Single life after a mastectomy
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Maybe we all should be hitting the liquor stores. ;-) lol
(I just noticed vol4life beat me to that thought.)
BB - I agree that clothes can help with self-confidence and also with how other people see us. I can't afford new clothes right now.
Just like BB, I held onto my old clothes, too. A couple of years ago, I could fit into them again, but not anymore. Over the past few years, I've gradually put on 15 pounds. Getting back into shape would help with confidence, too, not to mention with energy. I'm not looking for a BF - those days are over for me - but just feeling better about myself and hopefully finding work one day soon.
Enjoy the Foo Fighters, BB.
June - I'm going to look into renting that movie. I really want to see it.
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I hate waiting for test results for myself, but now waiting for some on my sister this afternoon. She has been having some GI problems for a few weeks and told me she has had a lot of pain in her lower left quadrant. So she is getting an ultrasound today and may also get a CT scan.
My sister also had bc as most of you know. She is worried there may be something going on with her ovary. Holding my breath here in NM.
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Jazzy - Keep us posted. I had trouble with an ovary while I was fighting BC. It turned out to be something that needed immediate attention, but it wasn't cancer.
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Life- thank you for your concern. I told her it may be something that is a problem, but not cancer. We always will go to that place first in our minds though.
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jazzy - hope it's nothing serious. Pls keep us posted about your sis. I know we always go there first and slowly back track
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BB - Your hair looks thick with lots of curl. If there's one thing that I liked about chemo, it was the curly hair. lol My hair is back to normal - it always had curls - but not as tight as the chemo curls were. How's it going now on the dating website?
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Hi ladies- nothing came up on the sister's utrasound. She had some bloodwork done and may have a few other tests but told me today she is feeling better. We talked about some foods to stay away from that may be also causing her GI track some upset. Thank you for caring.
My asthma is back so I am laying low again.
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BB -nice photo....you look really nice
Jazzy - I am glad to hear your update....keep our fingers crossed
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I met a man today at my professional org meeting. He has been there before but introduced himself to me. We form 3 people groups after these meetings to get to know each other better for referral and collaboration purposes. I chose him because he made the effort to meet me today and he chose another woman in the group who is an account. We are going for drinks later on Thursday, which will be fun.
He kept making a point later on to say he was single. I thought that was interesting and perhaps he is looking and/or was trying to find out if I was? The other woman is clearly married. He told this other woman and I if we wanted to come over, he would cook us an gourmet meal. That was sweet, but in the end, we decided to meet somewhere casual for drinks.
He seems like a nice man. Middle aged like me, tall, grey-ish hair, pleasant face. I had a good feeling about him.
So we will see how Thursday goes and what interesting things I learn about this man through our professional discussions.
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oh jazzy - that sounds promising....love a nice story at the end of the day.
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BB - I'm a 50yo mom who drives an old, beat-up minivan... with the music blaring. LOL. I still feel young, too, even though I usually am kind of boring. I think of it as being "young-at-heart." Nothing wrong with that, imho. I know there are men out there who are the same way. You're bound to meet someone with the same amount of energy and the same likes that you have. I hope he's tall and handsome and makes you happy.
Thanks for sharing your photo. I completely understand taking it down for privacy reasons. Am I the only one here who hasn't posted a photo yet? My main concern is that someone could find out who I am and then read what I've written here. I like talking openly with all of you because we understand each other. Also, to be perfectly honest, I'm not exactly photogenic. LOL. Especially not right now.
Jazzy - I'm sorry about your asthma, but I'm glad to hear that your sister is feeling better and that it wasn't what she worried it might be. Also, the man you met sounds very nice.
Today my youngest turned 14. And, boy, is he acting like the typical teenager lately. I miss when they were babies, but - shhh - don't let them know that. :-(
Thoughts and prayers tonight for Enerva and her family and Milky and her children...
Goodnight, all.
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Life- I hope your son has a nice birthday and that things are getting better for you and your family. I love the visual of you in the mini-van enjoying your music. You are a trouper.
Asthma is better again today. I went for a short walk last night and that felt good and helped. Woke up with less heavy lungs today. Will be going to the gym later for weights and perhaps a swim too.
Wishing everyone a good day.
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I am happy to share photos with anyone through PM, but not on threads for professional reasons. I know most of you know that about me by now.
