Single life after a mastectomy
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Yeah, I'd say you made a good decision back in college. Hope you and your friend enjoyed the evening, Jazzy.
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hi all, well here I am logged in from home waiting for the last release goes well, yesterday I had 7 all together and this morning one which I will do from home. I got up and first thing I realized my vpn was not connecting me to my desktop so I had to call help desk and re install the program. I was nervous thinking if it didn't not work I had to get dressed and drive downtown to my office. Here is what it looks like here this morning.
Life I am so chocked to know how the marriage law is. In the real estate business I also learned a lot like how screwed things are when you live with a man under the same roof lol yes I also feel I am better off single. I like you attract loser all my younger years now i just want to make some money to be debt free and maybe retire one day.
I also think if your ex work in It. He probably try to hack the banks security to access your account. Now a days there is all kind of computer nuts lol I hope it all gets sort out and the court may rule on your favor if they know what is happening to you and the account.
My sister still has no appointment for the bone scan. Do you guy think a normal xray may show if there is an issue in the bone of her arm? I am asking her do get regular xray for now but she is avoiding it. I don't know what ll happen
I scheduled vacation for may but I am so broke I don't think I will be able to afford to go home. I ll keep you all posted. Have a great weekend.
Oh jazz I started exexercing by myself I figure I can't afford a trainer by I found lots of routines I can do here is a few I ambling now.
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bb, I also found an easier one and think you may want to try. I love it lol its my kind of exercise lol hope you can incorporate it in your daily routine.
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Life- during that time when I was dating that man, my parents really did not support the relationship or us staying together long term. I think that resonated for me and helped me to end things. At the time, I thought my parents were being so unfair and unreasonable, but later thanked them because I just could not see it myself. I think we all make the best decisions at the time with what we know. And as we grow, change, become different people, we make different choices. The poet Maya Angelou had a saying "when you know better, you do better!" I am trying to do better too!
Wishing you the best outcomes here with the divorce. Life has many good things waiting for you!
Enerva- that is a snowy landscape! I hope the rest of the release work goes well today.
I am not sure about the x-ray but do think if there is a tumor, it could show up? Many times the X-ray is used to look for fractures, etc. Has your sister had any of that? I understand that may sometimes be the first sign of a bone met. I know you want to get to see her, but it sounds like you can't quite yet. It is hard to be far away from people you love who are going through tough times.
After a super busy week on the biz development front, I am shifting gears and going to play some music this am. Wishing all my single friends here a good Saturday.
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hi, well release went through ok
I am now watching the movie Wild with Reese witherspoon
I wish I could do a trail like that but not alone with all of you
Will any of you want to do a trip like that one day?
I am in!!!
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jazzy - i think you did the right thing. you were too young to be worried about money, especially other ppl's debt. we got to take care of ourselves first....
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E - just googled about xray...looks like radiologist could read the image and determine but ultimately a biopsy to confirm.
i want to go on a trip too....hopefully this spring. depends on my work schedule and how much $$ i save up in two months. yesterday i worked late till 9:30....and it's snowing pretty hard right now.
just checked out the new wholefood market in my neighborhood...was quite disappointed. it's very small and ppl just bum into each other. i think i'll take a bus go to the cross town on. it's so spacious and they have more stuff. i intended to buy the organic raspberries but ended up with conventional one bc it's so crowded that i just did things in a rush. T_T
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Wouldn't it be great to just go on a vacation somewhere? Preferably somewhere warm...
Enerva - Ditto on what Jazz and June said above. Maybe they gave your sister an x-ray first, just to rule out a fracture or broken bone. Then maybe next she should have a bone scan or something that can give the doctors a closer look at her arm. You've been working so hard. Maybe you will have the money to travel there for a visit with your family by May.
About the bank - the bankers are saying a physical threat was made. This bank has made some mistakes, so he probably yelled at someone.
Jazz - You're right - there's a lot to look forward to. A new chapter in life.
Hope you're all staying warm.
The snow hit hard here today, too:
Just outside my garage. Stay safe, everyone.
