Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?
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Painted lady, I am so sorry for your loss.
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Thank you Sisters for your support. It really helps to read your posts
Very sorry to hear about your dog-Lovemyfamily.
Going to try and take a nap now
Have a good day. And thanks again for all your concern
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Oh Painted lady, I am so sorry for your loss ! I recently lost my beloved dog of 17 years. The grief has been unbearable. He was always with me thru everything when no one else was. I am so very sorry ! Hugs, Kiley
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I am so sorry to hear of this. What a sad, sad thing. And your little one was so young too. Our pets stick with us through everything!!
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paintedlady...I just had to jump into your forum and say how sorry I am about you losing Charlotte...it is one of the most awful things you ever go thru'. It will take you a long time to get half over this. I am so sorry for you...these little dogs... they are our world.
One VERY small consolation, if you can call it that. Things happened so quickly, no horrible medicines for her to take, no blood tests and exploratory ops....very little suffering, apart from you.
Thinking of you.
Isabella.
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Thanks Sisters for your support.
Kiley I am sorry for the loss of your dog. I know the pain is deep'
Mybee I agree that our pets stick with us. They give us unconditional love and loyality. She was by my side when I went through all the bc treatment. She never complained. She just loved me..
Isabelle You are absolutely correct. It could have been alot worse for Charlotte. The vet assured me that she did not have any pain( except when they put an IV in her arm and drew some blood)
I am having a hard time sleeping. Charlotte is on my mind. Just wish I could kiss and pet her one more time. Just tell her one more time that I love her.
Thanks Sisters for reading my posts and giving me support. Your posts have been a source of comfort to me.
Good Night
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PaintedLady - I am so sorry about Charlotte. It never gets any easier to lose a beloved pet, whether it's the first time or the 10th time. She has crossed the Rainbow Bridge and will be waiting for you when it's your time. I know I have quite a crowd of dogs & cats waiting for me when it's my time.
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PaintedLady - I am so sorry that you lost your Charlotte. I know how attached we get to our furry crtters - in many ways they are more wonderful than people - never moody or judgemental. I have two great cats now - Henry and Charlotte. Love coming home every day from work knowing that they are there to greet me. I hope your memories of Charlotte bring you comfort.
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OK, so I have had three dates with R. and I told him about the cancer on the third date. It just seemed kind of natural. He already knew that I followed a strict diet and we were talking about that when I decided to tell him my motivation. He seemed completely unfazed and wants to see me again. He is very nice, I have to say.
That being said, I'm not certain that I am ready to date. I kind of wish I were just doing social things and meeting new people than actually dating. I'm going to a Healthy Eating meetup tomorrow night - hopefully, there will be some cool people there.
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Sweetbean I can relate. That's kind of why I decided to stop trying to find someone and date. I want to live life, have fun, and make the most of it. IF I find someone along the way great, otherwise I'm happy being me
I am trying to eat better, and exercise more and am now an independet distributor for Visalus so that's keeping me busy between working and being a single Mom. Dating is way on the back burner! Maybe R can just be a good friend, do you feel a connection to him of any sort? More friends is always a plus
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He's really nice. I have no idea if he is attracted - he has barely tried to kiss me. (This is new for me.) But he keeps asking me out. He could totally be a friend, except that people don't join Match to meet friends. We'll see. I'm supposed to plan the next date and I'm having trouble coming up with ideas. Ack!
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Well true, you don't go on match to make friends but... Sometimes that's how it works out. I met some nice guys on there but no love connection. Would of been nice to stay in touch, I'm more "friend" material anyway! Lol
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DF, tell us more about Vislus. I have never heard of it.
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sweetbean - perhaps introduce him to a hobby of yours or something you enjoy doing - There are some great groupons out there too - I got one to make sauce then have dinner and another to see dueling pianos - maybe browse for ideas. I get tired of dinner after a few times. I went geocaching with my guy today and it was a blast. Another favorite is to shop for food then make dinner at one of your homes.
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I'll send you an email HRF, it's pretty great stuff
They are shakes, used as a meal replacement to lose weight or with a meal to gain muscle mass and so on. I love them and they are packed with vitamins/nutrients. I love the groupons, we purchased a sweet 5 hour limo winery tour (for half price) to do in the Spring. Can't wait!
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Hey ladies, guess what I got today? mis matched squishies... Yep. I'm disappointed. However, I will wait it out to see how bad. With my te's, it was bad. I'm not mentally ready to date, but this is another great I gotta explain things...
I agree with df, just go have fun. Heck, go bowling. I'm living through you ladies trying (and sounds like some succeeding) in dating!