I am working on a trip to Denver mid June for a prof org meeting and some biz dev. Been overdue to do this and going to go do it before things get busy. My big client here is meeting with her SVP on some new work for me today and I also have an RFP due in soon. I have some friends in Denver I am going to try to connect with too. Will fly up early on a Thursday morning and back home on a Sat night. Will see if I can pull this off!
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Hi ladies- I am going to be on the go the next few days with some biz and personal things going on. Going up to Santa Fe for a few days this weekend too.
Wishing everyone a good Memorial holiday weekend. Hope you all get to do something you enjoy.
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life - how was the birthday? Hope your son had a good time with you.
Jazzy - nice...have a fun trip.
Going to a BYOF bbq....if I knew before hand I wouldn't have accepted the invite. She's not even going to provide non alcoholic drinks. Hm...
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June- that sounds like one of those things I would make an appearance at for an hour and then go. They should at least provide something for the guests to make them want to show up!
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I just wanted to say I had SUCH a good time with the guy, Joe, tonight. The other gal met us too, but left after about an hour or so. Poor thing, she told us her husband has cancer and is going through treatment so she needed to go home and make him dinner. Pulled on my heart strings.....
Joe and I are like peas in a pod, some similar backgrounds, interests, etc. He loves to write like I do. We talked about EVERYTHING from politics, to science, to work, and more. He told me he wanted to get together again around a couple things we talked about of similar interest.
One thing I could tell about him is that he has a good heart. So important to me to be with a kind man and think this guy is. He sounds like he was the primary care giver with his children in the marriage and said he ex was just not into kids. He also seems very focused on helping his older parents and going to see them this weekend in Fort Worth where he is from. He is good friends with the woman who recruited me into the networking group where we have met (more like minded folks).
Anyways, nothing planned right away but all I can say is after the other gal left, we talked non stop for 2 hours. A good start.
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Jazzy - That's great news. :-) Finally, a nice man to talk with and get together with. I hope this new friendship works out for you. I'm sorry for the woman and her husband, though. I'm guessing that she didn't know you'd dealt with it yourself. I hope her husband will be all right.
June - Thanks for asking about my son. He enjoyed his cake and his gifts. :-)
I hope you both enjoy the weekend parties.
BB - Your posts are cracking me up. Maybe those guys on the online dating site look better in person. lol I keep thinking of how my uncle met his soulmate on online dating. So, there could be a happy ending to your story. On the other hand, my ex was cheating on me by placing online personal ads. So... be careful.
After that last conversation about photographs, I had to sign up for something (see below)*, and guess what the company required me to do - upload a photo of myself. Well, you know, my reflection in the mirror looks fine to me. But when the photo was taken, as usual I was taken aback. All the stress has taken its toll. So, I need to start investing in myself more.
Enerva and Milky - You're both in my thoughts and prayers.
Goodnight, everyone!
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* Note - Sorry, my post isn't clear here. That something I had to sign up for was a utility company. LOL. Nothing exciting. Not a dating website. Sorry to disappoint. lol
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Life- good for you that you signed up for some on line dating. You have been so busy with your sons and also this court crap, and you deserve to have some happiness.
I also think you are wise to the ways of the on line dating with respect to knowing some men are married. I have been hit on married men my whole life, some who are particularly sneaky about it too. Some are very open about it as well, they would say "I am okay with it." No doubt. But I am not. You trust your instincts.
And self care, I know money is beyond tight for you. If there is a way to get a nice haircut and pick up a bit of inexpensive make up at Walgreens or the like, it can go a long way to helping you feel better.
And the folks last night knew nothing of my bc nor did I say anything. Continuing to keep it out of my professional network. Joe seems like the kind of guy that could hear it, but would not share that of course, unless we chose to get closer. Oh and he is 59, within my 5 year range either way, LOL!
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Jazzy - I didn't sign up for online dating. Sorry - I see now how my last post might've given that impression. I was commenting to BB about her latest experience with it. The company requiring me to upload my photo was, believe it or not, a cable company. They needed to verify my identity for me to set up an account. Sorry that my post was not clear enough.
I just edited that post now to clarify further. lol
I think it's great if online dating works for other people. I'm not interested in it for myself, though. Any investment in myself would just be for me to feel better.
