Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Hanna: I usually like oatmeal and eat it every day, but for some reason today, it disgusted me. Now I do LOVE oatmeal cookies and think you should send me some. I'll deal with the "fallout."
carlin: I gained between 30 & 40 pounds during chemo, then took 20 pounds off..and promptly regained it. i can't believe i did that to myself. i officially started back in the healthy eating and exercise routine today. what a horrible way to live. LOL.
Fly: Fongool to your mom. Good luck to you in the days ahead. We're all here for you.
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flyrzfan,
Hey we can trade mother stories. My mother was living with me when diag. She thought she was set for life with me taking care of her. During chemo. she was mad at me for being sick and not being able to take care of her. Its great to be throwing up not having any control over any of your bodily functions and your mother standing over you saying just how long are you going to lie in this bed. " I don't know mom I haven't had cancer before or chemo. So when the meds start doing there job and I stop throwing up uncontrolably I'll get up." So now I'm pissed off all the time have a hard time talking to her. So if you want to be mad and pissed off come here. Let it out !!!!!!!!!!! Someone here has been there done that and got the tee shirt.
MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU ON YOUR SURGERY.
MAKE SURE YOU HAVE HELP...........
AND UNLIKE ME THINKING YOU CAN DO IT ALL ASK FOR HELP....................................
DON'T MAKE THAT MISTAKE.................
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Thanks Carlin ~ now I am sad for you but happy for me, at least mine doesn't live with me (actually, not even in the same state). I think I have plenty of help ~ I even have a designated bouncer friend for my mother should she decide to ignore my wishes and show up on my doorstep...like gsg said - Fongool to her! lol..
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Fly,
Right there with you girl. My parents (76 & 82) are both still alive and live 20 minutes away. I was the youngest of four and was told at every opportunity that I was the biggest mistake she (Mommy Dearest) had ever made and if abortions were legal back then, I would have been one! Yep, Hallmark doesn't have a card for this kind of mother! The good thing is that her total absence of emotional support made me one tough cookie. As a kid I learned to depend on myself and make my way through the world.
My mom asks all the time if I need any help. My dad's eyesight isn't good so they don't drive at night and I'm good at turning her down. Keep the bouncer at the door and let us know how you're doing.
My second Mastectomy is on the 22 and I can bet my dear old mum will be there...lucky me. At least I'll be drugged!
Linda
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Much as I love my mom, I could never live with her! She doesn't even know! Well that's a whole other topic.
My rant is ..........I can't freaking believe i am 3 weeks post MX and I am still waiting for my final pathology!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Depressed
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flyrzfan,
Mom no longer with me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Use to pray at night that God would help me with the mess I was in so next thing I know my brother-in-law is dia with lung cancer and dies shortly after............... Now mom is with my sister my sister had a really hard time so asked mom to come and live with her to help out. ( Guess what she is helping out even cooking. Can you believe that)
BUT remember the next time you pray. Be more specific about what kind of help you need.
I've been wearing my sunglasses since...Yes you can wear them at work.
I should of had a bouncer friend .....thanks I'll remember that.
Crazydaisy get your surgeon on the phone ...............
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Wow ladies, this thread is hot, hot, hot. Sorry to everyone with mother trouble that must really bite. I have to say I am very fortunate there, mine is a little overbearing and pokes her nose in a little too often but overall is an angel. I just love coming here knowing that I can say anything I need to get off my (chest??). My only bitch today is that I am so sick and tired of people telling me "well at least you're alive" whenever I talk about my shitty recon. Yes, I know I'm lucky to be alive, but I can still be upset about the mess my PS made of me. Can't I??
gsg I started my healthy eating yesterday and made it to 5:00pm when I promptly sat down and inhaled a bag of doritos and 2 fudge covered granola bars! OK really starting today!! Have you tried the weight control oatmeal, it's good with fruit in it!
Crazy how can you stand it, I'd be climbing the walls. Phone and bug, it works. I've done it many times before.
Have an unsuckable day everyone!!
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Miss S
Love the picture, I couldn't of said it better..................
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Hi ladies,
Had my visit with my onc today after tx. Had planned on wearing a new pair of pants that I had to buy with all the weight gain. Guess what! They are way too big! The fluid is finally coming off! I have to take back 2 pr of jeans and exchange them for a smaller size. Maybe my luck is beginning to turn! It's about damn time something goes my way. Lost 10 lbs in one month. Just 18 more to go. Of course it was all fluid. My legs look normal again. Still have the tummy.
