any fights or problems. It used to be a place where the troubles on other forums couldn't come.
When the boards changed over to a new format everyone got displaced for a while and things got all messed up.
But things are back to normal here and this kind of stuff is just left over from the past confusion.
Please don't go anywhere. The people here are wonderful. This will all pass and be overwith.
Hugs,
g
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Sahalie, what the heck is a hinkey meter???
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Charlene....do I think this is really fun...ummm...no...a bit of sarcasm. I am not going to be pulled into the middle of this one...you are all on your own here...I treated you like the dear sister I felt you were and you hurt me deeply. For no reason. I've been hurt deeply by many people, many who have come forward and apologized...many who have not.
I am bowing out...stickin my head in the sand and sitting on the comfy couch.
I pray and love ya all...believe it or not...I've said it before and I'll say it again...
With me...what you see is what you get. Take it or leave...like it or hate it...I no longer care.
Vickie
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Sad, sad, sad....
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Vickie .. you put yourself in the middle of this one, I didn't and it hardly looked like sarcasm. You treated me Very sweetly except for the times you hurt me, including announcing my getting an afghan before you sent it out (which all other women in need of hugs get surprised by) because as you explained I whined for one (which I did not) and then telling everyone how you paid for the postage to send it to me out of your own pocket .. ouch again. I was so hurt by the manner in which you announced my getting an afghan (which you then went back and edited). You know how tough this year has been for me, considering all the crap I'm dealing with as a newbie. You hurt me more than I ever hurt you by trying to make me out as something I'm not. But I've seen you at other places, and I know who you really are. Believe it or not, I like you Vickie. You're real sweet and fun. But I'd never trust you ever, and you know why. I'm so tired of your innocent act and trying to cause problems for someone else in defense of yourself, in this case me. But what you see is what you get with me Vickie .. not with you. BTW, this should have been sent to me via PM, but being the drama queen you are, you had to post it on the board. Well, I have to respond on the board as well then. Like it or not. Sorry to everyone else having to read this trash.
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I don't recall editing my post...you twisted my words. I simply stated that I love the afghan project and that I have NO problem paying for the postage out of my pocket. It is MY gift to everyone.
You've seen me at other places...and just where would that be...
I was told that you were angry about not getting an afghan...I was told what a horrible person I was for not sending you one and I felt terrible at hearing such things...I would never leave anyone out of the afghan project on purpose. Madison keeps the list and I let her know when I have one ready...you were simply told you had one on the way so your feelings WOULDN'T be hurt.
I am playing no innocent act...think what you like. I was truly thrilled to have you as a secret pal...never expected you to post such nastiness about me...
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Vickie Just ignore what is being said about you good friend, I and many others know you well enough to see what garbage this is. You have always been supportive to all on the bco site, and have shown nothing but kindness to all. I trust you as a friend and always will.
Do not get sucked into this mess that is happening here once again, let them sort it out. You tried to defuse the situation by your first post, and now you and others are being attacked for no reason.
Brenda/Bmd thanks for you Christmas wishes and I hope all went well with the operation and you had a good festive season. What has happened here today is why I do not post in the CG thread any more.
I tried to stay out of this but when a good friend is being personally attacked I had to make my feelings felt.
Peter
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Vickie, I agree with Peter, just let it go.Don't get caught up in the fray. No good will come of it. We know who you are, and you have nothing to prove to anyone.
Peter, sipping on my medicinal brandy and about to tuck in for the night. Thank you for your post.
See you tomorrow. Have a good rest, everyone.
Cherryl
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Vickie .. see what you do? how supportive is that of a sister in need? You are the one twisting things. The post you edited was the one where you came out stating why you were sending Liz and I an afghan, not the one about the postage. I don't know why you'd even bring up paying for the postage when you're talking about what bills you can't pay unless it's to make someone feel bad. Your Gift to pay for the postage is wonderful .. until you make it such a big deal. You can't buy people's love Vickie. I was never angry about not getting an afghan. Simply telling me I had one on the way so my feelings wouldn't be hurt is BS and your way of twisting things around. The absolute truth of the matter is this: I asked one day, on a private forum of which you were a part, if it was wrong of me to state how much I would love love love to have a hughaghan. That was my exact words. It was said very lightly and with wonder. At the time, I was under the very mistaken impression that all of the CG's were recipients. I was told by several people that no, it was not wrong to wish to have all of those hugs from supportive sisters. I was going through a lot and knew what joy such a precious gift brought to others. I was just kind of hinting around about it because I thought perhaps I was forgotten about. I wasn't angry at all. I just remembered a post where you were looking for someone to send afghans to and I thought, "me, me, I can really use a hug". But my statement started a conversation about who may have received hughaghans, including a particular person that many people in the conversation didn't think was in need or deserving of one before so many others. The next thing I know, Liz and I are getting afghans because we whined about it. That's the post you went back and edited. At the time, I wanted to tell the truth about what prompted your post. But I didn't feel doing so publicly was the right thing to do. Then you deleted your post but only after everyone read it and we already knew you were sending us afghans and why. It was very, very hurtful to me. I was just dx'd in March of this year and at the time my baby was 17 months old, had BLM, then delayed recon expander surgery in July, then Hysterectomy/Oopherectomy in October. It's been a tough year. But you had no qualms about posting nastiness about me regarding the afghans and then trying to turn it around. In spite of that, I love my hughaghan made with love by my sisters all over this nation. I try not to let how I got it or why mar the meaning of it. But it's hard.
Peter, she tried to diffuse it? By saying, "shove over and share the popcorn...this is fun! " Please.
Cherryl, I was simply responding to Vickies post about how much I hurt her (without her elaborating of course). Seems she's made me out to be the one with something to prove.
BTW, Vickie, why do you think so very many have hurt you? You are always the victim, aren't you? Seems like I'm the one being attacked here now. Thank you very much.
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Charlene, sweet pea, I came here to be sure you weren't being ganged up on and to put in my opinion if you were but it seems you have handled yourself quite well. I guess you must've been carrying that pain around with you all this time and kept it to yourself until now. I'm sorry you got hurt. I am proud to call you my friend because you are so real and honest. Let's put an end to a day that got started off ugly and went downhill from there.
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Thank you Cheri. It's ridiculous when someone cannot take responsibility for something they say and instead tries to turn this whole thing into something about them and then hurts someone else in the process. Well I'm done. I don't need this and certainly nobody else here wants to hear all this either. Tomorrow is another day, right?
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I am so confused.
What is this about?
I thought this stuff stopped a long time ago.
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