Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Who the heck is having sex?????
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LMAO.........thanks LuAnne, I just sprayed a mouthfull of water all over my puter.
Edit to say.........."Don't look at me cause it ain't I."
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Diane, my sister and her husband were both laid off 2 yrs apart and they didn't know about a program to help with house payments (that sounds like the program you are applying for) until they were almost in the same situation as you are in (possible forclosure). They both went to school with the TAA or TIA (I'm not sure which acronm they went under) and she is working at a day care center and he graduated in December and looking for a job. Sometimes we just have to figure out things for ourselves and not trust the 'powers that be' to tell us all that we need to know. I wish I knew about that program when my hubby's plant closed 3 yrs ago but hindsite is 20/20.
Sheila
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Here's a HUGE "That Sux" for all the IOS out there.
I don't have them all that often but today, just SUCKS. My beautiful and insanely brilliant three year old has started to comprehend what chemo will mean. We were talking about extra germ-x and hand washing on the way home from "acrobat" class today. (Chemo starts soon) Everything has been going along so well with her!
She burst into tears and sobbed, "Mommy! PLEASE don't do this medicine! I'm SO SCARED!"
How in the hell am I supposed to keep an upbeat and positive attitude when my baby is SCARED!?!
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Oh webwriter...that just breaks my heart! I know it's hard to believe but the kids do adjust. My neices both adjusted in their own way and to different degrees. The younger one of course had a harder time when I lost my hair...fortunately she wasn't scared, she just laughed because to her I looked funny with no hair. I know neices are not quite the same as kids of your own living with you and going through it daily, but kids are surprisingly resiliant and adapt well.
Diane - I can't tell you how glad I am that you guys are making progress with a program that will help you! Its vunderbar!
LuAnn - as much as I'd like to say it was me...it ain't me either! If Traci gets the balls to do it, then maybe I can too (no pressure Traci...) right now I'm just trying to get through the day!
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Aww, Web---kids are resilient & flexible BUT they sense OUR feelings. You are scared, of course, but she can sense that & it scares her too. I'm NOT telling you not to be scared! You need to feel what you feel & you would be a wonder if you could turn it off, but I suggest you take her IN to the story. My kids were a little bigger when I was first dx'd, but I TOLD them I was scared & that I'd probably be sick sometimes, but ultimately it was so I'd be OK later. They could deal with that. I reminded them how it hurts to get a shot, but after a while it doesn't hurt anymore & the medicine keeps them from getting sick. They got that!
I would also suggest that you get some washable markers & tell her she can color a pic on your head when you loose your hair! I have yet to meet anyone that didn't have good luck with that one!!!! Take her to play in the hat dept! Let her try on your wig(s) we had a lot of fun with that one!
My kids had so many fun things happen due to my chemo (ppl coming to take them to do special things while I was in bed) that I don't think they even remember it as anything bad!! They are now almost 16 & 18--your will see yours as a teen, too! HUGS-PM me anytime
Anyone who knows Zarowny check the new thread I started---Things SUCK big time for her & she needs a card shower-even if you don't know her you might send one! PM me for her addy!
THAT SUX to all who need it---HUGS-Be well & stay strong!
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webwtr, your daughter will do ok, it is amazing how they adapt with the changes as we do. I had my kids prepared for something much worse than what it was. We bought them each special cups and they all had their own colors so their was no germ spreading. You just have to make a game of it.
You go Traci!!!! I am soooooo jealous!!!!!
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Hey Sweet Peeps!!
Y'all just have me laughing so hard I am afraid my rib will break again! I do try to read and keep up with everyone...I am just so bad about posting. Will try to be better.
Traci, if you don't let yourself go wild and crazy, I am going to come over there and kick your BUTT. You are so beautiful, inside and out. Have a few glasses of wine and lose those inhibitions and GO FOR IT. Then give us details...lol.
Ok, I read it the same....getting ready for sex and it was canceled. Those of us NOT getting any must have IT on the brain.
