The dumbest things people have said to you/about you
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Well folks-- i'm going to share a college pledge song --it will probably get deleted by the powers to be---------You can hum it as needed ...... I wish I could tell you which old camp song it goes with but i can't. ...but when you say the words or scream them . It as good or better than taking any benzo. "Shit damn hell, son of a bastard bitch, rape screw, fuck you and you can go to hell too."(row row the boat is a good apppoach) It is very theapeautic. The stories I could tell about this simple phrase are numerous. If you just choose a camp song and humm it ...When someone says something stupid and you think this and humm and old camp song you will relax or if they have made you so angry that immediate relaxtion doesn't occur get in you car and scream it. You will be amazed how after minutes that you begin to calm. Analpores( assholes). That make stupid comments about cancer deserve no quater. They are idiots andshould be given no kindness in thought or words. Cancer sucks.0
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Well folks-- i'm going to share a college pledge song --it will probably get deleted by the powers to be---------You can hum it as needed ...... I wish I could tell you which old camp song it goes with but i can't. ...but when you say the words or scream them . It as good or better than taking any benzo. "Shit damn hell, son of a bastard bitch, rape screw, fuck you and you can go to hell too."(row row the boat is a good apppoach) It is very theapeautic. The stories I could tell about this simple phrase are numerous. If you just choose a camp song and humm it ...When someone says something stupid and you think this and humm and old camp song you will relax or if they have made you so angry that immediate relaxtion doesn't occur get in you car and scream it. You will be amazed how after minutes that you begin to calm. Analpores( assholes). That make stupid comments about cancer deserve no quater. They are idiots andshould be given no kindness in thought or words. Cancer sucks.0
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Apperantly did a submit twice -----------ordinarilly , I whould delete one ----but won't this time becaause.. i'm mad as a HATTER- ---------
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I find myself getting hysterical with laughter while watching tv -- I think it is an over-reaction and might possibly be sorrow disguised. I don't really cry unless I am so mad I am spitting nails.
Barbe ... I was just thinking of your cats. I remember you had three and all were about 20 years old. I am sorry you've lost two. It is so hard. Sometimes when I think about some of the cats I've had over the years I get really sad.
Riley ... my heartfelt sympathies for the loss of your cat.
I think we tend to cry more with the loss of an animal because they gave us unconditional love and all our memories of them are happy.
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What ever emotion comes over me I just go with it. I dont feel any need to understand it now or apologize for it either. I was always looking forward to getting older and being able to wear a purple hat lmao some of you might get that reference and say what was one my mind. Well now I can and I am only 41 yeah me
. I have to embrace what is going on , hey I get to meet a whole bunch of really neat ladies I never would have before. See today is a postive day and I will just go with it.Tomorrow I could be swearing like a trucker lol.Love and Light from Canada
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How old does one have to be to wear a purple hat?
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however old you are and want to wear a purple hat-that is how old you have to be:)
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LOL there is book I read about getting to a certain age where you can just wear whatever you want and not give a damn what people think and the character in this book and her gf's had a purple hat club where they would meet once a month for lunch and you had to wear a purple hat it was so good. I will have to find the name of the book and post it was a good read. I am a total girly girl and always worried about what I wore and what I looked like so this BC thing has kind of squashed that, maybe a good thing lol. I already ordered my purple scarf for when I start chemo. Whole new attitude coming on
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I read this in my farewell speech when I retired, while wearing a purple shirt and some really badlly fitting shorts! The red hat society comes from this and I don't know of any age requirements. Here is the poem http://www.luvzbluez.com/purple.html
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Didn't Jenny Mundy also write a poem (When I amold, I shall wear purple" is the first line...I teach it to my studnets all the time!
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We have a local red hat society here. I had heard about it on the news at one time but just happened to be having lunch out one day when all these ladies paraded into the restaurant in their red hats and some even with red coats and purses.I thought it was great!
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Before diagnosis I went to a Pampered Chef party.
The PC guy just called me and asked if I wanted to have a show in March. I said no thanks.
He said, "What about April?"
I said, "No that doesn't work for me either."
He said, "How bout I call you back in April? We have over 30 new products. Are you enjoying the items you purchased?"
I said, "Yes, they're fine. Look, I'm in chemotherapy right now. I'm not really up for throwing a party."
He said, "May then?"
WTH? I said, "I'll tell you what. Call me back in September. If I'm still alive then I'll think about it."
He said, "Ok. Talk to you in September." and hung up.
OMG.
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TonLee....seriously? Was he reading from a script he couldn't go off of? Do they actually listen to the answers people give them? CRAZY!
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I know Sandee, right? And I spent a good 4 hours with this guy at the last party. He must really need to sell some PC!
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lassie thank you so much for posting that link,,that is exactly what my poor brain was trying to remember and that was the book, I loved it and yes the red had club but they wear purple. I vow to live my life like this now.
cheers to all the women out there who dare to wear there red hats and purple shirts loud and proud love and light from canada
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RILEY!!!!I couldn't cry either, and then it kicked my butt. I went to an acupuncturist to help me with massive panic attacks last year, had no idea what to expect, and she put a needle in a very particular location on my back-----BAM! Tears flew out of me unstoppable, cried for an hour, sobbed, snot all over her floor! I needed it. I still can barely cry but when I do, I can't stop for an hour. I don't want to tell you what to do, i just wanted to share with you what happened to me. I bottled up the crying to the point where I felt nothing, or, pure panic. My love to you and to all of you women here!
