Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?
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Karyn, How FUN, a trip to Alaska with your firefighter!!!!!!!!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!
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Good Evening Ladies
Kward I like what you said about trust. It makes sense. The Alaskan trip sounds wonderful.
I am sorry that some of you sisters are having trouble with men. I know what you are going through. I take the stand now that the guy needs to be what I want. If he isn't then I kick him to the curb. I know from experience that settling for someone does not work for me.
I sort of feel like a teenager tonight. I had dinner with my Bible study group tonight. There is a guy there that I immediately was attracted to when I first met him in July. I like his personality and after talking with him tonight at the dinner (14 of us there) I even like him more. But with this guy it is going to be a slow process, or at least I think it is going to be.
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Yay, paintedlady! Good for you. Slow is fine - no need to rush!
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Hrf, I have to say, in my entire life, I have only encountered two people that really had a hard time grasping what I do. And I have explained what I do to a LOT of people. I am sure you would have been fine!
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The guy I had been seeing on and off since October doesn't want to see me since I won't take any more Femara. Does this sound like a man concerned that I might die or just a control freak?
Denise
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control freak, tell us more
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Control freak, a$&!!
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sweetbean- thanks for your confidence in me
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chiluvr...seems like you and boyfriend should be able to talk about taking the Femara. If you can't discuss it and respect each others opinion maybe the relationship isn't worth saving. Ultimately, it is your decision since you have to deal with both the side effects and potential consequences. If he can't support your final decision then that tells me he isn't all that respectful of your opinion and not accepting and supportive.
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I actually think he is concerned, chiluvr. He might also be a bit of a control freak, but I think he is a concerned control freak. Is there another anti-hormonal you can try? Not to save the relationship, to give you the added protection.
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Chiluvr
I agree with Sweetbean.
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Maybe that's why I'm single, I dot think its any of his business if you take it or not and certainly shouldn't be a deal breaker!
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I agree with you df
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DF...you tell it like you see it! Some guy is going to appreciate that!
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We'll see, so far not so well but it is me
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I agree with you too, DF
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Damn.......I wish things were going better with y'all....... it saddens me that we all can't be happy and find that man that fullfills all our wants and needs.......
Randy and I are doing great so far!!
He even told his grandmother about me. He has his own home here in the same town I live in, but lives with his 95 yr old grandmother to help her. She is all alone except for him. Anyway, he told her about me and was kinda leary about doing that because she wants his undivided attention. Well she was estatic about us!!! He invited me over to meet her Saturday evening and it was great! Then yesterday we all went to lunch and spent time together. She couldn't hug me enough and told me that she was so happy he met someone like me!!
As I was typing this, he made his nightly call He is so precious of a person and just praying that this works out. He made sure to invite me to his gramma's birthday dinner this coming Saturday and Sunday we will be at his friends' for the superbowl party. Will be meeting 4 more friends of his. Have already met 3. They are all really happy for us and keep saying what a cute couple we make. Have a great night ladies, and I pray all of us happiness and health!!!!!!
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Wow kward planning a trip already, didn't you just start dating him this month or last month?
Sunangel, so so so happy for you!! I wish there were more happy stories but it seems they are few and far between. Many of us are really looking and out there trying, so hopefully someone will have a happily ever after story to share soon
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Have a call into the Onc about a different hormone blocker. BTW I gave "Joe" the heave ho when I found out that he went out with someone else this weekend and the reason he started the fight to begin with was so he could "break up" with me for not taking the Femara, take this other woman out Sunday and then called me this morning and begged me to have lunch with him.
Wellllll, with things like Facebook, secrets don't stay secrets for long. Changed my cell phone # and told him never to call, text or email ever again.
Then I broke out into song "I Don't Need a Man" by the Pussycat Dolls. Well, not really but I did in my head.
