Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Geez, a place to complain and people who will listen and understand. Where to start??
The diagnosis - WHO with any sense would schedule a mammogram for Friday the 13th? Oh look - there's a lump! Did anyone expect otherwise. I'm never having a medical appointment on a Friday the 13th again.
There's the boss - who says one day that the important thing is to take care of myself and not worry about how much time I take off. Followed a few days later by her public complaint that with me being gone all the time it's hard to get things done. Mind you, I missed only two or three days every two weeks during chemo part I and two days every three weeks during chemo part II - and turned in work from home while I was gone AND stayed way beyond closing time on work days to make sure I kept up with my workload.
Then she organizes a "chemo's finished" office party for me which was great. The thank you note I brought with me the following day got torn into tiny bits and dumped in the re-cycle bin - I hadn't had a chance to give it to her when she blew up about how my being sick had messed up the entire office. So I showed her, I not only didn't give her a thank you note but I tore it into teensy-weensy bits!
There's the kids - one girl and two boys, all adults. The month before my dx the girl picked up and moved to the middle of no where. Even though she has no job and I offered to pay for a round-trip ticket, she didn't have time to visit (new boyfriend). Her youngest brother lives just blocks away but has perfected the art of avoiding me. His fiancee visits and calls and I babysit his kids, but I've probably seen him twice in the last year. No complaints about the oldest son. He even arranged a chemo-sucks tour of Texas for me.THe Dear Hubby - OMG you'd think if you paid to have a husband imported it would hang around a little more out of gratefullness, right?!?! Ok - He is from a foreign country but he's not around because he's taking classes, working, getting through homework and seeing his friends. Meanwhile I'm stuck taking the bus to my chemo treatments and spending every evening alone. I kept trying to pretend that I don't mind going to chemo and all my appointments alone. Unfortunately I have a crappy imagination and I'm really bad at pretending.
The best for last - that Oncologist - someone told me I shouldn't expect a good bedside manner from a scientist. Why the hell not?
Every side-effect I spoke up about he had the same reply "umm hummm". Now finished with chemo I go in for the check-up he suggested and he asks me why I'm there. I asked about my muscle and joint pain - that's not related to chemo; I asked about my sleep problems - that's not related to chemo. I've stopped asking him anything.
Finally, all those people who call me sir, the others who tell me how brave I am and the ones who comment every time they see me on how fast my hair is coming back. PPPPPPPPPPBBBBBBBBBBBBHHHHHHHHTttttttttttttttttttttt.
I much prefer the honest, startled reactions of the young adults the first time they catch sight of a bald or nearly bald woman approaching them.
I always get a good laugh out of those. Time to go be caring and constructive. Thanks for your ear!
Jaanee
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Jane,
Welcome! This is a great thread!! All I can say is THAT SUCKS!!! So sorry you have had to deal with all that... it is just so unfair!!LOL ROFLMAO!! Traci, that story is just priceless!! The Dusty Undies!! LOL
"We gotta balance the shit with the hilarious to come out semi-sane." Hanna, that is SO true!!
I agree...my favorite threads are this bitchy thread and g's messy thread... Oh, and somebody better eat that cake, before I eat it all, and gain twice what I gained from those steroids, during chemo!!
Traci, so sorry to hear about your friend.... bc SUCKS!!
Oh and Shirley, my optional insurance plan, that doesn't have a premium, but does have a deductible has a lower deductible than yours, I think... I'll have to go back and check, but I thought it was $1500... although, maybe it is $1500. per person, so in reality, that is $3000, for both of us!! GRRR..... I HATE INSURANCE!!
Hope everyone has a less sucky week!!
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oh, I almost forgot... I have one more gripe for today... I thought I had gotten closer to my MIL, since my bc dx... but on Friday, we went shopping together, and she is back to the way she was BEFORE my bc dx!! She is kind of like the MIL on Everybody Loves Raymond... very critical.... GRRR..... Traci, I understand about the Step Monster, cause sometimes she can be a Monster-in-law!!
Will somebody SHUT ME UP!!!!?? Oh, if I go to g's thread, I can eat cake, and THAT WILL SHUT ME UP!!!!
Harley
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Traci , too funny. I love it. How could you go there and not laugh and have fun. And for a worthy cause. Sorry to hear about your friend Joy. I agree with Shirley , (screaming) I HATE THIS DISEASE!!!!!!!!!!
Hanna , Oh my God!!!! I can't stop laughing , but its really not funny. Sort of like a train wreck. Shouldn't look , but you can't help it. I'm talking about your strange neighbor. Her poor parents! I can't imagine having a child I was afraid of , but there are alot of teens with behavior problems. It really is scary. That certainly deserves a big that sucks!
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how long has it been since your treatment ended?
