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Is anyone else an atheist with BC besides me?

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  • socallisa
    socallisa Member Posts: 10,184
    edited August 2014

    Thanks😎

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 1,418
    edited August 2014

    Hi, Lisa!  Good to see you again.

    When I worked at a wildlife rehabilitation center in Huntington Beach, I specialized in rehabbing House Finches and Opossums.  Baby House Finches had to be fed 10 hours a day.  Baby possums had to be fed every couple of hours 24 hrs a day until they could feed themselves. 

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    Finches are elegant birds and excellent parents.

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    Possums are wonderful animals and are North America's only marsupial.  The live for 3 years and die of old age around their 4th birthday.


     

  • lassie11
    lassie11 Member Posts: 468
    edited August 2014


    Glad to see you Lisa - spectacular hummingbird photos.

     

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 1,418
    edited August 2014

    lassie,

    I just noticed your signature.  I was thinking of that very quote today.  Of course it is a well known Communist slogan but it a version of it appears in the New Testament:

    "Acts 4:32–35: 32 And the multitude of them that believed were of one heart and of one soul: neither said any of them that ought of the things which he possessed was his own; but they had all things common. 33 And with great power gave the apostles witness of the resurrection of the Lord Jesus: and great grace was upon them all. 34 Neither was there any among them that lacked: for as many as were possessors of lands or houses sold them, and brought the prices of the things that were sold, 35 And laid them down at the apostles' feet: and distribution was made unto every man according as he had need."

     It is such a compassionate thought although it has never been put into practice by any political system or religious system for that matter. 

  • flannelette
    flannelette Member Posts: 398
    edited August 2014

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    Hey it's me flannelette - I had reverse-chemotherapy and my hair grew back long & red. Thanks Glennie and hi & thanks for photos SocalLisa & Notself. always good to hear from both of you.

  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 302
    edited August 2014

    Beautiful pic.  I'm not an atheist, but as a friend of mine would say, I'm a Catholic with an explanation.  I like to read everyone's point of view.  I'm always open to others' understanding of life and as I am a non-conformist, reading here opens my mind to many ideas.  Just wish others would try it for once!  hahahaha!

  • brigadoonbenson
    brigadoonbenson Member Posts: 198
    edited August 2014

    Blue - Gotta love an open mind.


     

  • Manu14
    Manu14 Member Posts: 36
    edited August 2014

    Hope you don't mind me posting here. I'm newer to the forum. Somedays I describe myself as an atheist; while other days I feel more like an agnostic. And I occasionally attend a large Unitarian church depending on what is being discussed. 

    It was difficult for me when I was first diagnosed with cancer and a very elderly relative said to me: I just know everything will turn out fine because you're a good Christian woman. Arrrrgh! Fortunately I live far away from that relative and for decades have known not to bring up religion or politics. I simply let the remark slide and let him have whatever assumptions he does about me. 

    So, looking forward to following this thread.

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 1,418
    edited August 2014

    Blue, Good to see you on this thread.  Of course you are welcome.  I was raised RCC and my sister is very devout as is her whole family.  All she knows is that I am not religious.  She prays for me to "return to the church".  Not going to happen, but I don't tell her that.

    Manu14,  Welcome, although none of us really wishes to see another join this board.  For many years I flipped back and forth between labels --- atheist v agnostic.  I don't bother now.  I just see no reason to worship anything.  The universe is enough for me without knowing where it came from or where it is going.

    I do not believe in any sort of god that interacts with or controls humankind or requires worship.  A Greek philosopher said it best...

    “Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent.
    Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent.
    Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil?
    Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?”  
    ―    
    Epicurus  


     

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 1,418
    edited August 2014

    flannelette, I need to get me some of that reverse Chemotherapy!  I'd look great as a redhead.   Winking

  • spookiesmom
    spookiesmom Member Posts: 8,178
    edited August 2014

    Dumb question? What is reverse chemo? I just want more hair. Any color!

  • brigadoonbenson
    brigadoonbenson Member Posts: 198
    edited August 2014

    Flannelette - You're a fox!

  • socallisa
    socallisa Member Posts: 10,184
    edited August 2014

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    Here's some hair for you...lol

  • spookiesmom
    spookiesmom Member Posts: 8,178
    edited August 2014

    ok thanks!

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 4,833
    edited August 2014

    flannelette, u look awesome!!  

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 4,833
    edited August 2014

    love that Epicurus quote.  Excellent. 

  • river_rat
    river_rat Member Posts: 317
    edited August 2014

    Nice to see this thread active, and the pics……

    And flannelette, Wow!!!

  • flannelette
    flannelette Member Posts: 398
    edited August 2014

    hey all - you do know that is a cheap wig?  I was on a fundraiser cruise called the Furball.

