Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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snowyday,
There shouldn't ever be a stupid post! We all have issues. Some that are unique to only us but others that we all experience. I know I am here for anyone if I can help them. I am so sorry u are going thru this Junk right now. Be that squeaky wheel at your clinic (I know easier said than done) but we have to make them answer us or take care of us. I've found that they may have good intentions but it isn't them going thru it so they can't really know our situation. Hang in there and be strong! Vent anytime here, that is what this thread is for, right?
Hugs,
Wink
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Hugs to you 1965Sally and Pearl. LIFE sucks the big one sometimes...
My cancer-related bitch is feeling achy. Everyday, something new hurts (yesterday it was my rib and my right achilles tendon). My mind immediately races to one of two things: I have mets and will need chemo soon or I am aging and my body is not handling this natural process well. Why is every headache brain mets or early stage altzheimer's? Every weird chest thing bone mets or a soon-to-be heart attack? How is this any way to exist?!?
My other bitch is black ants. Somehow, they have invaded my kitchen. Whenever I go in there, there is at least one on the counter - and that is after the counters have been wiped down and disinfected. Where are they coming from and how come they can't go back out the way they came in?!? They TOTALLY creep me out. We've tried baits, tea tree oil around the one window in the room and everything else we could think off (h2b wants to call and exterminator; great, MORE chemicals). I'm in ant hell right now...
Black ants suck big time...
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Pearl, raise shit girl. I was sick of the way my PS was treating me and I contacted the patient advocate at the hospital. Let me just say it was VERY effective.
Ants are awful we used to get them at our other house every spring. Little buggers to get rid of. Unfortunately the only thing that worked for us was some nasty chemical that the DH loves to use!
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1965 Sally, I hear ya!!! I'm as lucky as you girl. Make you wait ......Lop it off......toss ur ass out the door and never hear from them!!!!
STILL WAITING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Felicia, I also get the ants in the kitchen and bath. I have used a liquid ant killer called Terro. I put the terro on small pieces of aluminum foil along the trail where the ants come in. It could take 2 weeks for the bait to work. the worker ants take it back to the colony and it should kill the colony. If that doesn't work, I also have used a granular insect killer around the foundatation of the house to create a barrier. Ortho Bug be Gone Max for lawns. I put it in the yard spreader and run it around the house a time or two then hose it down. that usually gets rid of the ants for at least 3 months. I purchase both items at Lowes Hardware. I like using these products because they are not sprayed inside the house. Hope this helps your ant problems. I also started seeing my first ants this weekend, put out the terro but am out of the Ortho Bug be gone.
Sheila
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Pearl, thank God for your "Angel Doctor" -- the business about slipping through cracks in clinical trial is THE WORST. Beyond sucks.
Felicia, I know what you mean about aches and pains. And vermin in the house -- what a suck-a-thon.
And I must get back to work! Or it'll really suck getting fired (my recurrent "this sucks" theme)!
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big that sucks to everyone that needs it.
it's so beautiful outside, but i can't seem to motivate myself to go out. my back has been bothering me for the last week, the muscles are so stiff, my treatment ended one year ago and no matter how much stretching, yoga, pilates i do it's the same. and yes it completely freaks me out, because i keep thinking maybe it's back and is in my entire back ribcage, oh god!!! it's so scary. i'm so sick of it that and sending out a tun of resumes and no one calling me back.
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Pearl, not a dumb post at all! Would you like me to come up there and slap someone at your cancer center?
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Pearl - read every word, and not one of them was dumb. xoxo
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Pearl - btw, I recently conquered my fear of going to the movies by myself. A good friend said to me, "you're kidding right? you can handle 3 surgeries, 4 months of chemo and 2 months of radiation, but you're afraid to go the movies by yourself?" The dentist is damn scary, especially for us post-chemo girls, I don't know about you, but my teeth feel like they're starting to just crumble in my mouth.
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Okay, you girls need a little cheering up. Remember the husband gripes? My friend sent me this email today.
''THE WORLD 'S SHORTEST FAIRY TALE!'
Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl 'Will you marry me?' The girl
said:'NO!' And the girl lived happily ever-after and went shopping,
dancing, camping, drank martinis, always had a clean house, never had to cook, did whatever the hell she wanted, never argued, didn't get fat, traveled more, had many lovers, didn't save money, and had all the hot water to herself.She went to the theater, never watched sports, never wore friggin' lacy lingerie that went up her ass, had high self esteem, never cried or yelled, felt and looked fabulous in sweat pants and was pleasant all the time. .........THE END.....
