Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Oh my goodness you guys, completely non-cancer related, my nephew gave my son head lice. That's pretty much my bitch for the day, week, and month. Not that it's his fault, poor thing. My sister was able to follow the trail to her daycare provider, who works at a preschool in the mornings, and watches kids in her home in the afternoons. When my sister called her to tell her about the case of head lice she said, "oh boy! SON had that in December and we had a heck of a time getting rid of it, had to treat him three or four times!" Hello? Is she a complete moron? Anyway, I am itching all over. I apologize, because I'm sure you are now all itching all over. I had my weekly appt with the rad onc after rads today, and she asked how the fatigue was. I have to say it's really hard for me to separate out the fatigue from the rads from the fatigue from washing everything in my house, treating my poor kid for head lice (and then freaking out and giving him a buzz cut anyway at 9:30 at night - I swear, it was practically child abuse!), and jumping up every 2 hours each night to check my head for bugs. (Lice free so far, just lots of psychosomatic itching.) Apparently, whoever is in charge of these things didn't feel I had enough on my plate with the rads, BRCA2 pos shenanigans, my Dad's colon cancer, and my ex tormenting my about taxes and the deduction for W again, so hey, why not throw in some head lice just for giggles!
Otter - you're really bringing me back, and I'm so sorry, cause chemo sucks and people are stupid (well-meaning often, but stupid.) I had to take the big gun drugs for the Neulasta pain, I was one of the 5% or 15% or whatever the hell it is with severe pain. They also made me nauseaus (how the hell do you spell that *(#^(_# word anyway?!?!) but it was worth it. The viscious runs generally only lasted for 2-3 days for me (to be replaced by the equally unpleasant constipation.) The stupid people never did clear up. :-)
I do wish I could share some of my real world friends with all of you, because although I had plenty of well-meaning morons, I also have quite a few that "get it", and do things like buy a huge box of tootsie pops (like at BJs or Costco, so the box is the display) and doctor up the box to make it say, "Cancer Sucks. but can be licked!" cause I love tootsie pops and used to take them with me to chemo.
Deb - I am beyond words. From bears to mice, it's like "All Creatures, Great and Small" up there!
Linda/Honeygirl - As a friend of mine used to say about doctors, "some graduate with As, some graduate with Cs", I think both of those "helping professionals" need a copy of the cancer rant! That or a smack, either way.
OK, I'm trying very hard to sleep, as I'm so tired I feel sick, but can't relax enough to sleep.
To everyone I missed - a great big, "ohhhh,that sucks!"
PS. Hey Nicki!
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So much suckiness...
Head lice! OMG, cmb, that was horrible enough when I was healthy as a horse when my son was five... On top of rads?! Oh my freaking God. My head itched horribly for like the next 5 years...
Linda, I agree that shrink needs a beating. Body image issues. Right. She's lucky her body and soul are still together after CHARGING you to hear that...
Honeygirl, just what we all really need, an onc who wants to make peace with cancer...
Otter and Deb, at the opposite ends of the gamut of gastrointestinal misery...
And bluesky, I know what you mean about scary news...
And to everyone else...
SORRY THAT SUCKS.
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That poor girl, cuz she has no name, it our slap/punch in the face that we all sometimes need!!
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Although she had to have done something.....prolly slept with her husband........
!!!edited to add....my comments got bumped a page!
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I am getting so curious about the story behind the smackdown! At first I thought the "slept with her husband" thing was probably right -- but now I'm starting to think the teenage-looking girl with the long hair is Slugger's daughter, and Sluggee spread some horrible gossip about the daughter, or is the mother of some horrible ex-boyfriend who got the daughter pregnant, and now boyfriend and Sluggee are calling the girl names, or something...
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Thanks Traci. Actually, that was me smacking down the shrink who told me I had body image issues! I hope her nose swells!
Linda
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ccan't sleep agaiin,
Sleeping pill kicking in .
I laugh soo hard about the mouse story. We have a yellow lab that just loves to bring those things in to show me. BUT none are alive when she does. I read the story to my son and husband and we all sat here laughting. Thank you . BUT where is it ????????
Linda, I think your shrink has a brain issue. You see she wasn't in line when God was handing them out. So I was wondering if we could give her a book entitled " If I only had a brain".
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Oh,
Linda, about this second surgery. Do you have any idea how much courage you have , my hats off to you . God be with you. Ssame goes to all of you posting .You are all pretty amazing ladies..
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Well, its bad enough when a mouse decides to sneak in and set up home. But to have a devoted animal bring on in as a trophy? That sucks.
