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Just read Heidi's post about LJ. Thank you Heidi for letting us know. My sincerest condolences to her children, as they are suffering a most tremendous loss. And to LJ:
An amazing woman, an amazing human being - may you continue to soar with your golden wings above us, just as you did here on earth. I am so grateful to have had you as a friend - and now an eternal inspiration.
With love and much sadness,
Linda
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Just returning to these boards after a weekend away, and I am so shocked and saddened to hear about LJ. She was such a warm, gracious person, full of positive energy, somehow I felt she would beat the odds and outlast us all. She never let this horrible disease take away her spirit... I have such tremendous respect for her for that, and will miss her greatly.
I love the idea of a bench in her honour... and planting something special this spring.
The best thing that happened to me today was being outdoors, skiing on a warm, bluebird day; doesn't get much better... and then having my older son over for dinner this evening, that was another "best" thing.
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This was LJ's Facebook profile picture. To me, it has always exemplified her spirit. She is standing beside one of her paintings (which I posted several of for her early in this thread). I will look into getting the number, etc. of her children's garden to see about a bench in her memory.
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Thanks Heidi. LauraJane, such a lovely woman. I too knew she was IV but from how engaged and upbeat she was, I am shocked at how quickly this happened. I haven't posted much but have been checking often, to see how she and others whom are coping with FC are doing... and so saddened. But I agree with everyone, about doing something reaffirming, because she was all about being positive, and sassy, and fabulous!0
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Thank you Heidi. What a beautiful lady, so strong, so brave and such as inspiration. I feel privledged to have talked to her through the posts and known about her.
Inmate I hope your scan went well today. Sending you heaps and heaps of positive thoughts. Annie.
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The best thing that happened to me today, I got to have coffee with my sister, my best friend.
Love to you my dear Laurajane. In your honor I will spread forget-me-not seeds in my garden.
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Ladies, I just so badly want to hear from her post something, say something. Why does it have to be this way? She was an absolutely gorgeous woman, wasn't she? How dare anyone ever say again that breast cancer happens to overweight women who carry too much fat or women who should watch what they eat, etc. I have heard these types of things said right in front of me. Look at her, she is fabulous, perfect body, someone with an immense amount of talent. She never got to see her deck which probably got started last Monday. The contractor friend showed her so much kindness towards one of the very last days of her life. If everything that happens, happens due to our previous karma, then I swear I have no idea what kind of karma brings about such a disease. Could there possibly be anything positive in this? I am so disheartened, so saddened, so horribly unhappy today. I am sorry, I feel so down, ladies.
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The positive thing could be what she did for all of us. Even though she suffered, she was here, living her life to the fullest, teaching us all to do the same. She was honest, open about her fears, but always put a positive spin on everything. I don't agree that cancer is caused by previous bad karma, just can't be. It is caused by bad genes, pollution, just whatever, but certainly not from bad karma.Of course we are sad lovelyface, we just lost a very special person to a very ugly disease. She seems like the type of person you write a movie about, talented, smart, beautiful and a zest for life.
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Hi again.... Its been awhile for me. I joined this site when I was first diagnosed. Things have been really difficult. I found out my cancer had more than tripled in size within 3 weeks. I had a bilateral mastectomy on 2/9/12, removing 7 lymph nodes on my left and 3 on my right. Its been a difficult recovery dealing with pain and nerve damage. My physical looks have really destroyed me...... I look in the mirror and hate myself. And I'm scared my boyfriend isn't attracted to me anymore. I think he just feels obligated to stay with me because he's too nice of a guy to leave me with cancer. Yesterday I caught him texting/on the phone with another girl. It killed me.... Why did I get cancer? I thought we would be getting engaged this year. Not going thru this nightmare.....
I start chemo tomorrow. TC; 4 cycles. Now I'm going to be sick, lose my hair, etc...... I know this sounds shallow, but I don't want to be ugly.
