Single life after a mastectomy
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BB- that guy may just be a player. He may have wanted more from you that night, but also may just may just tell women things to keep them on the hook. I always thought men grew out of that behavior, but even in my mid 50s, it seems like there are still plenty of these men around. I think you have been fair and given him a chance.
I am glad the social worker called and gave you the name of a therapist with a sliding scale. I have paid for some out of pocket that way in the past and most can find something that works for you. I hope you like him or her and that they can help you with all you are working through. We get by with a little help from our therapists.
I dropped my car off today for the repair work on the little hit and run last month. Hope to have it back end of the week, barring no major problems. Doing some follow ups today on some opps I have had in the works. One fellow I was really hoping to give me some work hired someone FT so he has nothing right now (but did call me back to talk about it and appreciate that vs. being ignored). Checking on a couple other things and found something in CA I am interested in too (mostly remote too!)
Simplicity- I had radiation but internal rads, which is different than what you will go through. There are some good threads here though for women going through rad treatment, just like there are for surgery, chemo, AIs, etc. Definitely find one there to tap into but some of the women on other threads can help too.
Time to head to a prof meeting shortly. More later!
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I continue to enjoy my time with my folks 😆
Jazz I need you to send me the link for the insomnia tread.somehow I lost it and I haven't been able to post msg yo let them know I am OK
I ll go for a walk to Centre ville tomorrow morning but I just want to go to the beach lol Humm I must wait for my niece, she arrives we'd. But I may just go alone cuz I am dying to take some sun yes yes I know I must use protection 😠😢 I miss my tanning days .I hate to have to use so much sun block now.
I promise I ll though .
Simplicity welcome lol
Lili I want to visit Spain for sure so you just let us know when and we ll plan something .
I heard Spain is amazing .
Bb roo bad the boy did not call. Well another one ll come alone .you are beautiful and that is all you need to know 😄😊
I ll take pictures of the notre dame church of Marseille it's beautiful
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ok. I may have goofed. My brain.
When you say rad's, you do mean radiation, right? lol
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Lol I was pretty sure, but that end part caught me about the tie down. I haven't checked into it much yet. That whole jumping the gun/stress thing haha But I had heard it wasn't too bad with the exception of the first time.
Idk. I'll have to check that area soon thou
Bout time to get my knowledge on I suppose. Hope your mom does ok tomorrow.
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BB- do you have a little sunny spot you can plant some herbs in a pot? I understand missing a garden, I lived in rental/apts the first 8 years I lived here in NM and had to be happy with some things in pots for that time since a garden was not an option. I love that you put the herbs in water.
I am going for a facial on Wed, well that plus a couple more things as part of this mini package. I see my aesthetician usually quarterly, down to twice a year right now but this month is their anniversary special month so a discount on the facial this month. Living in the desert takes a toll on a girls skin. I give myself little mini facials but good to have a real one periodically too. While the mask is on, they do a hot oil hair treatment and also do a foot scrub. So I get lots of things worked on!
Heard from my other contact here about the local work I thought I had a good shot at. My contact said they are determined to find a FT resource even though they have had no luck even getting anyone to apply. Out of state I will now go for work. Hope to hear on that CA opp.
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Hello ladies, I'm a new member, did a search on "migraines" and your topic came up. Does any one know of any research, articles, or back ground on migraines following bi-lateral mastectomy? When I was a youth I had migraines all the time and when I entered menopause they left - never to be felt since. Now all of a sudden since my bi-lateral mastectomy, I have (almost daily) aura's followed by multiple day migraines.
Of course the Oncologist said she sees no reason why the migraines would be associated with the mastectomy. The Neurologist said he sees no reason why the migraines would be associated with the mastectomy. The Physical Therapist said she suspects the two are related. And so far I haven't been able to get a doctor to run any tests to rule the obvious concerns out. As a Medical Library Informationist I know my research and have been documenting the information I have found with still trying to maintain a sensible head by not jumping to any conclusions.
So I thought, I would turn to Social Media and community cancer boards to find out what everyone else may be experiencing and have learned on the subject. I'd appreciate any input.0 -
Enerva- here is the link to Insomniacs:
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/102/topic...
MiBluSky- welcome to our thread. I am sorry to hear about your migraines. I have never heard of anyone having migraines after breast surgery, although I do know one BCO sister here who said she has been having problems with them since she started the AIs a few months ago. I know I had migraines as I was coming into menopause so I wonder if it is not someone hormonal related? I see hormone therapy on your tag line, have you started that yet or doing other treatment still post surgery? Do you see an endocrinologist? Might be a place to go next?
You might want to think about creating your own post around this. You may find others will find you seeking the same answers or those who have had such an experience.
Feel free to stay and join the party here too!
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Thanks so much for your reply. I like your suggestion for starting a new thread on the subject. I have not started drug therapy yet, still recovering from the surgery and dealing with lymph node issues and cording - UGH, the fun continues. If you're interested I started a personal journey FB page (Bosom Buddies) where I'm sharing my experiences, knowledge, and when possible humor.
It's sort of the 2015 version of a journal that my therapist recommended. She said with my being single it would be a good way of sharing, tracking, and venting too. So far it's been helpful. All the best.0 -
hi hi
Bb I get home on the 17th. Simplicity I had rads and yes its sucks but the weeks ll go by fast .6 weeks I had and it was brutal even though I tan well my skin suffered burning also having some issues now due to rads. Anyway just make sure you drinks lots of water and put lost of good cream on the area as soon as u get out of the appointment.