I am going to start my WW online again tomorrow. Maybe I'll work out. Hey, I can dream.
Onc said no tests just listen to my body and "Don't gain weight"! Like I plan on doing that?????WTF?
So I came home had a pastrami and cheese sandwhich with mayo and 4 chocolate cookies. Then took a nap. Maybe I better hold on to those jeans.
No gripes today. Thank goodness.
Debbie
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debbie-congrats on the weight loss, yeah!!! i wish that would happen for me, one year since treatment and cannot lose an ounce on the tamoxifen, i keep trying, maybe my luck will turn soon.
no bitching today. feeling a little sad, have been reading too much on these threads and came across the angels one, it's heartbreaking and it totally scared the s-t out of me...i'm not going to read that one again.
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My bitch today is easy. Its official. There are so many posts Im having a hard time keeping up. All I know is when I read your posts I laughed, I cried, I went awwwww and had a big that sucks for all of you who need it.
This is what they call a "pop" in!
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Debbie, at first I was thinking....
then, I finished reading your post! 
lol u 2 Kiki! I just keep stuffing the food in. I've decided I'll start my official diet when I get to Dallas. For now, I'm going to make some hamburger helper and add some extra cheese. Hugs everybody. I swear, reading about y'alls probs makes me feel better! (((((((((hugs)))))))))))
Oh yea...where the heck is Pearl??????
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OK....I only have 2 words for today:
Bleeding hemorrhoids
‘nuf said
Deb C
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ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Deb..........................
You win.
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My gripe??
My pc just packed up, it has taken me just under 2 hours to sort it, I am totally tech. challenged. I rang my son, of course he didn't answer me,he knew who was calling, and knows I'd be whining about my pc!
DH tried to help, I was right in the middle of doing a diagnostic test, and he starts pulling wires in and out of my modem to 'check they were in properly' he got a book thrown at him, and a few fongools!!
I am totally lost without my pc, DH cannot understand this!! It is like an extra arm to me !!, I HAVE to be online.
I don't exactly know what I did, but I am certainly not switching off tonight.
I am supposed to be taking DH out for his birthday meal tomorrow, but when he had finished shouting fongools back at me, and slamming a door or two who knows !!!!!
Me?? I'd much rather spend the time on my pc Isabella.
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Miss S , that pic is priceless! Thanks for sharing. Sorry to hear so many "Mommy Dearest" stories! My mom is great.
In regards to the "how are you"question from people who mean well(yeah right) when they ask me and I reply OK or good or hangin in there , then they reply , "No , I mean really how are you?" wtf is that!?
OK , gsg and Debbie , you have motivated me to get on the healthy eating and exersing train with you! Good luck to us all. Love this thread. As someone said , I laugh , I cry , I say awww. Have a good evening everyone. Mel
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Just checking in with you girls!!
Deb- oh I agree with Traci you win!!!
My bitch for the day is having 5 teenagers!!! WTF! I was seriously to happy having babies, not thinking about their little cute bums becoming big huge pain in the bums!!!! URGHHHH!
Better now!
Dani
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Isabella, show your husband this:
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For those of you thinking "man, that looks blurry...sh*t, there go my eyes".....it is blurry.
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Deb:
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Oh....it gets BETTER! My mom went in to town to pick up my duaghter from music lessons, so her dog is here. I let the dogs (hers and mine) out in the back yard and about 10 minutes later let them in. My mom's dog, Cinder opened her mouth and a LIVE mouse dropped on to my kitchen floor and ran under my fridge! I shit you not....I have a mouse under my fridge....g-r-e-a-t.....NOW WHAT??
Both the dog and both my cats are sitting in front of the fridge growling and pawing under it.....good grief.....how weird can one day get??
I think I'm taking my award and climbing in to bed.
Deb C
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GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't like mice!!!!
Just reading your post made me put my feet up!"Both the dog and both my cats are sitting in front of the fridge growling and pawing under it" LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Ok...my afternoon went lovely. So I drive an hour each way to see a shrink that was recommended to me. I figured a third party to talk to before my Mast in two weeks might do me some good. At this point I'll try anything to keep some of what's left of my sanity. 55 minutes into the hour session she tells me, "I think you have a lot of body image issues." WTF??? Let's see Miss I Have a Degree...I had a Mast at 47, have very short, curly chemo hair, had a TRAM that failed so I'm still a flattie, a huge scar across my stomach, have gained 20 pounds and I'm losing my other breast in two weeks. What body issues??? At this point the surgeon keeps taking it away in chunks!!! And I paid WHAT for this wonderful insight??? She tried three times to book another appointment and I told her I'd call her.