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Enerva- I read the book Wild and saw the movie too. It is a great story about overcoming adversity. I am not sure I would want to do a big hard hike like that (used to do some crazy hard things when I was young), but always love a good adventure. I don't have any big trips planned this year, but my sister asked me to go to the Gallapagos next year with her and thinking about it. If we go, I want to go to Argentina too!
Life- wow with the snow. We have clouds and weather moving in this afternoon.
June- I totally agree. The only debt I was willing to assume being young was a tad of student loan debt when I got my MS degree in the 1980s. I assumed that debt and paid it off within a few short years of going to work FT. That same guy called me up years later trying to convince me he had gotten it together, but he hadn't......
That is disappointing too about WF's. I was at one today and just love them, although they are pricey so I don't always go there. If you can get to the big one, it may be worth the trip!
I got some good news today about being nominated for a local award in my industry and should know more soon. Came as a big surprise!
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oh jazzy - that's so cool!! Congrats!!
Have you guys read the book Anticancer a new way of life by Dr David SS...? I finished it in a week. It's very good. And his last book Not the last goodbye. It's a beautiful read and put tears in my eyes:
Re WF....it's pretty much my biggest expense at the moment besides of my rent. My grocery bill is about 3 or 4X my pre cancer grocery bill. But i only eat out a couple of times a week. It's so hard to keep a good habit though....I crave for burger and other food a lot. But my body also is used to more veggies and less meat diet. If I eat a lot of meat....I felt very sluggish
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Jazz - Congratulations on your nomination. :-)
June - I read "Anti-Cancer" (or at least most of it) when I was going through treatment. It was a very hopeful book. It's still right here on my bookshelf. You're right that keeping a healthy diet can be expensive. Around a year and a half ago, I was eating mostly salads and vegetables, and I felt so healthy then and was in the same physical condition as in my 20's. Lots of energy then. But, the food I've been eating the past year is not as healthful, and it's showing... lol... on my figure and on my face. It's cheaper food. But, that healthful food is worth the extra cost. Food is like our medicine.
Did any of you hear about the latest studies on extra virgin olive oil?
I shoveled the snow in front of my house tonight. It looked to be around six inches. Goodnight, all.
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June- I have not read that book but will look into it. Eating well is really important to us. I have read all the food books and watched the documentaries too. We have an industrialized food situation here that I do believe has contributed to our national health problems.
I avoid processed foods, don't eat sugar, try to eat organic, free range chicken, some fish (but you have to limit due to the mercury). I have not eaten red meat since 1983. I plan to do some cooking today with some healthy things I have bought yesterday and this week. Taking super good care of our bodies after cancer is important.
I got a juicer last summer and play around with that too to ensure I get my fruits and veggies in.
Life- glad there was not too much snow your way. I hear the east coast is starting to get a thaw finally. I hope there is not a lot of flooding with all the snow (especially in northern New England).
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I just watched this movie from 2013 on Netflix: "Decoding Annie Parker"
It was about finding the BRCA-1 gene. It was a pretty good movie.
Enjoy your day, everyone.
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Life- going to look for that one!
Just talked to my friend I saw last weekend who is going through chemo for a gyn cancer. She finished her third treatment, and said the fatigue is really bad this time. She sounded a bit down, but hopes to be feeling better by tomorrow so she can go work work at least for half the day. I am going to check in with her Tuesday to see how she is doing and may run up to see her again if she needs a visit. Cancer sisters stuck together like glue....
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the Oscar is on!!!
Jazz congratulations!!!
Will come back later
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Enerva- not on here yet, but planning to watch!
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life - thanks for the recommendation...i'm watching it.
jazzy - does your friend exercise? i read that exercise helps to make the SE less severe....may be take a 30min daily walk if the weather is not so bad...
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June- yes, she has been doing some walking. She does not belong to a gym so I don't think that is an option. It got cold here again today so I think she was just inside and keeping warm.
I think my next visit I should get her to go to a walk with me. Thanks for the suggestion.
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thanks jazzy for the image....now I have something to look forward to.
Just finished the movie....I was moved. It's very authentic about how we move thru the DX and tx and our psyche....
