Single life after a mastectomy
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jazz lol the lady is the daughter of my brother in law she came to visit as soon as she heard I was heard I haven't seen her since she was 12 years old now she is 38 lol
I will take many pictures today and I will post later when I arrive home. I must go do the groceries and search for a few thing mami needs.
June and bb I am glad you ladies are dating a bit. I wish you good luck.
Melbourne I hope you are feeling better
Life and milky hope you too are OK
I will post as soon as I get wifi when I am in Centre ville
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E- good to hear your time is going well and you are enjoying time with family.
Melp- yes, how are you doing this week? Are you healing well?
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hi jazzygirl im doing fine. I go for my first expansion at the end of august. been trying to do all the right things like not lifting too much weight. Scars are looking good no sign of anything nasty there
been back to my gym but only did lower body machines until i feel my arms are ok to resume my normal circuit workouts.
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E - glad you are having a good time with grandma and grandpa...and no i am not dating, that's just my past online dating stories from hell...lol
BB - that's nice that you're getting a replacement.
melp - what a gret news that you're exercising already
jazzy -how are you? how did the meeting go??
i am bit sick today, staying home. sigh....
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headache....couldn't sleep last night.
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BB- oh yes, I can totally relate. Before I share my story du jour, backing up on the cloud is a virtual process, but always good to back up on your own hard drive and/or thumb drive. I have crap backed up everywhere. I have had computers crash, have had lap tops stolen, etc. and you just never know. Good to have your info stored in many places.
Melp- so glad you are doing well and have your first fill scheduled! You keep going girl!
June- the meeting yesterday went well. I have another teaming org to work with. That is a good thing, but still think many here in town are working to create these collaborations, but that there is little to no good work here in the city. I am still waiting to hear on the contract work I thought might be a sure thing but a week later and no word, so feeling less positive about that. I am getting contacted about a lot of out of state work again, so I may need to look at that and go on the road for awhile. Not ideal, but outside of moving, it is my next best option.
I have been trying to get an issue resolved with my eye doctors office around a pair of defective Oakley sun glasses they sold me a few years back. Bottom line is they sold me an expensive and defective pair of eye glass frames, and should have addressed it when I first brought them back when the lenses kept falling out. When they were under warranty with their office and with Oakley. Now the lenses fell out, one is chipped and they tell me the glasses are done. I was hoping they would just replace them at their own cost, but they offered me something at discount and then tried to price gauge me on that. The practice has really gone down hill the past few years and my eye doctor, who owns it, told me they were having problems and to give them a chance. Well, I have and also gave them the chance to make this eye glass thing right. I am going to find a new place to get my eye services and eye wear.
That resulted in me coming home with a headache I am still trying to shake.
As crabby as I am today, I am shifting gears to go to Santa Fe for a few days for some music things and a yoga festival. I need to go clear away all the bad mojo.
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BB- well, the benefit of having this break from work is to take advantage of things I never get to do. The three years I was dealing with my mothers passing and estate stuff, then the healthcare crisis, then the high demand project, that spanned 2011 into 204, I had little fun. I seem to be making up for lost time on that front this year. I am grateful to have this time to enjoy life a bit more. I will be good and rested when my next work comes.
There is jazz artist I love by the name of Esperanza Spalding. She lives in NYC so for you ladies back east, if you ever can see her when she plays in the city, she is way cool. She is an awesome bass player and very lovely vocalist. My friend who went through treatment recently was hoping to go with a pass but cannot make it, so I am doing my own thing. I found an inexpensive hotel (very hard to find in SF this time of the year) and plan to stop at a couple places up there I like to visit, get my wrist band for the yoga event on Friday, and do some pool time at the hotel.
Friday is an all day yoga festival! It is new to Santa Fe and I will spend the day attending classes, a concert and other conversations around yoga and wellness. I think it will be good. I love doing yoga retreats, this will allow me to take classes with a bunch of people I have never done classes with. It starts at 8:30 and goes until 5:30 and has a free concert at lunch with someone by the name of Grace Potter.
I have seen Esperanza before, but never Grace.
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BB- how nice you can pull your hair up. I wear mine in a ponytail with a hair extension a lot in the summer months. When it is hot here, I cannot stand to have hair on the back of my neck. Little parts of normacly returning. Glad your son visited too, you needed that!
I found a thread today where women are asking the question about "when will I feel better?" Seems really variable depending on the treatment, impacts from the AIs, etc. I felt better after a year, and am sorry that you are still two years out and still not able to feel better.
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BB- you have had a full check up with your PCP right? I know we always think when we are not feeling well that it is from the cancer treatment or that something else is going on. Sometimes there is something else off. Have you had your red blood cell count checked for anemia? I know several women who have had major problems with anemia after chemo.
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BB- you might need some iron supplements. Spinach is really good for iron, raisins too. I had some anemia problems in the past with having double periods for awhile. But a good supplement even through a script may help.