Denise
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Sounds awesome, I was wondering if he may of been using that as an "out"! I love facebook for that reason too! Sounds like his date from Sunday must of been a real catch, what a jerk face!! good for you on telling him where to stick it and changing your #
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Thank you DF!!! Yeah, I do understand!!! I am so so happy and so hoping it all stays going good. Seems like each night I wait in anticipation for him to call and so look forward to our dates, and meetings. He is SUCH a gentleman and that I am not use to!! heheee He is so sweet! He talks about things we are going to do and it is funny, he says I am always saying "if you don't dump me first".......says I look the other way and he s always "when we do this or that" and always planning on the future, not the past.....I need to learn that
Just told him it's been a long time since anyone has taken the time to get to know ME, instead of getting what they want and dumping me! He said he understands and has patience!! We have soooooo much in common it's unreal ! He always smiles and says.....yep, there's another reason I picked you
I just pray it keeps on going and going I have had my share of the not so happy endings.......I'm ready for the happy one
Maybe we all will have one some day!!
Chil......I had to have mine changed too!! The tammy had horrible side effects on me for so long!! He is trying me on a newer one called amorasin. Haven't heard of it before. Just started it this last week and so far no s/e's but they usually don't start right away!
Damn, he sounds like a guy I used to date!!! For almost two years!! He was always breaking up with me then a day or two or three later, come running back.......found out he was seeing another woman for four years at the same time he was seeing me, AND we both figured out he was probably seeing others too!! he would do us both the same way!!! SO glad I smartened up!!!!!! : Hugs to you!
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Omg, chiluvr, so he wasn't a control freak OR concerned. Just a total loser. Good to know. Just blow him off -that drives guys NUTS!
OK, so N has finally asked me out for a second date. Of course, my surgery is Thursday - do you think getting together for drinks on Tuesday is realistic? It's just an exchange. (Only BC survivors would say that!)
the guy that dumped me because I got cancer now wants to be friends on Facebook. Thinking about sending him a blistering e-mail. I've been blowing him off for 10 monts (told you it drives them nuts), but maybe something scathing is in order here. Jackass.
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AAhhhh, sun, yours sounds like a fantasy fairy tale. So happy for you and gives me hope! If grandma likes you, that can only be good!
Chil, what a loser. Nextt time he calls and asks to go out at some particular time, tell him you have a date. Ha ha ha. Gets 'em everytime!
I had an "outing" with Dan wh'd I'd met a couple times and really liked. He travels alot and when he finally returned, we arranged to go to the Gem show together. Nice companion, smart, respectful, etc. etc. but when it was time to part he said something like, call me sometime if you want to do something and I said, since your social schedule is so much busier than mine, I'll let you make that call. He then said, that might be hard to do but we'll work it out. That to me says ,"We can be friends and do stuff occassionally but this isn't heading down the romance road". Oh well, was really hopeful with this guy but at least I know early on where he's coming from. Poop.
So...3 more contacts from OKCupid, we'll see if any of them go anywhere.0 -
Rak, that must have been hard to hear, no? I am meeting John tonight, a match date for the first time. Trying to get Franklin out of my head. UGH. I am trying sisters! Blessings to all my bc sisters! xo
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lovemyfamily, hope tonight goes well
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OK, coffee date with C today. A gigantic MEH. He was better looking than I expected, but also more boring than I expected. In addition, he showed up in jeans and a hoodie sweatshirt. REALLY? I work hard to look nice - I don't understand why guys ALWAYS show up in jeans. There were a lot of other things, too- I just don't think we are a good fit. (He was nice, though - I'll give him that.) We'll see if he contacts me - he said he would, but I'd rather he not.
Next!
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Hmmm what do you think a guy should wear? I think all the guys I've met up with for dates have worn jeans. I've work jeans myself, and a sweater or nice shirt. Hoodie is pushing it a little... Sorry he was a dud!.
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I think I'm a little old-fashioned - I usually wear a cute skirt. But since it's winter and everyone is wearing jeans, I wore my nicest pair, plus a super cute top and earrings. But still - I always think, "This is their first impression. What do I want them to remember?" Trust me, they will have plenty of opportunity to see me in jeans. (Plus, I like to save my cute jeans for the "activity" date.) It's ok - onwards and upwards!
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Chil So sorry about what happened with that guy. I was hoping that he was concerned about your health. What a jerk! You are strong and didn't let that loser get the best of you.
Some people (if you can call them that) don't have a conscience. I have experience with this type of individual. So, I am happy for you that you found out the character of the loser right away.
You and the rest of the Ladies have a wonderful day
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Date was a dud. Very nice, talked the whole time about himself. Boring. I am sure a very nice man but not for me. Another date coming up on Sunday. we shall see. Thanks for your support sisters! xo
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