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  • sueper13
    sueper13 Member Posts: 360
    edited October 2008

    Wish? I can't believe I missed you either. You have been such a support to me through this whole thing.

    I didn't do it on purpose, I promise.  ;O) 

  • wishiwere
    wishiwere Member Posts: 934
    edited October 2008

    Oh honey, I'm sure I've missed more than one at a time each time I post!  No worries!   Promise! :D

    It's so pretty today and no dh home. That's my IOS!  Probably by the time he gets out of work, the temp will in the 20's and snowing for our anniversary time off! :(  Hate snow....it's going to be a very long winter I fear....very long and cold and just ucky again!

  • sueper13
    sueper13 Member Posts: 360
    edited October 2008

    Wish,

    Which anniversary?  And congrats on it, whichever it is!  My dh is gone about half the time, too, so I relate to your alone-ness.....but then again, how many people do you know who have been married for (insert number of years here) and still have butterflies when they know "he" is coming home?  Not many! I think in a way we are blessed by their absences as it makes us appreciate when they are home!

    Hoping I can share my mild Texas weather with you this winter....if only cyber-ifically!

    Love,

    Sue 

  • cmb35
    cmb35 Member Posts: 554
    edited October 2008

    Hey all, we're back from Florida, and it's actually a beautiful day here in MA. I just spent a half hour reading (what a luxury) but the only things I can remember to specifically comment on are:

    Trish is feeling generally sucky - and hating it, Traci thought a tree fell on a horse - which made me spit cracker crumbs all over my keyboard, Harley escaped from the ungrateful shop owner, Nicki had a good day, Nancy's son is trying to make her puke oysters, someone had a rotten lunch with a nincompoop (wish?) and someone is having yeast issues (I was on a roll there for a bit!)

    I worked at a bank for years, we used PITA as code on the back of a check to indicate we were making an exception because the customer was a PITA, but my favorite was LOL/TAC which stood for: little old lady/take a chance

    A big that sucks to all, I'm off to take a nap (my son is at a birthday party and I don't have to pick him up until 8pm - woo hoo!)

  • sueper13
    sueper13 Member Posts: 360
    edited October 2008

    cmb,

    a law enforcement friend tells me they have shortcut codes too---SOCMOB (standing on corner, minding own business), TOGDI (the other guy did it)...you get the gist.   

  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 678
    edited October 2008

    Hi again.  Thank you for your support with the email thing.  I have never had security problems with the computer... my husband says we are "invisible".  So getting an email with the email addy given to the Guest Book made me very angry.  Of course I will involve myself in faking that I am someone's relative for $3.25 million dollars.  Of course I love to see the name of a BC ANGEL on top of this crap.  And now I will not be able to send a condolence message to anyone else.  Thats what this a$$hole did to me.  And everyone seems to think this is normal.  Maybe I am oversensitive. 

    Now Luanne..... I do believe your pump was working all throughout the trip.  Maybe a little too much .....?  You were a little more spirited than I imagined.... teehee

    Saint was exactly how I pictured her.  And as nice and loveable.  It was a real treat getting to room together.

    Nothing has been said that I could tell but the gift exchange was exciting.  Unfortunately there were so many people, gifts and names I lost any chance of naming everyone.  I received one lovely pale beaded bracelet, which I am allergic to (the clasp...) so will get it restrung to solve the problem.  Got myself a necklace and have to replace the clasp.  The trip just seemed to pass in its own time.  I ate like a pig.  Took my meds and still managed to get up early and stay up late.  I'd invite every one of those ladies home to dinner.  Whether they were rich or not, did not come through.  They were instant friends.  And I dont usually make friends easily.  Unreal in a good way.  :)

    Cold is easing up.  :)

  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Member Posts: 2,728
    edited October 2008

    Another week-end has flown by much to quickly.  I sure have enjoyed the time I had to spend with many of you.  My only IOS is that the Bears lost with only 11 seconds left.  Almost grabbed my bottle of xanax right then and there.

    LuAnn:  Sounds like you had a grand time.  I sure did enjoy the visual of Saint and Dreamer as Thelma and Louise.  Got a big smile out of that one.

    Sue:  You finished RADS and we didn't even celebrate.  Another milestone crossed.  Big congratulations to you.

    MissS:  Always good to hear from you.  Having aches and pains sucks...waiting for PET scans results sucks more. 

