Single life after a mastectomy
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Melp- I agree about the rads, if it can reduce/eliminate the tumor, and get you feeling better, sounds like a good plan to me. I would feel overwhelmed all the time too. As a matter of fact, I feel like that anyways most of the time anyways myself. Sometimes life is a lot to deal with, yes?
The plants sound lovely. I was out in my backyard tonight pruning a bush back to help a red oak tree be able to grow better in that corner of the yard. Things are blooming more and more every day.
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Melb I am glad you got some plants too . Is such a good feeling to see some green around us. Jazz your pictures are so beatiful here we are having a bit if cold air still so no flower yet. Tmw finally my furnace pipes ll be repair and that is something I need done in case I find a tenant.
On the other hand I manage to get the Corp of the other apto to agree to do repairs before I move in. Now I need to wait for that to be done. I am so tired I was all weekend cleaning that place and I wish they do the repairs soon.
Melb I know how you feel I had a sister who had the same issues and I know it is very hard you are an angel cuz you are dealing with it the best you can.
This treat is my Dr. I come here to vent lol they all put up with my crazy life I am at times up and then down I still think I am in a nightmare and we will all wake up one day. As I was cleaning the apt so many memories came to my mind when I lived there with my 2 dogs I miss them so much. Is like a short film went through my head.
So wierd in 10 years all took a bad turn if I knew then what was coming. Now I always fear what ll next year bring .
Anyway wish u all a good night
Sending u hugs and good thoughts
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hi everyone....haven't been on BCO for a long time.
recently got a MRI and found something suspicious...today had the ultra sound and they couldn't find anything....so i am clear for the next 6 months.
honestly i am so fed up of getting check up, follow up....all the false alarms....or just having a time bomb in me...
melp - i am sorry about the radiation. hopefully it'll be a smooth sail for you.
E - oh..you're moving?? how's the packing going??
BB - hope you're doing better now...
jazzy - seems like you've been busy with life...it's very nice flowers and weather you got there....
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June- nice to hear from you. I am sorry you had a scare. So stressful for you, and agree, it will be good when the follow ups are over. I understand the feelings around the time bomb thing too.
I am doing okay this way, been very busy with work but making sure I enjoy life too. Is your job going well? I remember you were working hard on some deadlines at one point.
Keep popping in to say hi as you can. We like hearing from you!
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happy friday, weekend everyone!!!!
work is still crazy...it did calm down for a bit and now i am working on two projects....so insane.
went for a business trip last month to canada....apparently canadians are very passionate about politics....especially our presidential candidates....i thought politics was a taboo for dinner convo (we were not friends..just business) but actually it's quite interesting to find out what ppl actually think...
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June- I figured your work was crazy busy. I think Canada is able to talk about politics more neutrally (the way the US used to be able to) vs. these days. I realized about 10-12 years ago that changed here and have some ultra conservative friends who will pick fights with me about my belief system. I have always tried to respect others in that respect, I don't have the need to change other people's minds about anything really. Sometimes sitting back and listening can be fascinating though, right?
The time change has kicked my butt along with two very busy weeks and company here last weekend. I am getting some things done at home this morning, and shifting gears to go meet a friend in Santa Fe for some shopping and a bite to eat this afternoon.
E- I hope you are getting everything done for the move. Any bites on the renter for your place?
Melp- I hope you are doing okay and enjoy your new place and the plants you mentioned!
BB- thinking of you always and hope you and your family are working through some of the difficult situations you have shared here.
Cubbie- I hope you are doing okay this weekend too, and that work is not too busy for you.
I was thinking we have not heard from Lilly in awhile, nor Milky in a very long time. I hope both are doing okay.
Beginning of spring here in the northern hemisphere tomorrow. I always like this time of the year with the daylight in the evening coming back, things blooming, and more.
Wishing everyone a peaceful weekend
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Hi ladies Well I still don't know when I ll move
Still didn't find a tenant and the other place is not ready so I am waiting to see what will I do at the end. I want to move but I am waiting for them to do repairs to the place.
About the political talks I try to stay out of it lol
At my work place is like everybody is talking about it and you wonder if they live here or there lol arguments and talks and the debates are on our news daily.
Wonder what ll happen ?
I do get what June is saying Canadians are all over the states presidential matters a bit too intense I think.
I have never neck pain again I can't turn my neck to the left it bothers me so much. I went to my polish friend today to pickup the car s tires need to switch this week. It's like spring is around the corner but not yet. This weekend was bright and sunny yet cold.
I hope weather pick up some double digits soon
I am doing laundry and just the usual Sunday stuff.
Also picked up the papers to list that room again now for $950.00 but I feel the owner is not realistic is just to much. Oh well is not my call we should wait and see .
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jazzy - i am so jealous of your weather....it's so cold today..ugh. i am looking forward to some spring walks in the city....how was Santa Fe??