And, now I'm going to chemo alone, since I haven't heard from my boyfriend since he got caught. I never expected this. I'm completely blindsided. We've had the best relationship until now. He is a really good guy. Very mature, hard working, professional Dentist. His whole family has been so supportive, and now they have all disappeared.....
I'm so scared, and so lost. No family of my own here.... If you al could say a little prayer for me tomorrow, I would really appreciate. My heart goes out to all of you!! I love you all and pray for each of you every night.... Thank you for this supportive site. After writing this I know I will be able to fall asleep tonight.
love, Melissa
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OMG......... LJ reached out to me privately when I posted my very first time on this site. She was so sweet and encouraging. She really helped calm down my fears. I'm so sad right now....
So sad.... So not fair!!! I HATE CANCER.
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Lovelyface:
It's so hard when we have to accept that someone is gone that we have felt so much for. I went through it when my daugher passed one year ago this month, and have never been the same since. But life goes on, and our dearly departed would most certainly want that for us. Something that helps me greatly when I am thinking of my loss, which is quite often, is this:
"Grieve not that she is gone, but smile because she was....".
I hope this helps a little, it does for me.
Love,
Linda
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After a weekend away I was not expecting this!!
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Mkpinky - just want you to know I'm thinking of you and "virtually" holding your hand through chemo today {hugs}
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I will also plant something to honor such an amazing woman who was an inspiration to all of us.
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Melissa:
Most certainly - prayers are going out to you. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. It tells much about a person's character, when they leave you, so confused and hurting, at a time when they are most needed. Unfortunately, it happens. There is a relationship thread on this board that may help you somewhat, in that this very same thing has happened to others fighting this beast of a disease as well. We have another young beautiful woman whose husband just recently left her and her children. Perhaps you might PM Kymn, after reading some of her posts on this forum.
You are young and you are strong. You have made it this far, and you will make it to the end of your treatment, with us by your side to help and support you as much as possible. Never allow yourself to feel "ugly" as you are most definitely not. Treatment may be the worst time of your life; however; even that does not last forever, and you will grow your hair back, your body will begin to heal, and you will begin to live your life again, one step after the other. It can't and won't rob your beauty from you - that shall always remain.
I am so sorry that this disease had to enter your life and disrupt it so, it's so very unfair when I see you young one's get side-tracked by this beast. Please know we are here for you - a lot of arms to help hold you up!
Hugs,
Linda
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Ladies, I don't know what to say, no internet this weekend and I come back to hear of LJ's passing. I'm numb. I'm so sorry and sad. My thoughts and prayers are with her family now.
Heidi, I would be happy to donate in honor of of LJ, What a beautiful idea.
Inmate, I'm praying for you today!!!!!!
Pinky, we are all here for you. I know that it's not the same but its absolutely true.
Titan, my hubbs would be thrilled to have anyone to talk to about sports. LOL
I hope I haven't missed anyone, but I'm thinking of you all.
In honor of LJ:
Best thing that happened over the weekend, had some new friends over for burgers and wine, had a really nice time.
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Oh my I am so upset by this news. My mind keeps thinking about her son. I am sure family will step in and help him along the way. This really blows my day.
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Fighter, I agree, its her son I can't stop thinking about. I just so badly want to give him a big hug and cry with him.
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- They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old:
- Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn.
- At the going down of the sun and in the morning,
- We will remember them.
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In honor of LJ - The best thing that happened to me this weekend was to finalize all of my family's plans for our upcoming trip to Italy to see my 21-year old DD. She's studying abroad for the semester and I miss her so much. Can't wait to go . . . we leave on Friday, 3/23. What an experience we will have, and to think that one year ago I was recovering from chemo, BMX and was just beginning radiation. I will continue to enjoy my everyday existence!
Melissa - It all seems so overwhelming right now, but I promise you it will get better. You are entitled to feel everything that you're feeling. Unfortunately that's part of the process. I'm so sorry for your boyfriend's reaction. I wish I lived close to you so I could help you! Just know that we're all with you in spirit. You're stronger than you think.