Pasta fongool! Means kiss my ? Very similiar to pastafazool which is an Italian soup. As a little girl I went around saying pasta fongool all the time and couldnt understand why my parents tried to hush me up.
Head lice? Yes, the thought of it makes one itch. Not unusual in spring and fall. Hiya Colleen. Shampoo and a buzz should do the trick.
No bitch for me today. Too early!
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OMG, I've been gone a week and I'm not sure I'll ever catch up with reading the posts. Gonna give it a try though! Love you ladies.
Had sugery last Wed and just need to get a few bitches off my chest:
surgery sucks
hospital food sucks
dry heaves after a tram sucks
aides who don't bother to look at your chart before entering your room suck
drains suck
leaky drains suck worse
wondering if I'll ever stand upright again sucks
Thanks for letting me get that out. Unable to spend too much time at pc just yet, but can't wait to get back and read everything I've missed.
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Deb...there are just no words for your day!
Dani ...kids are kind of like that cute little piggy honeygirl has on her avatar ~ adorable when small, hard to ignore when they grow up!
Linda ~ I think your shrink was projecting. Maybe you should send her a book on careers with a note suggesting she pick a new one.
Otter ~ I sincerly hope things have um, "cleared up" for you today! Been there, done that, wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Here's my bitch for today...why does the medical community wait until the last minute to tell you important details about things you have to do before your surgery? Do they not understand we are trying to manage this AROUND our life and need to make arrangements, talk to bosses and crap like that? I understand nothing is more important than my health at the moment, but that doesn't mean I need to be inconsiderate at the same time!!! ugh, idiots. Give me ALL the information I need so I can be prepared and let people know what I will need to do. Geeze, it's not that hard a concept!
ok, done for now...thank ladies!
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Sheila - dry heaves after a tram??! That's got to suck big time. Hugs to you girl!
cmb - had a girlfriend who was home recovering from a hysterectomy that left her unable to lift the laundry basket, and her sweet 2nd grader brought home lice. oh joy. her DH gets the hubby of the year award for doing the laundry and combing out their hair each night. her trick was olive oil AND pnut butter...ewww!
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Head lice... EWWW. I used to babysit and almost every kid I had in my house came home with lice sooner or later. Somehow my kids never got it (nor me!). My head itches right now, though. As soon as I found out someone had lice, I would start itching like crazy. I have treated a few lil heads!
The mouse story cracked me up. I can see the pets lined up staring at the fridge. LOL I have a mouse that has outsmarted all the traps so far. I WILL get that little sucker (even if I have to go to Alaska and borrow Deb's dog)!
Oh, my gripe for today. You guys are not gonna believe this. I took my car for an inspection yesterday and the guy pulling it into the garage wrecked into the door frame! He walked into the office and said to his boss, "You're gonna be mad at me."
I was thinking, "Ut oh, this is not good. That's the dude that went to get my car."
"I ran into the side of the bay with that Mustang," he continues.
I can't hold back, "HE'S gonna be mad at you?? It's MY car!"
So yeah. What a doofus. Anyway, they are gonna get it fixed and I got a free inspection. But I'm just saying......
For everyone having a crappy day..... Big Hugs!!!!!!
Love you,
Miss S
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Hi All,
Otter: whatever you do, don't fart. It won't be a fart. Trust me, I just got off of Taxotere.
Deb, my dogs just tore apart a possum. Uugghhhhh. At least it was in the field and not in the house. Speaking of Alaska, I went there in the winter because I am terrified of bears. Will not visit in the summer when the bears are out. Loved the Iditerod. We stayed with a friends sister whose name was Debbie and looked a lot like you. When I first saw your post, I had to do a double take. She is back in the lower 48 though.
Sam408.....surgery does suck. Waiting on mine for awhile....I guess I'll be boobless all summer.....that sucks.....especially since we like to dive.
Well, my workout was walking around the yard with some guys about some repairs on the house. I need to clean but a nap is beckoning. And it is only 10:15 am.
Debbie
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you know...you can be careless with a lot of cars..but when you are driving a mustang ?? smack 'em, just smack 'em!!
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laura-vic,
just read your post from April 6th. Loved it! my feelings exactly, except the work part.
also love the video of the lady hitting the other one! Too hilarious! My daughter was telling me about a "cat" fight at her school yesterday and that is what came to my mind.
wink
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AlaskaDeb, thanks for the advice. I'd read in another post of yours that you were having similar GI problems as I am. I tried your recipe this morning, and so far, so good (maybe it was gonna end today anyway?).