She even sent me home with a book about body image! I guess all the other issues like me being afraid of dying, leaving my kids, husband, grandkids, family and friends behind weren't as important as my flippin' body image??? Give me a dang break! Ummmm...loser shrink in aisle two!
Linda
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Linda , OH My God. I can't believe that. Body image issues??????? I just don't get it. These people are suppose to be professionals , and this is her thought about you? Sounds like she should be a detective with all her great insight. That sucks , I'm sorry. One bright onc tried to tell me "You need to find peace with cancer". Unblieveable , I am in an all out war with cancer , there will be no peace. Sometimes I think I'm a freakazoid magnet the way I attract these freaks. Maybe you have the same magnet!lol
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Honeygirl,
Freakazoid! LOL! I do tend to attract the weird ones, too. I guess we now have to become the professionals and teach them??? Oh, yes...I am at peace with my Cancers...or should I say pieces!
Linda
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linda-maybe you should have told that ignorant so called therapist to shove that body image book up her f-ing ass, oh and to get back to you once she has experienced what you have. WTF. i think traci's bitch slap is needed here. geez what a freak!
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OK, I just got off the toilet for the 3rd time since this afternoon, and I want everybody to stop talking about constipation and colonoscopy preps. I would PAY for a little constipation right now.
This is the Taxotere, right? Six days into round 1, and I've had diarrhea for the past 24 hours. Like somebody said, at least when you're constipated you dare to go to the grocery store.... My dh did go to the store this evening, and bought me some Imodium, which is what the onco nurse suggested (no fever, no nausea, no vomiting--just LOOSE). I think it's time to give it a try.
And added to the diarrhea is that pesky non-stop indigestion. Hey, I've never had any GI problems in my whole life--I take maybe 2 Tums every other month when I'm bored with my Citracal tablets. Imodium? Pepcid? Prilosec? What are they? The home pharmacy expands every day.
OTOH, my onco nurse says if Advil doesn't stop the Neulasta pains, just take the Percocet I have left over from surgery. Hey, that'll give me constipation, right? Maybe that's a good idea!
2nd rant: My mom, who upon hearing over the phone that I had actually broken down and gone wig shopping last week (3 days before I started chemo), said, "Well, GOOD!" WTF? Good? I'm thinking: What do you mean--good, that I am getting chemo? Or, good, that I'll be losing all my hair in another week? Or, good, because maybe that awful hairstyle I've worn all my life will finally be gone? After I got through gasping, I pointed out that I had not been able to find a wig that I would put on a golden retriever even as a joke.
3rd rant: And this one is familiar to all of you, and is right off that "cancer rants" post on Craigslist--A former co-worker of mine (I'm retired), who I've known for decades and who I thought was a pretty good friend, is clueless. When told of my BC diagnosis, she grinned and said, "Oh, I'm sure you'll do FINE!" She reminded me that the wife of someone else in the department had been dx'd with BC and "all they did was put her on tamoxifen."
No, um, it's a little more serious than that. I'll need surgery (which I had), and possibly chemo (which I do). I told her the had dx surprised me, because so many people in my family had heart disease and died of things like MI's or strokes. She grinned again and said, "Oh, you're not going to DIE! I'm sure you'll be FINE! Gotta go--I have a haircut appointment at 3:00!"
Never mind the brush-off for the haircut appt. How the f*** does she know? Even my doctor isn't naive enough to tell me I'm going to be "fine". In fact, my doc has made it pretty clear that this chemo thing is going to be difficult and I will hurt and I'll not feel very "fine" for quite awhile. And she would never suggest that something as simple as tamoxifen or even a mastectomy would "cure" me. I guess it's true that a BC dx will sort the friends from the acquaintences. It appears I have mostly the latter.
OK, thanks. It's time to try to get some sleep, despite the indigestion and Neulasta aches and abdominal cramps. Tomorrow is another day!!!
sheesh.
otter
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Otter....that all sucks! I get the trots from chemo too. My best treatment is prilosec OTC, tums and 1/2 an imodium. If I take a whole imodium, them I'm plugged up. I know...once again, too much info, but you might want to try this combo.....works for me!
Deb c
Oh, and by the way, the mouse came out from under the fridge and my dog caught it! So much for the cats being good mousers! My cocker spaniel did the job
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Good dog! I was truly distressed about your mouse. Wish I could send you a big bucket of Tucks for your bahoochey........that sucks.
Marsha
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