I hope everyone has a good week and smile when we think of LJ. That Facebook picture of her put a smile on my face!
Kathy
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Melissa,
Please stay in touch. We care. Sending you a PM.
Christina
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KSteve,
Hubby and I will be leaving Italy and on our way to Paris when you arrive. Enjoy your trip!!!!!
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All my love LJ, gonna miss you. LJ was a special lady who touched us all.
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Linda, You are such a very strong woman to have gone through the loss of your daughter. By that experience you became the stronger person that you are today. Life throws so many different turns, but we humans, we have to accept and move forward. One of my friends recently asked me whether I had noticed how many people were passing away these days. She said she and others had realized that for whatever reason, so many more people were passing. I have felt the same too. So many loved ones are going.
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Heather - Where will you be in Italy? We're going to Florence (where DD is living for 4 months) and then visiting Sienna, Pisa, Venice, Rome and Cinque Terra while we're there. I hope you have an incredible trip too! My DD is having the time of her life. She's been to Rome, Venice, and Switzerland so far. She's about to go to Ireland (for St. Patty's Day) and Paris before we get there. Then after we leave she goes to Barcelona and then Germany. Oh yea, and she's going to Florence University of the Arts for her junior spring semester. She's a little stressed right now with mid-terms, but I'm not feeling too sorry for her! What an adventure! Have a great time!
Kathy
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Melissa, I am so sorry to hear of your situation, what you are facing and going through. The one person who you counted on the most at a time like this, may not be there for you. But I just wanted to tell you that "life" is really very very precious. You just need to concentrate on yourself and fight this thing and save your life, save your health so you can be with a better partner in the future. To tell you the truth, I am 1 year, 7 months out of treatment, and I feel that I look more beautiful now that I did before. My hair is back, although shorter right now, is not bad at all. I have never had this long eye lashes before chemo, so that is an absolute joy. Everything is back to normal, except my fears of a recurrence. I am a stronger person looking at the world differently. Please don't let this boyfriend define who you are. If he leaves you at a time like this, he was not worth a minute of your time. I know how difficult it is to deal with a heartbreak when you are going through the supposedly worst thing in your life, which it is not, believe me. You will get past this.
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KSteve,
We are going to Rome, we are taking a day trip to Pompeii and then taking the train to Milan to get the overnight train to Paris. This is my "Do Over" trip. I was diagnosed on 4/9/11 and we had just gotten back from our once in a lifetime trip from Paris and London only days before. Needless to say, my mammo is scheduled for the day after we get home and I'm getting anxious already. Really need to keep my mind off of everything.
We just had lunch with my husband's neice who spent last semester in Milan, she was fortunate enough to be able to visit a different city every weekend. What a fantastic opportunity! Very hard to to feel sorry for someone who travels thru Europe. LOL
I hope you have a fabulous time, I'm sure you will!! We'll have to share some pics when we get back.
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good morning all-
the best thing that happened to me this weekend was that I conned my 3 kids into playing on the Wii with me! Not once but twice!! That's impressive-- I have 16 and almost 14 yr old boys + an almost 7 yr old little girl.
today I ran 4 miles before work.
Like the rest of you, I feel "punched in the gut" abt LauraJane. I just can't make sense of it all.
xxoo
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I have rarely posted here, but I do lurk, also being TNBC. I just wish to say that I'm so saddened about LJ, for her family and friends, for you all on this thread, for us all who have to live with this savage beast running after us nibbling away at our heels...
However in the spirit of a lovely lady I will say that the best thing today is that the sun is shining brightly and warming aching bones after a horrible grey weekend of gale force winds. I will think of her creating beautiful gardens full of colour and sweet scents.
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I am so so saddened by Laura's passing and wish to extend my thoughts, prayers and love to her family and all of you who have been here ith us on this board.
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