Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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sorry to hear that, but you're probably right. he sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders, you taught him well. sometimes our kids can amaze us. good luck to him.
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I hate to say it, but maybe the cops did that due to 'attitude' from him. Hoping he'd go overboard and they could nail him. Now they don't know what to do! Not fair, though...
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If they didn't charge him with DUI right then and there it's not likely they will. If you are pulled over, randomly and they suspect anything they will harass, intimidate and arrest. They can do that, They DO that. The ones here do anyway. Especially young people, like your son, and especially boys. We believe they profile and target. I went thru a "police checkpoint" in my neighborhood last week. I thought it was a wreck scene, from a couple of blocks away. The car in front of me turned around and one of those cops ran round to his car and chased that guy down with lights and siren. I went on and handed over the required documents and asked, if I had turned around, "would you have chased me?", "Yes" he said "We want to know what you're running from". Extortionists is putting it mildly.
gotta run. baby is crying. (grandbaby)
Connie
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barbe-if we were talking about my other child, I would agree with you on an "attitude" problem, but this one is very calm and cool under pressure. I probably would have been able to tell that he was mad, but someone who doesn't know him probably wouldn't be able to tell.
Connie07-I sure hope you're right. All my life I've been taught to respect the police, and I've taught my children that also, but sometimes I wonder if some officers don't have a "power" complex.
Ah well-only time will tell how this plays out. Like I told my husband, if the last year of breast cancer stuff and the previous year's trauma with our other child and her abusive boyfriend taught me anything, it's "this too shall pass."
Happy Valentines Day, everyone!
Mary
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Here's wishing everyone a HAPPY VALENTINES DAY !!!!!!
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Love love love love love coming to this thread! Thank you all for sharing...
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I need to know how in the h*** I am supposed to find a new job in my present condition??? I finished treatment in October, but my hair is stupid looking, I gained 10 lbs and have ugly cheap clothes now, and my old job is gone with the mortgage industry fiasco. I'm 57 freaking years old and disability is not an option ($850 a month? you gotta be kidding me) Thanks cancer for helping me lose my last job and having to move to Orlando where my chances of finding anything in the mortgage business is less than slim. Oh yeah, and thanks for making it necessary to cash in my 401(k) too. I will so enjoy paying the IRS $14K for an early withdrawal penalty. yes, I deducted my medical expenses, so will probably be around $10K. Ha- I didn't need that 10K did I? Oh, and thanks for these 'alien things' in my chest to replace my soft natural breasts that you stole from me. They should be called 'hammies' instead of gummies, because they look like hamburger buns. Grrrr, hating my life right now!!! If I hear another person say 'cancer was the best thing that happened to me', I'm going to punch them in the face. Need to go hug my foster dog~~~~~~
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I know this is our bitch thread, but I found something funny and just have to share. I laughed the whole time. It is hilarious. It takes a little bit to load, but wait for it. So funny.
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Ruth - GREAT jaw line for 57!!!!!
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*blush*, THANK YOU!!! I have/had good legs, but my torso is like a beanbag now. Try finding clothes for THAT shape, lol ~ I lived in flip flops and a muumuu last summer.
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Ruth-I hear you on that beanbag shape! What is up with that? I did not have chemo, so I blame mine on tamoxifen. I don't weigh any more than I did before cancer, but my weight seems to have shifted to my middle.
Mary
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AWW ((((((Ruth))))) I know its hard. Ex sister in law was in mortgages too. She went back to school and has a new career now. But she didn't have the BC battle & bills and changes. Good rant though. Others have applied for assistance for now, and when you look and feel ready, you will find what you want and need and drop the help. That's what it's for. I'm just saying, you can apply for other SS funds if you paid in and it would keep you from losing everything.. It sucks, but it's better than having to beg or borrow. IMHO.
If I could have a do-over I would have tried harder to go back to work. But having to find a new job now would be embarassing. I've been away for 3 years now and my wardrobe ... well.. its suffered. To put it mildly. Especially the shoes.
~Connie
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I hate to rant when I'm for the most part very blessed. Trouble: neuropathy in hands and feet, lymphadema in arm, no eyebrows, 10 eyelashes, diabetic, butt hurts from Arimidex, hair can only be 1 inch long since I have puddles of sweat pouring off me hourly, my toenails fell off during chemo and are growing back in wrong, too fat to have reconstruction (although I have lost over 50 lbs.), can't hold a thought for more than 2 minutes, house is filthy, haven't folded clothes since 2007 and don't care (fortunately I live alone), hair growing where it's not supposed to, feet cracked, old before my time, don't want to do anything, want to move somewhere else but nowhere to go, too many responsibilities.
Now where was I, oh yea, I'm blessed.
