The dumbest things people have said to you/about you
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Otter..."Leap and the net will appear"...reminds me of when I was originally trying to decide whether or not to move to Haliufax...I had a dream that I was on a high diving board..couldn't go back down pbecause people were in line waiting and too scared to jump....then I let someone go past me as I cowered on the board...they lept into the air, dove and landed smoothyl in the water...no harm done....safe and sound....I thought "if they can do it, so can I" and I followed....when I woke up, I decided to move..."leap and the net will appear"...somewhere along the line this year, I think I have forgotten that...I have just been moving one step at a time ...one foot in front of the other...thanks for reminding me of this.
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otter- the way I see it-it is no small thing being cheered up....
i think he is a little mountain goat and it inspired me to put in my tag line "I can do it" , which covers so many things...when we used to go vissit my mom's family in Alberta in the summers we would always go to Waterton Lakes Park and I loved chasing the mountain goats..in retrospect-probably not so smart but I still think they are coolest things (or among them at least:)
Barbe- you never cease to amaze me- I love you for you are a true original - and only you would worry that he is being thrown off a cliff- as for that comment made to you...perhaps that is who needs a little cliff throwing:)
Sandee- you remind me that I am nearing the time to take another look as well at more than a few things...and then set out and do them.
I don't know how anyone else is feeling but I feel like I am coming out of a long sleep that is taking me awhile and seeing some stuff I do not like. I am surrounded by passive-agressives at work...not the typical ones I expect- but my damn group that works for me and ultimately, it is my fault. I thought it better to lead by example and praise rather than damn...so now I have a bunch of overpaid primadonnas who think they are far better than they are...with a nice little nasty streak running through them...and I am no fan of nasty. Sustained evidence of it first makes me sad...then astonished...then I become incredibly angry. I do no t like bullies or lazy. Never have,never will.
And then....I can get nasty...in a very clinical way. It is like you have used up all I had then you took some more. If you manage to survive this stage...it is followed by...
indifference-which is the worst thing I think a person can feel (or not feel for that matter) for another.
I try to avoid going here, I will agonize and try to even hold on to the anger for it equates some measure of feeling, but then...it does happen on occasion. Indifference. The person now means nothing on an emotional level at all to me. Hubby says my eyes go blank and I literally look through the person. That is such the antithesis of who I am and I have to be hurt to go there. But I will. Frees up the caring and concern for those who benefit and pass it on. Perhaps it has gotten easier for me to go there after BC. We'll see.
Oooooooooooh i scared myself! hahahaha big tough annette- but.....
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WELL SAID ANNETTEK!!!
Julie E
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two positive off-topic stories-
A guy came up to me in the produce section and asked what was the name of the vegetable which is like little cabbages on a stick. I replied, brussel sprouts. He cried, yes that's it! I ran into him again and said I was pleased that he thought I was the type of person who could remember the name of a vegetable (when you get older, that is exactly the type of thing you can't remember) and he said, that isn't why I asked you, I asked you because I thought you would know it because you look so healthy!
This evening I was in line at the supermarket having picked up a few things, a rough looking guy got in line behind me with one of those old lady carts filled to overflowing with items. I put down the order separator bar ( does it have a name?) behind my order and he began to stack up his items on the belt in a very methodical way. The cashier had handed me my bags and I was putting them in my cart when the guy said, oh no I forgot my debit card!! he asked the cashier if he could put his items back in his cart and leave it by her and go home and get his card. she asked how far away he lived and from his answer, it sounded like about a mile. So I piped up, "I'll pay". I think we were all very startled by my offer - he was appreciative but not effusive - which would have embarrased both of us, he said he would do something nice for someone and I said yes, pay it forward.
I feel fortunate that I am in a position to have done something spontaneous like that.