Luann, trust me, I AIN'T getting any...so don't point that finger at me. Remember....we talk on the phone at all hours of the night....when most people would be getting 'some'.
Diane, so so happy you are getting sent in the right direction for help. I pray ALL your troubles cease in 2009.
For every sucky issue I didn't mention....that sucks!
HUGE hugs to ALL,
Bethie (aus)
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Thanx Ya'll for being supportive and reminding me that she'll live through this. It means alot to know that others have BTDT.
I know it's temporary. I know she'll adapt and adjust. Yes, it is the nature of children to do so...even if I die.
She will, however, remember. This child is SCARY in what she knows. We've been positive and upbeat about the whole thing thus far. We've made much of it a game. Hence, "bald, like a pingpong ball bald" and "bald, like Daddy's golf balls bald" which she thinks is hysterically funny. We even had our haircuts together today. She will come with me when I get it even shorter next week. (Just about the time Britt goes under. WILL be thinking of YOU then, Sister!)
The part that deserves an IOS is that she hasn't got a choice and neither do we.
Her first fear in life? Chemo. Her first realization that her parents aren't invincible? Lumpectomy. Her first, and at the tender age of three, idea of mortality DID come from Fire Ants, but she now understands poison too. It hit home when we told her the medicine (chemo) was poison to the "bad cells" that were in my "bra" and that my "limp nose" status meant I would have to have medicine to make them all die before they spread through my body. (Um, she ahd NO concept of death AT ALL until then. None.)
The worst is, that I promised her after my shoulder got fixed I'd be able to play with her the way other moms do. My biopsy came back two days later. Yeah. Explain that one.
Her first earache demanded explanation of "bad germs" and the "good cells" in her body that fight them off. Her response to that one? She asked Santa for a microscope so she could see the cells that made her ear hurt--and an encyclopedia for kids that showed her the ear canal we decided it was time to give her.
"Santa" got it. She got the best microscope made that can convert readings into a computer rendering. She's not even old enough to be able to squint one eye to look into a real one. She's already bored with it. It doesn't magnify enough. She hates that she can't see what she really wants to see.
I've known that about her since she was tiny. The only time she is ever frustrated is when she can't make her body do what she wants it to--or when she can't understand, to her satisfaction, what is going on.
No ma'ams. This little girl will not be placated. She has NEVER, EVER cried that hard. She has never screamed at me at all. Yes, I'm lucky. No fits. No tantrums. Not with this one. Not even when she was two. Easily placated with explanations tailored to her mentality all the way.
Until today. She remembers her stint in the hospital at 18 months. As in, "Mommy, do you remember when I was in the hospital and we watched Big Bird's Movie about Cold Germs, and I was mad because the medicine in my arm hurt and I couldn't have my potty treats, but they gave me blue popcicles and that big purple lady was so nice, but I really, really didn't like that thing they put in my "Gina", cause it hurt"
I love that you all are supportive and encouraging about what my kid goes through. I thank you, As Mothers for getting it. This time tho, she's got her dad's IQ.
For the first time, that REALLY SUCKS!
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Popping in with lots of hugs and love. Shouting out a big that sucks to everyone who needs to hear it today.
Nicki
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OMGOSH, NICKI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love that! It will be copied and sent to a couple guys who would appreciate it!
AND BTW! YES, I AM YELLING.....WELCOME BACK LADY! YOU'VE BEEN MISSED
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Nicki,
Welcome back!!! ROFLMAO. Missed you!
Hugs,
Trish
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OMG.....WELCOME BACK GF....we missed you soooooo much! Even if you hadn't signed it, I'd have known that was you!!!
Doing the Nikki dance! Yeah, Nikki's back....
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HEYYYYYYY Nickiiiiiiiii! Knew that was you! You were missed-good you are back! WHOOHoooooooooooo dancing with the nickster!
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web-you are obviously a proud mother! LOL We get it!
It will all unfold & resolve itself as it should.
Keep the faith & trust your gut.
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Too funny, Nicki. Can we all do a collective, "OW!" Welcome back!!
