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  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited July 2014

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    Virginia........Welcome.....but let me assure you before we begin.........ask anyone....Jo may be the Queen but I am the ...Oldest......Funniest.....Prettiest.....Smartest.........Sexiest......and a member of the Mile High Club............so come on in...........sit a spell........your gonna love it here........

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  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited July 2014

    To my sisters and my Goddesses...........

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  • Vadre
    Vadre Member Posts: 159
    edited July 2014

    What a welcome! Thank you. I look forward to getting to know you all better and letting you know about me. I'm an out there kind of gal. Just ask my family (who I am very close to) I'm out there. There isn't much about myself that I won't share if I trust you. I figure friends can't be good friends if they don't know the real you. So if you've ever got any questions for me, ask away, I'm an open book. 

    I was diagnosed 3+ years ago! Stage IV right out of the gate. I'm a pretty strong person so I held it together really well for quite a while. My family rallied around me to hold me close and have never wavered. I lost a couple of friends along the way. Not like they dumped me but they did gradually fade away. I guess they just didn't know how to handle the intensity of the situation and I couldn't stand pretending everything was peachy all the time. I found a couple of local support groups which were a big help for a while, but eventually I began to find that the difference between Stage I and Stage anything else was huge. Not that I haven't learned from or been supported by women who aren't Stage IV, because I have!  It's just that when the shit hits the fan, so to speak, the only sisters who really, really get it are the ones in the boat with you!  I still participate in my Groups locally & take part in several different forums on BCO I find that my 'closest friends' are the ones who share my diagnosis.  That's how I ended up here. You all support and love each other with such intensity that I hoped to become a part of it. 

    I was mostly kidding when I said that you all scared me a bit---mostly!  And yes, FireCracker, it's you I'm most scared of! Which is, I assume, just the way you want it! 😉 but no worries, I can dish it out as well as take it!  I am pretty excited about getting to know y'all! 

    Just a bit about me personally, I'm in my 50s and have a wonderful husband and five kids. My husband and I were each married once before. He had two boys, I had two girls and we had a boy together. The four older kids are at various stages of being grown up. The youngest, 17 year old Scott, is a Junior in High School and keeps us laughing! We live in Williamsburg, VA, right on the James River. Both my husband and I are retired and loving this part of our life - with the notable exception of this F£?king cancer. 

    I'm a little tense today 'cause I see my MO tomorrow to get results of quarterly scans. Like my MO, hate the waiting!  But you gals certainly get that. 

    I guess that's a good start. Feel free to ask questions if you like. 

    Virginia 

    Oh, my first toss in the fire! It sounds really crazy and horrid, but I'd like to toss in my relationship with my younger sister. It's very difficult to explain, but she's in a bad place in her life right now and is married to a real ass. She has thrown me under the bus emotionally a couple of times recently and I keep letting her get away with it because I worry about her, love her, have always looked after and she also has Stage IV.  It's just become a horrid dreadful, manipulative situation and is actually bad for my own health. I'm having to step back for a while which is really difficult for me to do. I just can't continue to be manipulated like this.  So into the fire it goes. 

  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited July 2014

    Sending good thoughts on your scan results tomorrow, Virginia. Sorry to hear about your relationship with your sister. Family relations can be difficult at times, especially under such stress.

    Here is a picture from my get together with Kathe. Please ignore my Bozo the Clown hair. I truly am thankful that I have hair at all....just wish it was a bit more manageable!! Of course Kathe looks wonderful! She has great hair!!

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    Edited to add: Love you Ducky!!

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 7,545
    edited July 2014

    Ducky - All I want to say to you is WHATEVER!!!!!  Love you too sista.

    Virginia - Don't worry about Firekracker - Like she said, her bark is worse than her bite.  She would do anything for you.  I have known her for quite some time and she really does get along with everyone.  When her and ducky get going - my best advice to you is to just ignore them.  They are both old and getting feeble minded - LOL!

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited July 2014

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  • Vadre
    Vadre Member Posts: 159
    edited July 2014

    No horse-heads on the pillow, okay FireCracker?!

    😜

    Virginia

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited July 2014

    Ok Kracker............enough.................never let them know the real us......