Annie is such a fighter....
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June- it shakes you down to the core. You are never the same after going through cancer. I still have people who just don't get that either.
Wishing everyone good sleep tonight.
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June - I'm glad you enjoyed the movie. I came across it by accident, and I'm glad I watched it.
Jazzy - Thanks for posting those images. Warmer weather, here we come... I hope your friend is feeling better again soon.
Goodnight, all.
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Good morning friends- winter has returned to NM, which I knew it would. Snow last night and another storm coming today.
I was supposed to go have a play day up in Santa Fe with a friend but opted out of that with the storm weather. Too bad we did not do this last week, but since the weather has been mild, thought it might be more do-able. So I have time found and know what I will do today instead. My friend and I may meet later for lunch or maybe next week instead.
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Hi BosomBlues, jazzygirl, Enerva, lifeiswonde, and June i havent forgotton you all, i know i am a newbie to this thread, you all made me feel so welcome, sending you all a big hug......i hope i havnt missed anyone , if i have a big hug for you to........
BB.....i felt the same over the Valentine, i was also feeling pretty grump, i guess it gets easier as time goes on, although i know i am so much more relaxed out of that stressful relationship have to grieve , then move forward.
We are the same age, still young women, we have a lot of living to do, love will come when we least expect it.
I am not looking to date at this time, enjoying freedom to do as i wish, may feel differently further down the line kaza
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BosumBlues.......i was married for twenty years, we drifted apart, very sad but sometimes the distance becomes so much there is no going back, i guess we change so much when we meet when young, also spending all time and energy on children and not doing things as a couple.
As for my partner now seven months since we split, how did i grieve ......i think remembering the negative things that happened and hurt me while in that relationship, spoiling myself with things i enjoy, seeing my friends , reading a good book i can really get into, i also try to remember if we were an ideal couple we would be together, there is a reason we split up, watching a good film, a new hobby in my case knitting, anything to take ones mind off , slowly a day goes by and havnt thought about ex at all, we deserve to be loved and treated well, it is hard but i feel certain there are many happy times ahead, kaza x
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BosumBlues, i have also joined our local community church, it not traditional very uplifting, i really didnt think i would go to church again, but it gives a sense of belonging, i have made a lot of friends, i know this may not be for you, i gave it a try and i really pleased i did , i give to others and support younger members when i can, i think it has helped, i am doing an Alpha course at the moment, it is a way of trying to understand faith and being a christian in our own way. xx
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hi ladies
I hope you guys are doing good .i had blood test twice and my APS is high so my oncologist sent me for bone scan and abdominal ultrasound .i hope its not again .i am really fed up with cancer. I dont want to die in pain or reccurance.
Need ur prayers that waiting time for test and result is killing .i feel every normal person on road is better than me.
Enerva.life is w.jazzy girl.bb hope you are doing good
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milkyway2...so sorry you are going through this, i will pray for you, and sincerely hope all will be positive for you, you are not alone, all your sisters here can give you support and help you through this difficult time kaza x
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mind if I join? This string is so supportive!
I'm a single mom. Ex walked out when my daughter was 6 mos old. She's 9 now, so I'm over it. Thought I'd get remarried while she was young. Almost happened. Then dated a bit. But kind of stopped pre-cancer with being content with just the 2 of us, and too busy parenting and working. At the same time, it would have been nice to have a supportive partner during all this BC mess and I don't like the idea of being alone when I'm old or when my daughter leaves home.
I'm curious as to whether BC ladies get the urge to date again (and when), as I have no interest post BMX and loaded up with antidepressants, Lupron (to cause menopause so I can take an AI). I used to be a sensual person, now I feel dry in that quadrant. Does desire come back? If so, when?
But enough about men. Milky Way - thinking of you and sending calming positivity.Just got a new Anti Cancer cookbook, specific to BC. Same author as the original. Made an organic squash apple soup tonight. Really good. I'm going to check out the Netflix movie rec and hope for a snowday tomorrow. Trying accupuncture for the first time tomorrow for SEs. Used to faint at the sight of needles before all this and now I'm evolved! Wish me luck!
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