Tina
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Tina - You made my day! Hilarious!
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Tina, THANK YOU! I love that story.
Thanks for the hugs and righteous outrage, everyone - really makes a difference.
BTW, I've used Urine Off before and it was great but too expensive for me to carry on with - I needed gallons. My cat is on anti-depressants for "inappropriate elimination" issues. Another cat who just died (mixed feelings about that!) was prone to spraying. I just need a new carpet, plain and simple. Geez, that's another thing that would make me happier that the hubby refuses to do and that I can't afford. *sigh*
As for ants, I've used Terro traps before too and they worked very well. Ants love that stuff. And remember you can get an exterminator to spray only outside the house and it could still help, and less chemicals for you.
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Pearl,
Your post was wonderful! I thought this was where you are suppose to come to rant!!! You rant on girl.
Hannah- OH MY GOD!! The jail thing was soooooo funny! Explosive diarrhea and vomiting at will!!!
Dani
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heeey bluesky,
Back pain could be stress related. Are you stressed??????????? ( joke ) I started to get messages at home. Jodi comes to the house. It helpes alot . She comes once a month and my DH has it one month and I take it the next. I take all the coines that have been in this huge jar bring them to commerce bank they have a machine that counts it for free, and I have the money to pay her. It gives me something to really look foward to and since its in my house I don't have to worry about being nude in front of any one. But I'm thinking the next time I get a gift cert for a spa and I have to put that robe on with everyone else. (Ididn't have rec. still have one breast) I'm going to wear my sunglasses. Find something for you to do that makes you feel better. Aand just let go for a second. The message helps me more than anything.
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Last year my mini schnauzer brought in a snake and put it under my computer, so when I put my shoeless foot down and felt something cold, ........ I looked down and she had bit 1/2 the head off but it still had one of it's fangs....
I found out that it was a baby rattler..
She was so mad at me for taking her toy...
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Vera, SOOOO glad we don't have rattlers over here in UK.
My dear little sausage dogs found a nest of kittens this week, silly mother cat had had them in the bushes, where the sausages go.
Four sausage dogs came in the house, in a long procession each proudly carrying a dead kitten.
I had screaming abdabs at them all, and all four of them went diving back outside a damned sight quicker than what they'd come in, and were ages before they dared to come slinking back in again.
I need eyes in my backside with these dogs, normally the cats won't come anywhere at all where the dogs are....not this time.
Isabella.
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There are other carcinogens than parabens. Product that have PEG in the list are also suspect. Many are not allowed in the EU, but the same companies like OLAY sell them here. Beth Check out the book The secret History of the War on cancer. Not a fringe book, written by a respected researcher.
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Bitch for the day:
My poor sister's stupid daycare provider's son had head lice, she did not tell my sister, my nephew got it, my son got it from him. Gross! I couldn't take the itching anymore (mine, I'm Irish, so I'll pretty much develop any symptom I see, hear or read about!) so I did the lice shampoo on myself. Didn't tell the rads folks that are radiating my ear, who don't even want me to put Aquaphor on it yet, never mind pesticides! (I know, I know, but I was afraid if I told them they would postpone the rads, and I didn't want to do that!)
First rad after lice treatment and my ear turns bright red. Whoops!
I am such an idiot!!
Here's my rationalization: it was starting to turn red anyway, they SAID it was going to get really red and burned (apparently ears and radiation do not go together very well), I was REALLY careful, so at most, some of it got on my ear as I was rinsing the stuff out. It was worth my sanity to do it.
OK, I'm an idiot!
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cmb, probably just the rads.
You didn't need any little critters crawling near your treated ear, either.
I'm sure it will be fine, and you're not an idiot.
HEAD LICE ARE THE WORST!
Well, except for BC...
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Omigod, sausage dogs killing kittens, headless rattlers, head lice....I really needed a good dose of other people's problems. Wow, I feel so much better!
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I like mustard on my sausage dogs.