U must keep the skin hidhrated moist
I MUST SAY THESE DAYS ARE GOING SO FAST. FINALLY TMW MY NIECE COMES OVER SHE LL GO TANNING AND WALKING WITH ME SO SHE CAN TAKE LOTS OF PICTURES CUZ I AM NOT SO GOOD AT TAKING MY OWN
HERE ARE A FEW .I WENT FOR A WALK AFTER LUNCH TODAY.
TO NOTRE DAME DE LA GARE AT MARSEILLE
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E- Marseille looks beautiful! I was to the south of France many years ago passing through on the train from Paris to Monte Carlo and the south of France is so lovely. If I were to go back, I would spend more time there next visit. Your pics are great, keep em coming!
You still have a number of days left, enjoy each one to the fullest!
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E, yea, I had heard that. I'm already 'prepping' the area so to speak. Moisturizing it daily. Love the pics! Looks so nice.
2 more sleeps and my special friend will be here
I'm so excited. Like a damn school girl. Hope I can keep my recently topsy turvy emotions in check haha Up. Down. Up. Down. He had text me after he sent the roses and told me to remind him what some of the guys said (I've met some of his friends. This is his first visit to me) about it. He wants to tell me in person. Hm.
Going to be an interesting weekend
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Simplicity- it so nice you have this weekend and your special friend to look forward to. Not sure where you live, but hope you can get out and enjoy anything nice going on in your area as you feel up to it. Your guy friend is talking about you with his friends, that is a good sign!
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Gosh I feel so teenagey. Funny how these feelings can do that to you lol
He is amazed at how I am dealing with this. He see's my strength, and that is something no one has ever taken notice too. I feel giddy haha
I'll fill y'all in on the juicy details, if there are any, next week.
hehehe
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Simplicity- people either admire us for how we go through difficult things, or they are scared off by the whole thing. I had both experiences during treatment. I was not in a relationship or dating during my bc dx or treatment, but just experienced it with some of people I did tell. Pay attention to those who are not afraid and show up for you during this time, they are the keepers!
Relax and have fun. You deserve some happiness!
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Thank you Jazzy
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BB-Just seems they are. But they aren't actually. I'm 12 years divorced. here if you need me.
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ugh. I hate to hear that BB. Mine is actually doing decent through this, but the past 12 yrs have been hell. I'm sure it'll go back to normal once I'm through this lol
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This has been me today (actually all week.....)
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I figured you single gals would get a chuckle out of this one!
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lmao Jazzy!
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*sigh* Just got off the phone with my special friend. I've got it bad ladies. I'm screwed. Don't think I can brush this one off.
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Simplicity- what happened on the phone with your friend?
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Okay, one final picture. This rufous hummingbird thinks this feeder is his own. They are known to be aggressive. He was kind enough to let me take a picture of him tonight!
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O nothing spectacular. Just him being his usual compassionate, thoughtful, smartarse self
Don't let the meme fool ya. I am very smitten. Believe he is too, but is scared to acknowledge the feelings.0 -
Simplicity- who would not respond to a man that is thoughtful and compassionate? Especially during a time like this? When does he arrive? Friday night? Saturday?
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Not sure yet. Said he may show up at 4am Sat lol Fine by me. Come crawl into the bed with me
Work has him quite busy right now, but he's excited to come. I've felt for him longer than I've been dealing with BC. I told him how I felt about a year ago, and then again recently. Was hoping it would fade away, but it's only intensified.0 -
Simplicity- well you told him your feelings and it did not scare him away. Because of his past, he probably just needs ALOT of time to feel okay with anyone. I hope his trip is easy and he arrives safely.
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Hi ladies- well I went to this Tech Junction thing today and after a few hours, decided it was boring and not worth staying for. Mostly IT vendors trying to sell their wares through talks focused on product demos to operational IT managers. One of the talks was a panel on IT security, with some really good folks and some interesting conversations (with all the data breaches, this matters to us all) but there was this one guy in EVERY talk I went to that just would argue about not having enough resources to do what needs to be done. I got tired of listening to that and packed up and left. There was a keynote speaker whom I know, and cocktail hour after but none of that could keep me there. I did connect and reconnect with some folks I know through my tech council group, and also ran into some former colleagues I have not seen in years. So I got what I wanted and left.
BB- so not my circus/not my monkeys. Been working with this prof org group here on an initiative that has been tracking nicely, but after some board meeting last week, it sort of got hijacked by some folks that are now are saying the work I have been doing is not what we need and so do it this way and trying to get me to just go along with their orders. Wow, when did you become the boss of me? Maybe my circus and my monkeys right now, but not for long...
On the work front, I am getting contacted about a lot of out of state work right now. I told myself I might get to the point where I just have to go travel Mon-Thurs for awhile. Not forever, just until something comes through around there. I have been talking to people in Houston, Denver and CA. They are interested, willing to pay me my going rate, etc. I am going to see if I can get going for a few months and then reduce to going every other week. Time to get my cash flow going and it is not going to happen with my local clients. No one is spending money here. There is a new opp in Orange County where my sister works. That would be ideal!
Thanks for listening to professional org drama!
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