2010 Sisters
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faithroad yes I have had lots of people wanting to donate. If I could take everyone up on it I would defitantly have me a very nice set of foobs.haha
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Hello ladies! I was diagnosed on Nov. 11, 2010. Went in for my annual mammo on the 10th. My wonderful mother is an x-ray tech, who does mostly mammograms, and she has done mine every year since I turned 40. She is the one who saw the spot on my film, before the radiologist even looked at it. My poor mom had to call me at home to tell me that I needed to come back for more films right away. It turned into an immediate US and biopsy. I had results just 24 hours later. It all happened so fast. In one day, going from routine exam to having BC. It took a while for it to sink in. Fortunately, it was caught early. Had surgery Dec. 1st, rads in Jan. and Feb., now on tamo for 5 years. I found these boards just recently, and they have been a great help in dealing with the emotional impact of having cancer. Thank you all!
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Words cannot express all the love, encouragement and support all my BCO sisters have given me since the start of my journey. I love you all and so appreciate your just always being there for me and each other.
Reposted this to other threads so all my sisters would know what I am feeling.
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amyjo- Right back at you, my wonderful friend. What a blessing to have found a friend like you! I guess I have to say something good came of all this BC stuff. My life just wouldn't be the same not being friends with you. I ordered the skype camera, but the &^%$# Canadian postal workers are on strike. Talk to you soon somehow!
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Panmars, welcome. These boards are a great help to all of us. This is a really great group of women. Ask and you will receive a wealth of information.
AJ, you are so sweet and I am so blessed to know you.
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Amyjo--right back atcha. You have been such an inspiration for me.
Panmars welcome to the thread. I don't know what I would do without all these ladies that have given me such support over the last few months.
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Panmars - welcome to the thread. We are all here to help each other giving love, {{{HUGS}}}, encouragement, support, and advice from our own experiences. Jump in and ask what you want and feel free to say whatever is on your mind. We have all been through the good, bad and ugly of our journey.
DM - are the postal workers of the world against you! You have had enough problems with post offices to last a lifetime. Hope things get better and you can get your camera. I look forward to talking to you soon my dear friend.
BarbA - back atcha I am blessed to have you as a friend.
Sherryc - always glad to know that I have help someone and make a new friend. Hope to see you some day soon.
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Love all my sistas! Just made a crazy dinner for DH of leftover pasta I made for lunch which was spaghetti with organic diced tomatoes. So for dinner I peeled the shrimp and chopped u organic bok Choy and badabing.
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AmyJo- Hah! I had already forgotten about my NYC postal fiasco. Maybe I'm the one jinkxing the postal systems. The madness seems to be following me. Thanks for the laugh!
Panmars- Welcome! These ladies are beyond wonderful. They almost ( I said almost!) make having BC worth it! You sound stong and determined. How is your mom doing? Wow! Imagine her having to tell her own daughter she has BC. I just can't imagine!
BarbaraA- I just got wild Sidestripe Shrimp from a fisherman at the dock. He caught them up near Prince Rupert a few days ago and flash froze them at sea. They are a gorgeous coral color, even raw, and are apparently vegetarian (they only eat veggies). I wish I could get my &^%$#* grill working. Like I said, if it doesn't blow me up, I may blow it up!
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BarbA - Dinner sounds delicious. Hope you all enjoyed it.
DM - What is the make and model of the grill? Maybe I can find out something to try and fix it. Hope you are enjoying your beautiful island get away. DH said he might like to come see you too! When are you scheduled to come back to NYC so I will try and figure out a plan to see if we can make it out there this summer.
I am sleeping a lot these days, I think it may be partly because of the new dosage of the pain patch and partly I just need to slow down a little. The trip to OK was so much fun, but I think I really over extended myself every day we were there. Now my body is trying to catch up on the rest. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} to all my friends.
