Great saying about depression
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MBJ and Jen- Thanks guys! Still got my finger hovering over the "send" button. LOL! I think I'm hoping by the time I make up my mind the job won't be there anymore. Jen- you bring up a good point about jobs affecting depression even more. It is so true. I had a job I liked, but a boss I hated, and every Sunday night I would get the blues so bad at the thought of going in to work the next day.
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Kate, hitting 'submit' doesn't mean you'll get the job, but, it will give you another practice job interview. I am used to getting any job I want because I normally interview very well. It's a surprise when I don't get the offer!
Also, you are giving them 3 months to see if you like them! I've quit a job at the 3 mark month and it just stunned the company. They thought they were so great...but they weren't. It was very empowering to walk away.
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I wanted to get that comment in while I thought this one through. Cubible job; had one about 16 years ago in Autocad. I got to draw all day. I loved it, but not the people I had to work with! BUT, when it did end (temp 9 mos) so many people around me told me I was 'back to normal' and 'funny' again. Apparently working for engineers dumbed down my sense of humour.....
Being a temp gave me no benefits. I have to stay with a job with good benefits or I pay about $600-$750 a month in drugs!!!!!
So....I would consider a cubicle job again as long as I am having fun doing it.
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Barbe -- I relate to your comment about interviewing well. I always was offered any job I interviewed for. Too bad there isn't a job for "professional interviewees" ! (Wait, is that a word? Whatever, you know what I mean...)
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What I loved about being a flight attendant was if you didn't like your co-workers they changed after one month! (Of course, if you loved them you were sad when the month was up!) I definitely would love to find a job with lots of variety!
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kate: what about catering or wedding/party planning businesses? Lots of variety, creativity, working with different people, good money. Hotel's offer good benefits in this area.
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Hi Ladies!!
Kate if you will DREAD it don't do it. I am one of those geeks that so loves the IRS code..I love my cubicle job!! Although once I got BC I got an office.
I am convinced stress played a part in my BC. I think you should send in your resume though and if you are asked to interview I would AND then when they offer you the job and you turn it down...you will feel so good about yourself!! A little ego boost. I say submit but don't take the job if you will DREAD it. I am still STUNNED over the Casey Anthony NOT guilty verdict...STUNNED!!
Diane
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Kate I agree too. you can always say no but interviewing anywhere is good practice. Now I've never had a cubical job and I think I'd just go bonkers. I need to be doing different things and talking to different people and solving problems. I guess I need some kind of excitement motivation. Hmmm so what else is out there....
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I think I know what I want to do!!! Home staging!!! I'm VERY good at pulling rooms together and have a great eye on balance. I sold one of our houses in 16 hours!!!
The course used to be $1,500 but when I just went and checked it out, it's over $3,000!! So I have emailed them to see why. I think I will do it!!! It's a 3-day course in August. I know I don't NEED the course, but it will give me resourses I might take too long finding. Also, I like to strut my stuff and maybe they'll pick me for projects!!!! I can only hope.
So, what d'ya think? $500 a day......I can work as hard or as easy as I want....
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wow, lots of good back and forth comments on here. thanks for the empathy Kate and MBJ about my next surgery--that sums it up pretty well. and, yes, I am on the exchange thread. I will be glad to get rid of these hard TEs. I still feel like ripping them out some days...I just hope I can accept silicone boobs... thsoe whole thing is just so weird. I wonder if people with prosthetic limbs, pacemakers, transplants have the same feelings about foreign objects/substances in their bodies?
I went out with friends yesterday for shopping and light dinner. I feel better today although I was really tired when I got home. I think the arimidex is kicking my butt. massage today--yeah!!! I will definitely hit the valium sometime today, anxiety starts barking in the afternoon--how's that for a metaphor?
job hunting--won't get serious about that for a few more months, but I did have a woman give me the name of a person to contact to teach English to adults. I think I would like working with adults--I'm a former high school English teacher and burned out on all the grading and behavior problems and politics of the work. I also saw a job for a bra fitter for MX women--I could see myself doing that--'course I first have to know how to fit a bra on myself
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Rowan -- I had my saline implants placed immediately after masectomy. They definitely take some getting used to. I'm almost 6 weeks post op and they still feel foreign, although less so than a few weeks ago. While I got to skip the yucky T/E process, my chest muscles had to accommodate the implants right away, so I had a LOT of chest muscle pain that is only now starting to subside. Since the T/E process is supposed to stretch things out to get you ready for the implant, I am hoping you won't have much pain with the exchange surgery. I agree, all of this is just so weird -- no matter how we end up with our new foobs, it is a strange and unpleasant (understatement of the year) journey. Sometimes I wonder if I should not have bothered with reconstruction. But I am liking how I look in clothes and I think my self-esteem is too fragile to have handled no reconstruction. It's embarrassing to admit that, but it's the truth.
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I am curious about that. I went to a PS who said he could 'give me implants in my lunch hour'.!!!!!! Why do they go behind muscles??? That must hurt so much. What would my guy be doing?? The implant felt soft, wouldn't my muscles just push it down?
