Ladies in their 30s
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thank you all for your kind words. I realize that I need time to think, but I also need to distract myself from my situation for a few days. i do have a bunch of old movies.
I hope all of you are doing as well as can be expected. you are in my thoughts and prayers!
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Skkydiamond, my heart goes out to you, stay strong and fight for your relationship! I am hoping that it will all work out for your and your family. At least he was willing to talk to you about it and willing to see someone to help sort out the feelings! I know the situation is not that similar, but I was seriously dating someone for two years, that I was hoping would turn into a marriage later down the road and I was diagnosed with BC, I told him on the 26th of December and he discontinued all communicagtion with me on the 28th. He wouldn't return any of my phone calls. I finally called him at work after a week of no contact only to be told he couldn't talk.........I have never heard from him again and I was totally blindsided. I have no idea why, I am only left to assume all of the worst things in the world.
Your husband has helped you though this terrible ordeal and is still by your side. So there is a great chance you guys can work this out if that is what you both decide you want.
Good luck!
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Meekone,
that sucks that your ex wasn't enough of a man to even break up with you! I think he did you a big ol favor though- saved you the trouble of finding out the hard way he wasn't going to be there for you when you needed him. Good riddance.
I hope you are getting support from other places, including here.
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Hey Sky: “What will be , will be”.... I’m sending you as much love & positive thoughts as I can from the other side of the world. I find sometimes writing down on paper all your thoughts and ideas that you want to say to your husband and giving it to him to read while away, may prove valuable. This way there is no physical confrontation, and it allows your hubby time and space to think things through at his own pace, yet still allows you to have a voice during that time. Much love xox.
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Hi ladies,
you guys ares breaking my heart
thanks for your advice and prayers. My situation is better, I just got my first AC, my mom was there, my husband came home to help with the kids.
Sky & Meek: sending you many hugs and prayers.
Coni, how did u get so wise so young?? Lol0 -
Dizzyakira I'm truly happy to hear your situation it's better and I'm praying that it will only get better, you will need as much support as u can get, u will have ur days, it's a rough road ahead, chemo it's not easy but pray a lot I cannot tell you how much God has helped me...I've found sooo many blessings through out this whole rocky road. Ask ur friends and family to pray, prayer it's the strongest weapon we have,and have faith your marriage will only get stronger... and this bumpy road u r facing as family will only make u all stay stronger... I don't know what religion u r, but with my husband we read the bible and pray together, when I was growing up my parents wiould sit as family and read and pray together...I have found it has helped me sooo much...specially in rough situations like this ones, where ur faith is tested we need to stay strong...I cannot tell u how much it has brought my family closer...I've always had good relationship with inlaws but this experience has brought inlaws and family even closer, I've seen all the love they have for me. My hubby it's the greatest has been there the whole time, understanding specially on my really bad days when I'm so Down or just moody lol. (sometimes I feel for him lol there are days I can't stand myself sooo moody but it's steroids)
I will conitnue praying for ur family and that ur SE are minimal...0 -
Hi Ladies,
My name is Jenifer, I was diagnosed last February 21, 2011, I am 32 years old. I have a very cute 9 months old baby, her name is Sofia and a very supportive husband. I was on stage 4 and mets on liver and bones. I am going to start my chemo this Thursday. NOt sure if my Onco decision is the best for my situation. She said I will be on FEC for 6 rounds. I hope I am going to get through this without having a hard time. I have no family here in Canada, as I just came here 2 years ago.
Diagnosis: 02/21/2011, IDC, 0.93cm, Stage 4, Grade 1, No Nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Hi Jennifer I'm sorry u had to join this place, I'm Canadian too... Chemo is not that bad... I'm also 32 but no kids. I was very scared about chemo, but anxiety it's the worst part.. Where in Canada are u?
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Hi Jennifer you can also join the canadian connection as well there are many of us there too.. It's great place.... Good luck tomorrow with chemo and don't worry u will be fine... Did u have surgery or chemo first? I had chemo first... May 5th I'll have surgery... If u have questions about ur treatment ask ur doctor.. One thing I've noticed is u need to be ok with What they r giving u...I know is hard but u need to be ok with it... It's Ur body.