Julie E
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THANKS JULIE! two great stories that made me smile:)
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See, Julie -- annette's little goat is jumping with happiness at your stories (especially the pay-it-forward one)!
otter
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Ducky, you are funny... love it. Julie... thanks for the stories. I had 1 good and 1 bad today. My ex ( which reminded me why he is my ex. Told me I should think about holding off on surgery (in a week) and go to this holistic healer in guatamala that healed his aunts sinus cancer. WTF? oh, and it only costs 400 pesos! This from a deadbeat that has paid two months of child support in over a year and has seen his daughter 3 times in 8 months. ( he moved out of state thank god) Then got mad because I mentioned I had to get a power of attorney before surgery ( my parents) Started questioning me if my parents would want custody if anything happened to me.( i did put a will together, as everyone should when they have children, regardless of bc, stating my wishes would be my daughter be with my parents, didnt tell him this though!) when I mentioned, probably... he freaked out! I had to remind him to please not tell me he is supportive, as THIS is exactly the kind of thing I dont need, and that EVERYONE including, the drs and myself know I will beat this! Ugh, I think he is getting off on this, because it brings HIM attention! UGH! so narcissistic!!!
On a positive note... I had a client that I love... I have seen her every 3 weeks for 6 years. She has seen the good, bad and ugly, through the birth of my daughter to my nasty divorce. ( i know it should be the other way around) She hugged me so tight tonight and said that once I get through this she wishes me peace and happiness, that i was definatley due. I just really felt the love in that hug. I was reminded that through all of the stupid people out there... there are the lovely ones... the ones that are truely in our corner... hugs to everyone, xoxo
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When a Male relative said to me " I know how you feel"... Excuse me, he is not female, has not had cancer, and definately not had his breasts removed. I felt like hitting him...
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Didlydi--------In his defence may be there is something about him you don't know. He was at least trying to be kind. I had a not so close friend call ----she really had a tale of trails. I decided not to tell her mine. It just seemed the right thing to do at the time.
Julie check with your lawyer about gaurdianship papers regarding the kids. Legally they are much stronger-and more expensive. But should there be something that happens to you, power of attorney ceases at death. You can have your wishes stated in your will, that you want your parents to be guardians and it usually not that big of a deal-------UNLESS-------it's contested. Then it can get very expesive and the outcome is not guaranteed. Good luck
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Well..the Julies rock tonight...pay it forward indeed....and yes, good for you for having a will...I don;t have kids but know I need to get a new one done...You will get through this....
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Oprah was interviewing Chaz Bono, Cher's daughter that is now transgender, he had his breasts removed as part of the process. Oprah said you had your breasts removed because that is the one thing that identifies you as a woman. (Not a direct quote but similar to what she said.)
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Oh, Oprah...... geez.
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Hello ladies, it's been a while! I am now sporting a very very short dark brown pixie cut ( can I call it a cut when it grew and wasn't cut?) and went to our local florist yesterday. My usual hair and wig were a long sleek bob. It was my first day without it. The owner is an acquaintance of ours for over 15 years. She and her assistant ( who also knows me) chatted away with me in the store, we talked about our kids adn all the usual stuff. As I left one of them said " I love your boots". The other one chimed in and gushed over them too. How funny. They looked me straight in the face for 15 minutes, the face they have never seen without long locks framing it and they commented on my boots! I guess some people just can't deal with the elephant in the room! I laughed and laughed when I went back to the car. It actually made me feel like i have grown as a person during this BC experience.
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mumorange-----------too true, too true. We learn to figuire out motive. At least they didn't say anything really stupid. There again were the boots special?..........One of the things I have just decided I want to learn is country western line dancing and 2 step(?). so, boots would be big. I know thats a stretch, but that's all they could deal with at the moment-------they think your feet are OK ---LOL. Lets see how long it takes them to deal with the rest of you.
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Love, love, love the "pay it forward" stories!! Gives me hope......
My step-daughter answered an ad to buy some baby things when she was pregnant. The lady said I'll GIVE you everything if you pay it forward. I mean a TON of stuff!!! Toys, high chair, clothing...all of it.
What an inspiration y'all are....
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Barbe-----------what a nice thing. The Movie Pay It Forward was so great, but a tearjerker. I've done it , but it was with a young man whom i gave a stair stepper. weights and bench, abd cruncher, Weightbelts and ankle wrist belts. He was like a kid in a candy shop. He said if I ever needed help on anything just call him. It said it wpould be nice if he comes back to help put up hurricane shutters. It will be very nice if he does. And okay if he doesn't
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How about calling someone a moron. Sends me an e-mail with the heading This will make you Cry. I deleted without reading it. She did not know I have cancer but now she does. I want to hurt her. My brother was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer two weeks ago. She sends me all the stupid candle and angel e-mails plus every sob story from the last 50 years. I am beyond hurt.