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Welcome Panmars,
Sorry about your DX but how wonderful that you had the personal attention of your Mom! At least you know she was looking out for you. This is a great group of ladies who have been through about everything, so feel free to ask away.
All this talk of shrimp has me drooling....
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Panmars - welcome! But what a year, aye! Sorry you are here due to BC, but so glad they caught it early. I'm a bit new to this thread too, but I'm really glad I found it. These ladies seem very caring and supportive. Like you I also take Tamoxifen.
I live only a couple hours away from Shakopee, in Wisconsin. I have relatives and friends in the Twin Cities area. Eden Prairie, Redwing, and Minneapolis. And I grew up in Lakeville MN. Nice to meet you. Hope you are recovering well from your surgery and Rads. Take care neighbor!
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amyjo - What an encouragment you have been to me already, my new friend. You are in my heart. What a sweet blessing you are.0
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Thanks for the warm welcome, everyone!
faithroad- nice to meet you, neighbor! I have recovered well from SX and rads, just a little bit of stiffness in my chest muscle, which I am doing PT for. The tamo has been relatively easy, much to my surprise. Hope you are doing well, too!
DesignerMom- My mom is doing fine. She was pretty tough about it in front of me, probably so as not to scare me. She was with me at every appointment and kept telling me I would get through this. And she was right. I have her to thank for lining up my MRI and BS appointment all within a week of DX. Pulled a few strings, I'm sure. Only time I saw her cry was on Mothers day, when we did the Susan G. Komen race for the cure, and I was wearing my pink survivor shirt. Ironically, I have done that race for 19 years because of my moms line of work, never imagining I would race as a survivor. But here I am!
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amyjo- I think you might be right about having worn yourself out with all your traveling. You were tiring me out, just hearing about it! We also forget how energetic kids are, they just never stop...moving, talking, questioning. I have often thought my son was like a light switch: he is either "on", going, going, going or "off", finally asleep and quiet! Right now we are planning on being here into August (unless DH books work back in NY). Of course we would love to see you and DH too if you feel like more travel. Just don't wear yourself out! The grill saga continues. I have been online troublshooting things and have checked: the regulator hose, tank valve, replaced burners and still it won't heat over 320. I even put a separate thermometer in thinking the gauge might be reading wrong. One last thought is that DH stacked the lava briquets very neatly in a single layer. Maybe they need to be stacked helter skelter to get more heat rolling? If that doesn't work, we're getting a new grill when we go to town next week. I have heard that with these cheap, made in China grills, you almost have to consider them disposable and get a new one every few years.
panmar- You sound like you are weathering things well. As you say you are feeling tightness in your chest, you might want to research the correct exercises and stretching. Something that every single one of my doctors dismissed was the risk of lymphedema (I think they are in deep denial). Every BC woman is at risk for developing LE and needs to be aware of things that can make it flare up. Once it develops, it is very hard to get rid of and can be chronic. I wish I had done more PT early on as I now seem to be having a little LE at times.
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panmar - do go to physical therapy and do the exercises at home also. I know it was tough for me, but it has really helped me stay active and helped me regain some of my strength and stamina. Also like DM says it is good as the PT therapist will notice and catch any LE at the beginning and give you things to do to get and keep it under control. They can also tell you things to watch out for concerning LE so that it won't go unnoticed.
DM - not sure we can make it out before August as that is the month we already have plans to go to see DD#1 and the new baby. We will be there the 6th - 13th. July is filled with camp sessions and it is really hard for DH to get away during the summer camp sessions. Sept, is the trip to Uncle Bill's place in MO. So we can try to come next summer before camp sessions start for the island. We can work out details later. Love you my friend.
faith - hope you do get to meet panmar. It is always interesting to get to meet another sister from the thread here. Some very solid friendships are made and that is one great benifit of having to be here on this journey together.
BarbA - Is DH playing this weekend? One of these days I will appear at your place and would like to go hear GreenFlash in person. I do like the vedio clip you post of them. How are you doing my friend.