Webwriter.... it just totally sucks that a beautiful three year old little girl has to have a Mommy with breast cancer. It just isn't fair, is it? You are just too young to have to go through this... I am so sorry! The beast has no compassion.... no sympathy.... you must kick his BUTT!
Diane, I am thrilled that things are coming together with the mortgage crapola. Thank goodness! I know once you get a plan in place, you'll be able to rest much easier. I've been thinking of you.
All this crazy sex talk has kept me laughing. All I know is someone is having sex and someone else got their sex canceled after they were all ready for it. Traci, you have no choice but to have sex now.... are you really going to disappoint the throng of lopsided, bald, shovel-carrying women? I have some suggestions on how to get through it.
1. Take anti-anxiety drugs and chase with alcohol. You'll be up for anything.
2. Wear a strap on and he won't notice your foobs.
3. Put a bag over your head and pretend like you're not really there.
4. Just be your wonderful sweet self and know you are so loveable and desireable, no matter what.
One of those HAS to work!
Okay, I was going to moan about something, but I am meeting local breastfriends for lunch and have to get ready. I'll be back!
Love you all!
Miss S
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Blahahaha Miss---thanx for the belly laugh (big laugh in MY case!!!!)
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I come here for the sex talk.
It's all I get.
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omg sharon---you make me laugh so hard I might wet the bed!!! (yes, still in bed but getting up for lunch! LOL)
SEE traci??!!---we're all depending on YOU to give us some mojo!!!!!!!!!!
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please don't tell me the post deleted by the community was nicki, if it was someone is just plain MEAN!
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Sorry to tell you LuAnn but I think so.
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Yep----guess we will always have women who never mature socially or emotionally beyond high school........ :>{
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Well, welcome to BC.org! We make sixth grade girls on the playground look mature!
Someone - or a group of someones in this case - really should get lives and find something more productive to do. Shame on you for reverting to gradeschool behavior...
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I read somewhere that most magazines, like National Geographic, are written for no more than a 7th grade reading level... the "average" or norm... So, IF we are acting like 6th graders, we are only slightly below "normal" ??? But normal is only a setting on the clothes dryer.
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That sux you're going to miss your playoff game, flyr. Tape it and keep your ears plugged until you can watch it?
Flyers? Eagles? Not native to DC, huh? (Silver Spring here) I won't be a Skins fan until they change their name. My only real sports passion is Michigan State football and basketball. Diehard Spartan!
Just being a lurking newbie here, enjoying the sex talk and recovering kitties. Traci, your LOL post got me going. Thanks for the grin.
SOI? Three-month visit with BS -- all clear. Also got tested by audiologist and ENT because the ringing in my ears is louder on the left, but apparently I don't have a tumor on the whatchamacallit nerve. Sheesh! I wasn't even worried about that one!
EDITED: Good grief -- I was on the wrong page.
Webwriter -- Your post about your daughter had me so choked up. My guys were all grown up when I was dx'd, and it was hard enough telling them. DS1 was like your little girl -- smart beyond his years and wanting so much to do more than he could. She understands, but just doesn't have more years under her belt to help her handle it. Big hugs to both of you as you go through this major suckage.
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Felicia, you would do well to remember that things are not always as they appear, before you pass blame on a certain "group". I was going to do the right thing and PM you, but since you are not excepting them, I had to address the issue here. It wasn't who you think it was.
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Well, that really SUX! What happened to Nicki? Does anyone have her email addy? Shoot, was looking forward to her cute additions on here
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Geez, all Felicia said was "a group of someones." For a post to be "removed by the Community" requires a group of at least 5, I think. If "someone" thinks they've been "called out" by a poster who says "a group of someones" ...... well, that's making my head spin a little!!!!!!!!!!!
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Reminds me of a friend who had a girl pool party at her house. All neighbours. Well one of them stole money from her purse.
I guess my point is it's someone in our midst. That's kind of creepy.
Edit to say, but then I don't know the details, nor do I want to.
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I would like to apologize for my "creepy" comment. I did not intend to offend anyone and feel I may have.
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