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  • hrf
    hrf Member Posts: 706
    edited February 2012

    lovemyfamily, sorry he was a dud but glad that you are continuing to look.

    chil, interesting how we were all trying to figure out whether he was controlling &/or caring ... none of us thought of the obvious - he's a jerk. Good for you for telling him off. 

  • Denise2730
    Denise2730 Member Posts: 320
    edited February 2012

    Yep, just because we met on Christian Mingle doesn't mean he isn't a jerk. Just a Christian jerk. Better to find out now than before things became "intimate". 

    "Man's rejection is God's protection".

    Denise

  • Dragonfly1976
    Dragonfly1976 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited February 2012

    Exactly... no matter what site or where you meet him, if he's a jerk his true colors will come out! No new dates or dating hopefuls for me, but then again I'm not looking still. Being strong :)

  • sweetbean
    sweetbean Member Posts: 433
    edited February 2012

    OK, it's officially exchange day!  Say a prayer or send a good vibe!

  • Dragonfly1976
    Dragonfly1976 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited February 2012

    Thinking of you girl, can not wait to hear how it went!! Hugx from the west coast! XO

  • negirly
    negirly Member Posts: 199
    edited February 2012

    Sweetbean - one step closer to the next chapter - I was excited for my exchange.  You'll be amazed at how squishy it is compared to the expander

    Karyn

  • sweetbean
    sweetbean Member Posts: 433
    edited February 2012

    Thanks, ladies!  Trying to distract myself and not drink or eat - my surgery's not till 4pm!!!! 

  • lovemyfamilysomuch
    lovemyfamilysomuch Member Posts: 762
    edited February 2012

    Good luck sweetbean!! xo

  • hrf
    hrf Member Posts: 706
    edited February 2012

    hope it goes easily for you, sweetbean

  • paintedlady
    paintedlady Member Posts: 228
    edited February 2012

    Sweetbean 

    Wishing you well. It will be over soon and you will have this behind you.

  • Denise2730
    Denise2730 Member Posts: 320
    edited February 2012

    You will feel so much better once it is over!

    Denise

  • kiley56
    kiley56 Member Posts: 94
    edited February 2012

    Thinking about you sweetbean and hope all goes well !   Hugs, Kiley

  • paintedlady
    paintedlady Member Posts: 228
    edited February 2012

    Sweetbean  Hope you are doing well after the surgery. When you are feeling up to it let us know how you are doing.

     Ladies, I would like your imput. I am very, very upset (nothing to do with a guy): This evening I went to my weekly bible study. It is held at someone's house. There are 14 of us.When one of our birthdays is coming up, they have a birthday party for the person. My birthday is tomorrow so they had a party tonight. Well, the couple that lead the bible study did not give me a card nor did a couple of other people. I did notice when it was other peoples' birthday in the past, these people gave them cards. I was especially upset by the so called bible teachers' berhavior. When it was their birthdays I gave them cards. In fact, I  made one of them (the wife a ceramic vase). I was not looking for a gift, but not getting a card was like a slap in the face. And I cant tell them about their rude behavior and how it made me feel because they will turn it around and make me the villian. They will say something to the effect that I am allowing satan to influence me.

    I know that I am not accepted by this clique. I have been going since July but no matter how I try they don't seem to like me. The only reason I can come up with is that I have a slight facial defect and I feel this is the source of the problem. The bible teacher even said a few months back that people born with birth defects can "have a curse on them"!

    Sorry for the rant but I am upset. The way I feel right now I don't even want to be around those people Sunday. I am tired of trying to make them like me. They make me feel like I have leprosy.

  • kiley56
    kiley56 Member Posts: 94
    edited February 2012

    Hi Painted Lady,  I'm sorry your going thru this, on top of everything else.  You should not feel You have to make them "like you" .  If'n they are people of true faith they should "love you".  Happy Birthday !   Hugs, Kiley

  • lovemyfamilysomuch
    lovemyfamilysomuch Member Posts: 762
    edited February 2012

    Dear beautiful Painted Lady,

    Get out of this group, they sound dangerous.  They are the kind of people who give Christians a bad name.  IMHO

  • twoputter
    twoputter Member Posts: 100
    edited February 2012

    Dear painted lady...Sorry that this group is not accepting of you.  I'm sure Jesus thinks you are beautiful!  Those born with a defect have a "curse" on them...that's ridiculous!  What about love and acceptance?  This may not be the group for you.  Maybe you should try another.  You just don't need to feel unworthy or unlovable...especially in a church group.  Keep the faith!

  • Dragonfly1976
    Dragonfly1976 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited February 2012

    I agree, this is not a Christian group at all, sounds like a bunch of high school games. I'd let them know though, to give them the benefit of the doubt how you're feeling just to see what they have to say. If not then find another group, or church or start your own!! I don't get people like that at all, so sad !

  • paintedlady
    paintedlady Member Posts: 228
    edited February 2012

    Thank you Sisters for the support and birthday wishes. I was typing something else they said about breast cancer that I didn't mention in my previous post then the computer just erased it out!

