Bonfire of the Goddesses
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Hey Gran..............room for me in that pocket....................love ya girlfriend.
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Granny, jumping in your pocket. Behaving my self as long as someone doesn't start pinching or tickling.
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count me in granny.
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Me too
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Granny... How are you feeling today?
VR is recovering today from her latest D&C for that uterine polyp that simply won't go away! Hopefully, this 4th time is the charm. VR has a problem now. Looks like when she was throwing things into the fire... her patience might have accidentally fallen in. Needs her patience back PRONTO because now she has a Fallopian cyst and now enters the dreadful WATCHFUL WAITING cycle!!!! Yikes!!! Doctor said that in a few months we will begin a discussion about removing some body parts. YA THINK???!!!! I know Sheila is not going be happy if VR starts getting rid of her organs... But VR is sick and tired of all of these surprises. Actually, VR would really be surprised if she went to her doctors ( and her DH's doctors too) AND FOUND THERE WERE NO SURPRISES.
Today... While VR looks for her missing patience she will be throwing into the fire ---SURPRISES!0 -
Maybe my patience is in there with yours? Today i eithet want to hit something...or cry... And cant even really decide which!!! I hate this!!! Sorry ranting
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VR--LOL how am I going to be upset-Get the puppies out, and the conduit to their warm bed for gestation. In 1996, when I learned that twin had ER+ BC. I went to my doc and said we had work to do. Out with all!!!! Difficult insurance approval, but "gotter done"( voice of Larry the CableGuy). Told sister to do same.
Ovary removal was not considered a treatment choice , but I had kept up on the literature. Convinced insurance company. A bit of word twisting. Now I trust in folks like you VR, for research. Retention sucks. Good for some, bad for others. Must be all the brain injuries(4), BC, chemo/anesthesia brain, brain surgery, flying in the backyard, ad nauseum.
BTW all four closed brain injuries were on the left, from my right ankle turning. So, IF you ever hear I died of a brain injury, please, know that it was my right ankle that killed me LOL and irony.
Oh think I get it --it was a joke--duh---always slow on the uptake of a joke. Like I said all those nuns and jesuits.
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Rider girl...the fire is magical...so come on down and let it soothe you...Ranting is welcome, you need not apologize!
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Vr corrected all typo's etc now you can read LOL. Redid Justdx'd-GP--sheesh. You were so righttttttt.
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SAS... Gallows humor! Oy how I love it!!! Oy! Oy! Oy!
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Rider please, stop using the word rant. We get a rant when we see it. This IS THE PLACE TO RANT.
Jo have a chat with rider, she needs to hear from the originator of the thread.
Vr , I'll join you by the sweet fire after MH appointment, which I have nicknamed my "fruitloops appointment". Nurses have to give nicknames to all normal medical usuage words. Why I don't know, but it's been there since I started.
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VR, will help you put the flames out on your patience, but am afraid it might be a bit charred.... will hope for the best!
Ridergirl, do you remember tossing yours in, or maybe it is misplaced somewhere else??? Let's see if we can find it for you.
SAS, you are too funny with the ankle-leading-to-closed-head-injury! I actually took care of a 40-year old woman one night who cracked her skull on the ice - she was chaperoning an ice skating party for her teenage daughter - of course, in those days no one even thought about a helmet! Am wondering if we should all be wearing helmets all the time, LOL.
Throwing in plantar fasciitis tonight. Every time I start feeling good, start my walking program again, the d*mned plantar fasciitis flairs up again and I am sidelined yet AGAIN.
Yes, I know, I could swim, but the water is too cold now. I could do the stepper machine - yecchh! I just want to be able to dance on Friday (don't know if I told you all but I am starting to take tap dance lessons with a bunch of middle-aged women, some of whom have never danced before (like me!).0 -
Linda... It's all about the shoes! Have you got a serious orthopedic shoe store close to where you live? Might be worth the schlepp..
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Linda make that six head injuries on the left, one on ice and one in a car accident. Yes helmets and ankle braces.
Have Marvelous exercise for plantar fascitis. . Will PM, if you like. Podiatrist taught it too me
Rider did anyone tell you being angry about all this Hopper dumping (bedpan emptying basin) on you is normal. Scream, yell, rant prn(as necessary).
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Opps off to fruitloops counselor!
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Thanks for the encouragement on the foot issue - I have been dealing with this since 1990, off and on, have done the podiatrist, exercises, PT, shoes, orthotics, NSAID, ice/heat, rest. Most of the time I do pretty well, but I tend to over-do when I am feeling good, and this is what I did last week, so am now paying the price. My PT has warned me to "go slow" and only increase my activity by 10% per week, and no more, but me??? Oh, well, I'm feelin' pretty good, just a little more, the weather is great, the breeze fabulous, etc., never mind that I am no longer 20 and not even out of breath with this level of walking.... so more ice, rest, waiting.... *sigh* ... just wish this body would act a little better for me.
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I guess no one told me i would be angry, sad or anything like that because every time someone asks i say i am fine. I am used to being 'fine'. And all the 'fine' has finally caught up with me, today, and now i am tired of being 'fine'. I am tired of pretending i am fine. I am not fine. I am sick and i am going to die. Maybe not next week or next month, none of us know for sure do we? And today i am angry and i am crying all at the same time and all i want is for someone to bring me flowers before all thats left is to put them on my grave. And saying that made me cry some more. This sucks.
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wow..i thought i had problems but i got nuthin!!!!!!!#3 LE therapist said i have stage 0 LE= nothing but to watch the boob.its scar tissue that hurts and i must have pulled something or stretched too hard cause it aint LE.
