The dumbest things people have said to you/about you
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I know what you mean too! I am in Rockville, MD!
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Anandagam, I am close enough to walk to Merriweather....I love it! I saw some fun concerts this summer: Maroon 5, Washington Jazz Festival, Ray LaMontagne...don't get me started on concerts here and at the Cap Centre back in the 70's an early 80's....I know I saw some great ones (wish I could remember them all and saved the ticket stubs). Let me add that the bathrooms at Merriweather are still exactly the same with the long lines for the ladies room!
I'm in a condo this year so no shoveling...yay! Bring on the snow!
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Wow, Rockville, MD! My ex and I bought our first home in Rockville - on Gilscot Place - just off Rockville Pike. I worked at Mutual of Omaha in the Rockville Mall in the 70's. All through my teens, I work on Hungerford Ave. at the Youth Center/Colony Shop....I listened to Tori Amos Cds on my way to cancelled (grrrrrrr) rads today - she grew up in Rockville.
Likeachickadee - too funny about the ladies room lines. So glad you will not have to shovel,
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I received an email from a girlfriend. I use the term loosely. She's the flaky 'friend'. Says she'll do something and never follows through. Says she's going to be there or do soemthing for you but then you never hear from her after. Whatever. Anyway she sent me an email the other day...all it said int he body from her was 'beautiful' and there was a picture of a woman from the waist up, nude with two big scars across her chest where boobs used to be.
I'm thinking...are you kidding me? This is what you send someone who is still in the beginning of this whole process?!?!?!?! I guess this was her way of telling me I'm beautiful, anyway??? You thought this was a good idea? Would you send a burn victim a picture of someone deformed from burns and say beautiful?
I'm just like, wtf??? I finally respond...I don't think so. (It's not what I wanted to say!)
She responds...lol, I think so!
Oh so this is something light hearted and funny now???
I emailed her back and said...that's because you don't have to live with it.
That's all I said, no exclamation points, no dot dot dot, just period.
Seriously? I just got that email a couple days ago and I just can't let it go. I can't believe how livid I still am over it.
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kathleen - forgot to mention that I graduated from Robert E. Peary H.S. in 1972. It used to be on Arctic Ave. Wow - 1972!
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mrochon - I have viewed a poster of the "beautiful" photo - I know what is trying to be expressed through the poster, but it was very uncomfortable for me to view a week before my surgery. I had a lumpectomy that took half of my tiny breast. I am not feeling beautiful....sorry you had to experience that darn email!
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mrochon, I've seen that email picture before - it has made it's rounds from time to time over the years if it's the one I'm thinking of.
Some people just don't have an appropriateness filter...and I'm guessing she wouldn't see a problem with sending a picture of a burned person to a burn victim.
Hang in there....
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My brother lives in Columbia....small world.
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2nd opinion PS today about my breast reconstruction: "I've seen worse". Sorry, I should give a sh@t about that...why? If you've seen worse that should make my issues be better or something?
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Maybe he was trying to reassure you he could easily fix it? Which is what he should have said instead, but...
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Day, what you SHOULD have done, is look at him and said "And I've seen BETTER!"
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Anandagram ... me too - 1965! You know they closed Robert E. Peary HS.
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I returned to work 2 weeks ago after 9 months off. I have a pretty physical job-and am not in very good shape to do it right now. Yesterday as I struggled to remove a small 30lb motor that was wedged underneath a conveyor I had to finally say "I cannot do it-I am physically unable." My boss looked at me and said "your eyes look really clear and healthy". WTF????
I am finishing up Rads by the end of the year-I am cracked open and bleeding and so tired i can barely function but I am SOOO glad my eyes look clear and healthy!
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Lilylady ... well thank God your eyes are clear and healthy. What a dope! I could not work with all my health issues. In order to work I would need a full time nurse./assistant! I am sorry anyone has to during treatment.
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I had a supervisor tell me that I looked healthy too! I WANTED to say "I have cancer in my breast, not my face." but her boss and his boss were there too!! The oldest one had lost a sister to breast cancer, so I just made eye contact with him and nothing more was said.
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My lovely niece who hadn't called me since dx told me she was thought if she called "she" would be too emotional and get upset! It's so nice to know my family is supportive! NOT
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One day I wore a wig to work instead of a scarf or hat as I was giving a presentation the next day and wanted to see if a wig would work for me - I had no intention of wearing it on a regular basis. While in the ladies room my boss said to me "I'm glad you're wearing a wig now. You looked AWFUL in those scarves.
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OMG Sarah........a comment like you received is what will keep this thread going on forever. I'm so sorry your boss (or anyone for that matter) said that to you.
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kathleen - I thought they must have closed Peary as I could no longer find it on the Maryland school listing. I actually attended Northwood until my family moved my senior year. That was a tough move as I was very involved in school activities. I enjoyed my time at Peary, though. Wow - seems like yesterday - but so long ago....
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SarahT - I am so upset with your boss - so sorry you had to go through that.
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How about an obvious one, a fact, yes, but really?
"wow, your hair is coming in grey!"
How do you respond? Um, thanks? Yeah, I saw that in the mirror?
Can hardly wait to see what they say when my boobs start "growing back"!0 -
Robin ... she's not too self-centered, is she?
Sarah ... why is it so hard for some people to think before they open their mouths?
Anandagram ... it does seem like just yesterday for me too. Soooooo long ago!
Marj ... i forget what the hell I was in the hospital but my youngest sister visited and just to cheer me upo she said "your hair has gotten so gray." Thank you!
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I have also been getting the "your hair is so gray". Some even venture to say, "Are you going to color your hair?" I used to just say, "Oh, who knows?" - but now I tell them that I really do not think about it as I am just glad to have hair and honestly have a lot more important decisions to make in my life at this point.
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I kinda like my grey. I've let my hair grow long and have not colored it in a while. if I pull it back into a pony tail it looks like I have a frosted pony tail! Its too messy to color it myself and too expensive to have someone else do it. Besides, as you said i have bigger priorities.
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I think the worst was ending up between two older ladies at a social event recenty. They know me, but not well, and know my DX. They launched into one of those inventories of all the people among their families/friends who had BC and were "just fine." One of them had BC in the family, and went on about how she had met an American doctor who suggested she should consider a prophylactic MX given her history. "Could you imagine?" "Just cutting off parts like that, how would you live?" I was 8 weeks out from a BMX, elective on one breast, at that point, and actually felt that I was doing a pretty good job of living.
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How in the world did you hold your tonge.I would of said something for sure.
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I am planning a dumb-comment free Sunday - we will see how it goes. I had errands to run, so I hit the stores in my little town as soon as their doors opened. I was the only shopper in three stores and got home before anyone had a chance to say something dumb to me - yea! I plan to stay home all day to wrap "Santa's" gifts for my daughter-in-law. I do her hiding and wrapping each year as one of my gifts to her. Best wishes to all for a good, dumb-comment-free Sunday.
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Momine - sorry you had to experience that conversation. I have had several people casually comment that they would just "get rid of both of them and have it done with". I know what they are thinking, but OMG - until they have walked in our shoes, they need to keep the med advice to themselves. I often feel like telling them that they should also consider just cutting them both off as 1 in 8 women get BC; or: Let's just get everything cut off and out that can possibly have cancer - (duh to the them).
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LOL, that was easy, no chance to get a word in edgewise. I tried.
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Ananda, that would be the flipside, I guess. Having done exactly that, I hear you, not a cakewalk by any stretch.
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