2010 Sisters
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Shelley I am just glad you added to the information. I have never asked my BS either why she did not give me options. I guess at this point it really does not matter. I am going to have a BMX with immediate DIEP reconstruction the end of march. My PS is going to do it all so I will not need a general surgeon in surgery. He says I have too much damage from rads and he wants to save as much of my blood supply as possible along with taking a blood vessel from another area as he does microsurgery during all of it. So he does not want another surgeon messing with his stuff. At least I know he is particular and he is not rushing me. In fact he wants me to wait because I am healy so slowly from rads and he wants for me to be able to heal well when I have it done and he wants me to gain weight before the surgery so I am working on that. It just would have been nice to have had the BMX at first and skipped rads. But oh well we deal with what we have been handed.
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you got that right Sherry- and I like the way your PS thinks...you WANT them to be particular about their work- too many cases where the BS and PS are not on the same plane at all-when I got my DX last October I was kinda (not kinda-totally) adamant about a BMX...BS tried to explain the two options- and I shook my head and said no...i want the bmx..and she said, ok, rather radical but it is your choice. And for that I am grateful, for her understanding how important having a choice was in the first place- facing this BC crap takes so many choices off the table and so many docs do indeed play god, they KNOW what is best, when in fact, it is usually one of two things (of course allowing for whatever suspected DX is) 1) it is the way they always do it depending on DX and they offer no other options 2) it is the latest wave of treatment -they are either against prophylactic surgeries this year or it is best...whatever comes out of whatever medical journal. You know, it was odd, the original onc (superstar onc) was so against my choice and kept shaking his head, saying no need, no need...then when I saw him after the BMX and he was reviewing everything - which showed no evidence of cancer in left breast- he said "You know something, I think you made the right choice. I don't know why I think that, but you did." It was all based on "feeling"- what a concept to get a scientist to admit subscribing to. Regardless, we have to be proactive in all of this and learn to listen to our guts a little better. It has been bred out of us. I am not talking flash emotions here- but that conviction in your core that says...HEY. Might not make any difference in the long run, who the hell knows, but then again, maybe it will.
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Annettek - listening to the conviction in your core...that's good advice! I struggled with that at the beginning. I knew for sure I wanted the BMX and it turns out that was possibly a life-saving decision. But I struggled so much with having reconstruction or not having reconstruction. I kind of let people talk me into it (My fault, not theirs). Now that I have had the deconstruction I am much more confortable, both physically and mentally.
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Oh Joyce ----thought about you a lot.welcome back.sorry to hear the latest news.I to did just the Rads.and nothing else.My choice.We gotta do what we gotta do.huggggggs K0
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I am so glad I listened to my intuition or heart or gut or core or whatever you want to call it. It really was the best option for me as there was so much more that was found than what they were expecting. I just knew they would find more than they were originally looking for. Just goes to prove noone know your body better than you do.
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New grandson is here. Micah James Meeker, born August 6th, 8 lbs. 11 ozs. and 21 inches long.
We got to bring him home on Monday and he is now already on a steady schedule, eating every 4 hours. He is so precious, even #6 has a special place in Grammie's heart.
Hope everyone is having a good week.
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Awww, AmyJo, how sweet he is!
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aw amy jo- what a beautiful thing new life is....
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amy Jo congrats what a beautiful boy.
I also have good news, my youngest DS and DIL are having TWINS!! due Feb 19th, they have one daughter that will be 5 in Sept, she is the one I have posted a picture of before. They had a miscariage last year right after my cancer surgery. So Monday she went to the dr and he told her that she was in the safe zone now, but will have to start taking it easy at 5-6 months. She is a lawyer and no more court dates after that.
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Amyjo- What joy! How blessed you are and how blessed this little boy is to have you as a grandma! I will write soon, have been busy with friends visiting, canoeing, canning plums and blackberries soon.
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Congrats Amyjo-----what a gift from GOD. enjoy the new baby.God bless.huggggggggs K0
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Congrats AmyJo and SherryC!
Hi GrannyD and DesignerMom, been missing you...