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my bitch today is that i am so sick of blogs...............what's up with them? to me it sounds like blahing, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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hanna - seriously, maybe you should "tip" off dr. phil (wink wink) unfortunately, so many people are just plain crazy you don't want her to know you're on to her....she definately needs help...I mean, I did some pretty crazy things as a teen but she has me way way beat....
traci ~ THANKS for sharing the story, you owe me about 6 stiches by my count...on the other hand, it was well worth it....I sent big hugs to your friend...I know how hard it is to go through this yourself and have someone you care about go through it too...
hugs and prayers to everyone...forget about me, pray for the Philadelphia Flyers tonight...making the playoffs has done wonders foe my depression
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ps...harley - you are a bonifide mess!!! a funny, loveable one....but a mess none the less....hug hug, kiss kiss
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jaanee~ welcome to the thread...it sounds like u needed it....God bless you for going through all of this and keeping a sense of humor in telling it....consider this free therapy where you dont have to worry about any white coats 86'ing you into a 72 hour psyc hold for the things you say. sometimes the bs just gets to be too much -so feel free to let it fly...take care sister and let us know ho we can help
bonnie
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Hey, Callievigs! I don't know who you were asking the question to. I'm thinking it was Jaanee since she was posting about pain and talking to her onc about it.
We've all finished treatment different months and years. You'll have to be more specific. Jump in and COMPLAIN! Ask away. We'll give you our ear.
WELCOME, CALLIEVIGS, to our b*tching, moaning and groaning thread. You'll definitely love it here.
Shirley
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Jaanee...............all I can say is .... you should write a book!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry 'bout your bitches girl but man, lol....you can tell a story!
brb
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Jaanee - that really sucks, girl! Welcome to you and Callievigs
Marsha
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o.k.... here you go girls....
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Just had to share....sorry it's so "orange"
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LMAO! That is the dustie undies LOL!
PS just FYI the 2nd fr: the left looks like my OAOA. : - )
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ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!
Really funny and kinda gross all at the same time.......
Marsha
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The best pic is the one on the bottom where you can see their faces. From the rear, they kinda look like their buns deflated!
In the bottom pic, the one second from the left has a tattoo on his thigh! You say he looks like your OAOA? Not too shabby! He must be the one who doesn't need to stuff a sock in his thong~!
I think I've seen these guys wearing their Speedos swimming in the ocean in South Florida!! I honestly have to say, even with the guy with the manboobs on the far left, they are looking pretty good for their age! I bet it was a fun show - we need these guys up north!
I think they were showing off for you Traci!
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OK...here is my bitch of the day.....
About half the tastebuds on my tongue are about 4 times the size they should be, red, swollen and PAINFUL! It isn't really mouth sores, but damn does it hurt. I have used everything I can find and it has not done jack. I'm taking a sleeping pill and going to bed. Maybe it will all be gone when I wake up....
Deb C
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LOL at the dusty undies! That cracks me UP!!! scares me a bit toooooo
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Men....need I say more.
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I think I need a "Rent a Husband" next time.
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I only have one bitch this morning. Its Monday, Im sleepy, and I have to go to work. Yuck!
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LOL @ the dusty undies! They DO look good for their ages, though!
Deb, that just plain ROTS! I hope they figure out something to help.
My bitch today is that I am still unbelievably nauseaus! I THOUGHT it was because I had stopped my pain meds and re-started them a couple of weeks later (when I initially started them, I had nausea for a couple of weeks and then it went away). It hasn't eased off, so I am thinking it's a s/e of the rads to my crumbling and broken spine....or, maybe not? I actually WOKE UP in the middle of the night because the nausea was so severe! I haven't vomited--I'd probably feel a lot better if I did. It's just this constant queasiness....I KNOW I need to be eating to help rebound from the rads, but there is honestly not a single thing I think I could tolerate. UGH.....What am I going to do when I start chemo/xeloda???? HOLY CRAP! I feel like such a big baby, but seriously--if I can't handle the pain meds, how am I going to do this?!!!???!!!
I am also so exhuasted that I have spent every possible minute in bed. That just ain't right.
A great big, juicy, Monday-morning "THAT SUCKS!" to everyone
((((HUGS))))
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Diane,
I am so sorry that you are having trouble with the pain meds. THAT SUCKS!! and bc SUCKS!!
A big HUG for you!!My bitch for today is this: If ya'll read my post on Saturday, about my insurance, and my bill I received from my ps office for $605! Well, I called my case manager, and .... you can see THIS coming, a mile away! ... SHE is OUT of the office!!! So, I left a message, and will try back tomorrow.
Well, I hope I made it quite clear that I WANT to CONTINUE with case management, 'cause if they keep making mistakes when they file claims, HOW will I ever be able to sort out this mess???
Hope everyone has a less sucky day today!!