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barbe: The muscle becomes your new breast tissue and support and this is why they use an expander to stretch the muscles. Mine also sewed in an Alloderm sling to support underneath so I am half muscle half Alloderm. If you put in an implant just under the skin not only would it look unnatural, you would see the outline of the implant plus it makes it more difficult to check for cancer. Yes, the muscle fights back at first but eventually it relaxes into it's new position. It is painful but bearable in spite of how it sounds. On Exchange City, Carrol had an MX and did delayed reconstruction and she is now going through the expansion phase. Like all of us--we adjust and get used to the pain and once they are removed hopefully the pain goes with it!
I also thought of doing staging for real estate. There are lots of savy agents who are now in the game and it can be very competitive. I am not sure you would need a class nor do I know if you would get good referals, however, it does give you a step up on the competition to say you are a certified stager, you could do your own website, you could get clients just going to the Tuesday open houses (not sure if Tuesday is the day in your neck of the woods). Since there are lots and lots of vacancies the trick would be selling people on the idea of staging a house in order to sell it. It is one area I once considered going into. You could really just get a business card, research furniture rental places, start going to openings and get started! Most professional stagers have a storage unit of their own with furniture they have collected over the years which gives you a more competitive edge. You will have to be able to gauge how much furniture & accessories you will need to rent and the cost, plus your time and a crew to move the stuff in and out (there are also services that do this). Of course, homes that still have furniture may be your best option--editing what is in a home so that it can be sold while a person still lives there is the most cost friendly way to go. Some just need a little paint and polish and organizing--no extensive rentals necessary. You will also benefit from being able to draw a diagram of the space you are staging so you can draw it out on paper before doing it plus a computer program is useful for showing the client what you plan to do. As you can see, I researched this a lot!!! I love watching the HGTV shows that do this so this would give you an idea of what it takes!
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MBJ, how did the doc expect my muscles to accept the form? Doi!!!
As for staging, remember, I've done a ton of model homes so I'm very good at space planning. I don't want to be in the rental field, so I would just quote an exhorbitant rate and if they bite, well, I'll buy them furniture! I'm already in the industry!
This company has a marketing course as well, and I'm sure they're looking for hot-shots to build their own teams with. I do floor plans all the time and know the space to leave around each piece as well.
Yep agent caravan is on Tuesdays here too!!!
I'm pretty sure having the CSP on my business card will make a difference on who someone choses, plus I love to learn new things. I'm actually getting a little bit excited! I could do this while I'm off as it's only 3 days in class and then the rest is on computer at home.
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Barbe: You are perfect to do this job then. I didn't realize that with selling furniture you would also know how to do the diagrams! I say go for it! You have to be excited by what you are doing and if you are, you will make money. You can already sell, the rest is a no brainer!
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I agree Barbe, I can hear your excitement in your posts. I think you should go for it!
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Rowan glad you are feeling better and that a night out with friends did the trick. I am telling you...the exchange surgery is a BREEZE compared to the mx. I was only on pain killers the day of surgery and just tylenol after that. the implants are soooooo much softer if will almost feel good. When is your exchange??
Speaking of which...I went over to my friends house last night after she didnt respond to text or calls...I then got worried..went with my Charlie...big protector...to her house...she wasn't answering but her car was there...so i walked around the back...she was sitting on her deck smoking ...dingbat..I asked her what happened on Saturday and she said I didn't think you wanted to go..and you were supposed to text me...I said what was I supposed to text you?? I reminded her that she was supposed to text me...but it didn't matter cause I didn't feel well anyway and didn't really want to be in a house filled with smokers so it was for the best...plus I got out of having to by a bday present which I have no money for these days.
Barb that job does sound perfect and fun. I am helping my friend decorate her new house and I love picking colors and spending other people money..if you stage a home do you pay for the furnishings or does the homeowner/seller?
Hope everyone is having a good day...today is super HOT. I am heading up to my nieces field hockey game and then she is spending the night with me...and off to field hockey camp tomorrow. I love spending time with her...she's my sweet angel...and she still loves spending time with me despite being 14!
Diane
Diane
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I've had tons of training in space planning and floor plans because I sold high-end furniture at one point and went to people's houses. I LOVE spending other people's money too!!
I talked to DH about it and he's all for it! I would train while I'm off on STD and then stay at the job I'm at until I got myself busy (or not) with the staging (to keep the benefits!). I'd rather stage with their own furniture rather than have to maintain my own inventory....but, for the right amount of money....I already get a huge discount at work!
Can't add anything about the exchange surgery except good luck, sweetie!
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barbe: I didn't know you were going back to your job but the benefit would be selling more furniture
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I'd have to go back to give myself a chance to get my new career started. Kind of like a back-up plan. Who knows what's going to happen though, really. But my DH only has work for the summer. I'll need to kick in at the fall. I also need my work benefits until I make my first million....ehehheheeh.
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Go Barbe!!!