I also need to mention that I am SO jealous of your Rolls Royce infusion center. I read your description on another thread--individual TV screens with DVD players & headphones at each chair, etc. Heck, that makes mine look like a prison barber shop. They rushed me in and out of my "chemo bed" so quickly last time that I didn't get a chance to see if they had reading material, but I doubt it. This is a huge, publicly-funded teaching hospital on a university campus, so perks for patients would look out-of-place against the backdrop of legislative budget cuts.
I am also very glad to hear about your mouse. No, maybe not for the mouse, but for you. You are so tough--you are one of my role models here.
otter
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Hello everyone,
In the video of the ladies fighting. To me the "smashee" lady in red getting her face flattened is Cancer and the "smasher" is who we all want to be!
Now for my venting! Kids are such a blessing but don't you just want to swat their little (or bigger) behinds sometimes! Why can't Tweens and Teens just be happy you are alive and still in their life? Why do they have to be sooooooo embarrassed that you are their mother. Just because you happen to be older than their friend's mothers, fatter than those other moms and so much more uncool. (Most of those other moms haven't the slightest idea of what having cancer and treatment is like) Give me a break! I could have left them with their Dad being Mr. Mom too! See how embarrassed they'd be then. Think I need to go off for a weekend and leave them with their dad, maybe then I would feel a little more appreciated when I came back. You think?
Okay, sorry about that but I do feel somewhat better after having said that.
Thanks to everyone for letting me vent! To all of you - I agree - our burdens and cancer STINK!
Wink
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Wink, sorry your kids are giving you a hard time....they DO grow up you know!!! Then you get a hard time from them always wanting to borrow cash from you!!
I have had a hard time from my DH today (and the D DOES NOT stand for dear today)
I took him out for his birthday, we do this for each other now instead of presents (although I did manage to buy him some new pants and 2 tshirts, and on my b/day in Feb, I got just nothin' from him!)
We had as lovely meal....BUT... his steak was gristly and fatty, he didn't have enough veg. He had no gravy with his meal, his pud. was too small, and with not enough sauce, his coffee was bitter, and to crown it all he 'was sat in a draught' and 'didn't like where he was sitting'. AAAArrrrgggghhh, I nearly murdered him infront of everyone, but held back because I was enjoying my meal so much!! I just felt like asking for a doggy bag and driving home without him. This is the reason I will no longer cook for him, just can't take the hassle anymore.
Oh, and to crown it all I had really made an effort today, even though my Arimidex pains were quietly driving me nuts, I wore a new linen coat, that cost me dear, and he said as we were crossing the car park ' you look just like Clint Eastwood in that get-up' its a good job he has gone to the pub tonight, I might've just poisoned him if he'd stayed around me any longer today.
Isabella.
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Oh, and one of these days when we have a meal out I will call over the manager, and let DH vent his 'anger'
I did it at Christmas, he had complained and complained about his steak, being not right, that when the waitress came over I was really boiling, and said my DH doesn't like his steak, then shut up completely, leaving it to him , and fongool, the silly waitress fell for his story and didn't charge for his entire meal.
Talk about it backfiring on me !!!! Next time I will do it proper.
Isabella.
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Isabella,
Thanks, I know they grow up too soon. Could do the kids in a lot of days but not looking forward to them leaving home. They are my life so I shouldn't complain but some days "ya just gotta".
Sorry your dh is giving you trouble. Sounds a little like us. I got nothing last month for my bday but all ready trying to come up with something for him. Glad yours went to the pub and is giving you some much deserved peace and quiet.
Have to go get the "little darlings" from school now.
Later,
Wink
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Just read this thread for the first time - great posts, I have to read all the way through, enjoying them all. Currently, I don't have too much to complain about. However, in a couple of weeks I am having my TRAM and already having deja vu because I know all the same things that made me want to pull my hair out (before it fell out) when I had my mastectomy last summer will happen again, and this time I know it will hurt worse. The only thing I can look forward to is that all my current small aches, pains, twinges, fatigue-time...I guess I do have stuff to complain about....all of that will be replaced by much bigger pain so I won't have to worry about the small stuff for awhile.