E - oh i hope you'll find out soon. that can be stressful....
just saw this movie "Brooklyn"....it' beautifully made. i can really relate to the main character coming all the way to a new place to start a new life and being homesick. while after being back home and feeling the distance of the "new life".....life can be weird sometimes....depends on how we see it i guess.
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June- I had a good friend from back east out last weekend for a visit (she lives in NJ) and she was so enjoying the mild weather here. Although we went up to the hot springs one afternoon and it snowed! We have had an early spring here this year, winter sort of stopped around mid January. We can get snow well into the end of April though (I have seen it snow here as late as Memorial Day weekend).
Santa Fe was fun. My friend and I hit a couple shops and a great high end consignment store. Some wine and tapas before we went back to our respective homes. It was good.
I want to see the movie Brooklyn, as I heard it's very good. I have felt homesick when I moved away from my home state twice (been feeling nostalgic about a place I used to live right before I moved here). I never have moved to another country though and can imagine there must be things you still really miss. How long have you been gone from HK?
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Hi all
Not a good week end. Had a turn on friday. Arm really hurting and felt like i wanted to throw up. Turns out i have cellulitis in my lymphadema arm. Been in hospital since friday night. Am on iv anti biotics to try and get infection under control.
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Melp- oh dear friend. I am so sorry to hear this. I hope they can get this under control quickly and you are back home resting comfortably soon. Sending you much love and healing energy across the miles and the ocean sister.
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jazzy - i left HK when i was 18 and went back after college when i was 22...and stayed for a year and left for the US when i was 24 in 1996....i've been in the US for 20 years now....OMG...so long...hahaha....
i really enjoy having a good/close friend to spend some quality time together....having a drink and talk about nonsense or life in general. just relaxing and having a good time. did you scout any goodies in the consignment store??
melp - oh i am so sorry. i do rebounding to get the lymphatic system moving. i had a very mild lympadema at my index and middle fingers which was very hard to get rid of the swelling but it did go away. it worked for me...so you might want to give it a try. i had 35 nodes removed...do you drink coffee, it can thicken the lymphatic system....i hope you feel better soon.
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oh jazzy - pls let me know after you see the movie "brooklyn"...it's about the choices we make...i really want to discuss about that topic with you ladies....but i can't now because it will spoil the movie...
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June- there is a lot to be said about having those people who can just be present with you, show up with you need support, but know how to enjoy life too. I have had some nice girlfriend time this month.
The friend I saw this weekend was one of the old bosses from my FT job here. We became friends after we both got ousted and went out on our own. We became better friends when she was left at the alter (ugh) and then I went through my bc stuff the following year. We bonded through some real adversity in our lives the past 5 years. We both know how to bring humor to any conversation!
We both found three things each at the consignment store. I am going there again now that I know about the place! I hope to see Brookyn soon and will check in on that with you, I promise!
Melp- I was thinking about you driving home from my client site tonight. Wishing I were there to visit, bring you something good to eat, etc. I pray they can get you feeling better soon and back home to rest.
Hospitals are just no fun.
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Thanks jazzygirl! Infection is going down slowly. Will be in until saturday though
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Melp- here are some photos of where I live that I hope you will enjoy looking at during your time in the hospital.
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Wow they are amazing!!! Going to see my sister in Brisbane after I get out of hospital.
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Melp- I think a visit with family would be a good thing. I know you are looking forward to getting out of the hospital this weekend.
We are having high winds and dust storms and thus, my asthma is particularly bad right now. My front yard is filled with tumbleweeds too. Nothing like the west in the spring.
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Hi , just stopping by to say hi and send Melb lots of strength and love from Canada.
Jazz thanks for sharing your pictures.
June I am so glad you are back !!!
Ok today I finished a BA course I took and I am very happy I did take it . Met some good folks and I learned a lot. Hoping to put the knolage to good use at my work.
I am so tired . I made a mistake I drunk a lot of some probiotic yogurt I bought and my stomach have been acting out like I am having a 3 month baby in side lol
I never try this kind of bacteria before and have been reading a lot about it supposed to be good.
Anyway g night we have a winter storm here tonight
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E- I am a big fan of yogurt, helps my troubled GI tract most of the time if I keep up with it. That being said, it can be adjustment if you have not had any in awhile. My fav brand is Siggi's which is high protein and low sugar.
Congrats on finishing the course! You go girl.
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June: Welcome back. Good to see you here again.
Melp: I'm glad to hear your oncologist has been watching your spine closely and has ordered radiation. Now I hope your arm is better soon.
Enerva, Jazzy, BB, Cubbie, Simplicity, everyone: I hope better times are right around the corner for all of us.
I can't sleep, and I've been laying here just thinking: I know so many happily married couples, but I never met my soulmate. Where is he? How did I miss meeting him? Or doesn't he exist? Is anyone else here having those thoughts?
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Morning Ladies.
June, I can't imagine and so don't look forward to those kid of appointments.
Melp, when do you get out of the hospital?
Enerva, I feel ya on the o so tired thing.
BB-You hanging in there?
Jazzy, beautiful photos!