Miss S
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ewww head lice, that's awful.
the guy that lives below me is such a pain, usually he is at work, not sure what he is doing at home today, but he is bugging the hell out of me! whenever he is home, he plays this loud thumping really bad techno music and slams the front door when he enters and exits the building, also he and his girlfriend constantly argue and yell, i have spoken to him so many times about keeping it down, even written him a letter, to have more respect for the others that live here, still he continues. i feel like going down there and bitch slapping him!!!! what a f-ing a hole.
carlin-i've tried massages, accunpture and i feel better initially and then it goes back to tightness, i'm sure it was the taxol and tamoxifen that i currently take.
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ewww head lice, that's awful.
the guy that lives below me is such a pain, usually he is at work, not sure what he is doing at home today, but he is bugging the hell out of me! whenever he is home, he plays this loud thumping really bad techno music and slams the front door when he enters and exits the building, also he and his girlfriend constantly argue and yell, i have spoken to him so many times about keeping it down, even written him a letter, to have more respect for the others that live here, still he continues. i feel like going down there and bitch slapping him!!!! what a f-ing a hole.
carlin-i've tried massages, accunpture and i feel better initially and then it goes back to tightness, i'm sure it was the taxol and tamoxifen that i currently take.
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ewww head lice, that's awful.
the guy that lives below me is such a pain, usually he is at work, not sure what he is doing at home today, but he is bugging the hell out of me! whenever he is home, he plays this loud thumping really bad techno music and slams the front door when he enters and exits the building, also he and his girlfriend constantly argue and yell, i have spoken to him so many times about keeping it down, even written him a letter, to have more respect for the others that live here, still he continues. i feel like going down there and bitch slapping him!!!! what a f-ing a hole.
carlin-i've tried massages, accunpture and i feel better initially and then it goes back to tightness, i'm sure it was the taxol and tamoxifen that i currently take.
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1965Sally, believe me I know how it SUCKS to not only have bc but have your marriage go to hell AT THE SAME TIME! Or maybe BECAUSE of bc. What the heck kind of bad karma have I got?
PS: Glad to hear about the zits popping, Deb. Keep up the good work.
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Back to Pearl's post (I read every word)--
"Did anyone watch Primetime last night, I asked my eldest son to watch it with me because I feel he needs to realize that this bc can cause death. There I said it."
I didn't see Primetime, but I did have a really strange and uncomfortable discussion with my dh last night. We were home after a long day (won't describe it here--not ranty enough), and we were once again talking about chemo. We were mulling the numbers. Most early-stage BC is "cured" by surgery (majority never does recur). So why do women with early-stage, node-negatve BC get chemo these days?
I mentioned a thread someone started on these boards recalling that "in the olden days", women with BC had Halstead radical mastectomies and maybe irradiation, but chemo had not been invented yet. He and I knew of several relatives who had so-called barbaric radical mastectomies but were apparently cured of their BC--it never recurred, and they died decades later of something else.
So, what was the recurrence rate of BC before chemo came along? Was it higher than we realize? Or, is today's aggressive use of chemo just to mop up those last few percentages of women whose cancer would recur...only there isn't a good way to predict who they will be? (I know, that's the supposed promise of Oncotype testing.)
Back to my dh. He said, but yours was Stage I, it was completely removed, and your nodes were negative. Isn't it gone? Not necessarily, I said--maybe there were tumor cells that escaped before (or during) the surgery. (He and I are both biology-trained, so this is not new territory for us.)
OK, he said...so that's why they use chemo--chemo will eliminate those few cells that might have escaped. That's the theory, I said. So, he says, after chemo you'll be cured. No, I said, not necessarily--there could be some escapees that resist the chemo and produce mets...and then all they can do is "control" those (keep them in remission).
He looked stunned, and very sad. He had no idea that 1) surgery was not necessarily curative; 2) chemo was not necessarily curative; 3) distant mets meant a life-long struggle to control BC. I think it just dawned on him that I could die of this.
It's something I've been thinking about for months, of course.
otter
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I'm sorry. I was sad when I posted that. Maybe I shouldn't have.
otter
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Otter,
Post away girl! That is what the boards are for. I know exactly where you are coming from. My husband and I have had similar conversations. He can be much more optimistic than I can though. Since I made it through this first battle I don't think my kids realize that Mom could still die from this disease. Mostly I am glad they don't realize it but sometimes I think what if.... will they be prepared? We are all extra sad at times and it helps to be able to voice it to others who understand.
I'm hoping and praying for all of us, that we are all going to beat this nasty disease!
Hugs,
Wink
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