    Sherri:  Sorry your daughter went home yesterday as it sounds like you had a wonderful week with her.

    Wish:  Ha, looks like there has been alot of missing around here.

    Dreamer:  Having a cold while on vacation sucks but it sounds like you had a grand time.  That email thingy?  Whats up with that anyways?

    Colleen:  I knew I was missing you and I knew you went somewhere.  Hope you had a great time in Florida.

    Well speaking of being missing, the week-end is coming to a close and I will be the marking my spot trophy winner.  Hope the rest of your Sunday is wonderful.

    Nicki 

  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 678
    edited October 2008

    The email thingy was some dweeb pulling email addys from a Guest Book.  I was thinking of having my entire memorial done something like Luanne's.  It was lovely.  But now I dont feel it is safe to have my friends sign a Guest Book with name and addy.  It was because this dweeb chose this type of thing to invade incensed me.  And now I wouldnt sign someone elses Guest Book because thett may not be as secure as they seem.  And in some way I feel it is an insult to Luanne....

    I got the cold after the trip.  I was the sleeping princess for most of the time really.  We got in the car and I'd pass out.  I slept the whole way back and woke to participate in the Grand Cleaning.  And they took pix....!!!!!!

    I got some new pink stuff - actually loads of it... and am having everything restrung on elastic cause I have rashes on my wrist.  I know Im allergic but I couldnt resist wearing something soooo pretty. 

    Sherri I am sorry about your daughter leaving.  Mine left when she was pregnant to live in the next town over (I dont drive) and I visited her 3 times during the pregnancy.  I really valued every minute.  It is sooo hard to let them go.  BIG SUX.  BIG HUG

    Nicki  Why did you change your avatar?  I so associated that spunky little brave/girl with you.  Now you are the Good Witch of the North?  Are you going to send us all home without cancer?

    The dress shop quitter - am so glad you left that job.  That bee-yotch needs to learn a lesson.  From what you wrote, I am sure she did it to make you look bad.

    I am sloooooooowly learning the names of people.  Please have patience.  I will get to do one of those long blurb things soon.  But for now, I am picking up bits at a time.... all the best to those of you still smiling and a BIG FAT SUX to those who arent.

  • wishiwere
    wishiwere Member Posts: 934
    edited October 2008

    Sue, it's our 21st.  Doesn't seem that long, yet it does when I look at where we've been and are now.  I think this last year aged us both 10, but certainly did make us step back and take count of the things we do have together. And yes, it's so nice to have him home.  I promised him, we'd do catch up the first day home so he could rest and do NOTHING for the next days he's off. Hoping on 4, but not sure at this point. The boss (remember the ins issue)....hasn't said yes or no, so we'll see how it goes.

    Ladies, glad everyone is home safe and sound and sounds like not a lot of serious IOS's today, so that's good! 

    My b*tch...I am getting really tired of doing ALL of thechores this year :(  Mowing, staining, moving heavy things, getting the cars taken care of and winterized, paying bills, plus the normal stuff.  I refuse to take the A/C to the basement. IF he doesn't do it, I told my dd, we'd be pointed at, like the people that leave christmas lights up on the house all year! :D What ever, can't/won't do that job!  Okay, I feel better, thanks for letting me complain :)

  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Member Posts: 2,728
    edited October 2008

    Hiya Dreamer.  Actually you were pretty good at guessing why I changed my avatar.  I have a friend who was having a hard time this week-end.  So I found this video on youtube for her.  And it made me think - wouldnt it be grand to be able to wave a magical wand to make things better.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4Ayq3Q5wFo

    Nicki

  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Member Posts: 678
    edited October 2008

    Ok Chemosabi.... but remember the real you is better than fantasy.

  • wishiwere
    wishiwere Member Posts: 934
    edited October 2008

    Got a question that doesn't fit ANYWHERE on here...so I am going to ask it here, K?  Please forgive me if it's a no-no, K?  Just tell me.

    I have a close friend who's dh is fighting brain cancer (dx just after mine with bc last fall).  She does childcare as I have for many years and works from 6am to 6pm each day.  B/c of this, she is just overwhelmed.  With his loss of functions she is really getting behind in book work, housework, and everythign else, like dump runs, and mowing and you know it all....