I've also notice USA and Canada sometimes seem different methods I have done 8 cycles of chemo 4 ac and 4 taxotere well soon it will be four, most of women only do 6 .... But I keep hearing is the age... I must say it has worked tumor cannonbe felt so I know cancer is all gone.... I'm sure it will be the same for u....I know chemo sounds very scary and side effects but u will be fine they give u
Meds for all the side effects, ask for Emend it's a great three day pill for nausea, first sign of thrush call ur pdn to get meds... Not sure but acid for me is horrible so I got meds for that as well...u will see times goes by quickly I never believed it when ppl would tell me but time does fly by... I'll be praying for u! Any questions don't hesitate ask..0 -
Hello! My name is Cara and I was diagnosed March 7th with IDC and areas of DCIS in my left breast. I am also 32 years old, divorced, and have a beautiful 9 year old daughter. I am scheduled for a unilateral mastectomy with TE and SNB next Thursday, but won't know if I have to do chemo or radiation till after the surgery. These last few weeks have been a whirlwind, but I am so grateful to have found this site. My heart goes out to all of you.
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Hi coni....I'm from Calgary, Alberta....how about you? Woke up at 2'am and can't sleep...i am having severe pain and wasn't feeling good the past few days. I am going to missed my first round Of chemotherapy today....hoping I am ready next week. Where do you get your treatment? I will have mine at the Tom baker.
I met my surgeon 2 weeks ago and said no surgery in my case... I will have my chemo then see if it works. My onco says i am going to take 6 rounds of FEC....
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Hey! I'm in Ottawa....sorry to hear u are not feeling good..hopefully next week u will be much better!
Where are u from? U said u came to Canada 2 years ago....
I know it must be hard with no family here, but u will do great...it sucks that we have to deal with this so young but we will make it we need to have a positive mind..I have very hard time sleeping as well I get hotflashes and I'm awake for two hrs and sleep for one...
Too bad we are so far away, but if u need to talk or have questions I'm here hope u feel better soon!0 -
Hi cara sorry to hear about it diagnose I'm sure surgery will be a success and hopefully that's where it will end no chemo or rads!!.. But if u must have chemo is not so bad, there are pills for all the side effects
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Thanks for the welcome Coni! I am hoping this surgery will take care of it all as well. But if I have to do chemo, well it is what it is. I am just trying to take it all in 1 day at a time.
Glad to hear that it is manageable!! I think you're right, anxiety is probably the worst part! Hope you have a great Friday! 0 -
Hi ladies.
I have been lurking just haven't written much.
Cara: I hope your surgery is a success and you don't have to do chemo or rads!! I am almost done with chemo and I don't think it is as bad as I expected it to be. So try to not stress about that!
I have my surgery April 21st. I am quite anxious about that.
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Thanks Kerri! My biggest fear right now is the chemo, so its nice to hear its not that bad from someone who has gone through it. Oddly enough I have not been that anxious about surgery....but now that its less than 1 week away I am starting to feel a little scared. I am so ready for it to be all over with!!
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Karebear,
I found surgery to be much easier than I thought. Seeing as I had chemo beforehand, and that was the hard part, I looked forward to having the cancer cut out! I got anxious as the weeks drew closer to my BMX on February 22, but I have to tell you that you will be alright and the other side is so nice! All the women here are great and really supportive of everything!
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has anyone had the skin sparing surgery?
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Thanks Skky!!! Most of my tumor is gone just from the chemo!! I think I am just nervous of how real everything is. Does that make sense? Surgery for me means no more children and closing that door of my life. I am so so thankful for the 3 I have but to have someone shut that door for you without it really being your decision is hard. I know it is just the mastecomy right now but I will be scheduling a surgery to take out my ovaries and possibly my uterus. It is just scary. I know God will get me through surgery just like He brought be through chemo!!
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Hello 30-something sisters.
I am 38, diagnosed last month, and have started neoadjuvent chemo. I don't have any kids - have been trying to get pregnant for a few years. I know this must be so hard for those of you with children; meanwhile, I am having a hard time dealing with knowing I won't be able to become pregnant myself. My ultimate goal is to be NED for a year and adopt.
Best wishes to my fellow 30-somethings for success in your treatments.
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Welcome BlueCowgirl! Sorry to meet this way but I am glad you are here. I think having cancer, and dealing with treatments and surgeries just sucks!! I am sorry that cancer took away that ability for you. I do hope you reach your ultimate goal and will be praying that you get there. How are you holding up with chemo? I don't know yet if I have to do chemo, I am having a mastectomy this Thursday first. I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago, and I think its just starting to settle in..
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Hi everyone. You have no idea how happy I am to finally find a place with people in my age group. When I go to the hospital for treatment I don't see anyone that looks like me...although the people I meet are just as wonderful...I feel it's harder to connect.
Ok...my backstory is this..I was diagnosed July 1, 2010 with Ductal Carcinoma in situ in by right breast. One week later, the left breast was confirmed with the same. I did 24 weeks of chemo. This included 12 wks of Taxol and then 12 weeks of 5FU. On Feb 22, 2011, I had a double mastectomy with removal of about 19 lymph nodes in one arm and 13 in the other. Because I am BRAC1 pos and my sister developing ovarian cancer, I elected to have my ovaries removed. I will start radiation sometime next week. Phew...a lot to reflect on.