I'll be checking in later. Enjoy your day! :-)
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Jazzy Joe sounds great.................out here in expat land there is a limited pool of people and I am not inspired to go looking but if Joe has a likeminded brother or cousin in Europe.............
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Lily55- I have not been inspired either, but perhaps it is true when you are not looking that people show up. To be honest, I would like a nice guy friend to start and not wanting to rush into anything. I have not been in the dating pool for about 5 years, and my last relationship did not end well (well, whose does?) So I am gun shy like most everyone here (except BB, she is the one putting it out there!)
Will let you know how things go with him through time and if he has any relatives in the the EU.
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jazzy - aw...i am so happy for you. joe seems like a nice guy.....sounds like a nice person to hang out with if not more....hehehe...i keep my fingers crossed for you.
my computer is getting quite slow...thinking of getting a new one. actually i could do a trade in...just checked the price..this piece worth 125.10 bucks...i am tempted....apple air is only 899 now.
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BB- thanks for the kind words. I would like to find someone to share with. I just don't really think I want to get married at this point. Most of the men I have met seem to be either looking for someone to take care of them or financially support them. So I am careful to get to know these men.
Just had some strange man at my door knocking and saying "it was Andy." Told him I did not know an Andy and he said he is just a black guy, not a bad guy. I told him "move along dude, I am not opening the door." Creepy, probably casing homes to see if people are around this weekend.
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BB- I always have my door locked too. But the thing I did not do which I told myself later "don't do this again" is leaving the second door open. I have a second outer security door on my house that is decorative, but has some decorative bars and other motif that serves as protection to the front and back doors. As I was cleaning and getting ready for company, I left the front security door open as I was going back and forth and forgot to close it when I came back in. So the front door was exposed. I reminded myself to NOT let my guard down again. Nothing bad happened, but I feel much more secure in this house when those doors are in place. They always tell you to let the people know you are in the house if they do coming knocking.
I belong to a nieghborhood social media site called Nextdoor.com and let my neighbors know today. Awareness is the key.
I had a good visit and dinner here at the house with my friend. She is one of those really easy people to be around. The kind of friend that is happy for you when things are going well and shows up when you need a hand.
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That's worrisome - people trying to gain entry into your homes? Especially the knob turning on BB's door.
BB - If I'm reading correctly, you have a BF? As for men's opinions of mx w/recon, it might depend on the man. It's good to know that some don't think it's a big deal.
Enerva and Milky - still keeping you both in thought and prayer.
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Life- doing okay this way. No more troubles at the house. Who knows what that man at my door was up to? But agreed, someone trying to open a door is not good. BB, be careful!
I am off to Santa Fe today for a mini get-away. Going to the botanical gardens today on the way into the city.
Wishing everybody a good duration of the weekend. I am also thinking E will be back soon and hope Milky and her children are getting through the changes in their lives as best they can.
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Just take him to bed a few times, reduce tension and then wave goodbye..............!! Tension is not good for people who have had cancer.............
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i went to a BBQ saturday...the rest of the long weekend i just chilled at home and ran a few errands.
been watching some TV....not gonna lie, this long weekend seemed so short.
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Hi ladies- back from Santa Fe and had a nice mini get- away. I went to the botanical garden yesterday on the way in and there is a great garden sculpture exhibit there called The Power of Place. I will post a few of my favorites for you this evening. The gardens are just getting started, given the cooler spring we are having. It was really nice there.
I spent the rest of the time hanging at the hotel, doing pool time, reading, and enjoying life in SF. By 2 p.m., I was on my way home through rain that began up there and some going on here in town too. Thank god we are not getting the rain that is happening in the southern plains. My friend in TX have flooding and tornado warnings all over the place.
BB- I am glad you had some time to clean this weekend. I did some major cleaning before my friend came to dinner on Saturday. I have some things to finish, but my house looks great. Nothing like company to make things get put in order! I hope your friend will be interested to come over tonight.
June- did the BBQ turn out okay?
Lilly- I agree tension/stress are not good for us cancer survivors.
Melp- how are you doing? I seem to remember you were having another procedure in early June?
Life, Milky, Enerva, I hope you are doing as best you can as you work through difficult situations.
P.S. I think the movie Saving Private Ryan is a very good one to watch on this day
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