    Does the maid service that I've heard people talk about here, do that for any cancer, or only breast cancer pts? Does anyone know?

  • saint
    saint Member Posts: 583
    edited October 2008

    WhaSux?????

    OK-- Am I back????  I did my level best to catch up but after being gone over a week I just couldn't read all 6 pages!!

    So for: IOS's like: @%%^$ ex's; pain; se's. hair falling out or being buzzed, suck-assed surgeons; poop-caocktails, condoms; new mets dx's; scaring ourselves doing on line research; waiting for results; working for idiots; no sex & NOT caring!; the common cold; chores not being done; not sleeping; email theft; missing our bc sisters...and any other issue I misssed---THAT SUX!!!! 

    As for the SOI's---ending chemo; GOOD results; sweet men; growing hair; return to this thread after a long absence; LE sleeves that fit; techs that talk; end of rads; welcome to lilaclady;  chicken POOP for the soul!! (LOL) Looking good--cuz you sure do luann!; options in tx & jobs; & all the great ppl who post here---THANK heavens!!!!  MORE SOI's pleez! 

    I am exhausted & may never catch up on those 6 pages, but I am SO very glad I went to Vegas & happy to be home----& BTW--I may have some great blackmail pix.......who took the one of someone with her "boob" on her head???????

    Be well & stay strong---BIG hugs! 

  • wishiwere
    wishiwere Member Posts: 934
    edited October 2008

    I suppose you could post that pic of the head of boob and we could vote on how took it and who wore it! :D

    Glad you had fun!

  • luannh
    luannh Member Posts: 350
    edited October 2008

    Hey now saint, what happens in vegas stays in vegas, remember!!!!  LOL, better to wear it than flash it on TV  LOL

  • luannh
    luannh Member Posts: 350
    edited October 2008

    Besides, I have a great pic of someone sleeping on someones boob  LOL

  • drcrisc
    drcrisc Member Posts: 134
    edited October 2008

    Sounds like Vegas was fun, marking my spot for later.  Sitll dog. ass. tired.  D@mn chemo!!  At least it's done.  Starting rads tomorrow.  We'll see how that goes.

    THAT SUX to those who need it!!!

  • GramE
    GramE Member Posts: 2,234
    edited October 2008

    Trying to catch up on all the posts.  THAT SUCKS as needed.

    Congrats Wish on your anniversary.   39 years ago Saturday ( the 11th ) I married my George.   It has been 5 1/2 years since he died, so I took rose petals to the cemetery and shared with 2 other ladies who were there for their husbands also.  My husbands ashes are in Arlington Cemetery and it is the most respectful and peaceful feeling when I go over.  Yes, it is only his ashes there, but I feel a presence.   And after 5 years the gut wrenching pain is gone, but a sadness still remains.   And to have been there for his cancer, but being alone for mine, just plain SUCKS.  

    I will get more referrals today from the primary, for surgery consult and rad consult and a flu shot.  Life in the medical arena SUCKS.    Hugs and Blessings,  Nancy   

  • Marple
    Marple Member Posts: 10,154
    edited October 2008

    I'm so glad all you gals had such a great time in Vegas.  And a "that sucks" to all of those who couldn't make it but wanted to go.

    This thread reminds me of the chat when so many come in.  I simply can't keep up with everyone's news.  However, I did notice there are "boob" pictures and think it's only fair that some things in Vegas be shared.Embarassed

    Hugs Nancy, it sucks indeed!!

    It's Thanksgiving in Canada.......so a Happy Thanksgiving to us Canadians. 

  • SherriM
    SherriM Member Posts: 90
    edited October 2008

    Morning ladies!!

    Just a quick flyby to mark my spot...sounds like Vegas was a hoot.  Welcome back Saint...after reading your post I realized that I only thought I kept up with reading last week when dd was here...either I missed a whole page or two or my chemobrain is worse than I thought, cause I didn't remember half of what you wrote......

    Cristine...we're going to be on the same schedule for rads....I start today 4pm (ET). 

    I'm also start back to work FT, or at least as FT as I can and still be at rads at 4pm, 45 min away (I'm just glad gas is going down a bit), so I'll probably be just doing flyby's through the week......But I'll try to keep up reading and will definitely keep praying for everyone's IOS's!!

    Have an SOI day, everyone!