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welcome panmars- this is a great group of very big hearted women:)
I am around folks-your asking meant a lot...just not at the top of my game and really don't want to drag everyone down...I have a lot of thinking to do. so i am. thinking.
i love you all
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annettek- There you are, girl. We have missed you. Sorry you are feeling down. Just hang in there. Everything shifts with time. Before you know it, you will be back on here chatting up a storm. Let us know if you need anything.
AmyJo- I totally understand about not having enough time to get up here. I wonder how many miles you have logged this year! We will definitely plan a get together up here sometime. Before then, I am going to try to get down to your neck of the woods. Maybe we will both surprise Barbara and show up at her house to goand party to music!!
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annettek - so glad you popped in to let us know you were okay. You don't have to worry about being at the ''top of your game'' with us or about bringing us down. We are here to help lift you up. So feel free to discuss anything or ask any question you have while you are thinking things through. Remember we are here for you and love you.
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Annette glad you are OK. If you need a ride in the country to clear your head you can head my way.
Panmar I don't know if you do much exercise but I also have had the stiff pec muscle and yoga has done wonders for it.
DM sure hope you get the grill going soon.
Well ladies I have been busy today. I put up 28 pints of pickled okra (DH's favorite). I also put up 10 pints of DH homemade BBQ sauce. I shelled and put up 4 pints of cream peas. Tommorow I will shell and put up 4 pints of black eyed peas and I also have white scallop squash that I am going to freeze. Dh was a gread help I could not have gotten it all done today without him. Tomorrow is my Bday 49 so my inlaws are taking me to lunch and DH is going to help me get the rest of everything done. Next weekend we are heading to west texas to see our younges son and family. I am sure my granddaughter will keep me busy.
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Happy BDay, Sherry!!!!
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Happy birthday, Sherry! And thanks everyone for the advice on doing exercises and yoga for my stiff pec muscle. I had a great PT who gave me a lot of different exercises, and showed me how to do manual lymph node drainage, I just need to be better about doing them!
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sherry- Happy, happy birthday and countless returns of the day! OHHHHH! I admire all your canning and freezing. So healthy and good! I will at least do homemade blackberry jam in August when the berries are ripe. Off to a big Fathers Day pancake breakfast at the Lion's Club!
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Happy birthday Sherry---
Hi Amyjo---you always bring a smile to my face
welcome newbe.Panmars.
DM..hoping you get it all together real soon
Annette----big hugggggggg. we are here for you.let us help upu.
Hi Barb...how the weather?????
cannot remember everyone.wishing all of the sistas B9 forever
hugggggggggggggs K
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Thanks for the B-day wishes. My oldest son showed up with the grandkids for the afternoon. I started shelling the blackeyed peas and they all wanted to know what I was doing. So they all pitched in and thought it was so much fun. They didn't even know there were working.!!!!!!!!!!!!! And yes DM canning all the fresh veggies are so much healthier. Wish we had wild blackberries around here.
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Adding my happy birthday wishes, Sherry!
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Happy Birthday Sherry.
DM - on the grill...DH says the burner may be blocked up with something so try to blow out or wash out the burner to clear it out then try to see if it will work better. Hope it works.
My DH got a call from our youngest DD#2 and she is expecting baby #4 for her and it will be our 7th grandchild. The new arrival should come toward the end of Jan. 2012. We have plans to go see DD#1 in August to see her new baby, #3 for her, and our 6th grandchild. Whoever said children grow up, get married and multiple was not kidding! Our little family is growing bigger and bigger. Life goes on..........
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Amyjo you are not kidding. Our oldest son has been dateing this girl and they moved in together, he has three and she has three. So we went from 4 to 7. she is really sweet I hope they get married but dare not tell him that or he won't want to. So I keep my mouth shut.