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Thanks for all the congratulations. Micah is already developing quite a unique personality. DH started calling him Mighty Mic, this from the guy that has never call grandchildren anything but by thier full name! DD wants everyone to call him Micah, we'll see how long before she starts calling him by a nickname.
SherryC - congratulations to you too. I will keep your DIL in my prayers that everything turns out with 2 perfect babies in Feb. Let us know if you can what they will be girls, boys or one of each.
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amyjo I'll let you all know as my DIL and DS are dying to find out as well, but it is still too early. I think by the next Dr visit they should be able to tell.
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OMG twins....how did i miss that...congrats Sherry....do keep us posted on the sexes.WOW the daily double.you must be soooo excited.hugggggggs K0
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yes granny we are thrilled to say the least.
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AMYJO....... CONGATS ON THE BEAUTIFUL BABY AND SHEERYC ON YOUR GOOD NEWS its nice to see our GALS doing well and celebrating new life we all know how precious that is,L Cath
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Sheri sorry you are on the boards but be glad you are here. I did not find the boards until after my DX, BMX and chemo. Got on board after my recon surgery in Nov. was not sucessful and was looking for help. The girls helped walk with me during my rads.
Ask lots of questions, 2 nd option if you do not feel your BS is giving you the answers you are looking for. Bring a spouse or friend to your appointments with you to take notes because you will not remember 80% of what they told you. It is a scary time but we are here for you. I had a biopsy just like yours, the original dx was IDC but the final path after BMX was ILC. It does depend on the size of your tumor on whether you should do rads or not. Mine ended up being big at the 11:00 position and they also found a smaller mass at the 1:00 position so it had spread. It also depends on lymphnods involved too. Ask us questions, vent frustration when needed and we will siber hold your hand through all your appointments. HUGS.
AmyJo all I can say is cute as a button.
Sherryc OMG twins, that is great. btw how is your dad.
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mjbmiller, my dad is doing really well, but my mom is really tired. She and my aunt who lives with them says he gets very demanding about certain things and my mom gets frustrated. Thanks for asking. How are you holding up?
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Congratulations Amyjo - He is adorable!!!!!
Congratulations Sherryc - Twins! Doublemint fun!
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Sherry TWINS- double the please double the fun...ahhhh... I see I am parrotting my buddy faith:)
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Sherryc doing ok, think of dad a lot. Working on the family tree helps. Each day it gets better especially since I know he is in a better place.
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well.Ladies just checking in and I see mjb may have lost her dad I am sorry and send my prayers... and will post at a later time...HUGS Mjb...Cath
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mj - Have you been healing up ok since your last surgery? I'm sorry about your dad.
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Mjb - so sorry to hear about your Dad. I know how hard that loss is even if you are sure he is in a better place. I lost my Dad in 2009 and I still miss him more than words can express. My heart is with you. And it does get a little easier with time.
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Mjb, so sorry about your Dad. Hope you are doing O.K. {{hugs}}
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OK ladies I have to share a funny here
On another thread I found out that mjbmiller's maiden name is newton and so is mine. She said she had been doing geneology since her dad had died and had started a tree on Ancestry. Well I also have a tree on ancestry and when we compared out trees found out we are very distant cousins. To be specific we are 7th cousins once removed. Who would have every thought. There is also another lady on here heartnsoul and her maiden name is newton as well. So we are going to see if we are related to her as well. Small world we live in.
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Wow! That's amazing!
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mjb- heart goes out to you for your dad...mine left this earth 23 years ago and he is still with me-I think of him all of the time.... there aren't many words to say.
Love you and Sherry being related....six degrees of separation as they say....
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Hello ladies I got a question... going to th BS for a 4 month follow up...this is the one who left me in her office after telling me I had 17 out of 20 nodes taken out cacerous...her simple answer was I needed to be in charge with the oncologist and she was now not in charge.. the oncologist was great by the way ordered scans and was much more sincere... my problem is the surgeun then left me in a room after that bad news for 15 minutes and her front desk person came to me with physical therapy info and then I left...I was devasted...I want to tell her this tommorrow but my husband thinks I am over reacting....according to my oncologist I am stage 111...how bad I do not know... any help... cath
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