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  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited July 2014

    too late for that ducky

    If Virginia has been lurkin then she nose exactly what we carry on here...

    BTW Kath and Slo....u girls r so darn cute.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited July 2014

    Virginia......hang in their girlfriend........we're by your side.......good luck at the MO, along with good news.

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  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited July 2014

    ok enuf,now back to regular business

    What happened to the trip to Calif next year???????

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited July 2014

    Ladies..............Got a PM from Linda........she is doing ok, breathing problems but resting well.....sleeps a lot, and is being taken fantastic care of by her Mom.............she sends her love and will be on with you all sometime next week...............Told her we love her and are praying for her........said she lifts us up, and inspires us...............miss her so much.........

  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited July 2014

    I'm working on her Kracker!

  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited July 2014

    Oh Ducky....I'm so glad you heard from her. She has really been on my mind. I'm so glad her Mom is taking such good care of her. Thanks you for letting us know.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited July 2014

    Would not have it any other way......my heart jumped when I saw her name...........Like you ladies she is so special to me...........

    You have no idea how I depend on all of you for the support when I am down..........could not do without all of you to talk to...........love you all..............even you Kracker.......(lol....you know I love you my little partner in crime).......

  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited July 2014

    We feel the same about you Ducky.

    <<<<<group hug>>>>>>>

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited July 2014

    thanks ducky for letting us no about Linda

    She has been in all of our thoughts and prayers

    U really r a great sista and I'm so glad we will make the trip to Calif.together...

    Oops I let the cat out of the bag....sorry

    Maybe I betta start workin on the Queen

    I think I betta go to FB and sign off now before I get myself in trouble

    Nite all

    Good luck Virginia...

  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited July 2014

    Night Kracker! Enjoy your stretching. Stay away from the window!! lol

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited July 2014

    LOL...............you invented trouble......what do you mean "before".........

  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited July 2014

    lol Ducky! We need to work on Alyson too.

  • Alyson
    Alyson Member Posts: 3,737
    edited July 2014

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    And I'm nuts too.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited July 2014

    Aly.......Love it........

  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited July 2014

    Good Morning Goddesses,

    I'm getting ready to go for my infusion and have a little chat with my MO. I also get to meet my daughter for lunch!! She is about 10 minutes from my treatment center. I'm so happy she's back in S. Cal!!!!!!

    Hope you all have a good day. Try to stay out of trouble while I'm gone. Winking

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited July 2014

    it's so fugly hot here I couldn't get in trouble if I tried

  • badger
    badger Member Posts: 24,938
    edited July 2014

    I'm with ya there FK, just dropped my car off for an oil change and walked a mile home. I'm red-faced and dripping with sweat, yuck!  With apologies to 4H, for me today it's hazy hot & humid hell.

     Welcome Virginia!  I'm not here every day but sure do love these crazy ladies. ♥ 

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 5,858
    edited July 2014

    u walked a mile in this fugly weather

    I would die of heat exhaustion

    Someone throw a snowball at me please!!!!!

  • badger
    badger Member Posts: 24,938
    edited July 2014

    yup I did, out of necessity, not looking forward to going back to pick it up! edit to add, oh boy a snow cone sounds GREAT right now.

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 7,545
    edited July 2014

    Stuck inside today again!!!  We had 3 inches of rain this morning in 2 hours.  Everything is flooded.  We have been in rain since last Friday.  So ready to head to Texas even though it is a scorcher there.  

  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited July 2014

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    Something refreshing for the ladies who can't stand the heat!!

    Just got back from my MO. He took me off of Herceptin early. After a 40 pd. weight gain, swollen glands and nodes, barely being able to get around, it was determined that my SE's are starting to outweigh my benefit - LOL. I'm a little nervous about stopping early, but I sure can't wait to feel better. Being referred to an ENT doc to make sure nothing spread to my glands. He thinks it may just be a reaction to treatment. Wish I had a magic pill to get rid of all this weight!!! I was shocked to learn it was 40 pounds.

    Thanks for sticking by me ladies. You've all been wonderful throughout this whole process.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited July 2014

    Always there for you Beppy.........

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