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happy birthday sherry....I hope this is a start of the best year yet-thank you so much for the kind invite...i may take you up on it when i take my son to camp in late July in Comfort. A cup of coffee with a sistah I have yet to meet might not be a bad thing at all
you allhave been so wonderful in your thoughts and kind words....i am so torn up inside and am realizing i need to just center. i don't know what the outcome of all this will be and maybe that is not such a bad thing as I have tended to spend my entire life doing...running long after the road has dropped away. it is my nature and while i have been complimented and lauded through the years for being so capable and competent...not so sure that is a good thing-living on sheer adrenaline (sp) when a normal person would just stop for god's sake when they are tired. i have become so tired inside-talking with husband on the phone tonight (yes, we talk as we are on this particular journey right now) he said something that struck a deep chord....that my heart is wrapped in barbed wire...my first instinct was to react and go nuts...but i paused (which is something i need to learn to do more of) and found myself agreeing...it was not a slam- it is the truth...i hurt on such a deep level and love equally as deep-i have been running on empty for a lot of years- thinking i will make it all better for all...and each time i neglect myself my heart hurts more...i don't let people stumble when they should be allowed to stumble- i rush in and fix it and then get more pissed and more hurt on another level that I had to fix anything....i am rambling but the truth is in here somewhere...i will be going to washington dc for the bio conference next week (he will come home to be with sons-they were with him all day today) and i hope to grab some alone time and exhale. truly exhale. and see where that girl is inside of me and what i have to do to find her again. pretty odd being 54 years old and realizing sheer determination is not necessarily the best or only way to do things. These last three years have been sheer hell. yes, there have been some bright spots along the way but truly it has been brutal....we had found the magic place- the sweet spot if you will...and then life reared its ugly head once again and just about killed my husband in a car accident- breaking the top of his shoulder bone clean off (he healed physically-but being self-employed...well no work for many months, etc)...that set in motion a calvacade of chaos...and it seems the ball never stopped rolling down hill- i went on auto pilot doing all that i could as i could beyond what i could and it was all capped off with my finding out i had bc last october....then it really got fun...and then toss in the joys of watching my youngest fight back against the bs of autism sending him into spirals of rage and confusion of the magnitude we had never seen before and then oldest trying to do his own recovery of a horrible four wheeler accident (not the most recent car accident that broke his leg) that started with a compound fracture and sent him on a descent into hell...hard to watch a golden boy slide right off his perch as king of the world at A&M into drugs and alcohol....then try to climb out....still trying...i see glimpses of my boy in there...my mom slowly declining from old age and my not being able to have her live with me as I had always planned heaping on the guilt (I heap on the guilt-nobody else) this all reads so much like a bad jerry springer episode ....i shake my head reading it...so maybe it is good hubby called a time out no matter how ill-timed it was...something had to stop....life a big fricking boil ready to burst...i don't know what we will land up doing-lots of love and lots of history with each other underneath all the crap...but i do know this for sure...i have to take some of the energy and put it to me or I will completely plotz...i have not been the real me for many years...god willing i will find the me i really am.
wow....i should delete this extremely personal post and outpouring but i will not. we have all faced life and death and share these truths with each other. i could not do this with anyone i *know* for it would give lie to the facade of the snappy smart annette persona i have so doggedly clung to for so many years....with you - i cannot lie.
thanks....
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annettek- I think it's a miracle you are functioning at all. Wow!!! I identify so much with your "fix everything" personality, but I know it has taken a toll on me. I remember many years ago being in a very low spot, still taking care of everyone else's needs. My girlfriend looked at me and said "who takes care of you?" I burst into tears, knowing that I never let anyone take care of me, even though they wanted to. I made a lot of changes and eventually feel I am living a much happier, more balanced life. I think my loved ones are happier being able to give and take care of me too. You are a smart, sensitive woman. I think you will find the right answers. I think your strategy of taking some time for yourself to be quiet and listen to your heart is perfect. Don't be so hard on yourself. There is a saying "You can never get back yesterday and you never know what tomorrow will bring". I will keep you in my prayers.
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