Life, eh, not sure we have only 1 soulmate. I think a soulmate can be a friend, a lover, a sibling. Just those people you just 'click' with.
Things have been crazy here between work, home, and just life. Fatigue is still terrible. Dr is not happy with how inflammed I still am. I go back on 4/26 to take another look and hopefully reconstruction. I have a tender to the touch area that has expanded since surgery. I've shown the doc's. They think it's just my scar tissue tightening up and my cords (AWS) pulling
E and I are in a committed relationship
That's going well. The man is extremely patient. Knowing him as long as I have makes it easier. We just kind of fall right into place. I've also been working on a network consult job on the side so that's keeping me extra busy.
Hope I didn't miss anyone. I lurk, read the emails, just have limited brain to type functionality lately.
Hope all have a great day and I think about you ladies often!!!
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Simplicity- good to hear from you and nice to hear your friendship has developed into something more. Congrats on the new relationship girlfriend.
Sorry to hear about the inflammation, your chest went through a lot of trauma with surgery, rads, etc. and hopefully the inflammation will subside so you can get the recon done.
The fatigue is something we don't expect and that stays with us for awhile. You sounds very busy with work and a side gig and hope you are getting some rest. I know the need to keep working, bills to pay off, etc. post treatment. Just be sure to tells others when you need to rest. We have to put ourselves first after all this, which is never easy for any woman.
Be well friend
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HI, Simplicity. Good to see your post. I'm glad to hear that things are going well for you with both work and the relationship. I hope the other issues clear up soon so that reconstruction can proceed. Hugs.
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Hi ladies I am on the train got to leave 20 minutes early due to Ester lol anyway life yes I do have those thoughts sometimes specialy when I think of the way others have found their other half . Well I am not sure anymore . I am like a robot now work I go to school and I go home I have not desire for doing anything out of the normal I have not clue what to expect from life anymore .I am so sleepy like I wish I could go yo a resort and sleep on the white sand hahahhahaha
Hope bb is ok and all of you. I must say I hate radiation it just ruined my right side and who know what effect that may cause eventually.
I got an email from the building saying they have no update as per the apt so I don't know yet were ll I move to .
Anyway happy Easter sending u all love .
Before i forget i watch a movie called i miss you already
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don't watch it is a sad movie
good night
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Wishing everyone a good holiday weekend for those celebrating.
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Enerva, I hate radiation, too. It messed things up for me, too. But we had to do it. :-( That movie looks good but sad.
I will be spending Easter alone, but that's okay. I'll probably watch a movie. I hope the rest of you will enjoy the weekend, too.
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Life- I have spent many holidays on my own and watching movies is a great way to have some "you" time. Some of the movies I have rented lately that I like included the Steve Jobs movie and The Intern (very fun and light). I love a good documentary too, but don't have any to recommend at the moment. Do you do Netflix, Redbox, or something else? It sounds like the boys may be visiting there dad.
E- hoping you get a chance to slow down this weekend. Sorry things are not coming together better for this move. I think I remember you were hoping to move by early April. Do you have the option to stay in your place if you cannot rent it?
Melp- I hope you are continuing to heal from the infection and will be on target to get out of the hospital by tomorrow as planned.
Simplicity- I hope you have something nice planned with your special guy and the family this weekend.
BB- we have not heard from you in awhile and know things are difficult for you and your family. Sending you healing thoughts on this holiday weekend. Praying things get better for you.
Cubbie- I hope you are doing okay and are able to keep life simple.
I have been struggling with a lot of congestion this week which felt like allergies but went hard core into a head and chest cold. I have the trifeca of cold/allergies/asthma right now and it is working through but making me pretty uncomfortable.
Tomorrow, I am leaving for three days at the hot springs where I will spend my birthday & Easter and enjoy some self care time. I like going up there in March, but have not been there for my actual birthday since I went there with a group in 2010. Glad to be going on my own so I can soak, sit in the steam room, get treatments, rest as I need to. I am looking for my own personal resurrection this weekend.
Wishing everyone a peaceful holiday weekend for those celebrating and will talk to you on the other side of the holiday.
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Oh Jazz i am not sure when is your birthday. i wish all the best.Hope your birthday is wonderful at the hot springs, lots of hugs going your way. Lol
I have been trying to read my book and yes i can stay in my place another month since i did not find a tenant yet so i may as well just move the moving date to May 01st.
BB sending you hugs
life yes radiation is so bad and at the same time like you said is our only friend against our cancer cells ;(
i also watched a movie this weekend called in the heart of the sea. Very interesting about some wale killers and one wale is able to take revenge so the wale teach those man a lesson.
not my cup of tea as per movies but i did think it was well done.
I have been thinking a lot about the future lately and i am not sure why ????
ok let me tell you i haven't had these kind of thoughts for a wile but all of the sudden i started to wonder what will happen to me in the next 2 years.
why? humm not sure. maybe depression again? or is it my 6 sense telling me something bad is going to happen to me? i dot know
Love you all ladies
jazz let me know when is your birthday
Good night
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