  • socallisa
    socallisa Member Posts: 10,184
    edited August 2014

    but it was so cute

  • river_rat
    river_rat Member Posts: 317
    edited August 2014

    I've got to buy myself a red wig.

  • socallisa
    socallisa Member Posts: 10,184
    edited August 2014

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  • river_rat
    river_rat Member Posts: 317
    edited August 2014

    Lisa, is that an editorial comment?  Winking Yeah, a red wig won't work for everyone.

  • Dixie1
    Dixie1 Member Posts: 39
    edited August 2014

    Good evening ladies.  I was so glad to find this thread.  Sometimes I feel so lost in a world filled with Christians.  I was having chemo today and several people were talking about The Lord getting them through it and how he was going to cure them.   I guess anything that helps you get through this is wonderful but if God is going to cure you why did he let you get it in the first place.   I know from talking to a few people that they are never going to see my point of view and I'm never going to see theirs. 

  • glennie19
    glennie19 Member Posts: 4,833
    edited August 2014

    oh Dixie and you are in AL, right in the blasted middle of the Bible Belt.  

    ((Hugs)). And welcome. 

    I agree.  If Jesus is going to get me thru this, why did he give it to me in the first place? Was I bad?  Not as bad as some so why me? Why that 3 year old with cancer?  Surely that child didn't deserve it or are you punishing the parents? 

    I could go on but I know you get it.  

  • Dixie1
    Dixie1 Member Posts: 39
    edited August 2014

    Glennie,  I agree with you about the children.   Why do children suffer all over this world?   Not just from cancer but hunger, disease,   and all the other evils of this world. 

  • socallisa
    socallisa Member Posts: 10,184
    edited August 2014

    Don't you know there is an answer or an excuse for everything..

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 1,418
    edited August 2014

    Religion give people a feeling that through prayer they can control what happens to them or to others.  It allows people to face disease and death with a feeling that there will be a safe place for them.  I wish I could believe in those things but to do so I would have to stop thinking entirely and just clap my hands.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6IKaLF4Fqc


     

  • simplelife4real
    simplelife4real Member Posts: 341
    edited August 2014

    Notself...great choice of video clips...if only it were that simple.

  • socallisa
    socallisa Member Posts: 10,184
    edited August 2014

    I am always amazed that at the beginning of a ball game, both sides pray to win...

  • brigadoonbenson
    brigadoonbenson Member Posts: 198
    edited August 2014

    I decided to vent here because I don’t want to hear “we will pray for you” or :”Its in God’s hands”.

    I have a sister who has two daughters in their 40’s.  I don’t understand much about the dynamics of mother/daughter relationships because I have 3 sons and 5 grandsons.  My relationship with my granddaughter is wonderful and I am sure it is because we are a generation removed.

    Depression runs in our family.  Fortunately,  I don’t suffer with it and neither do my sons, that I know of. My sister has a very hard time with it. 

    She and her husband were very well to do for about 35 years.  They lived in a nice area, furs, diamonds, travel, designer clothes.  They were very generous and down to earth but enjoyed the things they had and could afford.  About  12 years ago they made a bad investment and lost everything. 

    All this is background for the depression that my sister has tried to rally from for a long time.  She has also been addicted to pills to numb the emotional pain.  She has worked hard to reduce the pills and seems to be handling the reduced life circumstances much better.

    My sister and her two daughters are wonderful people individually but  their relationship is not healthy.  My sister gets too involved in her girl’s lives with questions that start with “Have you”, “You should”,  “Why don’t you” etc. 

    One daughter rolls along trying to be Ms. Happy or dumping her concerns/frustrations on Mom and when she hit’s a snag in her own life will pick up on something my sister has done and bombard her with texts or a letter listing all of the faults my sister has and always has to have the last word. 

    The other daughter spends very little time on the relationship until she needs a sitter or  my brother-in-law to help with some project.

    Two weeks ago my sister took pills, drank a lot, passed out twice, once splitting her lip and was just in a general downward spiral which she fought her way out of.  She called me several times and to let me know what she had done or was doing and mentioning the fact that they had a loaded gun and had to keep reminding herself not to use it.

    Two days ago she and her daughters had a big electronic row and this morning she called me to tell me the story and again mentioned that she should take the gun and blow her brains out.  She always swears me to secrecy as I am the only one she can trust to talk to without having to worry that what she says will come back to haunt her.

    I feel helpless.  If I call someone  she will never forgive me.  If I don’t and she does something I will have done nothing.  If her family finds out that I knew, they will never forgive me.  On the other hand I feel manipulated and don’t want to reinforce that behavior by reacting to it.

    Oh, and she is a conservative Christian.

    Isn’t this all so sick?  Thanks for letting me vent.