    Sherri

  • wishiwere
    wishiwere Member Posts: 934
    edited October 2008

    Oh Nancy, so sorry he wasn't here to be with you through your journey also.  I often wonder about mom as she went through it 20 years ago this new years with my dad too. She's sometimes voices her opinion too, that its not right he's not here to enjoy their retirement after so many years working together to raise us 5.  Oct 20th marks what would have been their 58 :(  It's sad he isn't here too.  So, {{hugs}} that you missed that event with him again this year. Marking it with rose petals is so sweet.

    Ladies, we really need some more details of the SOI's that you had on your trip?  I mean....we that stayed home need some fun too :)

  • Alba08
    Alba08 Member Posts: 7
    edited October 2008

    No worry!! I now how it is taking chemo, good luck and be strong.

     thanks to everyone

  • luannh
    luannh Member Posts: 350
    edited October 2008

    Sorry to hear about the passed on spouses, I do know that feeling, mine has been gone 9 years this past august.

    Seems like alot going on but I am so tired hard to keep up.  As for boobie shots, give me til later today, I have tx this morning.  I'll see what I can do about posting something fun.

  • saint
    saint Member Posts: 583
    edited October 2008

    WhaSux???

    I WILL have pix, but I left them in Vegas (ahh-what happens in Vegas STAYS in Vegas??) & my friend is mailing them to me--so eventually I will attempt that blackmail!!!

    Reminicent of my 20's, I have to admit to doing something stupid, that I probably wouldn't do again, but riding around in that open car was sure a hoot! I was telling my onc about our trip to the skywalk today & he LOL (NOT something he often does!) My sis even commented that he has an odd laugh! LOL---anyway- I hope to expell the rest of the desert I brought home with me soon--I can cough you up a souvenier if you insist!

    I also heard there was a cowboy strip show at the PJ party, but Dream, Kosh & I were busy washing & vacuuming said car & missed that part, so I TOO would like some pix posted! LOLOL

    Seems that it's going to take 2 weeks to catch up for being gone 8 days! IT WAS WORTH IT! I have a new vacuum & groceries bought (dh shopped DAILY!!) & had onc visit today. Tomorrow I go back to the Humane Society for the first time in 2 weeks---then I have lots of ppl for dinner on Wed & a Full weekend (I go see the Dog Whiosperer on Sat!!!!) BUT there will be time to drop Vegas stories along the way I'm sure!

    Be well & stay strong!  HUGS 

  • luannh
    luannh Member Posts: 350
    edited October 2008

    Ahhh Saint, the stripper......I made it in time to see him and boy was he sweet!!!!  I have lots of pics of that hot man using his teeth to pull the money from some very unmentionable places LOL  LOL 

    My IOS I got my flu shot today and feel like crap!  Gosh I hate flu shots they hurt and make you feel yucky!  I think I am going to bed early tonight.

  • drcrisc
    drcrisc Member Posts: 134
    edited October 2008

    Sherri - I hope your first rads was as unventful as mine.  Now the trick is to keep them that way.

    So glad to read more SOI's that IOS's today!  But for the loss of spouses or any family members (lost my dad 10 years ago and still miss him) - THAT SUCKS!!

  • luannh
    luannh Member Posts: 350
    edited October 2008

    My IOS I know the elections are coming up but does every topic in this forum have to be about politics?  I don't mind one or two where people can stay and talk about the candidate of their choice but now we have to debate everything they say and do.  It is getting out of hand!

  • prayrv
    prayrv Member Posts: 362
    edited October 2008

    LuAnne,

    I hear ya!  Maybe we should have a debate?

    That sucks to all!

    Trish

  • jerseymaria
    jerseymaria Member Posts: 70
    edited October 2008

    well i'm not going to bitch about the campaign...i'm sick of it.  what i will complain about is that i thought i was already reacting to the 2 lousy xeloda pills i started yesterday.  i was sick beyond belief yesterday but the good? news is that today i woke up with what appears to be the mother of chest colds.  no coughing yet...it's too tight.  just resorted to vic's vaporub.  yuck!

  • flyrzfan
    flyrzfan Member Posts: 199
    edited October 2008

    just trying to catch up with you all...sending out a big "THAT SUCKS" to all who need it...

    I have IOS  but I'm to fn tired to recant them :)

    (((hugs to everyone)))

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