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Oh yeah, and I have found that I am much happier with my crazy girlfriends and my fun artist friends than I am hanging around the house being mom and wife. I love my daughter more than life itself---but i need to have the full belly laughs, the wine overflowing, and the sheer joy of just being me in the presence of people who enjoy that. All of you, go find the people or the situations that make you laugh until you pee your pants!
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Crazykittie....exactly right on both....massage also helps release the tears but I too have found that a needle placed inthe right place can release all kinds of emotinos.
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My first outing to a party two weeks after my BMX. I was still sore, stiff and in pain, but I had to make an appearance. Everyone was so pleased to see me and pleased that I made an effort to attend. My cousin said "well, at least you don't need chemo cause that is the hardest part of cancer". I thought REALLY??? You mean finding out you have cancer wasn't hard? The emotional rollercoaster isn't hard? Having your breasts cut off isn't hard? Knowing there may be a re-occurence isn't hard? Having more surgeries isn't hard? Granted, chemo is the scariest part for me, but don't diminish everything else I have to undergo with this damn cancer.
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slinky - I had lumpectomy, rads and now tamoxifen (couldn't handle Al SE's). I think all of us who don't have chemo get the same comment regularly and feel as you do. I have told several people that though chemo is bad the worst part of breast cancer is the knowledge that no matter what treatment program we follow none of them are pleasant and we know we can find ourselves facing the same battle again at any time. That next time it could be any where in our body. That for the rest of our lives that fear will be lurking in our subconscious even when we think we have conquered it.
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chubba yep amen to that.they will never know I pray that they will never know
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I had this written on my yahoo blog back in January 2008; I think it came from an email - I didnt' write it, but I liked it too much not to write it down. Only the last line is mine:
The Purple Hat
The 3 years old little girl looks in the mirror and sees herself as a princess.
The 8 years old little girl looks in the mirror and sees herself as Cinderella
The 15 years old teen girl looks in the mirror and sees the Ugly Duckling
The 20 years old young woman looks in the mirror and sees herself too fat/too skinny, too tall/too short, with hair too curly/too straight, but decides to go out anyway.
The 30 years old woman looks in the mirror and sees herself too fat/too skinny, too tall/too short, with hair too curly/too straight, but decides she doesn't have time to fix herself up and goes out anyway.
The 40 years old woman looks in the mirror and says "I'm clean" and goes out.
The 50 years old woman looks in the mirror and says "It's me" and goes out wherever she wants.
The 60 years old woman looks in the mirror and remembers all those who cannot look at themselves in the mirror anymore. Goes out and conquers the world.
The 70 years old woman looks in the mirror and sees laughters and wisdom. Goes out and enjoys life.
The 80 years old woman doesn't waste time to look in the mirror. She puts on her purple hat and goes out and enjoys life.
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Don't waste time to look in the mirror. Put on your purple hat.
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thanks day! i needed that! 3jays
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I had a friend today tell me what a shocking week she has had. Her husband has been unwell and " I went through what you have this week". " I had a mammogram and biopsy, all was fine though"...oh well thank goodness! I could have sworn I had 2 surgeries, chemo, rads, hormone treatment and let's not forget cancer...but yes, what a week!
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YES DAY that is exactly what I am saying and feeling, you guys are so awsome getting my heart.
Love and light from Canada
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Years ago I worked with a very toxic lady. At the time I had a miscarriage. It came 8 months after my father died and I was absolutely heartbroken. This lady was one of those people that, whatever you've had, she's had it worse. Well I was saying how I never had any cramping before the miscarriage. Well, she had had cramping during a pregnancy. Oh wait, but she didn't actually miscarry. Unbelievable.
The whole crying thing really hit home. I was diagnosed with stage III ovarian cancer in August 2002, just 10 months after my Mum died from it. I didn't cry once, ever. Fast forward to October 2007 and I find out I have BC. I cried and cried and cried. Once treatment started I settled down; then in anticipation of the bilat mast the tears started again for weeks.
Right now I just feel so angry and cry a lot. I thought by now I would be better not worse.
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BMac- so hard to predict sorrow and when and how it will hit...I keep a box of kleenex in the house and in my office at school...should keep one in the car too but usually use my sleeve...you have had an incredibly rough go of it...anger and pain make sense to me. Release? I always say we need tears to water the plants of the earth...or to water our souls I guess....you are just releasing..not worse my dear. Just your heart trying to let go ..so hard.
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Bmac- that is so true what Sandee said....I am shocked some of the times when the tears come...it can turn on a dime. At least we all have each other...perhaps the one place where you can count on someone getting *it*...I hope a smile finds you this weekend:)
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Cant stop the tears when they want to come so I just let em come. Anyone ever heard that song two tear drops ? If you need a good cry you tube it have the kleenex handy. After a good cry I usually feel better for awhile
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Day ... just perfect! It says it all. I find that I am just angry all the time. As the losses mount, the angrier I get. A short time after losing my breasts, friends and family tell me I can't stay angry forever and I should "get over it." Then there was the time shortly after my bmx that one of my sisters compared my bmx to her breast augmentation. Yeah, that's pretty much the same surgery, huh!
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