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hi ladies. Yesterday was a busy day it seems days here go fast I finally today after lunch told my grands I needed to go for a walk at the veux port so after we had lunch which I made lol did the dishes then went to the port walk around 2 hours and then came home. I wish you all were here with me I felt so alone today not sure if it's cuz france brings back so many memories
my first love was a french man and I feel time has not meaning when I am here it all plays back like a film anyway it was hard to take pictures by myself and grand MA told me several time not ti trust any stranger lol she is so cute .Here are the pictures I took today. I ll go tmw early morning cuz it was 40 de grade today during the day. They told me it's best if I go to town early morning or late at night and since I am alone I better go in the morning .
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watermelon 🍉 magarita in Santa Fe
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i am so jealous at E and jazzy.
BB - i feel bad for you.....just go for a little while. if it turns bad just leave.
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Hi ladies- I am back from Santa Fe and had a great time in my two days up there. Did a bit of shopping on the way in, and then spent some time at the hotel pool that afternoon. I went down early to the plaza for a drink and then went to the music. Esperanza was just amazing.
Today, I spent 10 hours at the yoga festival in this really amazing Scottish Rite Temple which is a huge church in Santa Fe I had often looked at but never been in. It is associated with the Masons. It sort of looks like a scottish medieval castle, so it contrasts with the other churches in the city. It was an amazing place and I did 4 90 min yoga classes today (holy crap!) Way more yoga than I have done in a long time, but I held my own and came away feeling amazing in the end. Today showed me I am that much stronger now after all the personal training and keeping at things with my recovery. I feel like I overcame another big hurdle today.
BB- I hope your date goes well tonight and that you can relax into it and just have some fun.
The friend seems like she really does not want to let go of the friendship and perhaps she is concerned about you, not sure?. Maybe you can have a heart to heart when you see her and just let her know that you are still trying to get your energy back post treatment and it is all you can do right now. With that, you are not able to be anyone's good friend right now. I have had to say those exact words to people sometimes when they want from me during times I have nothing to give. I hope it goes okay with her.
E- you are in a lovely spot for sure. I was thinking of you today as there were some women from VZ in my yoga classes today. It was a very international scene there today, I loved it! I think you have another week there too, whoot whoot! So glad you are doing this trip, you really needed this.
June- anything fun going on this weekend?
Life- are you doing okay?
Melp- I hope you are continuing to do well. You sound like you are really coming through things very well.
More later. Wishing everyone a good weekend.
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jazzy - nothing special this weekend.....just relax and get some rest. been having a TV drama marathon...very exhausted hahaha...
BB - how did the date go? hope you had a good time.
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BB- so how did the meeting/date go?
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BB- I am glad the MO ruled out anything more physical with your fatigue. Maybe the new social worker can help. A move to every six months is good news too. It is how often I go.
Too bad the date was no chemistry. If you like the other guy, have coffee with him and see how that one goes!
Oh and good luck with your friend tonight.
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BB- I remember you talked about that fellow and that concert. Well, your paths crossed again so see what happens?
With on line dating, there is no need to feel like you have to explain yourself. Especially after one date. I do think it is important to be kind, but to just say you did not feel a connection during your time together. Trust me, he will move on to others on that dating site.
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Well I met a lady from Philippines today had a great time. Took a boat to a place where I ll be going this week to get some color lol
She gave me permission to post her picture here 😊
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BB trust your dog!!! Much better judges of character than us........does no one want to come and see me in Spain???
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Lily- oh I would love to come to Spain some time. Been to Europe several times, but not to Spain.
Are things getting a bit better your way?
E- I love the photos of you enjoying yourself. Where are you heading next in France? Continue to enjoy your good time there with family.
BB- how did things go with the get together with your friend last night? Did it help you to have some time to talk about everything you are going through?
I have been busy getting some food prep, house work, and other things done today. I am finally taking my car that had the hit and run in to the collision repair place in the am to be fixed this week. Got things sorted out with the insurance company a few weeks ago to reclassify the claim under uninsured motorist. With any luck, I will have it back by the end of the week unless they discover any other surprises. I have not been driving it since early July, and looking forward to having it back again.
Hope everyone is having a good sunday. Hard to believe the kiddos go back to school here this coming week already (but summer is not over to me in my mind yet.....)
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Its very slow Jazzy as lungs playikng up again adn it is sooo hot here, hottest for 40 years, we have had no rain at all since April, and it gets up to 90% humidity...............made me ill yesterday...............
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Lily-I have been through hot summers like that and they drain you. NM has had many hot summers for awhile (I remember 2011 being one of the worst and there were fires everywhere, so I could not be outside much either with the smoke and my asthma). The weather is out of balance everywhere. I am ready for fall, the heat bothers me more now in the menopause world.
Do the cooler temps move in next month?
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BB- When you say she started on you, I assume you mean unsolicited advice? Seems like she is just looking for someone to talk to vs. having an exchange. Well, you had a good day so that is good enough, and now you can let that be for awhile. Glad you got some pool time too. Good to be happy with the simple things that come with some folks.