Otter, I could have written your post last September. Taxotere kept me running too...and running and running. My oncologist told me to take Citracil powder 2-3 x's per day. It has the opposite effect on diarrhea than you think, kind of created a little clog w/o damming up the pipes. I still take it once a day out of habit and am glad since I know it will help me soon while I am on pain-killers post reconstruction. Prilosec was great too although I got a little high BP and SOB after taking it for a few months straight. I had severe bone pain with Neulasta. No one told me that it would kick in a few days later - woke me up screaming late one night and all I had at home was Tylenol. I called everyone a motherfu...even my Dad, which I would never say normally until I got a Percocet RX and things were better. I was so traumatized that I refused further shots. I did have an abnormal severe reaction and luckily my WBC stayed up.
I have a couple of friends, both in the medical profession, who ask me how I am, then downplay it and give me the "Oh you'll be fine" too. I always respond with "yeah right.....it's just a cyst", which is what they told me when I first found the lump. We are all still friends, I just don't discuss how I am with them.
I guess that's all I have to grouch about. My dog that eats poo is licking my foot now, have to go bleach myself.
Liz
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Okay I got it today! I think it was this thread that we talked about getting "the letter" to remind you to get your mamo on your "suspicious for cancer spots" ( In my case there were always spots not just spot, LOL)! So, I get the letter from the same hospital that did the bilateral in Jan. Hmmm......!
I call and tell the girl "you cut those girls off in January", do not need any more mamos!
She was soooo apologetic, I said do not worry about it just take me off the list for reminders! Do not send me anymore pink ribbon letters with, "every day is Breast cancer awareness day"!!!!!
I had to laugh simple mistake but I knew it was coming! Sometimes the right hand doesn't know what the left hand is doing in the medical world!
Dani
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Hi All,
Wink, sorry about your kids. Don't have any. Do have lots of animals and they can drive you crazy as well.
Liz, your husband sounds like mine. After pitching fit and crying two Christmases ago about no presents year after year, he attempts to make an effort. I think I really need to tell him to stop because he buys overpriced junk for me that I don't want or don't need.
Well, ladies, I was looking at the calendar and thinking if I did not have breast cancer I would never have met all you wonderful women.....yeah right! What I was really thinking was I would be in Italy next week! We had planned a trip to Italy but instead the money went to pay my Onc's new house down payment. That Sucks.
Glad to have met you all, but it sure would have been nice to met you all at a restaurant in Italy (without Liz's DH) lol!
Debbie
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Hello to all!
Great topic!
My complains - pain in the legs, can't walk ( taking Arimidex for a year now), weak, tyred. No dreams.
No interest in anything. Even went on a vacations with friends - didn't want to spend time with them.
I have no plans for a future.
I lost interest in life, and I'm thinking - for what I was born?
And why do we live on Earth?
What is the purpose?
I always was overweight, now even more.
I don't want to take antidepressant, I don't belive in it, and I don't want to gain more weight.
Something good
About hot flashes- I had allot, but since I started swimming, they're almost gone:)
Thank you all for listening.
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"My dog that eats poo is licking my foot now, have to go bleach myself."
Liz, I darn near wet myself.
otter
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Well all this certainly sucks big time.
I get all my mail opened, so I know all the postal people know my business. I don't give a fungoid anymore.
Animals are a pain. They constantly are food driven, they poop and pee if they can't hold it, and they throw up when they feel like it. Particularly if we forget to feed them, or they get pissed off. Oh, also if they are sick, but that's more rare. Still, why do we have them? Because they LOVE US - even first thing in the morning when no one else can tolerate looking at us! They LOVE US even if we have left them for a few days without giving them notice. Unconditional animal love is why we put up with disgusting hairballs, barf on our beds, under the bed, by the refrigerator on the sofa, poop and pee anywhere they decide it's appropriate.
Fire up there, you sound depressed. This shit IS depressing. Maybe you need an Arimidex vacation for a couple weeks to see if that's the reason. If it is, then you'll know. Don't give up, this is life and it's worth it because we just never know when an amazing joy is there just around the corner.
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Plus Otter and DebC, you're both on your chemo now and you all still have your super senses of humor. It may just be on your fingertips - but still there! YES! Great job you two!! Otter, tell the onco nurse you lost your percoset and need another script - you never know when you'll need to get constipated and they won't give you a script.
Oh, another thing..the mouse under the frig. This I know is true, mice under refrigerators and other critters that our pets view as potential meals are like us watching a movie we're totally into. Mice and rabbits are super pet dvd's. Flys and crickets are ok, but not like a live mouse under the frig.
OK, that's all folks because I'm in a pretty good mood today for once. So I guess I should go visit another thread....I will say this....
Shelly from my onco's office -- you're still a FONGOOL! My Italian is improving everyday around here.
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