I am 34 and currently in the 2 under 2 club...my son is 1 and my daughter 2(she turns 3 in 2 months). My husband has been really supportive and as helpful as he can.
I have good and bad days...but hands down because of God, faith and humor a lot more good days. I hope this site will reinforce the good days!
Thanks ya'll
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Just thought I'd introduce myself now that I have found this thread.
Diagnosed in December 2010 at age 38, had mx in February and am done with 2 of the 8 rounds of chemo I get to have (A/C +T), to be followed by radiation!
I have 2 daughters, aged 7 & 8. It is definitely tough being a mom, wife, working, and having bc!
bluecowgirl: we adopted our daughters (unrelated infertility). I won't say I never wanted to be pregnant, but the parenting experience is all the same. Insane and wonderful. I know you will find it to be so after you are a year NED!
I'm happy to connect with all of you ladies, but sorry to see so many of us in our 30s.
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Nice to meet you ladies, but sorry it is under these conditions.
I had my LAST chemo today!!!!! I am so so excited to move on to the next step which is surgery. That is on April 21st. Crazy how fast this is going by.
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Congratulations Kerri! I look forward to celebrating my last chemo.
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Congrats on Karebear I'm done done done too I can believe I'm saying it oh I'm so thankful to God and family he helped so much and surgery and rads after my surgery us may 5th urs is so fast!! Which is good!.. Did u do generic testing I'm brac2 so ovaries have to go
So fertility is defenetly gone for good and I'll never have kids. I know God has a purpose for all of us, so hang in there he will get us through I'll pray for your surgery!
To the new sisters hang in there u will get through it I know is hard, but if I did it anyone can I'm the biggest wimp, God gave me all the strength I promise time flies I know is hard to believe it but so true!!...0 -
Coni: thank you for your prayers. I have a BRAC2 gene of unknown significance so we are treating it as a positive. I will be getting my overies out too. I am just so thankful to God for the 3 children I have been blessed with.
I have friends that can't have children and are in the process of adopting their 2nd child. Adoption is just as amazing as having your own children. I have 2 friends and my aunt and uncle who have all adopted and it is amazing!! I pray that God will bless you where ever He leads you!!
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hi everyone!
it is strange to ask, but....can i be in this club of support? i am 36 w/ H and yr old. this still feels crazy! i start ac in 2 weeks!!! boooo!! my post ob appt was yesterday and got all of of the 'fun' info about chemo....etc..
so, while i haven't cried like i have in the last month, i absolutely could not sleep. my son still wakes up most nights and once i am up, i CAN'T stop thinking....know what i mean? please send me some good wishes, vibes, success stories and anything else that will sustain me. prayers and hugs are most welcome.
this is still incredible! ..not in a good way. i am a strong person and i am usually a fighter, but this is been really challenging.
i am looking forward to hearing from you!
also, anyone here use those caps for hair preservation?
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(((HUGS))) Determined. You CAN do this and you WILL get through this. I have finished my chemo (just finished last week) and I am looking forward to surgery in less than 2 weeks. My chemo shrunk my tumor to the point where my oncologist can't feel it!
I lost all my hair and adjusted to being ok with it. It is just starting to grow back. I have fuzzies!! LOL
Stay positive and think of the "fun" parts of it. Like no hair so getting ready in the morning takes a lot less time. Or if you have to have a mastectomy then you get perky boobs! This has helped me a lot. Plus my faith in God has kept me strong.
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Determined! Not so long I felt just as scared as u did, I started chemo in nov 2010. So I know just how u feel, it is scary, but You will get through this, it will make you a stringer person, I think to my self if God has helped me get through this he wl get me through anything, I find prayers are soooo important, had sobmany ppl praying for me, everyone I would see I would ask for prayers... God has listens.... He will make u strong, and ur family too.
I also lost my hair, and i must say the hair for me was Sooo important, I didnt think I would cope with it but u know what, I'm use to no having hair . Mine is also growing back slowly but coming out!
I'm telling you I'm the biggest wimp u can meet, my pain tolerance is literally 0 and I was able to do it.... So don't worry as hard as it is u will ge through this I'm already praying for you...
Karebear also praying for your surgery, mine is close to urs too... I wish u a speedy recovery, will u be getting rads as well? It's funny u started after me and u finished chemo before me... Did u retain water from Chemo? I think I have a bit, trying to loose it but dong know how:( Atleast I hope is water gain
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