Thanks for the pocket party.im goin to NY&Co.to get the camis she wears and feels that it is best
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Ridergirl...it's ok not to put on airs and tell people you feel fine. People think they are being kind by asking and then one feels obligated to keep a stiff upper lip by telling others how their coping well. Soooo... All those kind people who THINK they're being nice by asking how you feel are going in fire. Frank Rich wrote a very interesting article this week in New York Magazine about how he and most of Nora Ephron's friends were blind sighted by her passing. Somehow, I get it. I am a very private person who does most of my ranting here. Most of my friends and family have no idea about my illnesses. I am happy not to bring it up. I am happy not to hear from people asking me how I feel. I feel unfettered by keeping my medical concerns in a closed box. My immediate family knows and a handful of people whom I depend on when I need assistance. People were left confused by Ephron. But I sooo get it. She wanted her life unfettered as well and it just can't be that way when people ask you how you're feeling and have that Grim Reaper look in their eyes.
You don't owe anyone an explanation about how you feel.... And if you feel awful... You have every right to feel that way as well and you can tell people that if you wish. My sincere hope is that you find peace and comfort... Be angry... Shout it from the roof top if it will make you feel better. Cry. Rant.... We are here by the fire making sure the embers never extinguish. Throw whatever it is that you need to into the fire and I promise you will begin the process of feeling better. Perhaps not soon enough... But you should feel better soon. Remember... This is the Bonfire of the Goddesses and it IS magical!0 -
Rider - I have been through the same thing you are talking about. My BS told me I would feel depressed after my lumpectomy and I really did not understand what in the hell he was talking about. Like you, I went through treatment telling everyone I was just fine when in reality I was not. I got tired of saying it and not meaning it. Once I decided it was okay to say I was not fine. the anger and cry eventually went away. That is not to say I still don't have those momemets because I do and it is alright. We are entitled to experiene these feelings. I created this thread as a place to come and get out all that anger and those feelings that go along with it. I encourage you to toss in anything you want - that could be people, feelings, all the massive amounts of paperwork, insurance forms, brochures, pamphlets, anything.
Like SAS said, this is a magical fire - one that you can come to and stay as long as you want or visit as often as you want. You can come here just to have a laugh with someone.
I would like to send you these flowers with a bear hugging the vase. The bear is really hugging you from me.
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Jo the flowers.are beautiful and they made me smile instead of cry so that was great thanks so much :-)
Linda i would love to be.able to tap dance rigjt therr with you..no idea how to do it but it looks fun :-)
and wow did i sound selfish earlier.so just want to be.clear...i dont want A bigger pity party than anyone else gets k...dont wanna stick out.
Anyway thanks ladies for all uour suppport and have a.good.night. I'll b back tomorrow still.trying to convinmce myself im.moy crazy...yet!0 -
Linda right and your taking tap dancing NPR radio had a quote from GeneKelley" that you have to be in really strong condition to dance and jump over tables"
Jo thanks so wish there was someway to get that in the header, BTW it was VR that said the fire was magical and I heartily concur.
VR your words always get it right.
Rider I had a feeling know one gave you a clue as to how shitty all this is. Jo's and Vr's words really make it clear, about the BONFIRE and symbolism of getting rid of the anger and the stupid things people say and do, Sometime we get rid the STUPIDS too. Sweetheart this sucks, but your here with us now, we got our arms around you. Anytime you need to come in screaming ---just do it---we know--never apologize. Just let it all come out. Don't think anyone is thinking anything , but good thoughts about you, and for you.
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These are for you, Ridergirl! Lots of hugs and lovingkindness.
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bedo directed me here to toss my drains on the bonfire.... now I can go back and read some posts. I think we should also throw the word 'FINE' on the bonfire. We are NOT always FINE !!! ridergirl... for you:
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Ladies thank you all so much every time i open up this thread the flowers bring a smile to my face.
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rider - It does my heart good to know that we can put a smile on your beautiful face.
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Guess who these two Goddesses are?
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Wow, Glam Girls??? hey, that's V & K.....
Awesome photo! So great that you could be together....
Granny, you are lookin' like royalty posing like that! Veg, I sure hope you are feeling as great as you look.
After being away for awhile, I am back to work and I cannot even count how many times I have said I am "fine" in the past week. I worked so hard at being fine in the past year that I all but crashed and burned at the end of my academic year. I decided to reinvent myself this fall, but of course, I can't be anyone but me. (so, is that a failure or a victory?)
A little reminder of the definition of F.I.N.E. (aerosmith) - F*%#*d up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional.
Jo, your doc said you'd be going through some emotional stuff; my BS said "just wait and see -- you'll be fine"....so, fine I am....but exhausted from working so hard at it.
I'd like to toss that little word....
This fire's feeling pretty good...Joan
PS - I just heard on the local news it's the 1 year anniversary of the east coast earthquake (mag. 5.8, VA)
I remember exactly where I was - in the cancer center waiting room with large glass see-through fish tank in one wall....I knew what it was (am a geologist) but all patients were oblivious to the fact that the building was moving.Anyway, I thought for sure that it occurred during a post surgical visit but now I realize I have lost my memory because my surgery was 8/30.
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Joan - Love the definition of fine. I say fine sometimes because I just don't want to talk about it. If I answer with, "peachy keen and dandy" then my friends now I am sick. I think the question, "How are you?" is just another way of saying hello. We all say it to each other just as a pleasantry.
Today I go for an MRI for the brain. I hate those little tubes but I'll be FINE, fine, fine. I'll take a happy med or two and I'll be fine. I'll sleep through it like the last one. All they are going to find is some cobwebs and a cricket.
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Joan - At least my BS was honest with me and told me I may be depressed much better than telling me I would be fine. I hate that word - "fine". What the hell is it with everyone wanting to use that word - into the fire it goes.
Veggy - All I can say is WOW! Two beautiful sisters in that pic. Thanks for sharing.
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