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StillKickin, I'm with you girl!!!! You expressed yourself well!
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StillKickin ... I'll say! I must say I love that you haven't folded clothes since 2007! We are in the same boat on a lot of your rants.
Neuropathy in feet with pain, especially at night. Diabetic. Have not had reconstruction for the same reason. Can't stay on a healthy eating plan to save my life (literally). Have CRS - I really, really miss my mind. Can't afford to live anywhere but senior housing supplemented by government funding. Arthritis is killing me. I'm scared I will burn out my stomach from all the Advil for pain. Can't heal a foot ulcer - tired of bandaging my foot every morning.
Oh yeah, I am blessed too. Some days its just harder to count your blessings than other days.
I missed this thread - haven't been here for a while. I missed you ladies!
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Stillkicking, sorry, I have to ask.....how can toe nails grow in wrong????? Good rant by the way, very organized - leaves no doubt!
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stillkicking....are your toe nails like mine, When mine started coming back in they humped up in the middle and curled at the ends. Towards each other. Hurts all the time and looks terrible.
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Yep, that's a good description. Ingrowns basically.
BTW. You shouldn't have gotten me started. I'll definitely be back with more.
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Stillkicking, your post made me laugh out loud. Sorry about the stuff that sucks, but the 'haven't folded clothes since 2007 and don't care' was hilarious!!! It's been 4 years for me, and I still have toe nail and fingernail issues. It sucks.
Ruth, my professional history is mortgages. That's all I ever did (from 19 yrs old) until sh*t hit the fan. Had it going on for a long while. Now, barely making ends meet, working for my sister. ((((hugs)))) I know a few people in Altamonte Springs that are still in the business. Send me a PM if you want.
(((Kathleen))) I really, really miss my mind, too. lol! (But seriously.)
Connie, I used to wear the cutest shoes. Now, comfort definitely gets priority.
My bitch of the day....the IRS.
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Oh, the IRS. That's another subject. I got a bill for $23K (back taxes, penalties and interest and failing to file a return) for 3 years. It wasn't that I didn't have the money, it was that since the "troubles" (you know which ones) kept giving me new issues to deal with, I picked the ones I could handle at the time.
Since this adventure started in June 2007 (on my birthday of all things!) not only did I loose both breast, I've got congestive heart failure from the Herceptin (it's getting better), somebody hit my car and ran (totalled and it was paid for with less than 30,000 miles), lost eyesight for 6 weeks due to diabetes (didn't even know I had it until blood sugar reached over 600 and normal is under 100 -- ended up in ER), somebody got access to my bank account and charged over $2,600 in Chicago (that started a round of police reports, new bank accounts, affidavits, etc.) broke foot, tore ligaments in hand (yes, on the arm with lymphadema) and had to go to theraphy, and worst of all my sister passed away from liver cancer.
And for the cherry on top, one day I found two large size knots in my armpit. It was starting again. Onc had me come in same day. Kept apologizing for missing it during my last visit which was just 2 weeks prior. Since the knots were so large, had a biopsy scheduled for the next day. When the doctor finished with the biopsy, I asked him what he thought the percentage was that it was back. His response, "90-95% and I've been doing this for a long time". Next day he called me personally with the results: Bartonella henselae Infection, or better known as "cat scratch disease". Finally got a break! Damn cat. Simple antibotics.
You tell me with all of this, would you worry about filing a tax return? You should see the 2 page single spaced letter I sent the IRS with an attachment of greater than 30 pages. I included a list of all my doctor appointments, MUGA scans, biopsy (sp), copies of pathology report, surgeons' notes, MRI, etc. Waiting on their response.
Thanks. Not only do I feel better for the rant, now that i've re-read what I wrote, is there nothing I can't handle? I'm not saying bring it on, but I no longer have a lot of fear. We're all stronger than we know.
Again, thanks for letting me get this out. (Told you don't get me started!)
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StillKicking - Our motto here is BRING IT ON. Where have you been all these years? I'm glad we got you started cause reading about your IOS (Items of suckage) make me laugh and feel a whole lot better. I had Diabetes before I got the bc. And NO, I would not have worried about filing a tax return after all that. You can catch up with them eventually for a lot less than they say you owe. Might want to get some legal advice if they (IRS) come back at you for more.
I swear, documentation of what happens is so vital. One, for your own sanity because when you think back you are quickly overwhelmed. But if you kept a journal or a file of records, and especially if you get the copies of reports and disks of imaging it's practically a full time job keeping up with it all but it helps to put things in perspective.