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Let things settle and you will see how your squishies look. Was super unhappy at first. Now, not so bad but am having a revision in June. I think things will be fine in the long run.
Hey ladies......just realized i am terrified of being manless. have always had a partner, even if it was a bad one. don't know what to think about now without someone to center my life around..........feeling panicky.
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Try and enjoy your life, I think it's a great thing being without a man. You need to focus on YOU, have fun with friends, try new things, hobbies and be you. You may find that you enjoy it,I know I do. It's funny I'm so used to it, I feel panicky about the opposite. I dated a guy off and on, when he was over 3 days a week or so I got so sick of him and was ready for my place to myself. To each their own, but you should be just fine on your own I think, and a man would add to your life.
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Thanks mybee33. I will try to stay positive, but if it doesn't settle, I will have it redone. Glass have full view is they are a hell of a lot perky now than they have ever been!
Mybee33, before this hiatus, I was like you, always needed male attention of some sort still do, as my trainer is a boy and not a girl, but one step at a time. I'm learning how to enjoy doing things with my little man.
That doesn't mean you should take the same path as me and df. Heck, go out and enjoy life. Even if that means with a few dates a week. You're a beautiful woman, enjoy the companionship. Just don't settle.0 -
Thank you for your compliment. do need to be alone now for a bit. it's not good to chose if you have fear driving your decisions. frankly am a little tired of men too and their games. but like that male attention too tho, like you.
i would like to do more things. might be easier with a smidge more cash. i do see girlfriends and do some things with my ex hu on occasion or with the kids. but feels like there's no center, no direction.
I am 2 1/2 mos. out from my exchange - had 4 surgeries last year. anyone else still fatiqued? i feel exhausted but could be the emotional turmoil too.
klynnz - i had a lift on my right. have come to feel good about the perkiness too.
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For me, I've always had a great group of guy friends. There's not the pressure, the stress and it's so much more fun. None of the dating pressures. I think I just got tired of it all too and decided dating wasn't for me, not right now at least.
Some days are better than others for fatigue, for me. I've had 5 surgeries, chemo, radiation and everything since 2009 until 2011. I don't know if it's the fatigue from all that, or because I also had to have my ovaries out at 33.
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Yes - having your ovaries out contributes too i believe. dating can add pressure. and there is the stress too. nice you have guy friends. that is great for you!
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mybee, if you feel terrified to be manless, then IMHO, you need to work on yourself first and stay manless for a while. Prove to yourself that you are a whole person who is independent and confident. Then you can find a man who complements you. If you are desperate, that will attract the wrong kind of guy. You might surprise yourself and find it is not so bad without a man around. Give yourself 6 months before you try dating again. I hope I haven't offended you.
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Sweetie, I am with you. I have gone on a few dates (I am a widow), but I am not ready to have "the talk". I am terrified that someone might not be able to deal with what might happen. I am very, ery lonely though...
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hrf - I would agree. Besides - I have nothing left to give at this point. I believe it does attract the wrong kind of guy. It's just that sometimes I don't know what to focus on. When that happens I just try to think the word 'love', and that seems to work. That is what I would like to have in my life - self love, love for friends and family, etc.
TamiHH - I have heard this telling part can go okay. i haven't had any kind of unveiling yet though.
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The guys I've told about the cancer don't seem scared off. Usually they think I'm pretty brave for getting through it. Like I had a choice! The Dr. said he was really used toit; it was a part of his daily life. He used to treat kids with leukemia but is now a pediatrician. I think most guys are okay with it; maybe they don't have the fear of recurrence that we all carry with us and don't understand what they may be getting into.
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Twoputter, first of all I LOVE your picture. You look amazing, happy and healthy
I've only had to tell 1 guy and he seemed unphased by it. So you never know! I have great fear of ever telling someone, I'm such a private person.0 -
Hi Ladies
Well I thought about what Sweetbean said "casting a large net" ; I joined two dating sites.
Here is what I am running into: Out of 160 guys that messaged me on the first one, I was only interested in 4.
Out of the four, one seemed to be real interested then just stopped communating. One turned out to be disquisting, one lives a couple hours away and one I met for coffee yesterday. He claims that he is 63 but he looks 73 to me. He asked if I would like to see him again and I just told him to give me a call sometimes.
The other site is POF. I got alot of messages, but most turn out to be to far away. A couple are close and gave me their phone number but I havent contacted them yet. I cant believe there are not more men closer in distance to me on that site. Is this typical?
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Painted lady, was that a typo? You got 160 emails and just signed up, maybe I need you to write my profile for me
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Paintedlady - My experience exactly. You can see by their profiles what they are about. There has to be another way. Or maybe it just takes a lot of time weeding through them all...............like a year or something................
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