Too bad about the guy you really like not calling. I know he was supposed to call you once before and didn't. Fair enough to give a person a second chance. Sometimes people just don't follow through, has more to do with them than with us. More fish in the sea, my dear.
I had a cool experience with a guy at the yoga festival. I noticed him in the second class I did (he looks like the actor William Hurt who I always have found attractive) and ended up in my third class next to me and we did partner yoga together. That was really nice. After the pose, we had to stand facing each other, holding hands, and looking into each others eyes and to silently thanking each other for the practice together. It was pretty amazing.
I saw him talking to this other woman after class and later to her again outside as I was leaving. I don't think they were together, but seem to know each other. Well, maybe we will see each other at a yoga event here again some day (assuming he is from somewhere here in NM). I have always thought I would like a guy who does yoga (they are rare). I got a good vibe from this man.
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Wow. lol So much to catch up on!
BB-I miss the fwb relationship. I am actually in love with someone, and he knows, not to that extent, but he knows I care for him deeply, he just doesn't feel the same. He is coming to visit this weekend
He lives about 6hrs away and sent me roses my last day of chemo. I, personally, think he likes me too, but I think I scare him as much as he scares me. Then there's the distance, which I think is more of a justification to not pursue anything. idk. Thanks for the profile advice thou! It's actually short, and kind of blunt (that's me). I have no time for BS. Never have. Never will.Jazzy-That is awesome! Rarely does it work that way. You usually run into people when you look like crap lol I am glad you looked good. Always feels nice to look good, and then to run into someone...ahhh.
Sorry BB. The cloud mystifies me lol But you should be able to get your data from any PC, right, if it's in the cloud?
Enerva, love the photos. You look beautiful!
BB- I know what you mean. I feel like I have totally misread my friend mentioned above. But some of the things he says, and we still talk everyday despite him knowing how I feel, and he is still coming. Hates traveling, driving, but yet, he's driving 6 hrs to see me. Surgery Sept 4th, so getting ready to hit another treatment highway *sigh*. Will be a while before I can get to him. Intimacy right now thou, is hard. I can't imagine being with someone during this I didn't truly care about, and that didn't care about me.
Humaning is so hard sometimes.
O.o Jazzy. That's kind of sexy lol I hope you run into him again.
Hope everyone enjoys their Monday haha
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Simplicity- well, a man who says he does not have the same feelings for you, but is coming to visit, driving A LONG WAY to do so, talks to you daily, AND sent flowers after you finished chemo certainly has some type of feelings for you. Talk about showing up! Although I do feel words are important, I think actions speak more to how a person feels about us. Maybe he is a bit scared now, with everything going on and does not want to move forward until you have gotten through everything you have to do. It looks like you may still have some rads to do? Well, be present with all the good mojo around this man and enjoy your time together.
As I was reading your comments about me running in to the old boyfriend and then the experience with the yoga man, and something occurred to me this morning. What a wonderful contrast to have those experiences in the same week, so I could experience the feelings around being around those two very different kinds of men. The one who never made me feel good and the one who did in the short time we had that yoga experience together. Hmm, something to be thinking about this week and going forward and thank you Simplicity for helping me connect the dots on those two experiences!
I hope everyone here has a good week. Easy days with SEs for those in treatment.
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I agree Jazzy. I think he is just scared. Most of his relationships have been abusive, emotionally, verbally, and even a bit of physical abuse from the ladies. I also think the distance is a safety net for him hiding from his emotions. I won't disrespect his physical boundaries. He knows that. It's a decision he needs to make, one he won't take lightly, which, imo, makes it that much more special.
Sorry to discuss this so much here, but I really have no one to talk to about it. We even held hands and cuddled last time I visited. I know, Awwwww, right? lol Was nice thou, not having any expectations for anything further and just sitting holding hands. I can't WAIT to see what this weekend brings. I've got a sexy little outfit (not my style normally and when I say sexy, it's not revealing. I feel icky revealing) to wear around the house while were home
Someone who makes you feel good is important. Being single is fun sometimes.
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Simplicity- you can share all you want here, that is what this site and this thread is for! To share the single lady stuff, treatment stuff, relationship stuff, dating stuff, you name it. We are listening!
For anyone who has not been treated well in a relationship, for either gender, trust is the biggest obstacle. Many of us here have talked about our trust issues from past relationships. I have always had trust issues in my life period. So if you can take things slow with this man and let him get comfortable with you, things may shift with time. He does sound like he really cares about you and does not seem scared off by the whole cancer thing (so many people are), so I hope this continues to go well for you.
And hey, nothing wrong with wearing something a little sexy to feel good too!
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Thanks
He's a good man, so I am just happy to have him in my life. He's been a good friend to me. If friend is all I can get, so be it, least he's a good one.0 -
And yea, still have to do rad's
Not sure of the start date yet. Bt they say the standard 5 days a week./for 6 weeks. Ick. Hope I handle it better than chemo.0