Also, when I had a bad reaction to a med and it caused open wounds like shingles on steroids, I just knew it was a weird thing so I took pics with my phone in the bathroom mirror. The wound was on my good breast (of all places) and when the insurance denied my ER visit for hives/shingles I sent them a copy of my red, raw, icky sore and one of the PICC line installation on my arm with a nice letter saying this rash was traveling my body and if this went to my throat I would have died. The ER bill was paid within 2 weeks.
And when you have to go to a new Doc, it's impressive to have your own records. Makes 'em think you are organized. Maybe I am that way but it's been a long road since 07 and so many things that have happened are related to the surgery and/or treatments received. Not wanted necessarily, but received non the less.
On the LE issue, DH REALLY didn't want me to go back to the old BS for the swelling. He said he would go with and call her names, flip her off, leave nasty messages in the exam room, etc. He's really angry with her. Plus my insurance has changed and old BS isn't in the provider group anymore. So I called GYN and talked to nurse and she called the other ca center in town and I'm getting hooked up over there with a new Doc. They have an LE clinic too and I'll get in there eventually. In the meantime, sore and swollen breast from mammo last Friday will likely continue to be sore and annoying. ... a cold beer helps. The next one is for you gals.
Hey Traci, glad to hear from you. What's it like to have started one of the most popular threads on the board? hahaha... I know you didn't do it on purpose, but it sure has been fun. Just your great sense of humor shining through. It's so great to bitch and moan and groan... anyway.
Love ya,
Connie
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Damn girl! I, personally don't think you sould have to file returns for the rest of your life! But, trust me, the IRS doesn't given a s**t! I had not paid taxes on a 401K withdrawal and the $9,600 I owed became over $16,000 - talk about usury laws. I guess they don't apply to the IRS.
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Connie - Where have I been? Trying to keep a low profile so the powers that be could give me a few month's break.
Everybody I'm just starting to read these old posts. Is it horrible to laugh at another person's troubles. Thank goodness we still have our sense of humor. This thread is a definite tonic.
Oh, I forgot to do as the op said and didn't start my rant with "that sucks...listen to my crap". Best of luck to everybody.
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GONNA GO GOOGLE, BARBE, THEN WE'LL TALK.. 3JAYS
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SHEEEE'S BACKK.. LOL I WAS AT THE PAIN SPECIALIST TODAY, AND WE DISCUSSED THE SAME PAIN. HE SAID MINE WAS FROM THE "SPEADER" WHICH THEY HAD TO USE IN BOTH SURGERIES IM .TRYING TO GET BOLD OFF.. IT WONT GO OFF.. ANYWAY, IVE HAD MULTIPLE BACTERIAL INFECTIONS AS WELL. HOW'D YOU KNOW? PART OF FIBRO???3JAYS
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after posting this in two different forums..perhaps this is the best one of all to put it..
This is my personal experience with Arimidex. I bit the bullet and decided to try it. I was fearful that in myown way I was outsmarting myself by not taking what every medical professional told me I needed. One pill, that's all I took. I decided to try it at night, before I went to sleep. I was calm and actually thinking it would be a good thing. I took a bath and went to bed. I fell asleep shortly after. Then I woke up. And went back to sleep. This repeated itself through the night interspersed with bouts of explosive diarreah. I woke up (for tenth time) and got ready for work feeling like I was on the worst kind of speed. I skipped my vitamins as I did not want any extra enhancements adding to the mix. One pill, the night before. I got to work and was hyper and of course tired, from the lack of sleep. But felt like, ok, if this is the worst, I will just take the pill very very early in the morning and then I will be able to sleep. Maybe the diarreah was stress or something. That was fine until about 1pm in the afternoon, I was standing outside talking to a friend and my left arm went numb. Like I had just woken up after sleeping on it. I shook it and commented how odd it felt. Then she looked at me and said how glassy my eyes were and I said not much sleep last night. I sat down and then my left leg was tingling. I said this is ridiculous, it must be from me being scared or something, one pill could not do this that quick. So I got up and laughed it off and went back upstairs to the office. By the time i got back my eyes were watering and I felt my head was pounding,my eyes were burning and red.I shook it off, again, saying this is CRAZY, I must be getting sick. My brain was completely spinning. My sister came over and asked me what was wrong as my eyes were so red and glassy and I was holding my arm funny. I said I did not know. I hadnever felt this bad in my life...inclduing when I go the BMX...at least when I woke up from that I anticipated something would hurt. But this was weird. Like nothing before. I called my husband and said I didn't know if I could drive home so to hang in case I needed to call him. I made it home crying the whole way. By the time I got home I was convinced it was not the pill but that I had undergone a small stroke. My neck was was sore and the left side was weirding out. My husband got home and sat withme and got me to take a hot bath. Once I sat back in the tub I got really really MAD! I said I must be nuts honey...because one pill could not do this to a person. He corrected me and said I knew better than that. He reminded me of the two times in his life when he had violent side effects following the first or second dose of two different drugs. He reminded me of the drugs back in high school that people (him and his friends,not goody two shoes me:) took and how one little pill did an awful lot. I started crying harder. I sadi what if it doesn't get better? My arm and leg are numb and I have shooting spur type feelings in my foot. My neck hurts and I my stomach is rumbling loud enough for him to hear it. I turned on the jets in the tub to massage my hold body ...and kept crying. I was too scared to take a tylonel or an ativan because I did not know if it would make &it& worse...he told me to get mad so I would not be scared...