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Hi Ladies! I can't believe this week...aside from my neighbor issues...another co-worker died in a horrible car crash Tuesday morning on his way to work. So sad...47 years old..two beautiful little kids. He was a great dad and was always boasting about his children. He was a pain in the a$$ at work but a very kind soul. He always had a smile on his face and I just still can't believe he is gone. The viewing is tomorrow (closed casket) and funeral Saturday. I feel sick thinking about it. He had very strong faith and was an active member of his church. When he found out I was sick he came in and told me his church group said a special prayer for me as I went through treatment. You know when you hear the words you have cancer you immediately think well this is how I will die..NO ONE expects to be taken so quickly in a car crash. He died on impact and the woman who hit him died later at shock trauma, she was pregnant. SO so so F%^&ing sad.
I have been to 3 F^&*ing funerals in two weeks....some days its all too much. I hate this; people shouldn't die so young and with small children. just makes me sick to know his beautiful kids will grow up without their dad, their coach, the biggest supporter. Ok now I am crying to hard to see what to type. Thats it for my rant for this evening.
Good night all...be well...be safe!
Diane
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Hi,
For you all thinking/looking for a job...and even though it wouldn't give you benefits - what about 'temping'. It would allow you to go to places and give it a try, without a permanent commitment, and who knows, you might just come across something you like to do that you didn't think of, and hopefully get benefits.
Even though money is a necessity of this life, I think it's really important for us to like our job, for it to be interesting, and to have a good boss and overall like most of the people you work with. I know I just don't need any more stress or negitivity in my life.
Kate: what about being a dog walker? There are many people who work all day and would gladly pay someone to spend quality time with their pooch and you could set your own work hours and be outside in the fresh air and get exercise at the same time.
barbe1958: what about being a professional organizer? That is really popular here. People have their work spaces done (and it often involves buying furniture or accessories) as well as kitchens, family rooms, bedrooms and closets. You get the idea! You wouldn't need any stock and no office...just a web site and advertising in the area you want to work. And it sounds like you are a wiz at space-planning!
That's all from me for today.........
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Didel-jeeze I can't imagine going from zero to full size after MX, I bet that really hurt.
So sorry to hear about the deaths in your life. the "why" never did me much good, but grief hurts I know that.
Suprising sometimes, in a good way, how caring people can be.
My father tends to focus on the negative--recently he heard of an older woman being car jacked from a shopping mall and she was found in another state, slightly injured but very much alive. He kept telling that story, mostly cause he doesn't want my mom driving anymore. I had to reimind that about a month ago he couldn't find in his own car in a parking lot. A mom with a baby in her car, drove my dad around until he found his car. To top it off, he came home saying he had lost his wallent,Turns out he had left it laying in the front seat of the car of the woman who had helped him in the parking lot. Long story short, she returned his wallet to him intact the next day. They have recently moved so she found him through some old neigbors. Good story, right?
BTW--I'm feeling pretty good after my exchange surgery yesterday. Pain pills all day yesterday and last night Right now I am doing an ice-pack. I'm not hero, though, if the pain gets too much, I will take the pain meds. DH is home with me, so I am in very good hands.
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Rowan: Glad to hear your exchange went well. Rest up and remember no reaching, pulling, lifting. Be a luxurious slug even if you feel full of energy. Pretend you are playing hookie and relax and enjoy the down time. Great story about your father!
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Didel: Wow, I am so sorry to hear about your co-worker! Have a good cry and get it all out. I am sometimes amazed that I am still here alive and well. Hugs!
Justagirl: Great advice! I have temped many a time in between jobs!
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DiDel- So sorry about all the losses you've had lately. With each new one that gets piled on the sense of loss gets even more intensified. It can seems so overwhelming, especially when it's so senseless. It seems every time I go to a funereal it brings up the pain of every one I've ever gone to. (((hugs)))
justagirl- The dog walking thing is a good idea but wouldn't work for me. I just can't take the heat this time of year. I would love to be able to move away during the summer months. (If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen....) Kind of crazy to live here when I can't tolerate heat but my whole family is here so I put up with it. I hide in my house during the summer the way people back east do during the winter.
rowan- Wow! You were talking about your exchange but I had no idea it was coming up so quick! Glad everything went well. I'll second what MBJ said- no stretching! It's so easy to do with this surgery because it seems like it's not as painful. I learned this the hard way! Take it easy and congrats on the Yippee Squishees!!!
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thanks for the well wishes--it does feel good to be on the other side. and I am playing royal slug!
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DiDel - so very sorry about the deaths, that really is a lot in a 2-week time period. I barely watch the news anymore, it is all so awful, so much senseless death. And then when it happens in your own circles, and you can't hide from it, ohhhh...just too sad.
Rowan - glad to hear you are doing well after your surgery. Hopefully every day will get better from here...
Kate - my husband wants to move to Arizona. But he's only visited there in the spring-time ! (We have family there.) I am so heat-intolerant...no way...I would be hiding in my house all summer, too. I already do that here...and we're "only" in the mid-90s right now.
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Thanks Ladies...it's been a sad sad couple of weeks. Tomorrow is the funeral.
Rowan glad you are feeling good after the surgery..yes it is a relief indeed!
I am heading out for some adult beverages...hope everyone has a good night!
Diane
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