    Going to try again: The teachers were saying that we bring on our diseases ourselves because we don't believed in the power of Christ. After this was said, one of the other women said "oh thats like when someone says they have breast cancer. They bring it on themselves because they agree with the diagnosis" grrrrr!  And guess what: The group agreed with her (except me).

    I just thought omg I can't believe what I am hearing.

    I was going to the group because I thought they would help me if I needed something. Like going to Moffitt Cancer Center if I couldn't get there myself. I really don't have any firends around or family; so I thought this would be like a family.  Wrong!

    Thanks for reading this. Going to go now and try to calm dowm

  • Denise2730
    Denise2730 Member Posts: 320
    edited February 2012

    PaintedLady - find another group at another church ASAP! These are the kinds of Christians that make other people go "WTF - if these people are Christians I don't want any part of their Christianity".

    BTW - I was up in Brooksville, FL a few years ago at Lakewood Retreat - have you ever been there?

    Denise

  • twoputter
    twoputter Member Posts: 100
    edited February 2012

    Painted lady...I had a friend (former) who said that cancer was a sign that I was closed off.  He was really into holistic and healing stuff.  That was the last time I talked to him, other than to tell him off.  Ridiculous.

  • Dragonfly1976
    Dragonfly1976 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited February 2012

    Crazy isn't it what people will say? My ex told me I got cancer because of bad Karma I had coming to me!

  • hrf
    hrf Member Posts: 706
    edited February 2012

    paintedlady, get away from those people. Not only are they not true Christians (IMHO) - but I would consider them not good Jews if they were Jewish (as I am). They sound horrid. I don't know if you live in a large city or small town but usually there are community groups that provide support that would be much more loving and caring in their approach - we are supposed to love and help each other - not blame each other. It has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with the quality of the character. Sending you virtual hugs ((((PaintedLady))))   

  • sweetbean
    sweetbean Member Posts: 433
    edited February 2012

    Paintedlady, those people sounds bonkers.  Stay away from them.  People say crazy things about why people get cancer, they really do.  Don't listen to them.

    My exchange was yesterday - the pain isn't too bad and I am happy with the results thus far!  She went with 400cc's, which is pretty big on me and I think they look great!  Looking forward to the dropping and fluffing!  :)  I may have her do a slight revision on my nipples to move them a bit more center.  They are naturally off to the side a bit and she said she could move them in, so why not?  I'll probably do that this summer.  Very happy!!!!!

  • paintedlady
    paintedlady Member Posts: 228
    edited February 2012

    Sweetbean so glad that your surgery went well

    Thank you and the other Sisters for your comments. I must admit the group is wacky. I am going to try and find a support group for bc

    I am sure glad you are all here so I could vent/

    All of you have a great evening

  • lovemyfamilysomuch
    lovemyfamilysomuch Member Posts: 762
    edited February 2012

    Called Franklin and told him we did not have the same goals and we should be apart.  moving on.  Ugh!

  • Dragonfly1976
    Dragonfly1976 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited February 2012

    Lovesmyfamily that is great, I know it had to of been of hard but it's for the best! XO

  • hrf
    hrf Member Posts: 706
    edited February 2012

    lovemyfamily, you are a very strong woman. I admire what you did. 

  • Layla2525
    Layla2525 Member Posts: 465
    edited February 2012

    I think you'll be ok...my aunt had bc in the 1960s when they did radical stuff with no recon.  She decided to get divorced the cancer came back in the other side and she had another radical and then she got married for the second time. About 30 yrs later he died cause they were getting into the 40 yr old or so when she married the second husband. She got well, she died this past Christmas in the nursing home, she was close to 100 yr old. Nice lady,not even all that pretty, sorry to be blunt but just saying...she was fun tho and everyone enjoyed her company. Bet you'll get married and live to be 100 also. Its very possible.

  • paintedlady
    paintedlady Member Posts: 228
    edited February 2012

    Good morning Sisters

    Sweetbean how are you feeling today?

    Love my family Sorry you have to be going through this. You are doing the right the right thing. No need to drag out the emotional pain and waste your time

    Chil haven't heard of Lake wood Resort

    Can't type too long. I am going to a show to see Hairspray with my girlfriend. It was my birthday yesterday and she is taking me as a birthday present. Like the gift; don't like the age lol

    I'm looking forward to hearing about your dates

    DF, Twoputter, Hrf, Chil. Sweetbean and Lovemyfamily Thank you for taking your time to give me your input.

  • sweetbean
    sweetbean Member Posts: 433
    edited February 2012

    I feel pretty good, paintedlady, thanks for asking!  I'm still on the Percoset - I'll probably stay on it throughout the weekend.  I figure it will slow me down so that I don't overdo and make me sleep, which I probably need.  Plus, who needs to push through the pain?  Not sweetbean!  :)  So happy to have this part over with and looking forward to the drop and fluff!

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