(he knows me well) so i did. I went on to say not only would I not ever take a FRIGGIN AI of any kind again but I damn well would quit smoking without adding more drugs to the mix. Somehow I had slowly started to buy intoit all...the big name hospitals and the big name docs telling me I NEEDED THIS STUFF. Now don't get me wrong...i am not a fool and if I had a more agressive cancer I damn well would do what was neccessary. BUT...this is why I had a BMX, this is why I started a regimen to suppress the estrogen naturally based on clinical trials...this is why I changed my diet, this is why I decided to stop smoking...to battle the BC so I could live a good life. So I got good and mad. Mad atmyself for not trusting my gut which has led me right since all of this began. I was mad that there untold women suffering horrific side effects so they can make some magical 5year mark while their life is compromised in so many other ways along the path to get there. NO. My sister called as she was worried about me and said she had never been so scared in her life when she saw me that afternoon. And let me tell you my sister is no alarmist and in fact would be the first one to tell me it was inmy head. She said you know, maybe that is why so manypeople can't believe you have gone through all of this...as you are healing so well and have generally been getting stronger and healthier...maybe if you had taken the AIs right after surgery like they wanted you to you might have been sicker like everyone seemed to expect you to be. And maybe you would not haveknown the difference thinking it was all part of the process of breast cancer. That you were supposed to feel like &hit. And I thought about that and I have to agree. Don'tget me wrong, I have had some rough days since the BMX but not anything like what happened to me yesterday. But if I hadnot had eight weeks of healing before trying this poison how would I know how to feel? I had never had breast cancer andsurgery before...all of the symptoms would have gotten swept up in the general Bc aftermath....Let me say this, Ivcould never have dreamed it would hit me that hardvthat fast. I stayed home from work today and rested. As the day has gone on most feeling returned with just my upper arm and elbow and knee and heel tingling/feeling weird still. My stomach is racked. A little gross aside...I went to the restroom and after wiping...there was blood. Now I know where I wiped and have neverhad blood from my rear before in 54 years. I start screaming a bit ago for my husband and we looked it up...yep, one of the rare side effects...I missed that one in my reading..I am hoping that I had a hemi I did not know abotu suddenly decide to bleed (dont they do that? soemtimes) from all the diarreah....If it continues until tomorrow I will go to doc. But i am sick of docs rightnow. Pissed at docs right now. So here it is almost 24 hours following one dose of arimidex. My story, my experience. No wonder so many write of their pains, I will never glossover those plaintive writings again when reading them. I truly believe none of them are exagerrating and they must feel like theya re going nuts to have that stuff start popping off in their bodies. My case might be unique and the effects extreme. I can only liken it to a poison that my body is trying to get rid of. The bitch is the drug can linger in your system for 50-60 hours. I will stick with that and not pay attention to someone who called astrazeneca and was told each dose can actually remain active within for 10-11 days. Nope. In this case I will use mind over matter to get over this mini catastrophe. And be grateful that now I do not have to play the what if game. I don't care what brand or formulation, I will not put it in my body again. It scared me and I hope I don't have lingering anything from it. God bless all of you who can handle it. I cannot.
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I'm not sure this belongs here or not ... just received an email from my youngest sister entitled Ode to Nature. The pictures are beautiful. Its point is that Mother Nature gives us such beauty, life, etc. and we destroy it. It includes pictures of slaughtered animals for their fur, skins, etc. Her note was that it was both beautiful and moving. What I find curious is this is a woman who buys leather and fur clothing, buys leather furniture and does not contribute a dime to any of these causes. That grinding you hear in the background is me grinding my teeth.0
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OMG, Annettek, what a horrible drug reaction! I'm so glad you're all right, but you obviously were scared to death. I'm on arimidex going on 4 months and I've been complaining about the joint stiffness, but have not had anything remotely like what you experienced. It seems as though you're getting better and I do hope the worst is over---if that happened to me, that would have been my last pill too.
Please let us know what your onc says when you tell him about this. I'd be willing to make a bet that he'll say something like he's never heard of this happening, and it couldn't have been the arimidex.
Kathy
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((((((((((((((((( Annettek ))))))))))))))))))))
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