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I usually enjoy reading this thread and don't add alot, but I felt your pain Harley, I went 2 weeks ago to my PS office to 'touch up' my tattoos, I asked that they darken them just a little bit and the girl mixed up a new set of colors. I liked the colors, she went back over the original tattoos. I checked out and they said see you in a month. Friday afternoon I got home to a statement from my insurance company showing that the PS had billed the Insurance co for a full tattoo $975 just like they billed in February for the inital session. I thought that the touch-up was included from the first session or at least at a reduced rate. The first time tattoos did not take well, one side had about 1/4 of the areola that was not colored so I needed the touch-up. The insurance did pay but I am still meeting my deductible for the year. In Feb I had to pay 250 and I now have to pay an additional 180. this however does get me past my $400 per year deductible. I have not called the PS to see what is up with the additional bill to the insurance. this is the same PS who when the insurance company denied the Alloderm at first said that they would write off the portion of the bill the insurance co denied, if we lost all the appeals.
Sheila
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Morning all,
Well it's a fongool Monday again. Ho-hum.....grey and rainy too.
DebC, this is a totally off the wall suggestion, but have they tried to treat your tongue with Benedryl? Well things swell, I think benedryl. It sucks you have this going on. Maybe the liquid because it would actually go over your tongue to swallow it. But I know nothing about this.....I just want your tongue better girl!
Diane, when I got my rads booklet, more a book really - it was very big on the nausea that comes with rads. They even mentioned it was possible when beaming on the breast. Other people who would come in for treatment would be getting so skinny because they were getting rads to the prostate, or someplace in the middle area. They were feeling the nausea big time. Then there's the fatigue. Like taking 2 sleeping pills...I just couldn't fight it for about 5 hours. That's why IMO getting rads in the evening is better so you can function during the day. If you never had severe nausea from pain meds before, I would think it's rad treatment doing this. I will get my rads book out later and see what it says.
Harley, that insurance lady better watch it cuz I think this insurance stuff is building up in you like a volcano about to erupt!!
Ka-Boom!! But you'll feel SO much better once you get ahold of her! Wish we could all be flys on the wall to see you in action! OK, gtg 4 now.
Hanna
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Deb,
Building on what Hanna said about the BENADRYL, I remember my dh's doctor told him to mix equal parts of MILK OF MAGNESIA and BENADRYL to gargle with when dh had a very bad sore throat. Maybe it could help?
Hanna, thanks for the info. I'm just hoping I get a nausea-free day before I start on the XELODA in 3 weeks. AGHHHH!!
HOLY COW with the insurance crap!!! Does there ALWAYS have to be a problem????? Me, I received a bill from my recent ER trip and there is a random $50 charge left over--my secondary insurance is supposed to take care of it. The hospital shows the adjustment for the secondary insurance, but the $50 charge remains. ICK. Sure, it's not an astronomical amount, but it's supposed to be covered. I bet I go through more than $50 worth of crap to get it straightened out.....
(((HUGS))))
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Hey girls-
Thanks for the benadryl idea. My "magic mouthwash" has liquid banadryl, Malox and 3 or 4 other drugs....I can't remember all of them. It seems to sooth the mouth, but is not getting rid of the swelling and pain. Actually, it is abit better this morning, so maybe the worst is done.
My bitch for today is that I got up at 4:45am to pee and saw out the bathroom window that the door had been ripped off my chicken coop! I big brown bear (we found the tracks) ripped down an electric fence, the chicken wire fence and then the wooden door of the coop and killed a bunch of our chickens. I am SO sick of these damn bears. My mom and dad came down and they and my DH went out with guns, but the bear(s) were already gone. About 6am we heard it bellowing and growling in the woods, but quite a ways from the house. Later we heard a gun shot, so maybe someone killed it.
We had 4 hens still alive in the pen and I think I heard another out int he woods. These are our pets as well as out egg layers, so I really ticks me off. Damn bears....
Deb C
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Deb- Those were some hungry bears......
My bitch is about my legs hurting "ALL THE TIME" I hurt on the inside of my elbows, shoulders etc.
I'm just sick of feeling old as dirt.
Hugs to you all
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Traci - OMG, that is too funny. I agree though that they don't look too bad for their age.
Deb - Glad to hear the mouth is feeling a little better. Hope someone got that bear. I'd be scared to death living where bears are roaming about!
Diane - Hope you can get that nausea under control - that sucks
Harley - Insurance sucks! I just finalized an appeal with my company (which is usually very good) because they denied payment for my daily rads last year to the tune of almost $14,000. We have been battling about this since last June and I have finally got them to admit their error. They paid for all the tests, the doctors, the scans and x-rays, but not the actual daily treatment. . .WTH! Now they're going to pay it and hopefully the collectors from the hospital will get off my back. Good luck with getting yours straightened out.
I don't really have a gripe today (well, I guess that was a pretty big gripe about my insurance up there). Hopefully things will stay good for everyone.
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I don't really have time to post my gripe today but a quick question please. I know what ROFL means but what does MAO mean?
Thanks,
Wink
PS. A hearty "that sucks!" to all the bad stuff you guys are going thru right now!
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