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Sas-schatzi - are you sure you didn't give him those things just so you wouldn't have to use them?
I sure have a boneyard of fitness stuff! Just kidding of course! But when I fell for the Shake Weight my husband freaked! I could have given him that! Hope you have a sense of dumb humor like mine!0 -
continuation of happy stories...
so the day after I paid for the guy's groceries - I am on the way to the gym down this street which I drive on frequently - and since the winter, swerving very carefully to avoid the potholes. For some reason that morning I went straight - anyway BANG I hit a pothole - rattled my teeth. But I continued on, car seemed to go ok and the "Help! I am your very expensive tire and I am losing air!" symbol didn't light up. So I park, lock and as I am walking away - I hear a loud and long SZZZZZZZZZ. and I trace the sound to my tire and stood there watching it deflate - it was almost comical. I couldnt' deal with it then so I went to water aerobics where I frolic with women in their 80's. Afterwards I go to call AAA but my cell phone battery is dead - the receptionist at the gym let me use the phone - so no problem. The AAA guy said he would be there in 40 minutes. I borrowed some magazines to read and sat by the car and he came in 20 minutes and put on my donut saying the tear in the sidewall meant he couldn't plug it. But I was able to still arrive on time to pick up my dear friend who is having a rough time with her chemo and go out to lunch and then to my doctor and then home to deal with the tire. Unfortunately, I had to buy a new tire, but I was able to get it taken care of that same afternoon. Life is Good - if you can celebrate the little things -that didn't go wrong or which could have been worse.
oh, I was getting into my car and saw a dime on the pavement and I threw it onto the seat of the car next to mine.
Julie E
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Julie E - you are truly a Saint!
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Julie
You inspire me. But I had to laugh when you said that things"could have been worse".
Our whole married life we've had to overcome obstacles that it seemed that no one else had experienced. My husband has always thought that our coat of arms should read "It Could Have Been Worse".
But God knows it's true. Every day is a gift!
Janice
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haha Ellie1959!!
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"I hope you live."
'Nuff said.
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ive been feeling like the bus ran over ME lately, so thanks for the stories and laughter.. there's many of us who could use the bus today, so here goes...3jays
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ok ladies have to share this one... On the phone with a friend and she was talking about my " anniversary" coming up. I said what anniversary she said" you know your surgery where you traded in your tatahs to be like us smaller folks..."... i just said well the surgery wasnt until July and I didnt trade them in for smaller ones I didnt have a choice like I was traded in for newer models... I know she thought she was being "cute" but not so much!!!!!!
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Imbell- I am so sorry about your brother...as fo rthose chain email I HATE THEM...I now have a group of people angry with me because of my response to some of them-the common response to my response was "I thought you, of all people, would understand the message" Yeah, that is what I need, a soppy ass weird email that tells me basically I will croak if I don't pass it on to 10 people- or a miracle won't happen or some other bullcrap. And of course I do not believe them, but don't you know, there in some tiny corner of my mind I think "Uh oh"...and then I get madder-don't need more stuff to worry about. ArGH
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I just delete the chain mail jokes and messages and the other ones that annoy me...and if I get them from the same person I write a simple, please take me off your junk mail list" and it works 9/10...they are not helpful.
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Ellie so on mark I was able to clear out the garage, I was able to move things around to get the Stealth in that was being beatent to death by the sun. He won, I won
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Okay, I was pretty floored by this. Maybe it's just me. I have an identical twin sister. When I got diagnosed with breast cancer in March, she went and had a mammogram and went to see her gynocologist. Her gynocologist offered to test her for the breast cancer gene since I just got breast cancer. She didn't get it done. Didn't want to have to get sticked for a blood test. Told me I should ask to get the test done. I have a port and they'll be drawing tons of blood from me any way. Please........ seriously, you didn't want to get a blood test. Unfortunately I don't qualify to get the test with my insurance since I have no relatives who've had breast cancer. She is the only one who will get the test approved by insurance. For both our daughters, I hope she gets it the next time she goes to the doc.
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